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Re: I Received The Greatest Disgrace Of My Life!!! by damosade(m): 10:15pm On Oct 05, 2023 |
When they give you responsibility for church u go dey run. See urself 1 Like |
Re: I Received The Greatest Disgrace Of My Life!!! by Kay25(m): 10:15pm On Oct 05, 2023 |
How is that a disgrace?u forgot that's it cos u are human abegi go learn how to not being bitter 1 Like |
Re: I Received The Greatest Disgrace Of My Life!!! by tobstarizhia(m): 10:20pm On Oct 05, 2023 |
I'm no longer afraid of such things, just that I hate doing it |
Re: I Received The Greatest Disgrace Of My Life!!! by Greatlee54: 10:20pm On Oct 05, 2023 |
Get GABA 750mg and thank me later |
Re: I Received The Greatest Disgrace Of My Life!!! by Wallteck: 10:20pm On Oct 05, 2023 |
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Re: I Received The Greatest Disgrace Of My Life!!! by tobby20: 10:24pm On Oct 05, 2023 |
Chasito:ordinary project proposal indey flop |
Re: I Received The Greatest Disgrace Of My Life!!! by DebbieNotNice: 10:28pm On Oct 05, 2023 |
No matter what you do in this life, pls practice public speaking. I used to feel nervous, hate wanting to talk to more than 3 people but I later realized public speaking skills will be very needed in my personal and professional career. Pls practice this skill with ur friends, kids (for building up confidence), group of pple more than 3. Be assertive, coherent, empathetic, friendly but maintain a professional tone, confident, speak slowly, maintain reasonable eye contact, wear a smiley face. This approach is not a one size fits all approach because situations vary but these steps can greatly help. Public speaking skill is something you constantly develop on. You don't just perfect it. 4 Likes |
Re: I Received The Greatest Disgrace Of My Life!!! by Darkmode64: 10:32pm On Oct 05, 2023 |
PaganTerrorist:Lol then he gets a remote job. How does he perform at daily stand-ups and team presentations. Dey play you hear? 1 Like |
Re: I Received The Greatest Disgrace Of My Life!!! by Jman06(m): 10:33pm On Oct 05, 2023 |
Wallteck:Don't let it weigh you down. Try to overcome timidity. It doesn't pay! Some people in a bid to conform to societal moral expectations become timid. Meanwhile, your professors and any wise person in the presentation hall will understand. |
Re: I Received The Greatest Disgrace Of My Life!!! by Obaman12: 10:35pm On Oct 05, 2023 |
Wallteck: Brother, you are not alone. I had worst fear during my proposal defense a month ago. But mine, God helped me to scale through. 1 Like |
Re: I Received The Greatest Disgrace Of My Life!!! by lipstick1(f): 10:38pm On Oct 05, 2023 |
Had a similar experience last month in my Team's years Business Review meeting.Havent gotten over the shame. God help us 3 Likes |
Re: I Received The Greatest Disgrace Of My Life!!! by HopeSpencer: 10:39pm On Oct 05, 2023 |
Wallteck: My number one gift is PUBLIC SPEAKING but I fought timidity when I was a JSS1 student. 1 Like |
Re: I Received The Greatest Disgrace Of My Life!!! by Ibime(m): 10:45pm On Oct 05, 2023 |
Wallteck: My friend, buy propranolol and thank me later. It cures stage fright 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: I Received The Greatest Disgrace Of My Life!!! by uuzba(m): 10:46pm On Oct 05, 2023 |
lipstick1:Begining is hard. But you must begin After 3, 4 times you'll lose the fear and start wondering why you were ever afraid at all.. But if you keep avoiding it, it will follow you till old age. |
Re: I Received The Greatest Disgrace Of My Life!!! by Uche559(m): 10:48pm On Oct 05, 2023 |
Wallteck: Yea I can relate cos am good at cramming too. Let me give u more tips Be the first to ask or answer question when in public, if there's a question like smne shld pray, be d first, or any suggestion, always be the first. Let it be intentional. Anytime you speak of your own volition, the confidence will be there n ur heart will beat less. N as u practice more, u ll b surprised |
Re: I Received The Greatest Disgrace Of My Life!!! by Ferrous(m): 10:49pm On Oct 05, 2023 |
This was one of my greatest challenges, but, by the help of my church, I overcame it by being assigned to some roles in our church, like leading of choruses, bible reading, teaching and so on. |
Re: I Received The Greatest Disgrace Of My Life!!! by HopeSpencer: 10:50pm On Oct 05, 2023 |
Wallteck: I will give you just 3 tips that helped me to overcome timidity and fear of public speaking. Today, I'm a pro. I mean I have unmatched boldness to speak to any largest crowd on earth and hold them spellbound. 1. See the crowd as your enemy. You are on that stage to overcome them. Tell yourself that you are the only human being in that hall and that every other person is an ANDROID... this means you have the power over them to program them as an app. That means if you fail, it's because you programmed the crowd to witness your failure. If you succeed, it means you programmed the crowd to witness your success. Look them in eyes in such a way that you see yourself as being above them in any aspect even if the president of the country is among them. I became very popular in Winners Chapel, ogbomoso after speaking on stage for less than 5 minutes. What I said was nothing unusual, but my skill is out of this world. 2. Know your subject extremely well. 3. Buy Dale Carnegie's book on public speaking. Master it. That's all. 1 Like |
