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Re: "When It Is Safer To Do Court Marriage As A Guy" by Caleycash(m): 2:59pm On Oct 03, 2023
Risingsunn:
No big deal about court marriage, when you are tired you can file for divorce. Simple! Marriage no be by force.

Even if you don't file and say you are not doing again, no judge will send you to jail because you said you don't want to marry again.

Divorce is a civil matter and not a criminal matter
Not when a man is on the losing end and the woman is gaining where she added no shishi, that's a 419 scheme
Re: "When It Is Safer To Do Court Marriage As A Guy" by Chukwunonso1: 3:01pm On Oct 03, 2023
BabaOfLagos:
NO IT IS NOT!

Men,

DO NOT be cajoled into doing a court marriage.

Let me tell you why,

Marriage in any form favours a woman most.

Doing a court marriage is like surrendering your authority to your woman.

How do you surrender your arms before going for war?

Marriage is not a bed of roses like the Media wants you to see,

Marriage is a constant war for power.

There are many battles in this war, you can loose a few battles but never loose the war.

Why do you think women agitate for court marriage more?

Men,

Keep this rules:

- Don't marry a woman older than you.

- Don't surrender your independence to your wife.

- Don't allow your wife to be wealthier than you. Do whatever it takes to earn triple than her. If you are a mason and she is a doctor, own a hospital and employ her.

Have you read the 48 laws of power, LAW 7?

- Take control of your marriage. Be the leader. Your wife should never show any sign of masculine energy in your house for example making decisions that are primarily in your masculine domain.

When a woman insist on court marriage, and you fall for it, it's like giving out some level of authority to a woman, she would bank on it and destroy you soon.

Most of you don't want to listen. If you refuse you will suffer.

Remember, the world today is effeminate, you will suffer in your marriage, be dragged to court and lose your soul.

I recommend every man here to search and join IAJ ONLINE on telegram.

Join that tribe of men, know your place as a man.

In case of eventuality or opportunity, how do one then proves he is married?

Can one get a marriage certificate equally as valid as the court certificate outside the court?
Re: "When It Is Safer To Do Court Marriage As A Guy" by BabaOfLagos: 3:11pm On Oct 03, 2023
Chukwunonso1:


In case of eventuality or opportunity, how do one then proves he is married?

Can one get a marriage certificate equally as valid as the court certificate outside the court?

Yes you can.

If indeed you want to do a court marriage for this purpose, Make sure the documents you are signing has nothing to do with your wife's influence, make sure to properly scrutinize every step with your lawyer,

Make sure you are not tying yourself by yourself.

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Re: "When It Is Safer To Do Court Marriage As A Guy" by Onewazobia(m): 3:12pm On Oct 03, 2023
Lungdick:
If you do not feel safe, sign a prenup.


wow I finally made FTC.

I dedicate this FTC to jennyclay , samantha124 and IconicR

Please what does prenup mean?
Re: "When It Is Safer To Do Court Marriage As A Guy" by FireUpNow(m): 3:12pm On Oct 03, 2023
Consult a lawyer for legal counsel.
Re: "When It Is Safer To Do Court Marriage As A Guy" by freedomchild: 3:34pm On Oct 03, 2023
BabaOfLagos:
NO IT IS NOT!

Men,

DO NOT be cajoled into doing a court marriage.

Let me tell you why,

Marriage in any form favours a woman most.

Doing a court marriage is like surrendering your authority to your woman.

How do you surrender your arms before going for war?

Marriage is not a bed of roses like the Media wants you to see,

Marriage is a constant war for power.

There are many battles in this war, you can loose a few battles but never loose the war.

Why do you think women agitate for court marriage more?

Men,

Keep this rules:

- Don't marry a woman older than you.

- Don't surrender your independence to your wife.

- Don't allow your wife to be wealthier than you. Do whatever it takes to earn triple than her. If you are a mason and she is a doctor, own a hospital and employ her.

Have you read the 48 laws of power, LAW 7?

- Take control of your marriage. Be the leader. Your wife should never show any sign of masculine energy in your house for example making decisions that are primarily in your masculine domain.

