I came across this on the social media and I want to know the opinion of naira nations. The question is, is payback cheating okay in a marriage?

ADVISE HIM, ONLY FOR MATURE MINDS.
I cheated on my wife one time in our 3rd year of marriage.. she saw a text from the lady and confronted me crying and asking me where she went wrong.. she spoke to me in such a way that I felt useless and ashamed of my self.. indeed she’s a good woman who has stood by me all these years and this is how I repay her.. I went sober.. and very remorseful.. I confessed everything to her and exposed the lady In question.. She cried.. for several days and night.. she starved herself.. she was almost slipping into depression but with Gods help and my constant apologizing and actions she pulled through.. she told me she has forgiven me and I should not worry no soul will ever know about it.. I was like God thank you for the blessed wife you gave me.. she returned to being my sweet, loving and affectionate wife again and we were able to heal from the hurt .. I promised her and vowed to God never to ever cheat on her as long as I’m alive and this is our 7th year I have kept that promise by Gods grace.. two weeks ago my wife told me she was traveling to attend a wedding in another state.. her friends baby sisters wedding.. she even bought a lace.. sewed it, bought gele, and a purse.. I helped her book her flight, I drove her to the airport and even gave her extra money for spending.. I took care of the kids while she was away (she was supposed to be gone for 4 days ) the next day.. our fist daughter woke up with a high fever and I was panicking.. I rushed her to the hospital and they put her on admission instantly cos she had severe malaria.. then I tried to reach my wife at least to inform her.. her numbers were all switched off.. I’m not the type to be calling my wife’s friends but I had to call the friend she told me she was going to see just to inform her of the emergency.. so Was shocked to hear that my wife said she was coming to her place.. at first i greeted her and said ah ah madam how the preparation coming up? She was like what preparation sir?? I said your sisters wedding.. she said which sister? I immediately knew something was not right but I pretended so as not to embarrass my wife any further .. I cut the call and tried to keep my cool.. after series of medication she was stable.. my wife called me hours later and was apologizing that her and her friend (the one I called went to market to do some shopping and decided to leave their fones at home so it won’t get lost) I said okay no problem.. she encouraged me to be strong and even prayed over the fine and sang for our daughter.. she returned home after 3 more days and I was already disgusted by her presence.. I tried to be calm and act normal until our daughter was very strong and recovered fully.. one morning after I dropped them off at school I returned home to my wife who was still in bed..
Then I asked her to get up we needed to talk.. I asked her politely where she travelled to but she was acting clueless and pretending I went for my friends sisters wedding nau.. didn’t I tell you.. why are you asking me again
She even tried to call the friend to ask her but I told her it’s fine she should not worry because I already talked to the friend and she told me she hasn’t seen you in a very long time.. I became furious!! Because she was even trying to deny to my face.. I pressed and pressed her until she confessed that she travelled with her lover to Ghana !! I got the shock of my entire life.. my own wife did not just cheat, she travelled all the way to defile herself I asked her why and she said she’s sorry.. that she felt betrayed when I cheated on her.. and that she hasn’t been able to get it of her head.. that’s why she decide to get some distraction.. it’s been 4 years ago since that one Incident I had.. and she was the one who prayed with me and begged God to forgive me.. only for her to be plotting her own.. I o don’t even know what I’m feeling in my heart presently.. I left the house and I’ve been staying at my late moms house .. she’s been calling me and sending me lots of epistles but I’m too weak to even face her right now.. how could she? My chest literally feels like exploding with pain.. the upsetting part is that my wife is extremely beautiful and her body is beyond amazing.. the thought that another man has seen it all and touched it and felt it and been inside her is just killing me I want to die already!! For the first time in my marriage I cried profusely like a baby.. I can’t stand it.. I’m disgusted and perplexed!!!! I don’t even know what to do next..
#copied

Cheat again!!!

lexzycc:
Cheat again!!!

This thing don full everywhere now o.

daylay7:
I came across this on the social media and I want to know the opinion of naira nations. The question is, is payback cheating okay in a marriage?

