One keeps hearing from the men on NL that they want a submissive woman. Almost every thread about relationships and marriage has that word.

Now, over to the men, what's your definition of submissive?
Is it that when you say A, she must obey and not say B?
Or she shouldn't even give her opinion at all?
Or her choices and prefrences don't matter at all just because you want something?

Men!!! Let's discuss.

Question of the day - True or false, Responsibility without Authority is Slavery?

A woman like their mother, period!.

Simply listen to your man and obey him , he married you out of a pool of women, he works his entire life to keep his home safe and happy



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A submissive woman is not the one who only listens to her man because he provides for her, a true submissive woman is one who knows that even though she can afford everything by herself, she chooses to humble herself and listen to the man because she recognises she's a helper and not the captain.

Submissiveness doesn't mean you're a fool, but you choose to be respectful, because you know that you're a woman and a man is the head of the relationship.

A woman with good morality

A woman who knows her place to be at the back seat — and still play a role like a partner in the passenger seat while she let her husband be in the driver seat all day, everyday.

Key points are:

* 'Knows' her place to be in the backseat.

* Play a role like a partner in the passenger seat.


An unsubmissive woman, knows her place as nature dictates, but due to post-mordenism she thinks man and woman are equal enough to ride in the driver seat.

obinna58:
A woman with good morality

What's good morality?

A305:
A woman who knows her place to be at the back seat — and still play a role like a partner in the passenger seat while she let her husband be in the driver seat all day, everyday.

Key points are:

* 'Knows' her place to be in the backseat.

* Play a role like a partner in the passenger seat.

This confusion is confusioning my head.

Stay at the back seat, but operate from the passenger seat?? ?? ??

Magnoliaa:


This confusion is confusioning my head.

Stay at the back seat, but operate from the passenger seat?? ?? ??

you missed the "play a role" part.

Magnoliaa:


What's good morality?

So long she understands right and wrong her husband will enjoy her

zed7:
A submissive woman is not the one who only listens to her man because he provides for her...

And she doesn't provide for her man? And what kind of provision sef are you talking? Money? House? Properties? There are women who have one or more of these...where should submission come in here?

a true submissive woman is one who knows that even though she can afford everything by herself, she chooses to humble herself and listen to the man because she recognises she's a helper and not the captain.

Why are you jumping between points? Is submission about provision or listening or it's about provision and listening together?

And if you're saying submission is hinged on a woman affording everything for herself but choosing to hold back, then it is in direction contradiction to the first part of your comment that insinuates that a man provides for a woman. You realise there's a difference between providing for someone and someone allowing you to provide?

Now if you're preaching that a woman should allow a man to provide for her even when she has her own resources, do you agree with women who say, "his money is our money, and my money is my money?"

All of these things you've described...why is it not okay for a man to do same for a woman? I mean, they're good, positive behsviours, right? Listening to someone, treating them with humility, allowing them to take care of you? And what qualifies a man to be a captain?

Submissiveness doesn't mean you're a fool, but you choose to be respectful, because you know that you're a woman and a man is the head of the relationship.

So in one word submission is respect? Why can the husband and wife, both of them, not show the same respect to each other? Would a man be a fool if he submits to his wife?

obinna58:
So long she understands right and wrong her husband will enjoy her

What is right and what is wrong - care to elaborate on that?

A305:
you missed the "play a role" part.

How does a person in a backseat play a role from the passenger's seat? What is the role playing here?


How does this practically apply to a marriage?

Magnoliaa:


And she doesn't provide for her man? And what kind of provision sef are you talking? Money? House? Properties? There are women who have one or more of these...where should submission come in here?



Why are you jumping between points? Is submission about provision or listening or it's about provision and listening together?

And if you're saying submission is hinged on a woman affording everything for herself but choosing to hold back, then it is in direction contradiction to the first part of your comment that insinuates that a man provides for a woman. You realise there's a difference between providing for someone and someone allowing you to provide?

Now if you're preaching that a woman should allow a man to provide for her even when she has her own resources, do you agree with women who say, "his money is our money, and my money is my money?"

All of these things you've described...why is it not okay for a man to do same for a woman? I mean, they're good, positive behsviours, right? Listening to someone, treating them with humility, allowing them to take care of you? And what qualifies a man to be a captain?



So in one word submission is respect? Why can the husband and wife, both of them, not show the same respect to each other? Would a man be a fool if he submits to his wife?

You have comprehension problems. Get someone to read and explain to you.

Magnoliaa:


What is right and what is wrong - care to elaborate on that?

When she gives him enough puxzy so he doesn’t get angry😁

A woman who knows her place and her role “a code of conduct”, acts womanly, being in position for peace always with great understanding, support. She must know the importance of authority, respect and humility, she can cry her to victory if it’s what she needs to win.
Weakness is an attraction just as strength is an attraction for men.

Nothing pisses men off like when she shows strength against her husband instead of the opposite

The book said

Husband love your wife ..

Wife be submissive to your husband

Is very simple .. anything aside this is just someone telling her self lies to feel good

A woman who can use N1000 to prepare Soup for 2, 3 Days. 🤨🙂

zed7:
You have comprehension problems. Get someone to read and explain to you.

Whatever you say 😂.

obinna58:
When she gives him enough puxzy so he doesn’t get angry😁

A woman who knows her place and her role “a code of conduct”, acts womanly, being in position for peace always with great understanding, support. She must know the importance of authority, respect and humility, she can cry her to victory if it’s what she needs to win.
Weakness is an attraction just as strength is an attraction for men.

