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How Do l Handle My Irresponsible Father!! by victooman: 11:09am On Oct 03, 2023
Since l was born, since l got to know my father it has been one complain to the other..
There was never anytime he have money or have the financial strength to Carry out any family responsibility .
After struggling to finish University with no any job l started Pos business were l am managing myself,, the constant demand is killing my business ..
Today my mother called me that my sister is about to be enrolled into secondary school and the total amount for registration is 25k, l called my dad and told him that l will try raising 15k and they should complete the remaining 10k, he started complaining on how he doesn't have money and haven't eaten since yesterday,, in fact l am tired dear Nairalanders,

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Re: How Do l Handle My Irresponsible Father!! by Sonnobax15(m): 11:15am On Oct 03, 2023
lipsrsealed
It is well bro...

Sometimes when I look at my dad,I only wonder how he managed to do it....As in,how he managed to take care of my brothers and I after the death of my mom despite being jobless..............There was never a time we went hungry...We were even privileged to attend one of the best private school in town...Tho there were challenges along the line but it really helped shaped us into being what and who we are becoming....



Op, it's never been easy...........But trust me, there's no wicked father anywhere who would fold his hands and watch his children lack when he has the ability to solve their problem....

May we become fathers and not only fathers but the type that will be able to provide eveey basic need of our wards and our parents and every loved one 🙏

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Re: How Do l Handle My Irresponsible Father!! by Kriss216: 11:31am On Oct 03, 2023
What's the essence of struggling to attend
school when you can just get an Oluwole certificate and become the president of Nigeria.

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Re: How Do l Handle My Irresponsible Father!! by julybaba(m): 11:36am On Oct 03, 2023
victooman:
Since l was born, since l got to know my father it has been one complain to the other..
There was never anytime he have money or have the financial strength to Carry out any family responsibility .
After struggling to finish University with no any job l started Pos business were l am managing myself,, the constant demand is killing my business ..
Today my mother called me that my sister is about to be enrolled into secondary school and the total amount for registration is 25k, l called my dad and told him that l will try raising 15k and they should complete the remaining 10k, he started complaining on how he doesn't have money and haven't eaten since yesterday,, in fact l am tired dear Nairalanders,


😀😀
The old man is trying to live long by avoiding family problems like billing.

He is just smart by half, because the life of a man is only meaningful if he has a sense of responsibility towards his family.

It is not easy, but it is a joyful burden.

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Re: How Do l Handle My Irresponsible Father!! by Unclebayo(m): 11:37am On Oct 03, 2023
Some fathers are not always father

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Re: How Do l Handle My Irresponsible Father!! by dkidd: 11:43am On Oct 03, 2023
Chai

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Re: How Do l Handle My Irresponsible Father!! by CreedElliot: 11:51am On Oct 03, 2023
Hmm
Re: How Do l Handle My Irresponsible Father!! by Lance008(m): 1:41pm On Oct 03, 2023
Some Fathers are disgrace
Which kind heart them get ?

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Re: How Do l Handle My Irresponsible Father!! by battlemant: 1:45pm On Oct 03, 2023
You're a man like him. If you can't sit and have a productive conversation with him, then there's a huge problem. wink

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Re: How Do l Handle My Irresponsible Father!! by harryboyng(m): 1:45pm On Oct 03, 2023
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Re: How Do l Handle My Irresponsible Father!! by BoldBrainz(m): 1:46pm On Oct 03, 2023
You're a foolish young man to be bringing your father's issues to nairaland.

Wait until you experience fatherhood, then you'll understand the extent of this idiocy you have displayed.

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Re: How Do l Handle My Irresponsible Father!! by gabazin080(m): 1:46pm On Oct 03, 2023
i understand your pain but you shouldn't sound this way to your dad. my father is worse than yours. i never collected 1kobo as school fee from him while growing up and almost replaced him as father on my wedding day but I will not call him out on social media.
just give your sister the 15k and tell her to go meet your parents to balance up. nothing concern you again

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Re: How Do l Handle My Irresponsible Father!! by Kobojunkie: 1:47pm On Oct 03, 2023
victooman:
Since l was born, since l got to know my father it has been one complain to the other..
There was never anytime he have money or have the financial strength to Carry out any family responsibility .
After struggling to finish University with no any job l started Pos business were l am managing myself,, the constant demand is killing my business ..
Today my mother called me that my sister is about to be enrolled into secondary school and the total amount for registration is 25k, l called my dad and told him that l will try raising 15k and they should complete the remaining 10k, he started complaining on how he doesn't have money and haven't eaten since yesterday,, in fact l am tired dear Nairalanders,
So your father pops out kids and you pay for their upbringing on his behalf. Na wa oo! undecided

Maybe you should face your mother who gave you such a man as a father. Ask her what her contribution to her own child's schooling will be as well. undecided

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Re: How Do l Handle My Irresponsible Father!! by gabazin080(m): 1:47pm On Oct 03, 2023
he claimed not to have because he knows you will do it. try and do what you can and leave rest for them. if them like, make them no pay the balance. they will kill you with responsibility that you wont even care for yourself at the long run

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Re: How Do l Handle My Irresponsible Father!! by Authoreety: 1:47pm On Oct 03, 2023
Chai
Re: How Do l Handle My Irresponsible Father!! by Yankiss(m): 1:47pm On Oct 03, 2023
An irresponsible dad indeed. The best way is to do your bit and push the rest to him. He knows u are always there that's why he shirks his responsibility. Openly hands off the education of ur sister in his presence but secretly give her all assistance. Your reason being that you need to stand up on ur feet. He might change and sit up.

