Africans and expression of love. Marrying somebody doesn’t mean you bought him or her. Most western wives will support the man and love the man and his pic

Pierocash:
Let him remove it. Why getting married when he knows he is not ready to move on?

If it is the woman that placed her late husband's pix like that,will the man overlook it? The answer is no

God bless you

Mumsluv:
This is a personal experience.

My late dad's sister passed away in the late 80's and subsequently her husband decided to remarry. He didn't have a child with my aunt (cos she suffered numerous miscarriages) and my dad did not have any problems with him remarrying because he brought the lady to meet my dad for his blessings. However a few months after the marriage, he and his new wife came to visit my dad one evening. He came to tell my dad that his wife was having issues with my late aunt's belongings (pictures, personal items and equipments she used for her business) still been kept in his house so he wanted to hand over her belongings to my dad so that the new wife could be comfortable.

My dad listened to both of them and did not argue with them. He just asked where the items were and was told that they had packed them and brought them along with them. He got up, left the sitting room and went to the kitchen where he got hold of a knife and pestle and proceeded outside the compound where he first deflated the tires of the car the couple came in and smashed the windscreen. He then told the couple that they were free to leave cos the car also belonged to my late aunt which was his wedding gift to her and if they were not comfortable with her belongings been kept in the house, they couldn't also be comfortable using her car.

The couple and infact no one was expecting that and they left in shame. To the best of my knowledge, the man did not have any child with the 2nd wife or any other woman.

Your father overreacted.
He could've just asked for the car keys back.

There was nothing wrong with their request.
At least, they did right by trying to return those belongings.
What if the man had just put those away without your dad's knowledge?

I doubt any of what happened with your late aunt was the man's fault, neither would he have wished for any of that to happen.

Also, there was nothing for the couple to be ashamed about.
Embarrassed and shocked at your dad's reaction, maybe.

LikeAking:
Must of u guys here are simps..

Spits!

keeping picture of a dead partner in the living room while married to another is either doing the right thing the wrong way(respecting the memory of the dead in a manner the person u are supposed to live with peacefully may find offensive) OR doing a good thing at the wrong time(re-marrying when you have not healed properly)
truth be told.....if a man loses his wife, he should heal properly before getting married or moving on with another woman, if he hasn't healed enough, it will be a problem. The problem is that, many widow/widower are put under societal pressure to remarry asap, when they should just be chilling, dating, trying to test their connection with someone else and just finding peace and calm with the reality of their loss......You don't have to disrespect another person with the memories of the dead. People should learn to do things appropriately.

What am i reading here? have tinubu Goverment reduced our sense of reasoning? The new wife is correct, old things have past away, the dead is in the past, new person have come in so he should focus on her and forget the past, all her physical visible stuff should be removed so the new can totally focus in her job to helping the man heal,

She should quit complaining , look for one of her Ex pictures , enlarge and frame it then hang on the wall too


So as the Man de derive comfort from viewing him late wife picture .
She too de derive her joy too viewing her former bobo picture .

Marriage no suppose hard .

obaidan:

keeping picture of a dead partner in the living room while married to another is either doing the right thing the wrong way(respecting the memory of the dead in a manner the person u are supposed to live with peacefully may find offensive) OR doing a good thing at the wrong time(re-marrying when you have not healed properly)
truth be told.....if a man loses his wife, he should heal properly before getting married or moving on with another woman, if he hasn't healed enough, it will be a problem. The problem is that, many widow/widower are put under societal pressure to remarry asap, when they should just be chilling, dating, trying to test their connection with someone else and just finding peace and calm with the reality of their loss......You don't have to disrespect another person with the memories of the dead. People should learn to do things appropriately.

U don’t understand life..

Life functions on principles..

A good wife , will understand..

The woman wants the picture to be removed cos of envy and hatred..

If dem remove the picture will she buy fuel for 120, it’s irrelevant..

Her husband most rebuke her..

Person like me will just throw her like tissue out side my house..

[quote author=Shoodboi post=126574292]The man should remove it. He may keep one (a small one or one located in an obscure location other than the bedroom) but the rest have to go. Even that one has to go ultimately. Would he take it if the wife hung the photo of her late husband on the wall? He needs to move on or should've remained single. [/quote

why will he remove it?. That picture is a memory of his late wife

Odin13:
It’s not easy..
The man must heal before he marries.. if not.. it’s a huge problem.

been there..

And if he loves the late wife ba? So sorry for the new.

They will always want the pix remove.. the pix will go with time..when she fills the gap and more.

You are right. The last paragraph is very apt! And the pix will have to be removed. I have similar experience...almost 15 years now....not that I have totally forgotten but it is now in the background....like a distance dream. My present wife, my reality. And I love this reality very much.

Communication is very important in marriage.




The man should ask his new wife why she doesn't want the late wife's pictures on the wall. If they scare her, he can remove them. These would be tricky if there are children between the man and his late wife. If the children want their mother's pictures on the wall, he can keep them on wall in their bedrooms.





But if the new wife does not have a reasonable excuse, the man can keep one picture of his wife on a side or back wall, and put his new wife's pictures on the front wall. If there are children between them, I don't think the children would mind that, especially if they are still little.





As for those jabbering that the man should have removed the pictures, you have a lot of growing up to do. Marriage is not a child's play. You need wisdom to survive.






Keeping a picture on the wall does not mean the man has not healed or is not ready to move on. You might as well ask the man to forget he ever had a first marriage. In fact, you might as well ask him to go and burn up all those pictures.

