I'm sure we have all been in the position of thinking if a close friend is helping situation or bringing more problems. I'm currently in university and every is feeling the heat from the current economy, I recently entered university as I came I couldn't buy gas cylinder and other equipment that would enable me to cook as it's cheaper than eating out, so sometimes ( about 4 times) I use gas from this friend, note we bought the gas together.
Sometimes we go to the market to buy some foodstuffs I average contribute about 30% of the amount spent. About 10 days ago his family member gave him 10k he used it to buy perfume , chain and other stuff worth almost 8k I was angry but didn't show it ( why not use it to buy more foodstuffs ) . Sometimes when I go out to eat he comes and meet me there and due to the fact of I don't like eating when a friend around me hasn't eaten I buy him food or we share the one I bought .

Now on Friday I went home bye my gas and foodstuffs because it saves money and since I came back he has been eating with me daily,this has taking a great stress on the foodstuffs I brought back because what my parents gave me wasn't ment for two people and I am to use it till December.
So please how would do I go about this , I don't know how to tell him to stop coming because I used his gas when I didn't have and he is close friend.And also what scares me is that he currently doesn't have any provision due to the fact that he spent it on perfume and does stuff I listed before which probably means he is going to keep coming for a while

Note - I only used his gas and the foodstuff 4 times mainly because I contribute less( 30%) and know am not entitled as much as a higher percentage , and I only go to his room when only I haven't eaten due to maybe my parents not sending the cash on time not every f**cking day

That your vawulence go wake when he kpai your foodstuff finish

VawulentMan:
That your vawulence go wake when he kpai your foodstuff finish

😂😂😂

Why not try buying a small kerosene stove or smaller gas camp gas, and wean yourself off using your friend's gas cylinder.
If you can afford a hotplate cooker,go for it.Then find a way,a subtle one to throw your friend off your pot of food.
Try cooking a big meal in the morning,eat some and fill your stomach,then leave the hostel early enough and hide away after lectures.
Then coming back for lunch, monitor the environment very well, before entering the room.
Eat quickly after undressing and disappear quickly to an unknown destination.
Only return when it's getting dark and once inside,lock the door.But before this, ensure you are no longer using his gas.
Do this for a while and you won't know when he stops coming for your food.
In this hard time,one must have to make a difficult decision to manage.

[quote author=Onyiiobi7735 post=126595067]Why not try buying a small kerosene stove or smaller gas camp gas, and wean yourself off using your friend's gas cylinder.
If you can afford a hotplate cooker,go for it.Then find a way,a subtle one to throw your friend off your pot of food.
Try cooking a big meal in the morning,eat some and fill your stomach,then leave the hostel early enough and hide away after lectures.
Then coming back for lunch, monitor the environment very well, before entering the room.
Eat quickly after undressing and disappear quickly to an unknown destination.
Only return when it's getting dark and once inside,lock the door.But before this, ensure you are no longer using his gas.
Do this for a while and you won't know when he stops coming for your food.
In this hard time,one must have to make a difficult decision to manage.[/quote)

I just bought my own gas on Saturday so I don't use his again, that's what I am thinking by dodging him can u believe this evening he was expecting me to boil rice so we would eat and he told someone that he is owing that I am going to pay for him

[quote author=AwokenVawulence post=126595517][/quote] That's wonderful.Just keep dodging him.

Onyiiobi7735:

That's wonderful.Just keep dodging him.

Can u believe he just came now and was asking for the rice i told him i didn't cook and gabe him 100 naira , it's really annoying because he would come tomorrow and start asking for food

AwokenVawulence:

Can u believe he just came now and was asking for the rice i told him i didn't cook and gabe him 100 naira , it's really annoying because he would come tomorrow and start asking for food

Lol!! What? He must be really crazy for that.Are you his cook or mother?
Simply tell him there's no food and you have no money at hand.
Heaven won't fall.
Goodness,I despise people like that your friend.

Onyiiobi7735:

Lol!! What? He must be really crazy for that.Are you his cook or mother?
Simply tell him there's no food and you have no money at hand.
Heaven won't fall.
Goodness,I despise people like that your friend.

That's what i told him i no cook and gave him 100 naira,i can't keep this up . What is paining me is that he used the money for foodstuff to bye chain what the hell And i don't think they are sending him money anytime soon , si he would keep on coming like i am his mom

AwokenVawulence:


That's what i told him i no cook and gave him 100 naira,i can't keep this up . What is paining me is that he used the money for foodstuff to bye chain what the hell And i don't think they are sending him money anytime soon , si he would keep on coming like i am his mom

Don't hoard food for your friend. Always share with him with the little you have. When there's no food, let him know there's no food.

There are more important things you should worry about as a man, not food.

AwokenVawulence:


That's what i told him i no cook and gave him 100 naira,i can't keep this up . What is paining me is that he used the money for foodstuff to bye chain what the hell And i don't think they are sending him money anytime soon , si he would keep on coming like i am his mom

Wahala dey oo! But you must have to shake him off by all means possible.
Or else he will drain you.

