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Re: Married Men, I Need Help! Your Marital Experience Is Needed. by agbolahan1991(m): 2:33pm On Oct 24, 2023 |
You are just inlove with her Realistically, Everyone in a particular phase in life falls in love Qualities of getting married or loving a woman differs from one man to another Some might be her virtuousness, physique or speech etc Mind you all the love and affection u both have for each other will die someday coz love is not enough in a marriage A man and a woman need to be fully committed to the marriage coz all that attracted u to her or made her love u too will fade away Commitment keeps the marriage boiling and don’t fall for the body Fall for the soul coz the soul will never die while still alive Have a great day 1 Like |
Re: Married Men, I Need Help! Your Marital Experience Is Needed. by adioolayi(m): 2:35pm On Oct 24, 2023 |
Carcholce: Dear Op, The conscious will to change all by yourself towards this your lady is a very good sign. Nothing happens on its own...you must have been greatly influenced by her subtle attitudes..which obviously are positive ones. No relationship is perfect, but the will to bend our character, traits, old ways to suit eachother is a very good sign you can get along very well I wish you the very best as you get to know eachother further. |
Re: Married Men, I Need Help! Your Marital Experience Is Needed. by Benekkk: 2:35pm On Oct 24, 2023 |
; Carcholce: ![]() Just be yourself always - treat others as you would like to be treated. I have never responded to insults or wisecracks on Nairaland. And I got married in my twenties! 2 Likes |
Re: Married Men, I Need Help! Your Marital Experience Is Needed. by emmabest2000(m): 2:36pm On Oct 24, 2023 |
Carcholce: Dude it has nothing to do with you being or growing mature It is simple that you are not sexual attracted to her and believe me it is a red flag Because you might wife her and end up flucking outside with other women 1 Like 1 Share
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Re: Married Men, I Need Help! Your Marital Experience Is Needed. by Benekkk: 2:38pm On Oct 24, 2023 |
Olaolex:Amen. And yours too! |
Re: Married Men, I Need Help! Your Marital Experience Is Needed. by Elxandre(m): 2:38pm On Oct 24, 2023 |
Ahmed0336:Honest question. No judgments. You still dey fornicate? |
Re: Married Men, I Need Help! Your Marital Experience Is Needed. by Johnson5258: 2:38pm On Oct 24, 2023 |
Well, it's good you are changing but you need to completely change because she is also giving you her best now that marriage has not happened but may slack after marriage, so it's now a function of your personality to determine whether you will continue to love or seek solace in another woman. You have to be determined to be in a blissful marriage. Myself and my wife courted for just 7 months and we married but I dated another lady for 6 years and we were friends for 4 years before we started dating, only for her to pull the trigger on my chest after her final paper that she doesn't see any future with me, there was no cheating at all, so I moved on without resentment to give my love to who deserves it. It is your personal decision bro, anything can change along the line, will your believe system still hold? Be sure of yourself first. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Married Men, I Need Help! Your Marital Experience Is Needed. by prolifik83(m): 2:39pm On Oct 24, 2023 |
Carcholce:PEACE OF MIND. SHE GAVE ME THAT. |
Re: Married Men, I Need Help! Your Marital Experience Is Needed. by lomprico(m): 2:39pm On Oct 24, 2023 |
Carcholce: You are in love that's why. Once you starts losing lover for her, the womanizing resumes. So, keep loving her. |
Re: Married Men, I Need Help! Your Marital Experience Is Needed. by Munzy14(m): 2:40pm On Oct 24, 2023 |
safarifarms:Words on marble..Opposite character in a partner is a ticking time bomb!. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Married Men, I Need Help! Your Marital Experience Is Needed. by fatosky1(m): 2:43pm On Oct 24, 2023 |
Carcholce:I am not Mr. Mike but I believed the answer you seek lies within you. I will try to assist with some clues that will aid your decision. Are you always at peace with your partner no matter the number of hours or you stay together in a day. You enjoy each other's company, no angeer or foul words against the other party. Are you compatible in varieties of areas too- educational background, socially, economically - are both of you earning weekly or monthly to start a family. Not one party working himself out to provide for the home. Religious wise- Are you of the same faith or can for the sake of love follow the other to the place to serve God because a family that pray together stays together. Common vision or goal- You must share some common goals or vision where you want your family to be in 5, 7 or 10 years and should be ready to work together to achieve these goals. Example I got my first car after marrying for 2 years, house after 7 years, many other advancement within 10 years . I pray the good Lord will guide you in making the right decision. |
Re: Married Men, I Need Help! Your Marital Experience Is Needed. by pongwa(m): 2:44pm On Oct 24, 2023 |
