UncleKoboko:

YOU SHOULDN'T HAVE SETTLED FOR LESS.
If you grew up not being wayward, you should never settle for a NON-VIRGIN girl. Never.

A NON-VIRGIN girl will pretend to love you, pretend to be understanding and supportive but after some times, their true colours will awaken.
They are mostly USELESS, EVIL, careless and selfish Bastards.

Now I have plenty side girlfriends to make up for my errorneous past....

creativehubb:


If you eat human beings and kill twins our culture didn't do that, we have been civilized over thousands of years. Stupid dumb cannibal, slave to the colonial thieves.

But they are still mining skulls every where in your civilized region.

No be the same colonial theives your president dey run go meet for treatment

You and your gods are useless E ti ba ti ara yin ku

BigBashiru:


Now I have plenty side girlfriends to make up for my errorneous past....

No need to have numerous girlfriends.
It's totally unnecessary and you're only draining yourself physically, emotionally and spiritually and financially.

Unfortunately, most of all those girlfriends are not better than your wife. Most of them lack good MORALS too and I'm very sure that you wouldn't want to have a daughter like them.
What you need to do is to look for just one good one among them. A virtuous and decent one. A certified virgin ready for marriage and marry her to make up for things.
An average looking church girl or Muslim girl with good morals that you can marry as a virgin is far better than any most beautiful and richest olosho woman alive.

Family thinking they have better thoughts for you and putting pressures on you to do their wish for you and not your wish for yourself

Zanzibar1:
What Is the Common Regret People Have As they get Older?
I saw this post on a foreign group on fb.
I must say it has opened up my heart to learn.

I thought it would help the younger folks to learn and work on some patterns in life.
People that replied that post were 45 years and above

Also share the lessons here. Thanks

Puss360:
Not doing what makes them happy all in the name of religion...

No matter what, always do what gives you joy... what makes you happy...
As long as it doesn't hurt the next person..

Better still, in the name of family. Sacrificing for family 24/7 until it's too late

BigBashiru:
Waiting until marriage to date and get a romantic partner instead of maximizing my mating opportunites (and I dont mean sleeping around - just talking to different girls trying to toast them kissing if the opportunity presents, having multiple relationships but only sleeping with those that love me back and i could get serious with )... i dont do use and dump...

I never had a girlfriend cos I was doing holy holy and marriage was to evening newspaper....was very disappointing.....

If you did the above, you'll have more regrets Sir.
I once treaded this path you mentioned verbatim, I had fun but I also had regrets. I wished I sticked to one woman

Built2last:
I think the biggest for men above 55 is when you look back and you didn't have kids when you ought to have had.

The reality is that you will be having some leg aches, lower back ache may be starting. You imagine that 55 years plus another 15 years. you will need your children around you but none. can be very depressing.

I know a person, 45 and yet to marry and no kid with baby mama

Zonefree:
As a young man coming up, don't waste your youthful age loving a Nigerian girl or even try to force her to love you. They are not created to LOVE.

This your submission is too harsh.

I may or may not regret this but I have promised to get to a particular office(promotion) in my organization before I get married.
I also want to have a sustainable business and properties I can leave for my generations to come before I start having kids.

I must achieve at least one of the above mentioned

Puss360:
Not doing what makes them happy all in the name of religion...

No matter what, always do what gives you joy... what makes you happy...
As long as it doesn't hurt the next person..

Emmexguy123:
They regret not doing what they are supposed to do because of fear.

And that fear is mostly caused by religion.

Okay, since both of you picked religion as the causative factor, things like what then? What could religion possibly prevent people from doing that can lead to regret later in life?

Not taking "risks". As one grows in age, the recovery time after taking risks, becomes slimmer. Remember, nobody gonna be young forever. I don't wanna be on my deathbed that is if i grow very "old" eventually and i am filled with regrets.
Never, i will die "EMPTY" and "FULFILLED".

dontrulee:


If you did the above, you'll have more regrets Sir.
I once treaded this path you mentioned verbatim, I had fun but I also had regrets. I wished I sticked to one woman

You only hv regrets if you actually fuk around but if you just date in moderation (focus on forreplay and not fukkin with everyone), you will be happier

Puss360:
Not doing what makes them happy all in the name of religion...