VawulentMan:
That your vawulence go wake when he kpai your foodstuff finish

haha u dey ment

Still share bro. He might come thru later later.

Do like 80/20 or something.

And try whine am use the chain go class one day, see wetin him go talk first.

Oti yee...

AwokenVawulence:


That's what i told him i no cook and gave him 100 naira,i can't keep this up . What is paining me is that he used the money for foodstuff to bye chain what the hell And i don't think they are sending him money anytime soon , si he would keep on coming like i am his mom

people like that don't leave until the food is finished. Let the food finish then restock without telling him. That way when he shows up tell him u don't av to give him. Keep at it that way without opening the door till next yr

Go and visit him every morning b4 lecture for straight 1 week
Make sure you use his perfume and he sees you using it anytime you come.
If he gets upset
Just sit back and enjoy the rest

You know what to do

AwokenVawulence:


That's what i told him i no cook and gave him 100 naira,i can't keep this up . What is paining me is that he used the money for foodstuff to bye chain what the hell And i don't think they are sending him money anytime soon , si he would kee p on coming like i am his mom

him eye neva clear..hunger go give am sense by force.

Zonefree:

Don't hoard food for your friend. Always share with him with the little you have. When there's no food, let him know there's no food.

There are more important things you should worry about as a man, not food.

Lol. Not when you’re being fed too.
@op, find means to get your own gas, tell him straight up that you can’t afford to keep feeding him, that your parents are not sending you money anytime soon.. I can see you don’t want to offend him, but you clearly can’t afford feeding him nah…
The Bible doesn’t tell you love your neigbor more than yourself… put yourself first , , if not, when better hunger knack u, u go get sense… make e go Dey chop him chain and perfume.


That being said, as a student, find a side husle to augment what your parent send to u..,



However, if you have the means and it’s comfortable for you , sharing your meals with him is not bad ..

I use to have people like this, they use all their money to buy clothes, then start eating at different coursemates houses.

In Nigeria, you should learn how to say "No" if not people will take advantage of you.

Zonefree:

Don't hoard food for your friend. Always share with him with the little you have. When there's no food, let him know there's no food.

There are more important things you should worry about as a man, not food.

As a student, that's most important thing at the moment.

E bi things sha

It's just food. Please don't deny a close friend food... friendship goes way beyond that
You can talk to him about priorities so he knows he's supposed to get food instead of other things next time

AwokenVawulence:
I'm sure we have all been in the position of thinking if a close friend is helping situation or bringing more problems. I'm currently in university and every is feeling the heat from the current economy, I recently entered university as I came I couldn't buy gas cylinder and other equipment that would enable me to cook as it's cheaper than eating out, so sometimes ( about 4 times) I use gas from this friend, note we bought the gas together.
Sometimes we go to the market to buy some foodstuffs I average contribute about 30% of the amount spent. About 10 days ago his family member gave him 10k he used it to buy perfume , chain and other stuff worth almost 8k I was angry but didn't show it ( why not use it to buy more foodstuffs ) . Sometimes when I go out to eat he comes and meet me there and due to the fact of I don't like eating when a friend around me hasn't eaten I buy him food or we share the one I bought .
Now on Friday I went home to get the gas and foodstuffs because it saves money and since I came back he has been eating with me daily,this has taking a great stress on the foodstuffs I brought back because what my parents gave me wasn't ment for two people and I am to use it till December.
So please how would do I go about this , I don't know how to tell him to stop coming because I used his gas when I didn't have and he is close friend.And also what scares me is that he currently doesn't have any provision due to the fact that he spent it on perfume and does stuff I listed before which probably means he is going to keep coming for a while

Note - I only used his gas and the foodstuff 4 times mainly because I contribute less( 30%) and know am not entitled as much as a higher percentage , and I only go to his room when only I haven't eaten due to maybe my parents not sending the cash on time not every f**cking day

I've seen quite a number of people in this mix over time. Y'all just have communication issues. Ken, I'm gonna have to stop you from using my gas...so sorry bro, my family's in a tough time and I have to tailor myself.


You don't need to get angry or hurt. Just express yourself simply. Let him vex... apologize and apologize, but maintain you ground.

Put sniper in his food and be far way from him as possible when it happens

O boy, too much worries and stress on the food I wanna eat?? Tell him to bring his chain if he wanna eat.

First to do no dey pain, is like your friendship revolves around food.

VawulentMan:
That your vawulence go wake when he kpai your foodstuff finish

I Don laugh now enter Naira Marley room collect molly and heenessy poour for. Cup dey drink..

