Ishilove:
She didn't change. She simply showed her true character

Fahvvy:
This scenario you just described accurately tells the story of how most women are ...

And it's so unfortunate that men realize this way too late ...

Men listen!
Your respect in the eyes of 99% of "your beloved wives" is tied to your ability to provide, lose this ability and watch your "loving wife" become your worst night mare ...

The truth about the average woman is that, They are incapable of loving a man GENUINELY ...

If there's nothing to gain from you, be it time and attention or resources, then they have no business with you, talk more of respecting you ...

@OP...
I won't quit the marriage ...
She may have been a bad wife, but if she's been a good mother, then there's no way I'm depriving my kids of their mum ...

But one thing is for certain, from that day onwards we'll only be roommates at best ...

oluwaseyi0:
yet this women will be shout the loudest that they stay with the man when he has nothing

Tallesty1:
I'd like to share a story with you. I enjoy stories, as they are often what older folks excel at. 😄

My church hosts a program from time to time; it's an all-night event where singles of marriageable age and selected married individuals come together to discuss various aspects of marriage.

On one occasion, a topic was brought up, and women were discussing at length how they could love a man and do everything right, yet things don't always work out. As people began giving reasons for such situations, I was given the microphone, and I suggested, "Perhaps you should consider respecting them instead of just loving them. If what you're doing isn't working, why not try something different?" This led to a lively debate, which I won't go into, but one woman took it personally, and we had this conversation.

Woman: Are you married?

Me: No, ma'am.

Woman: I've been married for years, and I can emphatically tell you that love is what has held us together from day one. We've been through a lot and come out stronger because of love. You're not married, so you may not know enough to form an opinion on this issue.

The women in the audience applauded her.

Me: That's beautiful, ma'am. When did you meet your husband?

Woman: A few months after school; I was staying with my uncle and waiting for my service year.

Me: Was he a student too?

Woman: No, he was already in business and doing fairly well.

Me: How long did you two date?

Woman: Just a few months. He made it clear that he was looking for a wife, but we didn't get married until after my service year.

Me: That's wonderful. Now, let's imagine a scenario where your roles are reversed. You are a successful businesswoman, and you meet a young man fresh out of school with no job and no NYSC certificate yet, and he proposes marriage. Would you have married him as quickly as he married you? Please, be honest; we are in a church.

Woman: What are you trying to say? That I married him because of money or something? I love my husband, he knows it, he sees it, and he feels it. He's here and can speak for himself.

Me: Thank you, ma'am, for being honest with me.

I summarized the conversation, which was quite lengthy and filled with drama, but I believe you can still grasp the main point from this excerpt. 😄

Tallesty1:
I'd like to share a story with you. I enjoy stories, as they are often what older folks excel at. 😄

My church hosts a program from time to time; it's an all-night event where singles of marriageable age and selected married individuals come together to discuss various aspects of marriage.

On one occasion, a topic was brought up, and women were discussing at length how they could love a man and do everything right, yet things don't always work out. As people began giving reasons for such situations, I was given the microphone, and I suggested, "Perhaps you should consider respecting them instead of just loving them. If what you're doing isn't working, why not try something different?" This led to a lively debate, which I won't go into, but one woman took it personally, and we had this conversation.

Woman: Are you married?

Me: No, ma'am.

Woman: I've been married for years, and I can emphatically tell you that love is what has held us together from day one. We've been through a lot and come out stronger because of love. You're not married, so you may not know enough to form an opinion on this issue.

The women in the audience applauded her.

Me: That's beautiful, ma'am. When did you meet your husband?

Woman: A few months after school; I was staying with my uncle and waiting for my service year.

Me: Was he a student too?

Woman: No, he was already in business and doing fairly well.

Me: How long did you two date?

Woman: Just a few months. He made it clear that he was looking for a wife, but we didn't get married until after my service year.

Me: That's wonderful. Now, let's imagine a scenario where your roles are reversed. You are a successful businesswoman, and you meet a young man fresh out of school with no job and no NYSC certificate yet, and he proposes marriage. Would you have married him as quickly as he married you? Please, be honest; we are in a church.

Woman: What are you trying to say? That I married him because of money or something? I love my husband, he knows it, he sees it, and he feels it. He's here and can speak for himself.

Me: Thank you, ma'am, for being honest with me.

I summarized the conversation, which was quite lengthy and filled with drama, but I believe you can still grasp the main point from this excerpt. 😄

Tallesty1:
I just watched a clip that inspired this post.

Imagine this scenario.......

You are married to a beautiful woman, and you have like three kids. It is a beautiful family, really.

