Jewessgratitud3:
"Sir, should I divorce or remain subject to this punishment for my infidelity? Or leave and start a new life without my family? What should I do ?

I am a married woman. I have no problems in my marriage. My husband had just been posted to another city. But I knew a young man when I was younger. We got back in touch. As chance would have it, we ran into each other one day when we were leaving the hospital.

We called each other regularly and saw each other. But I couldn't imagine it could reignite the flame still inside me. Unknown to my husband I told him out and welcomed him home. One day I introduced my husband to him. Everything was fine.

One day I fall so low by sleeping with him in my home. The children returning from school accompanied by my husband caught us in the act.

My husband and the children didn't say anything and my friend also left. Since that day neither my husband nor the children speak to me. No one eats the food I make. No child accepts that I even touch them for their shower. No one asks for my help with their class assignment. My friend also abandoned me.

I begged my husband for forgiveness but nothing. It has already been 11 months that I have lived as a stranger in the house. Their silence weighs on me. I told my parents about this.

My father no longer speaks to me. My mother occasionally only insults and calls me a harlot and stupid. I don't dare tell his family exactly. My husband also didn't tell his family.

I'm so ashamed of what I did. I broke my home. I do not know what to do"

This is super story

Akabuking:
which kind yeye forgiveness, did you hear the part where she said "even" her friend has abandoned her?? if given another chance, she'll still cheat

Leave them make them dey read in part. Given the chance she would do it again. She's not even ready to let go and she already mapped out her plan to be collecting it steady by first introducing the man to her husband so he won't see the man as a threat while she goes ahead with her evil mission unoticed.

I know those kind of women. They always think they are smart.

Akabuking:
which kind yeye forgiveness, did you hear the part where she said "even" her friend has abandoned her?? if given another chance, she'll still cheat

First, no sane person will support what she did but we are talking about the consequences of what she did, if you can't forgive, just like most people, there are many too who have the heart to forgive, and like I said earlier, that law is not meant gfor everyone, it's meant for THOSE that can follow it, apparently you are not one of those, it's not by force

Autobot05:


Pastor calm down 😎

I nobey pastor chief

ArsenWinner:

Are you really born again.
I dont think so except you are telling us on Nairaland. You could have slapped the man easily judging from your comment. I believe if it happened to you, you would have decapidated the woman.

I asked you earlier what is the meaning of born again, you are the one who said you are a born again, but your comment didn't show that because a Christian must know who Jesus is, that is what makes him a Christian, you don't follow just by mouth, whatever we call ourselves here in social media doesn't mean anything if they are not what we are in reality, if I am a Christian, I am not a Christian because of you or because of anyone, it goes both ways, I supported what I said with the scripture and that's what matters, you can do same and not insisting on your personal opinions

vikstandon:



You can remarry, so long as the divorce is hinged on infidelity.

Go and read the scripture again. Matthew 19:9

"And I say to you, whoever divorces his wife, except for immorality, and marries another woman commits adultery.”

Here, the phrase “and marries another” raises the issue of remarriage. Jesus states that divorcing a mate on the grounds of immorality frees the offended mate to remarry without committing adultery.

But if you can forgive! That's lovely.
Because we also err in so many ways.

The verse you quoted said that if that man marrys another after divorcing is commiting adultery, can you explain that? And what did I say

BOSSkesh:
We must learn to forgive and move on

forgiveness kee u there. That harlot does not deserve to spend a night in that man's house, she is lucky the man never did unto her what should be done to a cheap harlot.

Jewessgratitud3:


LoL.. 😂 😂 😂 😂.. see how reactive they get when they are given a taste of their own medicine. Fact still remains you're dumb, in fact dumber than I thought. Who dey born all these chicken brains bikonu? So you even saw the part I was "ranting " still your brain couldn't connect the dots? Your brain is not well developed. Go back to kindergarten. It's not too late.