The boy mind no go touch grand

AwokenVawulence:
I'm sure we have all been in the position of thinking if a close friend is helping situation or bringing more problems. I'm currently in university and every is feeling the heat from the current economy, I recently entered university as I came I couldn't buy gas cylinder and other equipment that would enable me to cook as it's cheaper than eating out, so sometimes ( about 4 times) I use gas from this friend, note we bought the gas together.
Sometimes we go to the market to buy some foodstuffs I average contribute about 30% of the amount spent. About 10 days ago his family member gave him 10k he used it to buy perfume , chain and other stuff worth almost 8k I was angry but didn't show it ( why not use it to buy more foodstuffs ) . Sometimes when I go out to eat he comes and meet me there and due to the fact of I don't like eating when a friend around me hasn't eaten I buy him food or we share the one I bought .
Now on Friday I went home to get the gas and foodstuffs because it saves money and since I came back he has been eating with me daily,this has taking a great stress on the foodstuffs I brought back because what my parents gave me wasn't ment for two people and I am to use it till December.
So please how would do I go about this , I don't know how to tell him to stop coming because I used his gas when I didn't have and he is close friend.And also what scares me is that he currently doesn't have any provision due to the fact that he spent it on perfume and does stuff I listed before which probably means he is going to keep coming for a while

Note - I only used his gas and the foodstuff 4 times mainly because I contribute less( 30%) and know am not entitled as much as a higher percentage , and I only go to his room when only I haven't eaten due to maybe my parents not sending the cash on time not every f**cking day

you are a good friend. but try buy your gas ok... if that your friend get cash and he is not supporting with the cooking, na bad friend be that, cos he wil want to eat you dry without contributing anything. more so, if he does not have now, endure with him

and for your sanity sake, ensure you keep half of what you have now aside, so that once the main stuff is finished, let him know, then if he is ready to join hands, with that you willl know.

You never see anything, see as you dey write long epistle on top 2kg gas you and your friend contributed money to buy...your shame dey shame me...

She you follow put Tinubu for seat abi, soon na only garri una go dey drink everyday...

AwokenVawulence:
I'm sure we have all been in the position of thinking if a close friend is helping situation or bringing more problems. I'm currently in university and every is feeling the heat from the current economy, I recently entered university as I came I couldn't buy gas cylinder and other equipment that would enable me to cook as it's cheaper than eating out, so sometimes ( about 4 times) I use gas from this friend, note we bought the gas together.
Sometimes we go to the market to buy some foodstuffs I average contribute about 30% of the amount spent. About 10 days ago his family member gave him 10k he used it to buy perfume , chain and other stuff worth almost 8k I was angry but didn't show it ( why not use it to buy more foodstuffs ) . Sometimes when I go out to eat he comes and meet me there and due to the fact of I don't like eating when a friend around me hasn't eaten I buy him food or we share the one I bought .
Now on Friday I went home to get the gas and foodstuffs because it saves money and since I came back he has been eating with me daily,this has taking a great stress on the foodstuffs I brought back because what my parents gave me wasn't ment for two people and I am to use it till December.
So please how would do I go about this , I don't know how to tell him to stop coming because I used his gas when I didn't have and he is close friend.And also what scares me is that he currently doesn't have any provision due to the fact that he spent it on perfume and does stuff I listed before which probably means he is going to keep coming for a while

Note - I only used his gas and the foodstuff 4 times mainly because I contribute less( 30%) and know am not entitled as much as a higher percentage , and I only go to his room when only I haven't eaten due to maybe my parents not sending the cash on time not every f**cking day

Zonefree:

Don't hoard food for your friend. Always share with him with the little you have. When there's no food, let him know there's no food.

There are more important things you should worry about as a man, not food.

this poster looks selfish to me, for the fact that u enjoyed his meal for once and he never complained, one good turn deserves another, one day your food go finish and he will still carry u just like he feels that u are carrying him along too,he sees u as his friend, u are a man u should point it out to your friend when u feel that he is wrong by being extravagant with his spending and stop bearing grudges like a woman, share with him when u have, and tell him point black when u don't have, food is nothing, for the fact he helped u once return the favour and stop complaining.

Stop being stingy bro. A friend in need is a friend indeed. If he’s really your friend, help him.

Zonefree:

Don't hoard food for your friend. Always share with him with the little you have. When there's no food, let him know there's no food.

There are more important things you should worry about as a man, not food.

Bro I understand to your point he is a close friend and I should help him when I have the means but haba it is too much na everyday not once In a while , this morning I tried dodging him but he came and I had to share the food I was eating, he was even asking me when I would be back from lectured I told him by 3 he said no wahala that he would wait for me "so we go chop rice "
There was a time I didn't eat the whole day I came to his room to ask for food out of the cartoon of indomie we bought ( he contributed 80%), he said it has finished a whole cartoon he said the indomie was small size thats why it finished fast , I only used it once so I had to go and beg the people that sold akara to give me some on credit , when I came to pay they said he also bought something on credit and said I told them I would pay back for him also wtf . Even the Milo and milk he finished it when I asked so I had to drink garri .

Just as u said they are other things to think of other than good but the way things are going my foodstuffs would finish in two weeks and I would be stranded till December, some days before now I don't eat throughout the day and now I have the opportunity to finally relax my mind on food problems this problem came along , once it finishes and I go to him and he said he doesn't have anything too what then do I do

Sharatan:
Stop being stingy bro. A friend in need is a friend indeed. If he’s really your friend, help him.

He uses his money on chains and other non essential things ,like even now he is planning to buy earpods with the next money they would send to him