You have a nice house, a good ride, beautiful children, always selfie-ready wife, and salary alerts keep coming. Then life happens, and you start losing things until nothing is left. No salary, no more savings, and you're officially wiped out by poverty.

Your wife has something she does for a living, makes her own money, and does whatever it is that women do with money. You never cared because you were doing okay, but now the tides have turned.

Naturally, you expect her to provide support while you work harder to regain your footing. But what you are getting from her is something you never knew she was capable of: insults upon insults, disrespect, and all. This lasts for a year or two.

Then, fortune smiles on you again and you get back on your feet. As usual, there is money now, and your wife is the woman you married at first. She is loving again, respectful, and caring.

I want to know, will you still go back to loving her like before, as if the past two years' experience never happened, or are you going to quit?

Tallesty1:
I just watched a clip that inspired this post.

Imagine this scenario.......

You are married to a beautiful woman, and you have like three kids. It is a beautiful family, really.

You have a nice house, a good ride, beautiful children, always selfie-ready wife, and salary alerts keep coming. Then life happens, and you start losing things until nothing is left. No salary, no more savings, and you're officially wiped out by poverty.

Your wife has something she does for a living, makes her own money, and does whatever it is that women do with money. You never cared because you were doing okay, but now the tides have turned.

Naturally, you expect her to provide support while you work harder to regain your footing. But what you are getting from her is something you never knew she was capable of: insults upon insults, disrespect, and all. This lasts for a year or two.

Then, fortune smiles on you again and you get back on your feet. As usual, there is money now, and your wife is the woman you married at first. She is loving again, respectful, and caring.

I want to know, will you still go back to loving her like before, as if the past two years' experience never happened, or are you going to quit?

Fahvvy:
This scenario you just described accurately tells the story of how most women are ...

And it's so unfortunate that men realize this way too late ...

Men listen!
Your respect in the eyes of 99% of "your beloved wives" is tied to your ability to provide, lose this ability and watch your "loving wife" become your worst night mare ...

The truth about the average woman is that, They are incapable of loving a man GENUINELY ...

If there's nothing to gain from you, be it time and attention or resources, then they have no business with you, talk more of respecting you ...

@OP...
I won't quit the marriage ...
She may have been a bad wife, but if she's been a good mother, then there's no way I'm depriving my kids of their mum ...

But one thing is for certain, from that day onwards we'll only be roommates at best ...

Tallesty1:
I'd like to share a story with you. I enjoy stories, as they are often what older folks excel at. 😄

My church hosts a program from time to time; it's an all-night event where singles of marriageable age and selected married individuals come together to discuss various aspects of marriage.

On one occasion, a topic was brought up, and women were discussing at length how they could love a man and do everything right, yet things don't always work out. As people began giving reasons for such situations, I was given the microphone, and I suggested, "Perhaps you should consider respecting them instead of just loving them. If what you're doing isn't working, why not try something different?" This led to a lively debate, which I won't go into, but one woman took it personally, and we had this conversation.

Woman: Are you married?

Me: No, ma'am.

Woman: I've been married for years, and I can emphatically tell you that love is what has held us together from day one. We've been through a lot and come out stronger because of love. You're not married, so you may not know enough to form an opinion on this issue.

The women in the audience applauded her.

Me: That's beautiful, ma'am. When did you meet your husband?

Woman: A few months after school; I was staying with my uncle and waiting for my service year.

Me: Was he a student too?

Woman: No, he was already in business and doing fairly well.

Me: How long did you two date?

Woman: Just a few months. He made it clear that he was looking for a wife, but we didn't get married until after my service year.

Me: That's wonderful. Now, let's imagine a scenario where your roles are reversed. You are a successful businesswoman, and you meet a young man fresh out of school with no job and no NYSC certificate yet, and he proposes marriage. Would you have married him as quickly as he married you? Please, be honest; we are in a church.

Woman: What are you trying to say? That I married him because of money or something? I love my husband, he knows it, he sees it, and he feels it. He's here and can speak for himself.

Me: Thank you, ma'am, for being honest with me.

I summarized the conversation, which was quite lengthy and filled with drama, but I believe you can still grasp the main point from this excerpt. 😄

Persephone1:
How did the man handle his own loss and misfortunes?

Most men struggle to remain the loving, responsible, cheerful and peaceful men they were when they experience setbacks. Most men's mental stability is attached to their ability to provide and spend. How do they react when things don't go the way they want.?

I believe this narrative of women changing when things go sour should be checked. It is far from reality! It is an exaggeration also. There are women who stand by their husbands . At least "your mothers" did that. And when women change was it really due to lack of funds or the inability of both husband and wife to manage themselves.