Lol see how jaju Dey worry you. So I need to come to nairaland to observe everyone’s name on the comment section? Omoh age no be sense ooo😂😂😂. Evidence don full ground why those guys Dey dump you. When I first read that your thread I was feeling all pity for you. Them say bad character be like dirty, he go definitely smell, your bad character don smell reach my side and I’m not sorry to say you got served all well and good.

Back to the part you said who they born all this chicken brain? 😂😂😂😂 madam respect yourself before I ask you if you don born any pikin for your life. How many years Mercy Aigbe take senior you? As at last month her kid graduated from the university. You better work on your character now so you can at least see a man that’s gonna pity you and help you make babies before you enter menopause in 2 -5 years time. Born that chicken brain first before you write me anything on Nairaland. Agbaya jati jati. 42 and foolish 😂😂😂😂

Jewessgratitud3:
"Sir, should I divorce or remain subject to this punishment for my infidelity? Or leave and start a new life without my family? What should I do ?

I am a married woman. I have no problems in my marriage. My husband had just been posted to another city. But I knew a young man when I was younger. We got back in touch. As chance would have it, we ran into each other one day when we were leaving the hospital.

We called each other regularly and saw each other. But I couldn't imagine it could reignite the flame still inside me. Unknown to my husband I told him out and welcomed him home. One day I introduced my husband to him. Everything was fine.

One day I fall so low by sleeping with him in my home. The children returning from school accompanied by my husband caught us in the act.

My husband and the children didn't say anything and my friend also left. Since that day neither my husband nor the children speak to me. No one eats the food I make. No child accepts that I even touch them for their shower. No one asks for my help with their class assignment. My friend also abandoned me.

I begged my husband for forgiveness but nothing. It has already been 11 months that I have lived as a stranger in the house. Their silence weighs on me. I told my parents about this.

My father no longer speaks to me. My mother occasionally only insults and calls me a harlot and stupid. I don't dare tell his family exactly. My husband also didn't tell his family.

I'm so ashamed of what I did. I broke my home. I do not know what to do"

where is lawyer pocahontas and jennyclay to come and defend their client...

Autobot05:


Pastor calm down 😎

The verse you quoted said that the man will be commiting adultry if he will marry again after he has excersiced his right to divorce his wife and it said that whoever marrys that divorced woman is also commiting adultery, can you explain Why?

Jewessgratitud3:
"Sir, should I divorce or remain subject to this punishment for my infidelity? Or leave and start a new life without my family? What should I do ?

I am a married woman. I have no problems in my marriage. My husband had just been posted to another city. But I knew a young man when I was younger. We got back in touch. As chance would have it, we ran into each other one day when we were leaving the hospital.

We called each other regularly and saw each other. But I couldn't imagine it could reignite the flame still inside me. Unknown to my husband I told him out and welcomed him home. One day I introduced my husband to him. Everything was fine.

One day I fall so low by sleeping with him in my home. The children returning from school accompanied by my husband caught us in the act.

My husband and the children didn't say anything and my friend also left. Since that day neither my husband nor the children speak to me. No one eats the food I make. No child accepts that I even touch them for their shower. No one asks for my help with their class assignment. My friend also abandoned me.

I begged my husband for forgiveness but nothing. It has already been 11 months that I have lived as a stranger in the house. Their silence weighs on me. I told my parents about this.

My father no longer speaks to me. My mother occasionally only insults and calls me a harlot and stupid. I don't dare tell his family exactly. My husband also didn't tell his family.

I'm so ashamed of what I did. I broke my home. I do not know what to do"

Indeed, when a man and a woman are in a private space, devil is usually the third. Best way to avoid stories that hurt is by completely staying away from such situation.

BOSSkesh:
We must learn to forgive and move on

This one no understand.

Jewessgratitud3:
"Sir, should I divorce or remain subject to this punishment for my infidelity? Or leave and start a new life without my family? What should I do ?

I am a married woman. I have no problems in my marriage. My husband had just been posted to another city. But I knew a young man when I was younger. We got back in touch. As chance would have it, we ran into each other one day when we were leaving the hospital.

