Stevenbright:
Just ignore all of them for now. Time will surely heal all concerned!!

Stevenbright:
Just ignore all of them for now. Time will surely heal all concerned!!

Ginaz:
your mother is a terrible person. for she to be so bold to say lies with a straight face shows the kind of person she is and I won't be surpised if she was the cause of the divorce between her and your father.

Don't feel guilty for exposing her, she brought the disgrace on herself. how can she go about lying against everyone without a conscience? she's now acting like the victim and playing mind games with your siblings.

she's very terrible. keep her away from you pls an becareful of sharing information about your family with her. she seems toxic and troublesome. Don't feel guilty , Ah! your mother own dey her body! which kind mama be that?

forget everyone and face your life. If your siblings ain't feeding you, then to hell with them. how can you mom just lie against your husband like that? so disrespectful!

daveP:
Your mum needs to grow up and stop the tantrums. She's too elderly for this. You'll need to involve someone she listens to so she gets off this distraction she's taking more serious than holding her grandchild.

kaydee:


How did you arrive at your conclusion? Ain't it obvious the aunt is the terrible person and momma was right bout her?

A newly wedded grandma got told by her new husband not to go see her grandchild. She's in a dilemma and without knowing the details of her first marriage, decides to keep her home and made the choice to obey her husband.

Her aunt decided to spill the vital information knowing it's going to damage her relationship with her mum and siblings but she doesn't care whose ox is gored. A very selfish being. Her husband is even worse. They don't care about OP and she needs to keep her distance.

Her mum is right after all, Aunt is a homewrecker and she needs that elbow room.

Map1:
what makes her Mother elderly? don't you think the 3 women involved here are kid?if her mother can accuse her aunt of husband snatcher is shows the aunt is around 30,if her mother could still be remarried it shows her mother is around 40 and OP will be around 20 0r 22, they are still a kid, what do you expect from them.

OmugwoAunty:


Mom is not in a dilemma regarding me. I never asked her to visit at all. Mom has suddenly expressed interest in visiting me after my aunty mentioned her visit,and is even bringing her new husband with her , if the visit happens. I did not object. I always respect my mom and her husband and have never put myself into their matter.

Regarding my aunty, she send the conversation between herself and her husband. She never mentioned this issue with her husband, it was my mom who called aunts husband, telling him to restrain his wife.

ojun50:
Family wahala no be small tin


Visit them, explain tins to them, make them see reasons why you acted that way and apologized them. If they are not responding well leave and give them time dey will come back to you

SUCKCESSFUL:


You have a Job but you really don't have sense.
You're such an unfortunate child no parent should pray for, a very despicable human being.
Bold of you to come here and try to justify why you snitched on your own mom, even if you hate her, pray make your mama no curse you with indignation, useless thing!

MuslimIgbo:

You're not a good human being.
Common sense didn't tell you that sharing such screenshot will cause problem?
If I were your mother, I'll forever not talk to you again as a disgrace of a child that you are.
Also, YOU SAID THAT YOU GAVE BIRTH 9 MONTHS AGO, WHAT DO YOU STILL NEED A BABYSITTER FOR?
ARE YOU THAT LAZY AND UNORGANISED?

DeepSight:


Rarely ever comment on family matters, but I dont feel you did well by your mother. Revealing a thing she told you privately was wrong, worse, screenshoting what she said and revealing it. That was very very bad, you threw your own mother under the bus. Find a way to recognize that and make apologies.

Even if she wasnt your mother what you did rather sucks.

OmugwoAunty:
Nairaland, please what should I do?

I gave birth 9 months ago and for some reason, my mom never expressed interest in visiting me and my child. She is a new wife now and I heard from some family members that when she wanted to come, her new husband said ‘your daughter has other people around, why are you worrying yourself’.

I did not take it personally at all. My mother has never been a dependable person. Me and my mom still talk everyday and my child is always on her status. This is her ONLY grandchild.

My mom’s elder sister’s (my aunty) youngest child is moving to my area. My aunty said that she’ll visit me during the move, and come and hold baby. She reached out to my mom and even told my mom that if they plan it, they can visit me together. My mom and my aunty are VERY close. I even consider my aunty my second mom in a way.

Suddenly, my mom starts calling me, saying she wants to plan her visit. I say okay. But with work and everything, my aunty will get here before her. She started telling me not to let my aunty into my house, saying that my aunty is a husband snatcher etc. she said my aunty will destroy my home. I tell her I don’t care about that. She started calling their mutual friends and telling them to tell me that my aunty is a husband snatcher. I did not fall for that.