When a woman insist on court marriage, and you fall for it, it's like giving out some level of authority to a woman, she would bank on it and destroy you soon.

Most of you don't want to listen. If you refuse you will suffer.

Remember, the world today is effeminate, you will suffer in your marriage, be dragged to court and lose your soul.

I recommend every man here to search and join IAJ ONLINE on telegram.

Join that tribe of men, know your place as a man.
aptly written bro
Re: "When It Is Safer To Do Court Marriage As A Guy" by Dinieoj(f): 3:42pm On Oct 03, 2023
morikee:
Anything marriage count me out 🙌
When you eventually reach 50 they'll count you in, dey play, try born sha
Re: "When It Is Safer To Do Court Marriage As A Guy" by Chukwunonso1: 3:48pm On Oct 03, 2023
BabaOfLagos:


Yes you can.

If indeed you want to do a court marriage for this purpose, Make sure the documents you are signing has nothing to do with your wife's influence, make sure to properly scrutinize every step with your lawyer,

Make sure you are not tying yourself by yourself.

I'm not sure you understand my questions o..

A colleague was asked to provide her marriage certificate before NYSC can redeploy her to her husband's state. They strictly demand for court certificate. This is jus one example out of a hundred
Re: "When It Is Safer To Do Court Marriage As A Guy" by freedomchild: 3:50pm On Oct 03, 2023
EgunMogaji2:


It’s never advisable unless there’s a seriously compelling reason. Not even love.

If you must then try to get a solid prenup and/or get your properties beforehand.

Don’t build with a woman. E get why.
I dey tell you

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Re: "When It Is Safer To Do Court Marriage As A Guy" by Lungdick: 4:03pm On Oct 03, 2023
Onewazobia:


Please what does prenup mean?

prenuptial agreement.

it an agreement between spouses, partners, couples e.t.c to do so so so in case of divorce/separation.

many wealthy and rich, even average people use it to protect their assests in case of divorce or separation. In this case, the richer one's assest won't be shared 50/50 cos there's already an agreement to do so so so in case of divorce.

so, if you're Bleep!ng rich and planning on travelling abroad, make her sign a prenup.
Re: "When It Is Safer To Do Court Marriage As A Guy" by DonroxyII: 4:34pm On Oct 03, 2023
xynerise:
Most of the people speaking against marriage and court marriage here are mostly kids or fuckboys. grin


When you are matured enough you will think differently
As dem they talk am I don dey fear ...

E be like say na Only Traditional I go do ... Or Do Court Marriage & Play the Hakimi Game ...

E no dey pain na ihm dey cause Hypertension small small ....

Trusting Gen Z Seems Expensive nowadays ... We are "Africropean" ....
Re: "When It Is Safer To Do Court Marriage As A Guy" by DonroxyII: 4:35pm On Oct 03, 2023
Risingsunn:
No big deal about court marriage, when you are tired you can file for divorce. Simple! Marriage no be by force.

Even if you don't file and say you are not doing again, no judge will send you to jail because you said you don't want to marry again.

Divorce is a civil matter and not a criminal matter
Divorce is easier than wedding itself nowadays ...

Na the property be the koko ..
Re: "When It Is Safer To Do Court Marriage As A Guy" by Sirbruno3000(m): 4:39pm On Oct 03, 2023
Pls bro shed more light on this prenup thing.
Lungdick:
If you do not feel safe, sign a prenup.

sign a PRENUP and save your assets in case of divorce or separation!!!

sign a PRENUP and save your assests in case of divorce or separation!!!


wow I finally made FTC.

I dedicate this FTC to jennyclay , samantha124 and IconicR
Re: "When It Is Safer To Do Court Marriage As A Guy" by phemmyfour: 4:50pm On Oct 03, 2023
ebubeson:
Some people may resist court marriage when it is presented to them. Some may prefer having a baby mama to having a court marriage.

When is it probably safer or fair to do court marriage as a guy?.