We called each other regularly and saw each other. But I couldn't imagine it could reignite the flame still inside me. Unknown to my husband I told him out and welcomed him home. One day I introduced my husband to him. Everything was fine.

One day I fall so low by sleeping with him in my home. The children returning from school accompanied by my husband caught us in the act.

My husband and the children didn't say anything and my friend also left. Since that day neither my husband nor the children speak to me. No one eats the food I make. No child accepts that I even touch them for their shower. No one asks for my help with their class assignment. My friend also abandoned me.

I begged my husband for forgiveness but nothing. It has already been 11 months that I have lived as a stranger in the house. Their silence weighs on me. I told my parents about this.

My father no longer speaks to me. My mother occasionally only insults and calls me a harlot and stupid. I don't dare tell his family exactly. My husband also didn't tell his family.

I'm so ashamed of what I did. I broke my home. I do not know what to do"

carry your cross....men rarely forgive things like this unless SIMPS

BOSSkesh:
We must learn to forgive and move on

you can't impose forgiveness on people

They have the right to either forgive or not

Eyinju112:


Lol see how jaju Dey worry you. So I need to come to nairaland to observe everyone’s name on the comment section? Omoh age no be sense ooo😂😂😂. Evidence don full ground why those guys Dey dump you. When I first read that your thread I was feeling all pity for you. Them say bad character be like dirty, he go definitely smell, your bad character don smell reach my side and I’m not sorry to say you got served all well and good.

Back to the part you said who they born all this chicken brain? 😂😂😂😂 madam respect yourself before I ask you if you don born any pikin for your life. How many years Mercy Aigbe take senior you? As at last month her kid graduated from the university. You better work on your character now so you can at least see a man that’s gonna pity you and help you make babies before you enter menopause in 2 -5 years time. Born that chicken brain first before you write me anything on Nairaland. Agbaya jati jati. 42 and foolish 😂😂😂😂

Is this the best you can come up with? Age this age that.. and you think any of those bother me? Your reasoning is very shallow. I mean if it was something that bothers me, don't you think I'll hide it and never bring it up here? but because again as usual, you're dumb and the dumbest of all who has ever tried to shame me with it, you didn't think that for me to willingly share it publicly, it means nothing to me?

You think the way youll become non existent if a man doesn't marry you is the same with others?
You think everyones life revolves around a man like yours?
If since this has been your resolve in life and you're yet to get married, then you are on a long thing. Again from the the way you type, it's obvious you're no longer a kid and that means you're not an under 20. So e don reach you. you too don dey tow the line of forever single and you no go escape am as you don use am shame others.

You claim you don't have time to check names. Now there you go again shooting yourself in the foot. You don't have time to check names but you were able to remember and connect my moniker from last weeks post to todays post... You had the time to check that one, Ewu. But between the first and second part of this post, your fish brain couldn't connect....


Again, who gave birth to a donkey like you cos you're just a waste of space. What a dullard with low IQ.

Get a life.

That is what happens,once the matter cast guy man go run. Women try to dey avoid this kind of situation. I can't advice you to divorce ooo. On what grounds,what will you say is your reason? Make a uturn ask God for forgiveness genuinely and pray to God to restore your family. You still have a chance hold on and hold out

Eyinju112:
■ Lol see how jaju Dey worry you. So I need to come to nairaland to observe everyone’s name on the comment section? Omoh age no be sense ooo😂😂😂. Evidence don full ground why those guys Dey dump you. When I first read that your thread I was feeling all pity for you. Them say bad character be like dirty, he go definitely smell, your bad character don smell reach my side and I’m not sorry to say you got served all well and good.
Back to the part you said who they born all this chicken brain? 😂😂😂😂 madam respect yourself before I ask you if you don born any pikin for your life. How many years Mercy Aigbe take senior you? As at last month her kid graduated from the university. You better work on your character now so you can at least see a man that’s gonna pity you and help you make babies before you enter menopause in 2 -5 years time. Born that chicken brain first before you write me anything on Nairaland. Agbaya jati jati. 42 and foolish 😂😂😂😂

Stalking a stranger you met online, are you really in any position to talk?