ADVISE HIM, ONLY FOR MATURE MINDS.
I cheated on my wife one time in our 3rd year of marriage.. she saw a text from the lady and confronted me crying and asking me where she went wrong.. she spoke to me in such a way that I felt useless and ashamed of my self.. indeed she’s a good woman who has stood by me all these years and this is how I repay her.. I went sober.. and very remorseful.. I confessed everything to her and exposed the lady In question.. She cried.. for several days and night.. she starved herself.. she was almost slipping into depression but with Gods help and my constant apologizing and actions she pulled through.. she told me she has forgiven me and I should not worry no soul will ever know about it.. I was like God thank you for the blessed wife you gave me.. she returned to being my sweet, loving and affectionate wife again and we were able to heal from the hurt .. I promised her and vowed to God never to ever cheat on her as long as I’m alive and this is our 7th year I have kept that promise by Gods grace.. two weeks ago my wife told me she was traveling to attend a wedding in another state.. her friends baby sisters wedding.. she even bought a lace.. sewed it, bought gele, and a purse.. I helped her book her flight, I drove her to the airport and even gave her extra money for spending.. I took care of the kids while she was away (she was supposed to be gone for 4 days ) the next day.. our fist daughter woke up with a high fever and I was panicking.. I rushed her to the hospital and they put her on admission instantly cos she had severe malaria.. then I tried to reach my wife at least to inform her.. her numbers were all switched off.. I’m not the type to be calling my wife’s friends but I had to call the friend she told me she was going to see just to inform her of the emergency.. so Was shocked to hear that my wife said she was coming to her place.. at first i greeted her and said ah ah madam how the preparation coming up? She was like what preparation sir?? I said your sisters wedding.. she said which sister? I immediately knew something was not right but I pretended so as not to embarrass my wife any further .. I cut the call and tried to keep my cool.. after series of medication she was stable.. my wife called me hours later and was apologizing that her and her friend (the one I called went to market to do some shopping and decided to leave their fones at home so it won’t get lost) I said okay no problem.. she encouraged me to be strong and even prayed over the fine and sang for our daughter.. she returned home after 3 more days and I was already disgusted by her presence.. I tried to be calm and act normal until our daughter was very strong and recovered fully.. one morning after I dropped them off at school I returned home to my wife who was still in bed..
Then I asked her to get up we needed to talk.. I asked her politely where she travelled to but she was acting clueless and pretending I went for my friends sisters wedding nau.. didn’t I tell you.. why are you asking me again
She even tried to call the friend to ask her but I told her it’s fine she should not worry because I already talked to the friend and she told me she hasn’t seen you in a very long time.. I became furious!! Because she was even trying to deny to my face.. I pressed and pressed her until she confessed that she travelled with her lover to Ghana !! I got the shock of my entire life.. my own wife did not just cheat, she travelled all the way to defile herself I asked her why and she said she’s sorry.. that she felt betrayed when I cheated on her.. and that she hasn’t been able to get it of her head.. that’s why she decide to get some distraction.. it’s been 4 years ago since that one Incident I had.. and she was the one who prayed with me and begged God to forgive me.. only for her to be plotting her own.. I o don’t even know what I’m feeling in my heart presently.. I left the house and I’ve been staying at my late moms house .. she’s been calling me and sending me lots of epistles but I’m too weak to even face her right now.. how could she? My chest literally feels like exploding with pain.. the upsetting part is that my wife is extremely beautiful and her body is beyond amazing.. the thought that another man has seen it all and touched it and felt it and been inside her is just killing me I want to die already!! For the first time in my marriage I cried profusely like a baby.. I can’t stand it.. I’m disgusted and perplexed!!!! I don’t even know what to do next..
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This kind woman go kill a man without a trace.
She go still cheat again, and again. As she no fit forgive and that's how they get damaged.

if you cheat on her, don't confess, repent and move on...

if she caught you cheating and she cheats back, divorce her... that's the rule of the game... cheating is not the same with men and women...

before a woman cheat on you, she has lost all love and respect for you... but this is not true for a man, a man can have zero feelings for a woman and still fvck her... men don't attach feelings and emotions to sex, this is only for women...

1, 2, 3 go, ohyaa come for me...

Exactly. She will do it again!

almarthins:


This kind woman go kill a man without a trace.
She go still cheat again, and again. As she no fit forgive and that's how they get damaged.

Reminderz:
if you cheat on her, don't confess, repent and move on...

if she caught you cheating and she cheats back, divorce her... that's the rule of the game... cheating is not the same with men and women...

before a woman cheat on you, she has lost all love and respect for you... but this is not true for a man, a man can have zero feelings for a woman and still fvck her... men don't attach feelings and emotions to sex, this is only for women...

1, 2, 3 go, ohyaa come for me...

100%

Wow, to wait for 4years after is the part I don't get. If the blow was too much for her, she should have walked away, she has been cheating on the husband for longer time. Na the one way him see be that.

This is what she felt and imagined all those years. She mirrored back your reflection.

the thought that another man has seen it all and touched it and felt it and been inside her is just killing me I want to die already!! For the first time in my marriage

Your marriage is no longer there for years!!!!.
Get a divorce and move on, this is what you gets if you can't appreciate what you have.



This is a tit for tat.
You are lucky she showed you on time, cuz the payback are normally when the man is weak in financial, physical or health aspects.

So silly of you.

The law is unambiguous

DON'T FORGIVE HER

Newdawn30:
Wow, to wait for 4years after is the path I don't get. If the blow was too much for her, she should have walked away, she has been cheating on the husband for longer time. Na they one way him know be that

Facts!

Jeon:
This is what she felt and imagined all those years. She mirrored back your reflection.


Your marriage is no longer there for years!!!!.
Get a divorce and move on, this is what you gets if you can't appreciate what you have.



This is a tit for tat.
You are lucky she showed you on time, cuz the payback are normally when the man is weak in financial, physical or health aspects.

So silly of you.