(1) When the lady you want to marry has loved you so much for long number of years; maybe from secondary school till your adulthood.
(2) When the lady is a virgin. In this case, she is giving you a costly gift in marriage.
(3) When the lady is richer than you, spends well and loves you a lot. When a lady is richer than you and has invested a lot in your life, you may not bother much giving her your wealth to enjoy when things clicks.
(4) When you are the one insisting on it. A lady not interested in court marriage may be kind of safe.
(5) When a lady is not money-conscious. If you have been with a lady for a long time, and you notice she is not having the love of money as a weak point, you may be safe.


Just do it! No condition is permanent. She can be broke, violent etc in the future
Re: "When It Is Safer To Do Court Marriage As A Guy" by Risingsunn: 5:40pm On Oct 03, 2023
DonroxyII:
Divorce is easier than wedding itself nowadays ...

Na the property be the koko ..
you think say na America u dey? Nwanne if any woman near your property break her head.
Re: "When It Is Safer To Do Court Marriage As A Guy" by Tayorshd87: 7:16pm On Oct 03, 2023
BoldBrainz:
Who moves idiotic threads like this to front page, God abeg?!

My brother God bless u OOO 🤣 I thought I was d only one thinking in this direction
Re: "When It Is Safer To Do Court Marriage As A Guy" by Dizzyyish: 7:22pm On Oct 03, 2023
Wealthoptulent:

after DNA
JUst joiking bruv! its no big deal anytime u can but first make sure it ur missing RIB not replacement RIB.. divorce costed me 700k year 2020
Omo 700k 2020, Omo now as dollar don high men.... Nah die


But it's worth it Sha... did you have to be seperated for at least 2 years before filing for divorce or you can just file for it anytime, asking for the proverbial freind ni o...
nope its (MARRRIAGE) Was jus 3 years old den. but i got justice 2023 January, auto 3 years apart, but i filed immediately i abandoned our Home n Left faR AWAY RETURNED TO PICK MY OTHER CAR A MONTH AFTER & DOCS A YEAR AFTER

https://www.nairaland.com/7753241/wahala-chaos-female-nature-volume
Re: "When It Is Safer To Do Court Marriage As A Guy" by morikee: 7:35pm On Oct 03, 2023
Dinieoj:

When you eventually reach 50 they'll count you in, dey play, try born sha

Shey you go marry me ni i tried sha e no work for me
Re: "When It Is Safer To Do Court Marriage As A Guy" by TheGift: 7:48pm On Oct 03, 2023
Why marry at all if you are not marrying a woman you can feel safe with. Marriage is not for selfish , and self obsessed people.

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Re: "When It Is Safer To Do Court Marriage As A Guy" by Dinieoj(f): 8:01pm On Oct 03, 2023
morikee:


Shey you go marry me ni i tried sha e no work for me
If you don date plenty ladies and e no work, you have to work on yourself, you no fit tell me say all the plenty ladies wey dey, are not your spec. Think twice stop wasting your fresh and young sperm for nothing, use it and make healthy and intelligent children. A sister's advice

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Re: "When It Is Safer To Do Court Marriage As A Guy" by labelle123(f): 8:16pm On Oct 03, 2023
Marriage marriage marriage
Re: "When It Is Safer To Do Court Marriage As A Guy" by KIDfurniture(m): 8:16pm On Oct 03, 2023
Avoid joint partnership .. like building a house together ; business together. This is Nigeria no woman can reap where she did not work hard for . In fact our law always disgrace greedy women. She must go & inherit her fathers house not husband’s property . When you discover she is sleeping around kick her out of the kids wants to go with her let them go.





ebubeson:
Some people may resist court marriage when it is presented to them. Some may prefer having a baby mama to having a court marriage.

When is it probably safer or fair to do court marriage as a guy?.