Frustrated, she called my aunty and said that the truth is that my husband is uncomfortable. She said that MY husband is not from our town and that my husband’s people don’t like visitors. She said that I did not tell her about this out of respect.

My aunty called me and was apologizing, saying that she did not know. I responded and said that this is a lie. I even put my husband on the phone. Here’s my mistake - I sent her a screenshot showing my mom saying that she’s a husband snatcher and that’s why I should not let her into my home.

My aunty and I now agreed that we should let peace reign and that she won’t visit. She said she will still like to see me and we can meet somewhere. MATTER SUPPOSE TO END.

My mom decided to bring my aunty husband into this. She told my auntys husband that his wife is not respecting my husband’s wishes. My auntys husband now sent her my screenshot saying that he knows the real reason and that your child doesn’t even support you.

The screenshot has shattered my mom. She feels betrayed. My siblings who live with my mother are calling me a betrayer. I want to salvage the relationship between my siblings and I, not so much my mother. I have not spoken to any of them since the screenshot.

What do I do? How do I approach this.

SUCKCESSFUL:


You have a Job but you really don't have sense.
You're such an unfortunate child no parent should pray for, a very despicable human being.
Bold of you to come here and try to justify why you snitched on your own mom, even if you hate her, pray make your mama no curse you with indignation, useless thing!

LilX2:
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You just wrote total nonsense! I would have done same over and over again!! Her mom is wicked and careless of her actions, and telling her aunty that her daughters husband refused her to come or worst still, going to tell her sis husband something that's not true, the needful was done

Enculer2:
You cannot be trusted. Simple. I feel for your husband.

BALLOSKI:
she'll set her husband against his family very soon. Stupid woman. She de vex me. If she was my sister, she won't hear from me again for doing this to my mom.

OmugwoAunty:
Nairaland, please what should I do?

I gave birth 9 months ago and for some reason, my mom never expressed interest in visiting me and my child. She is a new wife now and I heard from some family members that when she wanted to come, her new husband said ‘your daughter has other people around, why are you worrying yourself’.

I did not take it personally at all. My mother has never been a dependable person. Me and my mom still talk everyday and my child is always on her status. This is her ONLY grandchild.

My mom’s elder sister’s (my aunty) youngest child is moving to my area. My aunty said that she’ll visit me during the move, and come and hold baby. She reached out to my mom and even told my mom that if they plan it, they can visit me together. My mom and my aunty are VERY close. I even consider my aunty my second mom in a way.

Suddenly, my mom starts calling me, saying she wants to plan her visit. I say okay. But with work and everything, my aunty will get here before her. She started telling me not to let my aunty into my house, saying that my aunty is a husband snatcher etc. she said my aunty will destroy my home. I tell her I don’t care about that. She started calling their mutual friends and telling them to tell me that my aunty is a husband snatcher. I did not fall for that.

Frustrated, she called my aunty and said that the truth is that my husband is uncomfortable. She said that MY husband is not from our town and that my husband’s people don’t like visitors. She said that I did not tell her about this out of respect.

My aunty called me and was apologizing, saying that she did not know. I responded and said that this is a lie. I even put my husband on the phone. Here’s my mistake - I sent her a screenshot showing my mom saying that she’s a husband snatcher and that’s why I should not let her into my home.

My aunty and I now agreed that we should let peace reign and that she won’t visit. She said she will still like to see me and we can meet somewhere. MATTER SUPPOSE TO END.

My mom decided to bring my aunty husband into this. She told my auntys husband that his wife is not respecting my husband’s wishes. My auntys husband now sent her my screenshot saying that he knows the real reason and that your child doesn’t even support you.

The screenshot has shattered my mom. She feels betrayed. My siblings who live with my mother are calling me a betrayer. I want to salvage the relationship between my siblings and I, not so much my mother. I have not spoken to any of them since the screenshot.

What do I do? How do I approach this.

inioluwaDaniels:
U av already caused a problem wit ur actions by revealing wat ur mum told u in private. Now u want to severe d bond between ur mum n ur second mum.
U shld av been very diplomatic in handling issues like dis rather than sending unnecessary screenshots up b down. Just pray u don't scatter d entire family cos everybody ll be picking sides now. Na so gobe dey take start

jmaine:


OP, just focus on your family and let them be.. They will come around later...