You copied this story from Honorable Steph's anonymous page on Facebook but you can't even give credit.
Mtcheewww

Roozzaay:

Yes virtuous mothers are irreplaceable, even the bad ones can be missed at some stage in life but if those kids can go 10 months without mistakenly talking to her or letting her touch them, I'm afraid the hatred can only grow deeper as days goes by.

yes but if the woman prays God can touch the hearts of the kids.as for the man she should just forget him because he can never love her again talkless of having sex with her and if she forces herself on him he can get violent with her so she should just focus her prayer on her kids

Or an alternative decision,go into a relationship with an entirely different man but file for a divorce first, after the divorce then she should go to another relationship (like live in lover) have kids with him and forget the kids she has with her former husband if all pleas fall on deaf ears.she should build another different FAMILY again,case closed

chidiokay:



Is it only opinion, are people not entitle to there choices, if i want to quote i will if you don't like it keep your opinion to yourself
if you can't take correction don't ever tell me what to do again. roger that

The bolded is how daft people reason and fortunately you are part of them

Secondly, I won't take to your correction because you are a nobody in the grand scheme of things, a mere moniker on a faceless forum, so like I said earlier on, if my opinion defines your existence, you can keep yapping spittle on it, but if not, buzz off like a mosquito that you are.

mbaise1000:

The verse you quoted said that if that man marrys another after divorcing is commiting adultery, can you explain that? And what did I say

If you divorce except on the ground of sexual immorality and marries another, you commit adultery.

Let's extrapolate;

If you divorce and remarry you commit adultery.

There is a hypothetical case in which you are excluded... That is on the ground of sexual immorality.

So if on the ground of sexual immorality, you remarry (as th one wronged)... You have not committed adultery.
Whosoever married the one who wronged the other, commits adultery with her.

Kobojunkie:
Stalking a stranger you met online, are you really in any position to talk?

Na ode na. She get time to stalk but she no get sense to connect the dots in this post to know it's not my story.

Fish brain like her.

Kobojunkie:
Stalking a stranger you met online, are you really in any position to talk?

Yeah I’m in a position to speak. I meant no harm in my first comment under her thread. If you have the time, you can check how she replied to a harmless comment. I didn’t stalk her, I’m just reminding her how bad her character is telling on her.

Rajosh:
You copied this story from Honorable Steph's anonymous page on Facebook but you can't even give credit.
Mtcheewww

Which one come be hiss??.

I forgot to do that and by the time I went back to get details, the post don disappear. You know how Facebook is and now it's on front page I can't edit it again. I was at work and didn't know when it hit fp. I only got to see it when i got home from work.

That's where I got the story from.

Eyinju112:
■ Yeah I’m in a position to speak. I meant no harm in my first comment under her thread. If you have the time, you can check how she replied to a harmless comment. I didn’t stalk her, I’m just reminding her how bad her character is telling on her.

Her character? Why remind her? This is part and parcel of the bodyshaming and image trashing nonsense that has made Nigerian living toxic on a whole for most women no thanks to the Male egos who pretend themselves gods and deciders as far as how a woman can act or behave. Why attack a fellow woman using the same deplorable tactics even online on an anonymous forum?

Anyways, Nigerian women really need to stop stalking each other and instead defend each other's right to be and breath, abeg! You all need to simply enjoy the freedom here without the attacks one people's private lives abeg!

Eyinju112:


Yeah I’m in a position to speak. I meant no harm in my first comment under her thread. If you have the time, you can check how she replied to a harmless comment. I didn’t stalk her, I’m just reminding her how bad her character is telling on her.

EFULEFU.. you called someone a joker and call it harmless? I don talk am say you dull. No be your fault. Na your dull brain. So, I'll pass.

This sounds fictitious.

But if true, I must say you lack wisdom.
Why should you be getting so emotional and close to your ex? It shows lack of love and respect for your husband.