(1) When the lady you want to marry has loved you so much for long number of years; maybe from secondary school till your adulthood.
(2) When the lady is a virgin. In this case, she is giving you a costly gift in marriage.
(3) When the lady is richer than you, spends well and loves you a lot. When a lady is richer than you and has invested a lot in your life, you may not bother much giving her your wealth to enjoy when things clicks.
(4) When you are the one insisting on it. A lady not interested in court marriage may be kind of safe.
(5) When a lady is not money-conscious. If you have been with a lady for a long time, and you notice she is not having the love of money as a weak point, you may be safe.


Re: "When It Is Safer To Do Court Marriage As A Guy" by Love800(m): 9:24pm On Oct 03, 2023
Am confused.
Are court marriage certificate and church marriage certificate not the same tin?
Re: "When It Is Safer To Do Court Marriage As A Guy" by Love800(m): 9:24pm On Oct 03, 2023
Am confused.
Is court marriage certificate and church marriage certificate not the same tin?
Re: "When It Is Safer To Do Court Marriage As A Guy" by morikee: 11:01pm On Oct 03, 2023
Dinieoj:

If you don date plenty ladies and e no work, you have to work on yourself, you no fit tell me say all the plenty ladies wey dey, are not your spec. Think twice stop wasting your fresh and young sperm for nothing, use it and make healthy and intelligent children. A sister's advice

Thanks for the advice
Re: "When It Is Safer To Do Court Marriage As A Guy" by enemyofprogress: 11:12pm On Oct 03, 2023
Do it when you have nothing attached to your name
Re: "When It Is Safer To Do Court Marriage As A Guy" by Albertone(m): 12:56am On Oct 04, 2023
Lungdick:
If you do not feel safe, sign a prenup.

sign a PRENUP and save your assets in case of divorce or separation!!!

sign a PRENUP and save your assests in case of divorce or separation!!!


wow I finally made FTC.

I dedicate this FTC to jennyclay , samantha124 and IconicR

Prenup won't save the assets you acquired during the marriage.
Re: "When It Is Safer To Do Court Marriage As A Guy" by Albertone(m): 12:57am On Oct 04, 2023
Dinieoj:

If you don date plenty ladies and e no work, you have to work on yourself, you no fit tell me say all the plenty ladies wey dey, are not your spec. Think twice stop wasting your fresh and young sperm for nothing, use it and make healthy and intelligent children. A sister's advice

Kuku marry him nah.
A brother's advice.
Re: "When It Is Safer To Do Court Marriage As A Guy" by EndRape2(f): 1:54am On Oct 04, 2023
If a man agrees to do court wedding or not as a man, is your business and for your own.good.

There are things that kills love and marriage in the heart of a woman, although many women will still stay in that marriage, but whenever they remember these things are missing , they start hating the man


Things women think daily on, are stated below
A man not ready for court wedding has plans to remarry behind her, and does not love her .


A man not wearing his wedding ring , women see them as chronic cheat. Most women do not take them serious


3. A man not giving her money does not love her


4. A man not sharing things with her, like carrying her along in buying properties , ensuring her names or kids names are part of the document

A man not proud to identify with her , does not love her


A man that does not respect and value her, like make her feel she is the best and number one,
The very moment a woman discover a man Values another woman above her, or praise other woman above her, or always take side with other girls above her, the love starts falling gradualling


The moment a woman feels she is not the number one in a man life's. , a man that makes it obvious that his mother or father or siblings ,or Ex is more important than his wife, has destroyed the marriage from the beggining. .


When you are doing any of the above to your wife, you have succeeded in showing her that you do not love her.


Now these things will happen in your marriage , she will nit and never be happy, no matter what you do, she starts thinking the man has a plan.B, and for her not to get hurt when the marriage crashes , she should not put in too much emotions in.the marriage , and thatnis where the problem starts , when a woman start feeling unsafe and hopeless in that marriage , she find it hard to trust the man
Love she has starts dying gradually.

Dis respect comes in, because she feels how will she respect a man that insults or talk down on her because of other women

Sex become boring, let me tell you for women sex is nothing , especially if she is not a teenager, any woman above 25 years , only get Hot when she sees a man that treats her well and right.


You can not use alpha male in.marriage, you can not use authority to earned respect in.marriage.