You were pushed by the EVIL moves of your mum to isolate you from others while seriously slandering your family.. Who does that?

Those siblings supporting her will also have a taste of their medicine.. Just wait...

In the meantime.. You can try and apologise while explaining how you felt and stay on your own... No one needs such insensitive parents around them...

Brandiebird:
The truth is that you did betray your mother, you exposed her in the worst ways. Additionally, you have no backbone and don’t know how to stand up for yourself. You lack diplomacy skills and you should work on yourself.

Apologise to your mother and hold your auntie accountable for exposing you to your mother too. But since you’re incapable of doing any of this, you should just be quiet, ignore everybody, and focus on your own family and work. Time will heal and you’ll get another chance to do better.

BALLOSKI:
why are you even blaming her mom? The mom was wrong, but she should have managed the situation. Is she a kid? Call a spade a spade.

I did not take it personally at all. My mother has never been a dependable person.

OmugwoAunty:


The relationship was already destroyed before the screenshot. They had already blocked each other because my mom had already accused her directly of coming to snatch my husband.

OmugwoAunty:
Nairaland, please what should I do?

I gave birth 9 months ago and for some reason, my mom never expressed interest in visiting me and my child. She is a new wife now and I heard from some family members that when she wanted to come, her new husband said ‘your daughter has other people around, why are you worrying yourself’.

I did not take it personally at all. My mother has never been a dependable person. Me and my mom still talk everyday and my child is always on her status. This is her ONLY grandchild.

My mom’s elder sister’s (my aunty) youngest child is moving to my area. My aunty said that she’ll visit me during the move, and come and hold baby. She reached out to my mom and even told my mom that if they plan it, they can visit me together. My mom and my aunty are VERY close. I even consider my aunty my second mom in a way.

Suddenly, my mom starts calling me, saying she wants to plan her visit. I say okay. But with work and everything, my aunty will get here before her. She started telling me not to let my aunty into my house, saying that my aunty is a husband snatcher etc. she said my aunty will destroy my home. I tell her I don’t care about that. She started calling their mutual friends and telling them to tell me that my aunty is a husband snatcher. I did not fall for that.

Frustrated, she called my aunty and said that the truth is that my husband is uncomfortable. She said that MY husband is not from our town and that my husband’s people don’t like visitors. She said that I did not tell her about this out of respect.

My aunty called me and was apologizing, saying that she did not know. I responded and said that this is a lie. I even put my husband on the phone. Here’s my mistake - I sent her a screenshot showing my mom saying that she’s a husband snatcher and that’s why I should not let her into my home.

My aunty and I now agreed that we should let peace reign and that she won’t visit. She said she will still like to see me and we can meet somewhere. MATTER SUPPOSE TO END.

My mom decided to bring my aunty husband into this. She told my auntys husband that his wife is not respecting my husband’s wishes. My auntys husband now sent her my screenshot saying that he knows the real reason and that your child doesn’t even support you.

The screenshot has shattered my mom. She feels betrayed. My siblings who live with my mother are calling me a betrayer. I want to salvage the relationship between my siblings and I, not so much my mother. I have not spoken to any of them since the screenshot.

What do I do? How do I approach this.

jmaine:


If the mum was wrong, why should we not blame her? I gave OP the benefit of the doubt because it is likely she gave an abridged version of her story. See the quote below.



From her story, you can see her mum had this expose coming. Do you know how she has been managing the situation until her mum moved a notch higher by trying to sow a long-term seed of discord between her husband, inlaws, and her own family while she enjoys her own new home in peace and harmony?

The mother went too far in her scheme, I believe pent-up frustrations and the need to clear her family's name pushed the OP to the wall.

I have advised her to apologize since the issue escalated to this point and stay on her own for now... A new mother with the pressures of a newborn baby don't require these extra headaches.

kaydee:


How you read this and arrived at your conclusion baffles me. It's like you guys believe everything in Nollywood flicks. You don dey view mama wey dey try save her daughter's home as Patience Ozokwor.

Aunt and her husband wey no get sense revealed that kind of information with no regards for the aftermath and it's her mum that's evil here? Dey play!

Her mum was right about the aunt, that aunt and her husband no get brain at all. They remind me of Teni( Taaoma's lil sis).

@OP
With the added information that both your mum and aunt are 60years +, please once again, stay far from that aunt. Your mum's got your back on this. That aunt go still do you strong thing if you no give yourself brain now. Walahi, she no rate you at all.