The spirit of ashawo is already in you. You are one of those women that marry another man for some reasons while your heart is with another man.
What you did was not a mistake but very deliberate.
For the way forward, I will advise you keep asking for forgiveness from your husband for as long as he allows you to stay. It shows the man loves you( even though you don't deserve it), one day he is likely to forgive you.

YourGFsnatcher:

Expired HO

Is your mother.

Jewessgratitud3:


Is this the best you can come up with? Age this age that.. and you think any of those bother me? Your reasoning is very shallow. I mean if it was something that bothers me, don't you think I'll hide it and never bring it up here? but because again as usual, you're dumb and the dumbest of all who has ever tried to shame me with it, you didn't think that for me to willingly share it publicly, it means nothing to me?

You think the way youll become non existent if a man doesn't marry you is the same with others?
You think everyones life revolves around a man like yours?
If since this has been your resolve in life and you're yet to get married, then you are on a long thing. Again from the the way you type, it's obvious you're no longer a kid and that means you're not an under 20. So e don reach you. you too don dey tow the line of forever single and you no go escape am as you don use am shame others.

You claim you don't have time to check names. Now there you go again shooting yourself in the foot. You don't have time to check names but you were able to remember and connect my moniker from last weeks post to todays post... You had the time to check that one, Ewu. But between the first and second part of this post, your fish brain couldn't connect....


Again, who gave birth to a donkey like you cos you're just a waste of space. What a dullard with low IQ.

Get a life.

This post of yours sound all fake. I went to your profile to see if the poster is a joker then I saw your last post of how men dumped your motherfvcking ass. Piling everything up with this post left me wondering like how the FVCK was she single last week and married with kids this week possible. That was why I use the word you’re a joke. No offense meant.

You won’t understand what ego and pride is doing to you until you get to the age when you’ll be full of regrets. Tunde ednut posted a woman 4 days ago on IG who was begging to be married. Loneliness na your mate 🤣🤣🤣. Another post of yours said you can’t marry a broke man😂😂😂😂 at this point it takes only the grace of God to even see a broke man who’s gonna marry you.

At this point I’m done talking with you. I no fit advise old mama like you. Time go tell you😂😂😂😂

Kobojunkie:
Stalking a stranger you met online, are you really in any position to talk?

Kobo ma da si....their matter no concern you.

Eyinju112:


This post of yours sound all fake. I went to your profile to see if the poster is a joker then I saw your last post of how men dumped your motherfvcking ass. Piling everything up with this post left me wondering like how the FVCK was she single last week and married with kids this week possible. That was why I use the word you’re a joke. No offense meant.

You won’t understand what ego and pride is doing to you until you get to the age when you’ll be full of regrets. Tunde ednut posted a woman 4 days ago on IG who was begging to be married. Loneliness na your mate 🤣🤣🤣. Another post of yours said you can’t marry a broke man😂😂😂😂 at this point it takes only the grace of God to even see a broke man who’s gonna marry you.

At this point I’m done talking with you. I no fit advise old mama like you. Time go tell you😂😂😂😂

Time don dey tell you too now hahahahaaaa...

I feel it from here the way you're praying for this year not to pass you by but lo and behold,, wetin we dey so? Another end of the year and you too never marry o. Hohohohooooo.. . And na so you go continue next year till e pass again and before you know it you too don clock 40 something heheheheee... Then you'll know how I got here but the difference be say, Me at 40 something, I still dey rock pass you cos i no allow men use me unlike you wen Dem don overuse and by the time you're my age, your own "grandmaism" go bad because all your knot and bolts go don loose finish kikikiki .

Bye bye o.

Jewessgratitud3:


Which one come be hiss??.

I forgot to do that and by the time I went back to get details, the post don disappear. You know how Facebook is and now it's on front page I can't edit it again. I was at work and didn't know when it hit fp. I only got to see it when i got home from work.

That's where I got the story from.

Next time, just add #copied so that everyone will know it is not your story, matter of fact you can edit it right now and add "copied" very simple, that it's on fp doesn't mean anything neither will it hurt your story.