Re: I Received The Greatest Disgrace Of My Life!!! by abobote: 10:52pm On Oct 05, 2023 |
When SUG PRO in the poly, I used to take a bottle of Guinness, before going to classes to Alutarise, and it worked perfectly. It was very sweet then, I will be hearing PRO we love you. But GP paid the price, the ended in tears |
Re: I Received The Greatest Disgrace Of My Life!!! by McCoy662(m): 10:55pm On Oct 05, 2023 |
advanceDNA:Bad guy 🤣🤣 This really helped me back in the days |
Re: I Received The Greatest Disgrace Of My Life!!! by Slynation(m): 10:56pm On Oct 05, 2023 |
Stage flight is one aspect of life everyone should overcome in school...but it is what is it!! 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: I Received The Greatest Disgrace Of My Life!!! by Slynation(m): 11:00pm On Oct 05, 2023 |
abobote:Omo...my immediate past Departmental President still haven't graduated by now!! One course still held him down the last time I checked all because of going from class to class and attending meetings upon meetings when he's supposed to be in lecture... Like I will always advise any student, your primary focus in school should be your education, every other thing is entertainment. |
Re: I Received The Greatest Disgrace Of My Life!!! by Natbrowny: 11:00pm On Oct 05, 2023 |
Sorry about that FACE YOUR FEARS NO BE JUST MOTIVATIONAL YARNS ITS SUPPOSED TO BE A STREET VIBE. u think say u don escape am. E go f*ck u up, left. Right, down center. |
Re: I Received The Greatest Disgrace Of My Life!!! by Slynation(m): 11:07pm On Oct 05, 2023 |
astonished:Kai...so he should leave his company work for teaching job?? ![]() |
Re: I Received The Greatest Disgrace Of My Life!!! by Hezmatosky: 11:12pm On Oct 05, 2023 |
Have knowledge of what you're presenting, rehearse before hand, dress comfortably well, take a bit of alcohol in advance next time, put the audience in infancy mode, look at yourself as one who knows what the audience did not know, be spontaneous, take a deep breath in and out severally befor hitting the point, say a little joke, put everyone in smiling mode to creat a fun session, so that even though you make mistakes they'll hardly notice. Na you wey no create the enabling environment for yourself. Also try and eat very well, hunger can cause panic. Although who dey eat well for this Tinubu period sef? Bro, sorry. Hunger contribute wetin do u ![]() 4 Likes |
Re: I Received The Greatest Disgrace Of My Life!!! by Gracesussy: 11:15pm On Oct 05, 2023 |
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Re: I Received The Greatest Disgrace Of My Life!!! by zedman1(m): 11:29pm On Oct 05, 2023 |
eventainment:As for me, I read some books related to what you prescribed to the OP, I could speak like Obama in my head or when I'm alone, but when two or three are gathered (lol)... Ok, more than three actually, when there's a small crowd and I'm asked to speak, my heartbeat takes entire control of my being. I'm unable to say a word, just like the OP. The only thing that got to save me was when I discovered alcohol. At some point I thought I had overcome that fear but I discovered whenever I tried speaking in public without licking that juice, I fumble. And I'm not a kid anymore- I'm married sef. So I don't think it has sooo much to do with age like some people think. We're just born differently. So you see? alcohol came through for me. Those books couldn't epp. 2 Likes |
Re: I Received The Greatest Disgrace Of My Life!!! by ObaaOfYorubaLan: 11:30pm On Oct 05, 2023 |
Wallteck: So so sorry for the embarrassment |
Re: I Received The Greatest Disgrace Of My Life!!! by dreamwords: 11:38pm On Oct 05, 2023 |
Wallteck:there is a drug i use , when im to talk in crowd, it does wonders, it changed my life, quote me if u need it, it stopped my embarrassment too |
Re: I Received The Greatest Disgrace Of My Life!!! by Faithful007: 11:41pm On Oct 05, 2023 |
Wallteck:Op your problem isn't really fear of talking to crowd but rather the fear of embarrassing yourself in public. You speak well alone because there is no embarrassment there. If you take that mentality to the crowd, you'll start speaking well. If you get to read this, I want to give you probably your greatest advice ever if you follow it. This advice will set you free from sadness, anxieties, OCD and all other disorders that plague human beings all the time. Imagine yourself coming suddenly face to face with a Grizzly Bear. It launches itself at you and you try to fight it off but you quickly realize that it is overpowering you. Serious anxiety and fear of a very painful death sets in. Somehow you break free and begin to run, you look back and realize that she is still after you. The next time