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Re: Your First Time Of Visiting A Guy, And This Happens. What Would You Do? by AllDModsAreMaad: 1:36pm On Oct 28, 2023 |
Wetin concern me? My own is to get the food done and serve me food to eat. On a lighter note, even though she may end up not doing it sef, but she must make the move or try(you know that kind impression na?). I know my mom, at that point she will be the one to tell her not to worry. |
Re: Your First Time Of Visiting A Guy, And This Happens. What Would You Do? by Eniitankorede: 1:40pm On Oct 28, 2023 |
illicit: You are even to supposed to help your mother in first instance. Both of you are……uhm!!! |
Re: Your First Time Of Visiting A Guy, And This Happens. What Would You Do? by GoodGovernance: 1:40pm On Oct 28, 2023 |
What is worth doing at all, is worth doing at once. If it were to be a cooking for a party or so, you would not allow your girlfriend to assist, just because it's a first time visit, abi? Rubbish! If it is expected for your girlfriend to assist your mum in the kitchen tomorrow, or next month, then that expectation can never be time bound! She does not even have to be your girlfriend to assist your mum in the kitchen! The question to ask is, what value is lost if you assist? The other question ,is there no value lost if you do not assist? |
Re: Your First Time Of Visiting A Guy, And This Happens. What Would You Do? by obembet(f): 1:43pm On Oct 28, 2023 |
englishmart: Werey want shift my gis-ring just cos inwore short skirt but God no gre am... Since that time, I no dey try am again |
Re: Your First Time Of Visiting A Guy, And This Happens. What Would You Do? by sync(f): 1:44pm On Oct 28, 2023 |
This would depend on the distance between the sitting room and the kitchen. If they are wealthy and the distance from the sitting room to the kitchen is afar off n it’s not obvious that the mum is in the kitchen, there would be no need assisting her. But if it’s a small house and it’s so obvious that the mum is busy in the kitchen, I would gladly join her to assist |
Re: Your First Time Of Visiting A Guy, And This Happens. What Would You Do? by iLoveYouToo(m): 1:55pm On Oct 28, 2023 |
This is how you know if you're dating a boy or man |
Re: Your First Time Of Visiting A Guy, And This Happens. What Would You Do? by Spiff20(m): 1:56pm On Oct 28, 2023 |
Unless she's an extrovert and feels comfortable with it. Otherwise, she doesn't even know my mum and what she likes in the kitchen. It will be uncomfortable for them both. She's a guest on first visiting and should be served. |
Re: Your First Time Of Visiting A Guy, And This Happens. What Would You Do? by Puss360(f): 1:56pm On Oct 28, 2023 |
Error401:What do u mean by first impression?? To be slaving on first day? No thanks |
Re: Your First Time Of Visiting A Guy, And This Happens. What Would You Do? by eepeepook: 1:57pm On Oct 28, 2023 |
Hackneyed topic posted for the 20,000th time. |
Re: Your First Time Of Visiting A Guy, And This Happens. What Would You Do? by Error401: 2:00pm On Oct 28, 2023 |
Well its up to you, thats not slaving, thats humility Puss360: 1 Like |
Re: Your First Time Of Visiting A Guy, And This Happens. What Would You Do? by chatinent: 2:00pm On Oct 28, 2023 |
Nigerian mentality tho. So na by cooking dem dey know good manners? |
Re: Your First Time Of Visiting A Guy, And This Happens. What Would You Do? by Passionnn: 2:08pm On Oct 28, 2023 |
JASONjnr:Eggzacly |
Re: Your First Time Of Visiting A Guy, And This Happens. What Would You Do? by Brownemeka: 2:18pm On Oct 28, 2023 |
englishmart:Your what again Boyfriend right? Case closed!! |
Re: Your First Time Of Visiting A Guy, And This Happens. What Would You Do? by Nobody: 2:31pm On Oct 28, 2023 |
For your information, I don't even like eating when visiting people's houses for the first time, I'd probably turn down the food anyway. I prefer being given a drink and not food... Even if it's just water. This has nothing to do with my marital status because whether the mother gives me the food or not after cooking in the kitchen without my assistance, that's her choice... It's not like I'm from a hungry background anyways. KyleJason: |
Re: Your First Time Of Visiting A Guy, And This Happens. What Would You Do? by Ashirioluwa: 2:33pm On Oct 28, 2023 |
Puss360: Ok boss lady |
Re: Your First Time Of Visiting A Guy, And This Happens. What Would You Do? by Nobody: 2:37pm On Oct 28, 2023 |
Join her in the kitchen and gist about what when I'd have just met her for two minutes She'll think that I'm being way too forward. You seem to forget that women and men don't think and see things the same way, just because you as a man can do something with ease, it doesn't mean the same thing will apply with women. ThatCEO: |
Re: Your First Time Of Visiting A Guy, And This Happens. What Would You Do? by Nobody: 2:38pm On Oct 28, 2023 |
So you just followed me to insult me? jaksmillioniar: |
Re: Your First Time Of Visiting A Guy, And This Happens. What Would You Do? by Akpacha(m): 2:43pm On Oct 28, 2023 |