Nothing pisses men off like when she shows strength against her husband instead of the opposite

This is what morality means to you?


Are there anything on your list here that a husband can show to his wife too, or it is forbidden for men to express these qualities as you've described with their wives?

Should a husband not be peaceful? Should he not be understanding? Should he not show support for his wife and deal with her with great understanding? I you think these things are okay for men to imbibe, why are you calling it submission for women?

Odin13:
The book said

Husband love your wife ..

Wife be submissive to your husband

Is very simple .. anything aside this is just someone telling her self lies to feel good

If I asked you to oblige me on your Christian journey and faith now, you will chicken out like your fellow guy above. If I asked you if you've had a personal experience with Jesus Christ, I doubt if you'll have something reasonable to tell me.

When you got saved? When you got baptised - both in Spirit and in water? Or how diligent you've followed the Great Commission?

Your moniker alone itself is sus.

Because you want to take the Bible on what it says about marriage, meanwhile you probably haven't taken other things it says about salvation, condemnation, etc., as truth.

Magnoliaa:


This is what morality means to you?


Are there anything on your list here that a husband can show to his wife too, or it is forbidden for men to express these qualities as you've described with their wives?

Should a husband not be peaceful? Should he not be peaceful? Should he not show support for his wife and deal with her with great understanding? I you think these things are okay for men to imbibe, why are you calling it submission for women?

What is ur aim here

Magnoliaa:


How does a person in a backseat play a role from the passenger's seat? What is the role playing here?


How does this practically apply to a marriage?

If I have to explain this — it will totally establish the fact that I'm lecturing a kid who doesn't know the dynamics and power play in man and woman relationship.

Please save me the time to type here and just go learn from the basics on YouTube crash course or Wikipedia on Google.

Well, i just dey.

A305:
If I have to explain this — it will totally establish the fact that I'm lecturing a kid who doesn't know the dynamics and power play in man and woman relationship.

Please save me the time to type here and just go learn from the basics on YouTube crash course or Wikipedia on Google.

Your condescension is for your own pocket o.

I don't give 2 fks. I don't care how you perceive this, long as it doesn't change my own perception of here being a forum where people contribute to discussions.

So now, the only thing that is within your will is to choose to respond to me or not, and that is totally fine.

Magnoliaa:


This is what morality means to you?


Are there anything on your list here that a husband can show to his wife too, or it is forbidden for men to express these qualities as you've described with their wives?

Should a husband not be peaceful? Should he not be peaceful? Should he not show support for his wife and deal with her with great understanding? I you think these things are okay for men to imbibe, why are you calling it submission for women?

We’re talking about women
Those are for both but she should be championing it, she should carry am for head

obinna58:
We’re talking about women
Those are for both but she should be championing it, she should carry am for head

Why should it be the woman?
Why can the husband not champion it as well??

Magnoliaa:


Why should it be the woman?
Why can the husband not champion it as well??

Bcoz that’s what makes her cute and sweet

obinna58:
Bcoz that’s what makes her cute and sweet

Mtcheeeewwww, when you have a logical response to give me as the gendar deserving of "leadership", come back to quote me.



Imagine person like you sef dey find woman wey go dey bow and worship am 🤣.

Like is this the intelligence you go take dey do head of house? This is it? You people have audacity sha. Boundlessly.

Magnoliaa:



Mtcheeeewwww, when you have a logical response to give me as the gendar deserving of "leadership", come back to quote me.



Imagine person like you sef dey find woman wey go dey bow and worship am 🤣.

Like is this the intelligence you go take dey do head of house? This is it? You people have audacity sha. Boundlessly.

You’re a definition of non submissive woman

Op here lies your answer
If she behaves like
magnoliaa
Jennyclay
kobojunkie
Siofra
Goodlady
IconicR

You won’t last 5months in the marriage

Men should be the submissive partners to women in marriage because women make better decisions than men so it'll be much more beneficial to the family and society if the mantle of leadership in the home rests with wives.

Men are only meant to work and bring home bread and money for the wife to run the family with.


Nofsaid.

Magnoliaa:


If I asked you to oblige me on your Christian journey and faith now, you will chicken out like your fellow guy above. If I asked you if you've had a personal experience with Jesus Christ, I doubt if you'll have something reasonable to tell me.

When you got saved? When you got baptised - both in Spirit and in water? Or how diligent you've followed the Great Commission?

Your moniker alone itself is sus.

Because you want to take the Bible on what it says about marriage, meanwhile you probably haven't taken other things it says about salvation, condemnation, etc., as truth.

All this rituals won’t take you to heaven..

We’re saved by grace ..

You perform all those rites and rituals and on your dead birth .. you miss it.

That’s the reality of life

Odin13:
All this rituals won’t take you to heaven..

We’re saved by grace ..

You perform all those rites and rituals and on your dead birth .. you miss it.

That’s the reality of life

Having the power of the Holy Spirit is "ritual?" Obeying Jesus Christ by spreading the gospel is rite? The day you got born again is literally unremarkable? Walking the narrow road that leads to life is nothing? These are things Jesus advocated for Himself o, not his from his disciples. Did Jesus Christ not get baptised in water before the Holy Spirit descended upon Him? 😂



Who is even talking about going to heaven? I am talking about how Christian you are for you to knowledgeably understand marriage dynamics under God, you're saying something else.

Please.