She will be going alone (A hard and tough decision i must confess) leaving the me and my 5 months old baby till when things are soft for us to join her.

I don't know how easy or how soon it will be for her to send invite for us to join her.
How's life in the UK with a single mum?

Who have passed through this situation and how did you people pull through

Did you say 5months old?
How do you plan to take care of a 5month old baby?
I will advise you to do whatever it takes to go along with her and the baby.
Or better still let her go with the baby as long as she's not working in London, y'all can survive in the Uk

Let her go with the baby and marry a new wife, there is an 85 percent chance you have lost her

IkpemhiTG:
She will be going alone (A hard and tough decision i must confess) leaving the me and my 5 months old baby till when things are soft for us to join her.

I don't know how easy or how soon it will be for her to send invite for us to join her.
How's life in the UK with a single mum?

Who have passed through this situation and how did you people pull through

She should go ALONE, you should get your female relatives or hers to assist in childcare and you should also learn the basics of childcare because you will be 100% involved with taking care of your child here in the UK.

Then after about 6 months, arrangements to join her can start.

Arriving, she should rent a furnished room in a shared house that is bills inclusive. Alongside her sponsored job, she should get a 20hrs per week part time job as allowed with that visa and after about 4 months, she should start looking for a 2 bedroom flat in preparation for the arrival of you and the baby, getting a house for a family is not a day's job.

When you and the baby come over, you will be taking care of the baby when she is at work and you can only go to work when she is off work, this means you will work with her work rota.

honour7:
Let her go with the baby and marry a new wife, there is an 85 percent chance you have lost her

This quite on the Xtreme.
Why and how has he lost her?

As regards relocating your wife first before you do, that is a wise decision for many reasons including economic, as far as you both have weighed every option to come to such agreement.

The only tricky part here is the 5 month old baby to be left with you. That child really needs all the warmth, affection and nutrients for growth at this stage, and I hope the mother as well is prepared for all the consistent emotional blows before she is reunited with her son.

However, for her to start a new life abroad, deliver on her employer's expectation, and adjust to the new culture, people and environment, She need a good deal of space, time, observation and interactions which nursing an infant may inhibit.
Moreso, coming ahead will help handle the preliminary bottlenecks which will benefit you all in having a better start up when you finally join her.
Except you can raise all the money to move you all at once, My advice is that you get her mom or aunty or any experienced mother that you both are is comfortable with to help nurse the baby.

Also, set a target date not too Long to have you guys join her and start working towards it now or as soon as she gets there

honour7:
Let her go with the baby and marry a new wife, there is an 85 percent chance you have lost her

Let her go with the baby....is OP not the child's father and what is the big deal in a man taking care of his baby in the physical absence of the baby's mother?

Bro, how mentally and emotionally are you prepared for the lonely road ahead? I am speaking from experience. I don't wish what I suffered taking care of three kids alone on my enemy.

fykes:
Did you say 5months old?
How do you plan to take care of a 5month old baby?
I will advise you to do whatever it takes to go along with her and the baby.
Or better still let her go with the baby as long as she's not working in London, y'all can survive in the Uk

Because a father can't take care of his own baby? Or do you somehow suspect Op might sell his baby or something?

Oganla101:
Bro, how mentally and emotionally are you prepared for the lonely road ahead? I am speaking from experience. I don't wish what I suffered taking care of three kids alone on my enemy.

But if say na you dem give paper, you no go think twice to leave your wife with the same kids go, abi?

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Scam.

As I do not know exactly what stage your application is and your post doesn't seem to suggest much. Please be very careful.

If your wife has got a genuine work visa, that should easily include you and the child without stressing it. I believe you are not being told to call/email another team to take a 'paramedic' test, and those ones are telling you that you would have to pay for an official exam?

Be very careful.

If genuine, please borrow money and shut down and move to the UK together. It won't be easy at first but once you get working, repaying Naija loans won't be hard with the currency rate now. + It's best to be a couple in the UK.

Again, be very careful.

IkpemhiTG:
She will be going alone (A hard and tough decision i must confess) leaving the me and my 5 months old baby till when things are soft for us to join her.

I don't know how easy or how soon it will be for her to send invite for us to join her.
How's life in the UK with a single mum?

Who have passed through this situation and how did you people pull through

CALL THE PARAMEDICS...If you know you know.

IkpemhiTG:
Thanks.... Quite some thoughts here. Let me also add that am in website designing and currently working from home.

How easy is it over there getting clients remotely. Majority of my clients here in Niger are through referrals.

Are you into tech in the UK? I would appreciate your thoughts on this.

Am very grateful to you guys

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Wittyness

Ur own don be. ...

If she come back to you or allow you come over, make I bend.

You don't know 21st Century women abi

Haba, oga, madam should go with the baby na. Even white people no go disagree na. How you wan take fend for a five-year-old baby?

A lady left 4 months ago and the husband and her 3 boys will join her next week. So you'll be fine.

How did she get the job and how authentic is it?
As she been issued visa?
If visa has been issued,then it's authentic,though quite surprised to hear of paramedics being employed from far countries.

orohbirodeysmel:
Ur own don be. ...

If she come back to you or allow you come over, make I bend

no be all women be like the ones wey you dey meet.

honour7:
Let her go with the baby and marry a new wife, there is an 85 percent chance you have lost her

I don’t know why men don’t like looking after their children. I know why but I won’t say. Let me be peaceful for today.

Mindlog:


Let her go with the baby....is OP not the child's father and what is the big deal in a man taking care of his baby in the physical absence of the baby's mother?

LMAO. You want a man to take care of a 5 month old baby while the mother is alive? Are you normal?

Your wife should go with your child since the baby is still tender and still needs the exclusive breast feeding and so much attention. You can take care of the infant but not as perfect as your wife.
Wish her success. Pray still she remains a good and faithful woman over there.

@ikpemhiTG

Not going to be easy for her to cope with a 5month old baby going into the Winter as she would need a child minder to tend the baby when she is away at work. Child minders are expensive and can cost nkrth of £1k per month.
Starting a new job as paramedic, she would need to go through a lot of training to get used to the system here as paramedics are first responders.
I would suggest the baby stays with your mum or her mum, by summer she should have gotten stable enough to invite you and the baby. Anything beyond the summer of 2024 would be concerning, let me put it like that, I'm sure you understand

mrblessed:
Haba, oga, madam should go with the baby na. Even white people no go disagree na. How you wan take fend for a five-year-old baby?

Who will be looking after the baby when she is at work?

Mind you a paramedic is not a 9 to 5 job.

Hehe una don use bad leadership kill una future. U go make the pounds and dollars oo but una go lose ur families forever.

There are consequences for bad leaders

Last last

Y0ur wife go divorce u become Iesbian

Y0ur daughter go become Iesbian too

Y0ur son go turn gáy

Then u go end up as an aIcoholic or drug junkie!

Oganla101:
Bro, how mentally and emotionally are you prepared for the lonely road ahead? I am speaking from experience. I don't wish what I suffered taking care of three kids alone on my enemy.

Lol, but women should take care of their children alone. I'm happy you went through whatever you went through

I am based in the UK.. if your wife actually got a paramedic job( I hope its with NHS), do everything possible for all of you to come in together now.....People who come here on work visa settle down faster and easier than people with students visa ........

Na to do giveaway remain