You all want women to support and also care for an overgrown harsh baby who refused to grow up and work towards overcoming his challenges. Abeg!

nawa4naija:
Bro once you are in the trap called marriage,

You shouldn't let little things that you should have known before now divide your home.

What you should do is this: Involve your wife in the family financial responsibility since she makes income too, so that you can also make investments as the bread winner, from your story, every damn expenses is on you, that's way too bad, if you go broke 100 times, that woman will disrespect you 100 times

My own cent

Tallesty1:
I'd like to share a story with you. I enjoy stories, as they are often what older folks excel at. 😄

My church hosts a program from time to time; it's an all-night event where singles of marriageable age and selected married individuals come together to discuss various aspects of marriage.

On one occasion, a topic was brought up, and women were discussing at length how they could love a man and do everything right, yet things don't always work out. As people began giving reasons for such situations, I was given the microphone, and I suggested, "Perhaps you should consider respecting them instead of just loving them. If what you're doing isn't working, why not try something different?" This led to a lively debate, which I won't go into, but one woman took it personally, and we had this conversation.

Woman: Are you married?

Me: No, ma'am.

Woman: I've been married for years, and I can emphatically tell you that love is what has held us together from day one. We've been through a lot and come out stronger because of love. You're not married, so you may not know enough to form an opinion on this issue.

The women in the audience applauded her.

Me: That's beautiful, ma'am. When did you meet your husband?

Woman: A few months after school; I was staying with my uncle and waiting for my service year.

Me: Was he a student too?

Woman: No, he was already in business and doing fairly well.

Me: How long did you two date?

Woman: Just a few months. He made it clear that he was looking for a wife, but we didn't get married until after my service year.

Me: That's wonderful. Now, let's imagine a scenario where your roles are reversed. You are a successful businesswoman, and you meet a young man fresh out of school with no job and no NYSC certificate yet, and he proposes marriage. Would you have married him as quickly as he married you? Please, be honest; we are in a church.

Woman: What are you trying to say? That I married him because of money or something? I love my husband, he knows it, he sees it, and he feels it. He's here and can speak for himself.

Me: Thank you, ma'am, for being honest with me.

I summarized the conversation, which was quite lengthy and filled with drama, but I believe you can still grasp the main point from this excerpt. 😄

Tallesty1:
I just watched a clip that inspired this post.

Imagine this scenario.......

You are married to a beautiful woman, and you have like three kids. It is a beautiful family, really.

You have a nice house, a good ride, beautiful children, always selfie-ready wife, and salary alerts keep coming. Then life happens, and you start losing things until nothing is left. No salary, no more savings, and you're officially wiped out by poverty.

Your wife has something she does for a living, makes her own money, and does whatever it is that women do with money. You never cared because you were doing okay, but now the tides have turned.

Naturally, you expect her to provide support while you work harder to regain your footing. But what you are getting from her is something you never knew she was capable of: insults upon insults, disrespect, and all. This lasts for a year or two.

Then, fortune smiles on you again and you get back on your feet. As usual, there is money now, and your wife is the woman you married at first. She is loving again, respectful, and caring.

I want to know, will you still go back to loving her like before, as if the past two years' experience never happened, or are you going to quit?

okine4real:
There is nothing new about what you wrote, this is while i tell guys, no woman on earth loves you like your mother. every woman that loves you, loves you because you are higher than her in wealth, academics etc the moment you fall below her levels, you a goner. Naturally women goes for men that are higher them them, while the men goes for woman that are lower than them. In marriage never ever, i mean never ever allow your women to me wealthy than you, if she is wealthy than you, lets say you earn 2M and your wife earn 3M, you are still good to go as a man, because your 2M would cater for your family, but if she earns 3M and you earn 500k, na sorry be your own. woman are built to worship men because of wealth, so if you deny yourself of her worshiping you because say you poor, na your fault.

OZIOGU1:
Every Man should expect this, that is why someone like me will live long, i can never expect anything from my wife, if she support let it be that is coming from her heart, but i am not waiting for her money, i don't think a man can that broke to the point where you cannot muscle out something for your family, especially you said He is doing well before....My dad said women money is theirs, Men money is ours

Coolsat:
As for me I'll pay her back by marrying a second wife and enjoy my life.

NuCypher:

You are asking for too much. How do you expect a man who just suffered major setbacks to remain the "loving, responsible, cheerful and peaceful man" he once was? Are you living in la-la land? Such experiences are too jarring to ever make him keep his head straight. Of course, this doesn't preclude assaulting his wife, sexually, physically or emotionally. Having said that, this is probably the time the man needs his wife more, to stand by him and make him whole and not judge him based on his misfortune. I wonder why you can't see that.