No matter what, always do what gives you joy... what makes you happy...
As long as it doesn't hurt the next person..

By this you mean sex. My dear, sex is over rated.

SirLakes:


But they are still mining skulls every where in your civilized region.

No be the same colonial theives your president dey run go meet for treatment

You and your gods are useless E ti ba ti ara yin ku

You are a rabid headless dog. Senseless, only indoctrination full that your flaat head.

To allow APC to rule NIGERIA

Zonefree:
As a young man coming up, don't waste your youthful age loving a Nigerian girl or even try to force her to love you. They are not created to LOVE.

Speak for yourself cos there are many great naija women out there

Tkeke:
Not being spiritually sensitive early enough to find out that it was some of my siblings who I have loved like life itself that were behind the battles I have been fighting until it was almost too late. Mind you, I am the baby of the house o. They saw too much glory from their realm and couldn't take it that I will be greater than them all.

Trash

The wife they get married to, like me. The investment they refused to make, the risk they were afraid to take and the life they didn't enjoy while they were young

My wife broke my son's head, from my baby mama,while I was out of town. Mehn I have been mzd, a lot things going through my mind

jclassiq:

By this you mean sex. My dear, sex is over rated.

I don't mean sex... oya rest... Spoilt guy

maasoap:


Okay, since both of you picked religion as the causative factor, things like what then? What could religion possibly prevent people from doing that can lead to regret later in life?

Life is meant to be enjoyed when you have the money and time...
Try doing what you like or what gives u joy and see how Religion go say "God doesn't like it"....
I can't tell you what you like....

creativehubb:

You are a rabid headless dog. Senseless, only indoctrination full that your flaat head.

The same colonial theives give you phone and internet. Your culture dey useless as you are

BigBashiru:
Waiting until marriage to date and get a romantic partner instead of maximizing my mating opportunites (and I dont mean sleeping around - just talking to different girls trying to toast them kissing if the opportunity presents, having multiple relationships but only sleeping with those that love me back and i could get serious with )... i dont do use and dump...

I never had a girlfriend cos I was doing holy holy and marriage was to evening newspaper....was very disappointing.....

This is so me, I feel what you. Life can be brutal for us men. The price we pay.

Zonefree:
As a young man coming up, don't waste your youthful age loving a Nigerian girl or even try to force her to love you. They are not created to LOVE.

Don't say that

Nobody really cares about you and those who you think do only care to the extent they can use you.

Give your life to Jesus now and serve Him faithfullywhile you are young

finallybusy:
The first page shows there are no older people on Nairaland. OP is talking about life’s regrets, someone is talking about not knacking enough females. Some topics were not aimed for this forum. It’s a sad situation.

That's someone's legitimate life's worry. I have heard lots of seventy years old unable to knack fantasise and wish they had done better

Zonefree:
As a young man coming up, don't waste your youthful age loving a Nigerian girl or even try to force her to love you. They are not created to LOVE.

Life, you said it all, not just Nigerian girls, any girl at all

SirLakes:


The same colonial theives give you phone and internet. Your culture dey useless as you are

Mumu a lot of black innovators and inventors, a lot of blacks contributed to these technologies. The early foundation of pully/lever, and moving technologies started from Egypt, that was how engines was innovated from these blueprints.The Mayans were the first astronomers who saw that other planetary bodies exists.You dumb head, only indoctrination full that empty skull

Tkeke:
Not being spiritually sensitive early enough to find out that it was some of my siblings who I have loved like life itself that were behind the battles I have been fighting until it was almost too late. Mind you, I am the baby of the house o. They saw too much glory from their realm and couldn't take it that I will be greater than them all.

Oga, take responsibility for your life and adjust accordingly. If you continue living in the belief that the next person is behind your life's predicaments, you'll never rise.
Forces may fight you but their victory or defeat is entirely dependent on the strength of your personality! Nothing else.
Nothing from outside can influence you adversely if you've not lowered your bridge for them to access you.

The main regret is the things you did not do because you were afraid of failure. There are certain things that time brings around again and again and there are those that come by only once or twice.

A life lived in fear in a life half lived.

Zonefree:
As a young man coming up, don't waste your youthful age loving a Nigerian girl or even try to force her to love you. They are not created to LOVE.

I wasnt that old before I realize this though.