illicit:U get sense. That should be the standard, she is a visitor as such she has to be treated as a visitor. |
Re: Your First Time Of Visiting A Guy, And This Happens. What Would You Do? by francotunsco: 2:49pm On Oct 28, 2023 |
On your first visit, you are still a visitor and have no place in the kitchen. The boyfriend's mum too wont expect you to join her so quickly. She should be more interested in knowing you first. |
Re: Your First Time Of Visiting A Guy, And This Happens. What Would You Do? by Emdebby2: 2:51pm On Oct 28, 2023 |
First time visit....No No. Don't overstep your boundaries! Remember you are a guest (girlfriend) not wife or finance. What are you trying to show by going to someone's kitchen?. |
Re: Your First Time Of Visiting A Guy, And This Happens. What Would You Do? by ChybuzzDD(m): 2:51pm On Oct 28, 2023 |
Dangrace01: Why would she join her?? That's not necessary, please. If the mother has an issue with that, she's definitely a troublesome person |
Re: Your First Time Of Visiting A Guy, And This Happens. What Would You Do? by HRMK: 3:14pm On Oct 28, 2023 |
first or last time,you are supposed to join her in the kitchen!you have no excuse at all!! |
Re: Your First Time Of Visiting A Guy, And This Happens. What Would You Do? by beardedboy(m): 3:16pm On Oct 28, 2023 |
illicit:Yes, you are. So you'll see your father-in-law washing in his car and you'll sit and watch 8n the name of being a visitor? |
Re: Your First Time Of Visiting A Guy, And This Happens. What Would You Do? by illicit(m): 3:45pm On Oct 28, 2023 |
beardedboy: So if u met him mixing mortar to make blocks, or laying blocks to make a foundation for a new building You will join him |
Re: Your First Time Of Visiting A Guy, And This Happens. What Would You Do? by MatrixCircle: 3:46pm On Oct 28, 2023 |
She should sweep the 🏠 instead and check if they are dirty clothes or other cleaning to do . When mama finish cooking she can set the table then serve the meal. After the family finish eating then wash the dishes and thank the family. By so doing she will win the family over. |
Re: Your First Time Of Visiting A Guy, And This Happens. What Would You Do? by hardayemmie(m): 3:54pm On Oct 28, 2023 |
immortalcrown: Exactly... If she's known to be a fiancee before her first visit, it's a good thing to volunteer to help. First impression at first time. No CAP |
Re: Your First Time Of Visiting A Guy, And This Happens. What Would You Do? by Geofavor(m): 3:56pm On Oct 28, 2023 |
Brandiebird:This is it. You ask your host how you can help out then let them tell you what to do and not do. It's not that complicated. Everyone is not the same. Some people may want you to do nothing. Some will want you to do something. This is why you should ask. In this case, the boyfriend should be the bridge between his girl and his family. The boyfriend knows his family. So, he should already have briefed her on how to present herself which includes if she is going to help out in the kitchen or not. For me, if I'm taking a girl to meet my mum, I must have already decided to marry her, so I would personally want her to join my mum to do a little in the kitchen just for the sake of bonding. I'm only interested in girls who genuinely like cooking, so doing that will be fun for her. |
Re: Your First Time Of Visiting A Guy, And This Happens. What Would You Do? by hardayemmie(m): 4:11pm On Oct 28, 2023 |
Silentgroper: May not be mad ... It just only depends on how you come in to the matter. You must appear in the matter without abrupt interruption, show concern and compassion. All you need to do is tell the carpenter that it's fine, u will take charge of the settlement. And if there are pple over there. Excuse the mechanic out by your self without embarrassing the dad, settle with the carpenter and let him go from there. It's all about applying wisdom. As a matter of fact... Settling the matter should never come as an embarasment or annoyance for matured in-laws... Afterall ur their son-in-law and it's one good opportunity to show how capable and sensitive to situation you are. |
Re: Your First Time Of Visiting A Guy, And This Happens. What Would You Do? by hardayemmie(m): 4:12pm On Oct 28, 2023 |
chatinent: Dey play |
Re: Your First Time Of Visiting A Guy, And This Happens. What Would You Do? by chaloskyx: 5:03pm On Oct 28, 2023 |
Ask the mother for a bottle of stout and go to the sitting rom cross your legs and watch Netflix also tell the mom to call you once food is ready as you are famished and had a busy day with her son. |
Re: Your First Time Of Visiting A Guy, And This Happens. What Would You Do? by Nobody: 5:12pm On Oct 28, 2023 |
Samantha124: Samantha, Why are you not married or are you waiting for me? I'm available, that's is if you want me. Marrying you would be the best thing to happen in my life. |
Re: Your First Time Of Visiting A Guy, And This Happens. What Would You Do? by Justkatty(f): 5:25pm On Oct 28, 2023 |
Truth be told I'll not, EXCEPT I'm being asked to assist....no be by busy body them dey use know wife or husband material. |
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