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Re: How Do l Handle My Irresponsible Father!! by Kakamorufu(m): 1:48pm On Oct 03, 2023
Send the 15k to them.. They will be alright cool

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Re: How Do l Handle My Irresponsible Father!! by wittywriter: 1:48pm On Oct 03, 2023
victooman:
Since l was born, since l got to know my father it has been one complain to the other..
There was never anytime he have money or have the financial strength to Carry out any family responsibility .
After struggling to finish University with no any job l started Pos business were l am managing myself,, the constant demand is killing my business ..
Today my mother called me that my sister is about to be enrolled into secondary school and the total amount for registration is 25k, l called my dad and told him that l will try raising 15k and they should complete the remaining 10k he started complaining on how he doesn't have money and haven't eaten since yesterday,, in fact l am tired dear Nairalanders,

Firstly let's set something straight; your father is not as problematic as how those leading our country Nigeria are...so that should be solace to you.
That said the best suggestion i have for this challenge you have with your dad is to seek income avenues for your financial freedom and monetary supplies so you can always be capable to solve most of the financial request sent your way.

Kobojunkie:
Abeg get away! undecided



Wittyness

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Re: How Do l Handle My Irresponsible Father!! by LivingSage: 1:48pm On Oct 03, 2023
Everything shouldn't be joke Davash
Kriss216:
What's the essence of struggling to attend to school when you can just get an Oluwole certificate and become the president of Nigeria.

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Re: How Do l Handle My Irresponsible Father!! by Mitsurugi(m): 1:49pm On Oct 03, 2023
The question is, is he living lascivious lifestyle which affects his responsibilities?

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Re: How Do l Handle My Irresponsible Father!! by Allmiron: 1:49pm On Oct 03, 2023
Why would you call your father irresponsible?

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Re: How Do l Handle My Irresponsible Father!! by Kobojunkie: 1:49pm On Oct 03, 2023
Kakamorufu:
Send the 15k to them.. They will be alright cool
They will probably get back to him with excuses as to how they used it for something other than the kids school fees. lipsrsealed lipsrsealed

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Re: How Do l Handle My Irresponsible Father!! by seguno2: 1:50pm On Oct 03, 2023
victooman:
Since l was born, since l got to know my father it has been one complain to the other..
There was never anytime he have money or have the financial strength to Carry out any family responsibility .
After struggling to finish University with no any job l started Pos business were l am managing myself,, the constant demand is killing my business ..
Today my mother called me that my sister is about to be enrolled into secondary school and the total amount for registration is 25k, l called my dad and told him that l will try raising 15k and they should complete the remaining 10k, he started complaining on how he doesn't have money and haven't eaten since yesterday,, in fact l am tired dear Nairalanders,

Who paid your own school fees ?

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Re: How Do l Handle My Irresponsible Father!! by OMEGA009(m): 1:50pm On Oct 03, 2023
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Re: How Do l Handle My Irresponsible Father!! by babamadiba(m): 1:50pm On Oct 03, 2023
Learn from his mistakes so you won't make the same. You can change the story. God bless you son. In all you do, never disrespect him.

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Re: How Do l Handle My Irresponsible Father!! by Cruise777: 1:50pm On Oct 03, 2023
Which kin wahala be this
Re: How Do l Handle My Irresponsible Father!! by Watcharena: 1:51pm On Oct 03, 2023
Set a limit for your self ,if you're to be giving them 10k monthly or whatever amount you can afford let it be, don't accept emagency billing,they will spoil your plans ,tell them you don't have money , don't borrow to give your parents money, don't fold your business fund their spending,they can't take care of you now they want to be leaching on you.

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Re: How Do l Handle My Irresponsible Father!! by emmabest2000(m): 1:51pm On Oct 03, 2023
Young man
Respect your old man and delete this thread,
If you have the money help your family
If you don't have the money, nobody will kill you, but don't ever called your old man names or disrespecting him in public like this

If you continue doing so
I assure you that your own kids will do to you whatever you did to your old man

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Re: How Do l Handle My Irresponsible Father!! by BabaOfLagos: 1:51pm On Oct 03, 2023
This is not a problem about your father,

The problem here is YOU and your MOTHER.

The problem here is called BLACK TAX.

Without being BLACK TAXED, you wouldn't see you father as irresponsible.

I would recommend you to search and join IAJ ONLINE on telegram and listen to the voice discussion with tittle: OVERCOMING ECONOMIC AND FINANCIAL HARDSHIP.

If you're man,

You have just broken the Bro code!

21. Never spite a Bro in public, Bro!

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