So, u supported divorce? hhmmmm

daylay7:

So, u supported divorce? hhmmmm

Yes,Its better than deceiving themselves.

Jeon:


Yes,Its better than deceiving themselves.

facts! They both lost the marriage already, but she lost her home.

Lol, my number one rule is never forgive a cheat!!!

daylay7:

facts! They both lost the marriage already, but she lost her home.

What home? So funny. You think she cared about that?. There's no home right from the day cheated.

Reminderz:
if you cheat on her, don't confess, repent and move on...

if she caught you cheating and she cheats back, divorce her... that's the rule of the game... cheating is not the same with men and women...

before a woman cheat on you, she has lost all love and respect for you... but this is not true for a man, a man can have zero feelings for a woman and still fvck her... men don't attach feelings and emotions to sex, this is only for women...

1, 2, 3 go, ohyaa come for me...

Let them come. We'll fight them together. I am Spartacus and you are Gannicus or is it Oenomaûs?

We go finish them

Jeon:


What home?
So funny. You think she cared about that?.
There's no home right from the day cheated.

Jeon, will you shut it?

Where is your husband or you wan cheat too?

I go comot your nöse!!!

Jeon:


What home?
So funny. You think she cared about that?.
There's no home right from the day cheated.

True. But now, she broke the carmel's back. There is no coming back from it.

luminouz:


Let them come. We'll fight them together. I am Spartacus and you are Gannicus or is it Oenomaûs?

We go finish them

Alawada

No vawulence here pls!

luminouz:


Jeon, will you shut it?

Where is your husband or you wan cheat too?

I go comot your nöse!!!

daylay7:


True. But now, she broke the carmel's back. There is no coming back from it.

I'm such you can see that Divorce was written on my first post.

Jeon:


I'm such you can see that Divorce was written on my first post.

For a woman to fly with her lover to another country for 7 days, they have been doing it for long until she was caught by the husband. The man is hurt but he will get over it. Just as you said, Divorce is imminent.

Oga , your wife travelled with her lover to Ghana??. Hmm. Anyways how old are you?. How does a woman with small kids and a husband travel with another man to another country?. You said your wife is beautiful with nice body, i guess she has constant male attention even after marriage. Anyways your wife is not the first or the last to do such as many cooperate ladies in financial institutions and high net worth companies also do such for financial and carrier gains. A good example is the story of the former FCMB boss who fathered two children in another man's marriage. You can imagine how many trips and hotels sessions she had with her boss and still went home to her husband afterwards.
I don't know what advice your looking for or what type of man you are but what happened to you happens alot in Nigeria.
My young men please and please avoid pretty ladies with great bodies . Go for the ordinary looking ladies intentionally. Don't allow a ladies beauty put you under pressure financially in relationship and marriage.

daylay7:


For a woman to fly with her lover to another country for 7 days, they have been doing it for long until she was caught by the husband. The man is hurt but he will get over it. Just as you said, Divorce is imminent.

Same way he has been doing it not until she saw the text like he did through the call.

Jeon:





Same way he has been doing it not until she saw the text like he did through the call.

Yes. You are right but women are emotional being while the men are logical. A man can decide to have sex without putting any feelings into it. that is , no attachment but it is not the same with a woman.

A man can sleep with a lot of women and still love his wife unapologetically, but a woman cannot do that without getting attached. And once the man gets to know, the marriage is over already. Because it will always be playing in his head.

daylay7:


Yes. You are right but women are emotional being while the men are logical. A man can decide to have sex without putting any feelings into it. that is , no attachment but it is not the same with a woman.

A man can sleep with a lot of women and still love his wife unapologetically, but a woman cannot do that without getting attached. And once the man gets to know, the marriage is over already. Because it will always be playing in his head.

No wonder the Man, said he cried like a baby.



Pls this is getting boring.
Sin is sin and don't expect much from a partner if you can't give in what you're expecting.


@2, same way we love GOD, and sin against him and still run to mosques /churches every Friday and Sunday, to worship him.



So funny!

The institution of marriage has been heavily bastardized by this current batch of marriageable adults, to an extent that it is already discouraging we the future batch of marriageable adults from engaging in such venture.

Jeon:


No wonder the Man, said he cried like a baby.



Pls this is getting boring.
Sin is sin and don't expect much from a partner if you can't give in what you're expecting.


@2, same way we love GOD, and sin against him and still run to mosques /churches every Friday and Sunday, to worship him.



So funny!

Hhmmmmm. May God help us all

mischief003:
The institution of marriage has been heavily bastardized by this current batch of marriageable adults, to an extent that it is already discouraging we the future batch of marriageable adults from engaging in such venture.

Sincerely!

Rucheen:
The law is unambiguous

DON'T FORGIVE HER

This isn’t revenge cheating. Even if the OP never cheated she would still have cheated. Some of your wives are getting ready for the return of their abroad based lovers this Christmas. They have perfected plans on the when, how and where.

If a woman’s cheating catches you by surprise in this decade, you must be living in Pluto. If person knack your own, find another person own knack.