Some women gave been subdue to submitt by force , for fear of not been beating, when you see women in such marriages they look old, and frustrated and it might get to point such women will either leave or hurt the man, or seek help from wrong powers to subdue the man.


Dear Men loving your life and treating her well like a wife, is the best gift you can give to your self not her.

You are helping your self, to have a good home a peaceful home, a family that will stand by you and stand for you at old age .



Women are always mumu when you know how to love them.right,

Give them a drop of love, and you will swim in oceans of river of, love, peace of mind, respect , worship .


Your wife is not your slave, do not ever insult her, call her names , or make her feel worthless.


If you feel.she is useless and worthless, then you are useless and worthless, because only a worthless man will marry a worthless woman.

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Re: "When It Is Safer To Do Court Marriage As A Guy" by EndRape2(f): 2:02am On Oct 04, 2023
Men that comes here to take advice, will have a broken home within few years of marriage.


Stop talking rubbish.

Ondo state Governeors wife is older than him

Peter if psquarr wife is older than him, I just cited very few popular people to make you feel you lack sense when it comes to marriage issues


Marriage works only when the two people are willing to be sacrificial in all things, willing to see them selves as partners, and willing to , be faithful .




You agree to do court wedding or not as a man, is your business and for your own.good,

There are things that kills love and marriage in the heart of a woman, although many women will still stay in that marriage, but whenever they remember these things are missing , they start hating the man


Things women think daily on, are one
A man not ready for court wedding has plans to remarry behind her, and does not love her .


A man not wearing his ring is a chronic cheat. Most women do not take them serious


3. A man not giving her money does not love her


4. A man not sharing things with her, like carrying her along in buying properties , ensuring her names or kids names are part of the document

A man not proud to identify with her , does not love her


A man that does not respect and value her, like make her feel she is the best and number one,
The very moment a woman discover a man Values another woman above her, or praise other woman above her, or always take side with other girls above her, the love starts falling gradualling


The moment a woman feels she is not the number one in a man life's. , a man that makes it obvious that his mother or father or siblings ,or Ex is more important than his wife, has destroyed the marriage from the beggining. .


When you are doing any of the above to your wife, you have succeeded in showing her that you do not love her.


Now these things will happen in your marriage , she will nit and never be happy, no matter what you do, she starts thinking the man has a plan.B, and for her not to get hurt when the marriage crashes , she should not put in too much emotions in.the marriage , and thatnis where the problem starts , when a woman start feeling unsafe and hopeless in that marriage , she find it hard to trust the man
Love she has starts dying gradually.

Dis respect comes in, because she feels how will she respect a man that insults or talk down on her because of other women

Sex become boring, let me tell you for women sex is nothing , especially if she is not a teenager, any woman above 25 years , only get Hot when she sees a man that treats her well and right.


You can not use alpha male in.marriage, you can not use authority to earned respect in.marriage.


Some women gave been subdue to submitt by force , for fear of not been beating, when you see women in such marriages they look old, and frustrated and it might get to point such women will either leave or hurt the man, or seek help from wrong powers to subdue the man.


Dear Men loving your life and treating her well like a wife, is the best gift you can give to your self not her.

You are helping your self, to have a good home a peaceful home, a family that will stand by you and stand for you at old age .



Women are always mumu when you know how to love them.right,

Give them a drop of love, and you will swim in oceans of river of, love, peace of mind, respect , worship .


Your wife is not your slave, do not ever insult her, call her names , or make her feel worthless.


If you feel.she is useless and worthless, then you are useless and worthless, because only a worthless man will marry a worthless woman.
Re: "When It Is Safer To Do Court Marriage As A Guy" by DonroxyII: 4:15am On Oct 04, 2023
BabaOfLagos:


Yes you can.

If indeed you want to do a court marriage for this purpose, Make sure the documents you are signing has nothing to do with your wife's influence, make sure to properly scrutinize every step with your lawyer,

Make sure you are not tying yourself by yourself.
E no even Good to get hypertension at old age .. Other Ailments would just be popping head .....

Dynamism Changed.

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