Carcholce:you are going through a phase change. It most likely has nothing to do with your woman. |
Re: Married Men, I Need Help! Your Marital Experience Is Needed. by Bettergoat: 2:45pm On Oct 24, 2023 |
30Years. Senior man Twale.!!! Benekkk: 3 Likes |
Re: Married Men, I Need Help! Your Marital Experience Is Needed. by Gboom: 2:47pm On Oct 24, 2023 |
@Op I think you are experiencing the mystery in the power of love. It took a while before my wife agreed to date me before we got married. I saw some qualities in her which was very hard to see in other girls I dated before. I was not disappointed because we weathered some storms and overcome and today we are successful in our doings |
Re: Married Men, I Need Help! Your Marital Experience Is Needed. by Benekkk: 2:48pm On Oct 24, 2023 |
Hideaki:Not even true. Marital love is miles apart from casual sex. It’s the greatest thing you can ever experience. Even when madam is forming drama the anticipation makes the experience better when you win her over. Marriage doesn’t end the chase - it’s only the beginning! 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Married Men, I Need Help! Your Marital Experience Is Needed. by Exceed15: 2:48pm On Oct 24, 2023 |
Keep your marriage fantasies or whatever picture you have . When you enter marriage proper you open a new book you v never read before.. People change. Know this and have peace. 1 Like |
Re: Married Men, I Need Help! Your Marital Experience Is Needed. by Deogratiasfx: 2:49pm On Oct 24, 2023 |
Carcholce: I tell u. |
Re: Married Men, I Need Help! Your Marital Experience Is Needed. by oyebolaidris: 2:50pm On Oct 24, 2023 |
Enjoy the moment, reality beckons. Meanwhile, I think there's something about your new woman, hold her, e get why. Be also reminded that marriage is different from courtship, be mentally prepared. Good luck |
Re: Married Men, I Need Help! Your Marital Experience Is Needed. by Nobody: 2:51pm On Oct 24, 2023 |
Carcholce:Compartibility. |
Re: Married Men, I Need Help! Your Marital Experience Is Needed. by mariahAngel(f): 2:52pm On Oct 24, 2023 |
Benekkk: I love that. |
Re: Married Men, I Need Help! Your Marital Experience Is Needed. by Magnoliaa(f): 2:52pm On Oct 24, 2023 |
Oh. You're growing up, ba? Why are you specifically barring some group of men from commenting? I would think they'd be in the best place to advise you on what to do seeing as you used to be one of those young men. You badmouthed women and made degrading comments about them, while being a redpilled guy and contributed to other people's threads on where they were seeking for an advice...you literally were a voice in the pool of hate posts again women, but now you are in want of a clear, balanced view free of bitterness and whatnot (expecting what you've not given). You want a nice meal of sensibility after you've spoiled the broth of public commentary and cooked nonsense in the kitchen of misogyny. There are many of your kind I've seen. Spread dangerous narrative and ride on the wave of hating women thinking you're an invincible Dorian Gray. But na feminists una go dey threaten with settling down and life humbling them everytime. You're a man that marriage doesn't benefit, so wagwan now? And you're regular visitor at the infamous redpill thread; why didn't you take this matter to them? You don't trust your bros' judgments? Aren't you an authority on humans', especially women's, behaviour? Now you want the advice of men that you've branded as simps (i.e., happily married to their wives) at other times? Whoo would have thunk! 8 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Married Men, I Need Help! Your Marital Experience Is Needed. by Hotguy27: 2:52pm On Oct 24, 2023 |
Carcholce: One of the signs of a woman you would like to marry is that when you are with her you will not desire so easily to meet another woman. Again, if she says she won't want s3x until she is married, you will notice that you can endure. Personality of a woman can also attract a man to settle down with her. When you see a good woman, you don't need magic to tell that she is good especially when you have always been meeting baddies before her. 1 Like |
Re: Married Men, I Need Help! Your Marital Experience Is Needed. by Alade2005: 2:53pm On Oct 24, 2023 |
For you to have relatives happy married life , you need to understand your partner personality trait and also be a tolerance attitude |
Re: Married Men, I Need Help! Your Marital Experience Is Needed. by phkka1(m): 2:53pm On Oct 24, 2023 |
The only thing that can keep marriage together are 1. Love for each other 2. Respect for each other 3. Communication 4. Being faithful 5. Respecting each other's opinion 1 Like |
Re: Married Men, I Need Help! Your Marital Experience Is Needed. by lifenajeje(m): 2:53pm On Oct 24, 2023 |
