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Re: Living In The Uk-life Of An Immigrant (part 3) by Peerielass: 8:22pm On Oct 09, 2023 |
Zahra29: I think they meant you are a Tory supporter and Missjekyl is flying the Labour flag šš¤£ 1 Like |
Re: Living In The Uk-life Of An Immigrant (part 3) by Raalsalghul: 8:52pm On Oct 09, 2023 |
PalestianIsrael: Hustla has a point. It would do you a lot of good to report the issue to police first just in case. All the posters up there saying you ignoring your wife, not giving her emotional support and all that nonsense is not an excuse for physical violence on her part. 10 Likes |
Re: Living In The Uk-life Of An Immigrant (part 3) by Raalsalghul: 8:55pm On Oct 09, 2023 |
jedisco: Thank you very much for that detailed explanation. So basically, a civil partnership is better? 1 Like |
Re: Living In The Uk-life Of An Immigrant (part 3) by hustla(m): 8:59pm On Oct 09, 2023 |
Raalsalghul: Gracias 1 Like |
Re: Living In The Uk-life Of An Immigrant (part 3) by Ticha: 9:14pm On Oct 09, 2023 |
PalestianIsrael: https://mensadviceline.org.uk/ Go to them for advice. They will not only advice you but provide you with the necessary resources, guidance and support you need. Good luck and stay alive! 22 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Living In The Uk-life Of An Immigrant (part 3) by Nelsmannnnnnnnn(m): 9:30pm On Oct 09, 2023 |
BorisJohnson: Let's be critical with our advice and not meddle gender diversity in our opinion. With the gravity of the issue at hand, what the OP needs to do first and foremost is to leave the house for safety reasons not just for him alone but for the wife as well. When this is achieved, every other thing that leads to resolution or dissolution follows. #Ire o. 10 Likes |
Re: Living In The Uk-life Of An Immigrant (part 3) by Zahra29: 9:48pm On Oct 09, 2023 |
Peerielass: Lol, I know....the yellow dress signifies that I'm a Libdem supporter š 1 Like |
Re: Living In The Uk-life Of An Immigrant (part 3) by dustydee: 10:08pm On Oct 09, 2023 |
justwise:Sorry sir. Before they call you anti-christ 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Living In The Uk-life Of An Immigrant (part 3) by Viruses: 10:13pm On Oct 09, 2023 |
Can someone please recommend a cheap VPN. I want my tiktok contents targeted at Nigeria, currently I only get UK viewers and my content is Nigerian based. |
Re: Living In The Uk-life Of An Immigrant (part 3) by hayesconcept(m): 10:24pm On Oct 09, 2023 |
Go back to Nigeria now and enjoy the Nigerian audience to the fullest šš Viruses: 2 Likes |
Re: Living In The Uk-life Of An Immigrant (part 3) by Saccharine: 10:28pm On Oct 09, 2023 |
@palestianisrael Since things have descended to physical violence to the extent of having weapons close by, I would suggest one person moves out immediately for both your safety. It doesn't matter who started what, the main issue is the potential loss of life that could happen in the blink of an eye. You don't have to swallow it or bear it . If someone is beating you, run out of the house and call the police. It is important to leave a paper trail. People that have killed their partners have similar stories.. One day in the red mist of anger a weapon was used and that's it. No coming back. Failed marriage is better than death. Google gov.uk domestic abuse, there are lots of resources eg live chats,phone numbers, organisations that offer support to people with this problem. Would be interesting to know if these fights were happening back in Nigeria because this sort of thing doesn't just spring out of the blues. Someone just doesn't become violent like that. From what you've written it seems there's a lot of problems in the marriage, not understanding each other and wife feeling emotionally abused or neglected for years, you have even sort of said you may have caused emotional distress and have given up. If she has been emotionally abused for years, perhaps she is snapping and can't take it anymore. It is not safe for both of you to be in the same space.. You trigger her, she responds triggering you to a response and the vicious cycle continues. Thankfully, there are no children so you both can make a clean break or you choose counselling but from afar to avoid problem. Separation is not divorce.. It would give both of you time to think through and get the help needed. Even divorce is better than death.. I would avoid churches and pastors in this sort of situation.. Good luck. 6 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Living In The Uk-life Of An Immigrant (part 3) by LionInZion: 10:31pm On Oct 09, 2023 |
Viruses: You can take a man out of Naija, you cannot take Naija out of him I can relate haha. Omo, the way I hated Twitter for always pushing UK content to my timeline then. I can't even remember how it happened, but now my timeline is dominated by Naija content and much less of UK and other places - just the way I want it - the Naija way . |