you look back, the bear is very close and will pounce on you at any moment. The fear at this point is unimaginable. You have completely forgotten the fact that you're an engineer at X.corp with $100000 in the account. But all of a sudden the bear turns to a cockroach. What is the result on your side? You know best. The human brain has this strategy known as fight-or-flight response. Whenever your brain identifies a problem that seems to threaten your 'normal' life or well-being, it will zero down to that problem and activate your response systems. Your anxiety levels will rise, your brain will sustain that problem in memory and you begin to forget every other thing that is not concerned with the problem. The thing with this response is that the human instinct does not consider a possibility of the problem ceasing to exist especially in irrational ways. As far as the brain is concerned its either you fight or you run away. FoF response is very useful when you have real life-threatening problems like the one described above, or an armed robber chasing you, or feeling very sick in the midnight or caught in a flood. However FoF can sometimes identify things that are not necessarily problems as serious problems. FoF only works for physical problems. Once you begin to have mental health issues or phobia or any psychological problems at all. Engaging FoF will take you straight into a never ending miserable life of fighting and avoidance. Basically any problem/failure that only surfaces when you suddenly think of it or remember it is triggered by environment, is not an actual problem. If you actually forget that you can't talk to crowds, you'll talk to crowds seamlessly. What is the solution then: Learn how to accept and embrace your failures. The issue with actively trying to avoid or fight this kinds of failure is that the brain zeros down on that issue and throws every other thing outta the window. Then it keeps its spotlight on that problem. Eventually you won't solve it and you will feel terrible inside. The moment you started trying to make sure you did not fumble in the hall, your brain left the essay and started to actively prevent the fumbling. However, your brain has already deprioritized the essential thing which is the essay. Now you have no option than to fumble again. The worst feeling is that you can't even forget the problem. Once you still see that stuff as a problem, your brain in FoF will keep it in mind till you solve it and you can't that way. What separates excellence from perfectionism is that one gives room for failure while the other doesn't. Perfectionists, Religious people, Overthinkers, Competitive people and people with low-self-esteem/insecurities are mostly affected by this problem. You need to break away from right and wrong, true or false in many aspects of your life. That way, you begin to detach your brain from focusing on those things and monitoring whether you have "escaped it" or "gotten it right". If you didn't worry so much about getting it right, you will talk with much more confidence and eventually you won't even fail. Even if you did, it would not bother you so much. The thing about mental/anxiety-related problems is that bothering about them makes them much worse while accepting them makes them much better. It sounds strange but trust me, IT WORKS. Practicing this may not be easy but it doesn't take too long to notice improvement especially with the fear and anxiety that associated with these things. Eventually when the fear has come down, the brain starts to forget the problem because it doesn't exist in reality. I have practiced this with many fear-related problems I used to have. One easy way to do this is to deliberately cause that problem. Once you do that, your brain begins to wonder if that is even a problem at all. Go and talk to a crowd and deliberately fail even before fear causes you to. Its the fear that is causing your problem not failure. If you fail on your own, you'll notice that you didn't even forget what you're talking about. Personally I have practiced sitting in the dark deliberately. There was a time my hands would vibrate when eating in public. I stopped it with two approaches. I would proudly say it and/or I will purposely leave my fork in the air to see what would even happen. OMG I have said a lot but the key thing is, when a phobia or anxiety issue is plaguing you, don't avoid or fight it. Deliberate walk into it and unmask it. That way you make your brain understand that it is not a problem, eventually your brain will deprioritize that issue and you won't even suffer it anymore. 5 Likes |
Re: I Received The Greatest Disgrace Of My Life!!! by LOVEGINO(m): 11:47pm On Oct 05, 2023 |
Wallteck:buy big vodka and half it. Tank me later |
Re: I Received The Greatest Disgrace Of My Life!!! by kkulaja(m): 11:54pm On Oct 05, 2023 |
Wallteck: I don laff tire for dis ur matter No be small thing to handle mic address crowd wen u have never practised or done it before iKR 1 Like |
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