Georgejeez:
She should quit complaining , look for one of her Ex pictures , enlarge and frame it then hang on the wall too


So as the Man de derive comfort from viewing him late wife picture .
She too de derive her joy too viewing her former bobo picture .

Marriage no suppose hard .

Your stupidity is one of a kind.




She should enlarge her ex's pictures. I take it that you mean her ex boyfriend.





So, an ex boyfriend is the same as a late wife?






Una no always need to comment na. If you don't have anything to say, why not just pass?

Enemyofpeace:
What are your thoughts on this please?

death is separates husband and wife,no need going nack to the past,the pictures should be removed

Pierocash:
Let him remove it. Why getting married when he knows he is not ready to move on?

If it is the woman that placed her late husband's pix like that,will the man overlook it? The answer is no

This is a flawed comparison. The man own the house and he's the head.

But even if we are to answer your question, my answer will be that I won't find it offensive if she does that. I can't be jealous of a dead man.

Y d hurry in marry a new wife,, when he knw he love d late wife,, at least,, he shld have give a minimum years, b4 choosing a new wife.

pansophist:
In as much as he doesn't mind if his wife has her ex picture on her profile photo on WhatsApp.

This is true ? Would he accept the new wife to use her ex pix on her wall papper? He should try and move on and at least he can have her pix in his gallery

Consult marriage therapist

The late wife is not an ex, the new wife knows this before getting to that marriage, even saw the pictures before marrying him, so why the noise?, She should have discussed it with him before the marriage.
Whether we like it or not, the late wife is part of the family and will always be, especially when she has kids, you think is only the husband that owns the wife...the woman should have told the man to remove the pictures of the father or mother if they are late.

NB: those commenting about if is the woman having the ex picture on the wall, your sense suppose tell you that is the man's house not the woman and is the man that paid the bride price not the woman, let's reason like people with sense nah

I will not remove it. If she can't deal with it she should get out.

Pierocash:
Let him remove it. Why getting married when he knows he is not ready to move on?

If it is the woman that placed her late husband's pix like that,will the man overlook it? The answer is no

D woman get Wahala. Allow time to determine that. Infact it shows she's going to be a terrible wife.

Pierocash:
Let him remove it. Why getting married when he knows he is not ready to move on?

That she was dead doesn't mean every trace of her in the house should be erased. What stops the new madam from hanging her own too? Pettiness

If it is the woman that placed her late husband's pix like that,will the man overlook it? The answer is no

All these feminists crappy statements dey irritate, you should know that. She's the one who packs into a new house, the new husband's house, not the other way round.

Exceed15:
I will not remove it. If she can't deal with it she should get out.

Simple as ABC

Vinnie2000:


The Man is suppose to Remove it nah!

Just like Nigerians will soon remove DRUGGIE'S Picx from the halls of our Public institutions. 😏🙁

Wailing Society of Nigeria.

An embittered member spotted.

Ẹní bá wò ṣẹ́ jú akàn, á pẹ́ lé tí omi.

mariahAngel:


Your father overreacted.
He could've just asked for the car keys back.

There was nothing wrong with their request.
At least, they did right by trying to return those belongings.
What if the man had just put those away without your dad's knowledge?

I doubt any of what happened with your late aunt was the man's fault, neither would he have wished for any of that to happen.

Also, there was nothing for the couple to be ashamed about.
Embarrassed and shocked at your dad's reaction, maybe.

His money, his property. They were not comfortable with her items in the house but comfortable moving around in her car, lol. What stops them using those items instead of storing it or retuning it? Silly mentality

Georgejeez:
She should quit complaining , look for one of her Ex pictures , enlarge and frame it then hang on the wall too


So as the Man de derive comfort from viewing him late wife picture .
She too de derive her joy too viewing her former bobo picture .

Marriage no suppose hard .

The one who probably disappointed her, maltreated her or probably abused her? You guys should understand that not every situation require unnecessary competition. Ordinary picture hanging on the wall shouldn't disturb her

Available9:
Yes.. remove it...may her soul rest in peace...if you are not ready to remove it, then don't marry yet

I didn't know that picture of a dead wife could torment the new wife like this, we learn everyday. What would those 2 or 3 three women who marry the same husband do?

What has the innocent pic done to her.
How about the children of the first wife if she removes the pic.
How will the first wife children feel.
Women fear them

Pierocash:
Let him remove it. Why getting married when he knows he is not ready to move on?

If it is the woman that placed her late husband's pix like that,will the man overlook it? The answer is no

The woman can't place her dead husband pictures in my house naaa unless she's the one that married me n I stay in her own house.

Enemyofpeace:
What are your thoughts on this please?

she is right to make the request.

All marriages are till death part us.

Send her packing

slimjohn2k5:
Sensitive situation
But before you marry another u already made up your mind, so y keeping the pic in an open place.

You can have in your drawer or wardrobe

You will also remove the picture of your parents, and your siblings because your wife doesn't want them

What's your experience about life that you're condemning a justly act of someone who's like a grandpa to you Maria?

Even a toddler knows that's the best thing to do or you're the one who will force the keys out of their hands

mariahAngel:


Your father overreacted.
He could've just asked for the car keys back.

There was nothing wrong with their request.
At least, they did right by trying to return those belongings.
What if the man had just put those away without your dad's knowledge?

I doubt any of what happened with your late aunt was the man's fault, neither would he have wished for any of that to happen.

Also, there was nothing for the couple to be ashamed about.
Embarrassed and shocked at your dad's reaction, maybe.

Enemyofpeace:
What are your thoughts on this please?

She's right, the living room is meant for living ...even pictures