Re: Living In The Uk-life Of An Immigrant (part 3) by SapphireFort(f): 10:38pm On Oct 09, 2023 |
Raalsalghul:Are we intentionally leaving out the part where he said they both inflicted injuries on eachother? 2 Likes |
Re: Living In The Uk-life Of An Immigrant (part 3) by LionInZion: 10:47pm On Oct 09, 2023 |
@palestianisrae, If there is one advice you must take from all that has been said, it is to first move out. Each additional day you two spend together in this situation is a recipe for disaster. Then the second one is to seek professional help. The marriage could still work if you both are willing and ready to make it work later. But trying to make things work between you two while still cohabiting could escalate things beyond your control. I don't care who is right or wrong, it saddens me when people (men or women) lose their lives or end up in jail trying to safe a marriage despite having several chances to take a break, get healing and stay alive and happy. 3 Likes |
Re: Living In The Uk-life Of An Immigrant (part 3) by jedisco(m): 10:50pm On Oct 09, 2023 |
Raalsalghul: It depends... they all have their pros and cons. But if you're getting married in a society which has a divorce rate of over 40% (that's aside bitter unions), it goes eithout saying that it's important to understand the reasons why divorce is so common and how to prevent and mitigate it's impact should it occur. Unfortunately, the 'it's not my portion' approach does many people in. |
Re: Living In The Uk-life Of An Immigrant (part 3) by hustla(m): 10:57pm On Oct 09, 2023 |
SapphireFort: Didnt see anything like that sha 1 Like |
Re: Living In The Uk-life Of An Immigrant (part 3) by SapphireFort(f): 11:39pm On Oct 09, 2023 |
hustla: This "Our physical struggles lead to bites, cuts etc. on each of us". And this "We bought have pictures of the injuries we inflicted to each other as ammunition if things escalate to police". 2 Likes |
Re: Living In The Uk-life Of An Immigrant (part 3) by Viruses: 12:41am On Oct 10, 2023 |
For joint mortgage application, does the credit score of both applicants matter or just that of the main applicant? |
Re: Living In The Uk-life Of An Immigrant (part 3) by lavida001: 1:02am On Oct 10, 2023 |
PalestianIsrael: slaps cuts blow my guy you better flee.. |
Re: Living In The Uk-life Of An Immigrant (part 3) by Lexusgs430: 1:47am On Oct 10, 2023 |
Viruses: Both ...... Because you are jointly liable/responsible..... The credit history of one applicant, would have a massive impact on the type of mortgage available(or not available)..... 1 Like |
Re: Living In The Uk-life Of An Immigrant (part 3) by Hwy9: 3:52am On Oct 10, 2023 |
Please, has anyone tried booking flights via bookingdotcom? What was your experience like? Please let me know, make I no go throwaway money! |
Re: Living In The Uk-life Of An Immigrant (part 3) by Viruses: 5:08am On Oct 10, 2023 |
Hwy9:I have. Once you book and get a reference number, you manage your flight on the flight's portal as if you booked from the flight portal. 2 Likes |
Re: Living In The Uk-life Of An Immigrant (part 3) by Lexusgs430: 5:34am On Oct 10, 2023 |
Hwy9: This is a proper company....... You can even buy their shares, from the stock market........ šš
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Re: Living In The Uk-life Of An Immigrant (part 3) by kode12: 6:40am On Oct 10, 2023 |
Viruses: Itās more than the score itās the credit history, and yes they will scrutinise both applicants |
Re: Living In The Uk-life Of An Immigrant (part 3) by Lordfiido(m): 7:18am On Oct 10, 2023 |
Hwy9:No issues at all. Na confirm site |
Re: Living In The Uk-life Of An Immigrant (part 3) by missjekyll: 7:35am On Oct 10, 2023 |
Lollllll. Oh i had to shelve my plans but i am following them very excitedly. I cannot even begin to tell you how much i despise this government. Look at HS2,as if northerners do not pay taxes Its me and them next year...nonsense Zahra29: |
Re: Living In The Uk-life Of An Immigrant (part 3) by Datakey: 7:39am On Oct 10, 2023 |
Good day house. Please when can I start checking my credit score? I'm barely a month and 2 weeks in the UK. |
Re: Living In The Uk-life Of An Immigrant (part 3) by Lexusgs430: 8:07am On Oct 10, 2023 |
Datakey: Are you on the voters list, are you paying bills, have you applied for any kind of insurance services etc etc etc ....... You cannot get something from nothing....... Read up or watch videos on how to build your credit score ........šš https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=S_8e-SX055I?si=iNwWMcjLFgtoQAi8 3 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: Living In The Uk-life Of An Immigrant (part 3) by Ugmama(m): 11:56am On Oct 10, 2023 |
Guys please assist. How do I get cash paying jobs in Hatfield? |
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