When I was dating I had specs .. Bum shots wearing mini skirt wearing ..skinny jeans ..nails ..backside , front side ..facial smile ..conversationist ..clubbing etc ..attractive ..beautiful .. The most beautiful girl I dated I don't know why I was not really interested in her . She comes to visit like 20 times before I return the visit just once She always laugh when ever she is around me .. ..she was a very decent girl ..to the extent if other girls come looking for me my neighbours tell them am.not around .. Let me say a bit about her She is as dazzling as the sun , her smile was infectious ..she is cool ..born again ..We never heard sex ( maybe that was y I wansnt so interested ).. Or God kept me away from her ..she is married and goes out for evangelical outreaches now .. With her beauty she saw my friend's mum coming back from the market at our bus stop during one of her visits .. She collected the tubers of yam.bounded together and carried it on her head See as people dey look fine girl wey dey well dressed. Carry yam for head . The girl I thought would eventually end up with was not facially beautiful ..she was the shortest girlfriend but I never get bored around her . If u see where we chat with out 3310 Nokia u will think we are using Android ..she was a good conversationist with intelligent and funny discussions .. Those times of midnight call if u call me na waste of time as every knows u I would be talking to her from 11.55 pm to 4:30 am.. I will follow her to Badagry to.maje 1 million braids We tried lots of stuffs sexually .. Like play we seprated. The lady I finally got married to.. The first day I saw her instantly me tell myself this is my beloved wife in who. I am well pleased .. She was in over flowing long skirt Body was covered head to toe .. I could not stop thinking of her face ..just remembered her smile ..lol she had that hairstyle they call feathers .. Can't explain what struck me but looking back after 12 years of marriage and blessed with 3 kids all I can sày is she is my strength in arrears am weak while I am.her strength in the arrears she is weak .. We have weathered storms together I still can't phantom y I married her . Ur sure plug for PEP PrEP HIV self testing kit and other scarce drugs call or WhatsApp 07038149252 4 Likes |
Re: Married Men, I Need Help! Your Marital Experience Is Needed. by zyzxx(m): 2:54pm On Oct 24, 2023 |
Carcholce:If you are looking for your answer physically you won't get it There are some people that carries some grace of God that if you walk with them some addiction will dry off same way sickness can dry off thru healing So to a large extent you are enjoying grace from the woman you are with and don't take it for granted it is divine 4 Likes |
Re: Married Men, I Need Help! Your Marital Experience Is Needed. by rajiedreez: 2:55pm On Oct 24, 2023 |
Honestly I checked the stability in her home, that's one of the major reasons I decided to marry my wife. She had the qualities I desired coupled with the fact that I admire the type of family she was brought up in. Also because she wasn't from a broken home 2 Likes |
Re: Married Men, I Need Help! Your Marital Experience Is Needed. by zyzxx(m): 2:55pm On Oct 24, 2023 |
Ahmed0336:hahah @ NAFDAC approved fornicator You are indeed blessed sir 2 Likes |
Re: Married Men, I Need Help! Your Marital Experience Is Needed. by RALPHOW(m): 2:56pm On Oct 24, 2023 |
Your attitude is a sigb that you love her, however you need to be 100% sure that she will respect and be submissive. If her attitude shows a sign of rebels in any form please leave her alone Sit down and ask her a lot of genuine questions, likewise she too should do the same. Only marry if two of you are on the same page . Also read at least two books on marriage and women before you conclude. 1 Like |
Re: Married Men, I Need Help! Your Marital Experience Is Needed. by CharleyBright(m): 2:59pm On Oct 24, 2023 |
Okay. One of the most value virtue of a good wife is openness. When I first met my wife, we were serving Corp members. We use to take long walks. She was open to talk about everything about herself, relationships, finances and family. She was open to talk about even her deepest secrets. So there was nothing I didn't know about her. That was Honesty that gave birth to trust. So there was nothing anyone could come and tell me about her or her she didn't already told me. Run away from women that too secretive. Another virtue is intelligence. Look out for intelligent lady. When u marry and intelligent woman communication is seamless and the relationship will be meaningful. If u end up with an unintelligent woman, conversation will be dull. If she no sabi, she no sabi. And you go dey shalaye every now and then . Besides when u marry an intelligent woman and u are intelligent too, you will understand yourselves better cos u will both have same mindset and perception. 6 Likes |
Re: Married Men, I Need Help! Your Marital Experience Is Needed. by GboyegaD(m): 3:03pm On Oct 24, 2023 |
For me, it was the fact that she came from a home and understood family dynamics (for me, this is very key). She is very intelligent and could hold conversation in many different areas. I think I am very attracted to high cerebral people. She is cool headed, respectful (I am too as I prefer giving only what I can take from others), loyal, and all good virtues I could think of. We loved ourselves and it was obvious to both parties. We are willing to accommodate one another thus, I felt we will be able to reconcile our differences and we always have. 2 Likes |
Re: Married Men, I Need Help! Your Marital Experience Is Needed. by Magnoliaa(f): 3:03pm On Oct 24, 2023 |
Carcholce: Okay, I am here to help you mark it. This is just last year o. ![]() Where's the second woman? 3 Likes |
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