BlueRayDick:


I also experienced something similar , but not exactly the same.

I have a very close friend ( one of the very few I hold dearly ) . We were planning his wedding and in less than 2 months to the wedding day his mum died after slumping . The death took everyone by surprise and really shook him.

At a point we were contemplating shifting the wedding but eventually the family decided he should go ahead with it. In the wake to the wedding I had to dig deep into my savings to come through for him when he kept lamenting about a whole lot of things he’s yet to put in place due to the sudden death of his mum and how much he spent during the burial (which I also supported him financially for ). He even made me spend extra money by buying a new piece of suit to be his best man which I never planned before .

On the wedding eve I had to take it upon myself to foot bills for the hotel we will sleep overnight when I noticed he didn’t have any plan nor funds for it and was resigned to us sleeping in his parent’s house where a gazillion family members were sleeping over in preparation for the wedding . Within the first year of the wedding he was always complaining about his business not doing well and when I do have I raise him one or two change to sort minor issues .

Fast forward to the delivery of his first child , after announcing the arrival of the baby he told me how much he’s trying to raise to have his wife and child discharged from the private hospital . I gave him what I can knowing fully well he will still come up with some request in 8 days time which will be naming ceremony . True to character he requested for financial asssitance few days to the naming and I was suggesting that he should just do a low key one since the funds are not really there now.

On the morning of the naming I sent him what I can and later he confided in me that my cash was timely cos that was what he used to buy a bag of rice that morning immediately alert entered . I didn’t go for the naming cos it was a work day but my spouse who did , what she described was definitely not a budget naming ceremony and the pictures my guy uploaded later confirmed same .

Less than a month after naming my guy’s house rent was due and he needs to borrow money to add to his rent . He told me he had the house rent complete before the naming but he had to spend out of it for the naming since Yoruba have a saying that “ ti Igi ba wo lugi, toke e ni won man koko gbe “ i.e if a tree falls on another fallen tree, u will definitely have to lift the one on top to be able to reach the one underneath . So he had to first sort the naming before the rent payment .

I just shook my head at his scale of priorities and cautioned myself to never be foooolish by going all out for people who don’t know how to prioritize their needs . I took several steps backwards on his matter because I just don’t see myself continuing to sponsor his bad choice of order of priorities .

afrodoc2:


That is very commendable and admirable.

izzou:


Very commendable

The fact that he even conceded sef is admirable.

larride:


When my wife gave birth, I had help with settling the hospital bill. I'm forever grateful to those that came through for me.

2 days to naming ceremony, everyone was asking me what we wanted to do and I just told them we are doing a parlour naming ceremony, our Pastor will just come in the afternoon, bless the child and name her and we share snacks n drink for those around. That's our plan. Na so family members begin say "Its your first fruit, you have to do party", some even say in Yoruba culture you have to kill a goat or so. I say I've heard and ask them to contribute the money for the party among themselves. 24hrs later, shishi no drop from anybody. We did the naming ceremony as we wanted to do it and that was it. Even those that was expecting that after 3 month when we go do child dedication and Thanksgiving for church that we might do small thing, we no do anything. It was just me, my wife and daughter and my mother in-law that went for the dedication.

Imagine I listened to those that said we must do party and then put myself into unnecessary debt while trying to impress those that will just come for the party, chop and go back home.

If you have the means and resources then fine but in situations where you know how things are and still decided to not set your priorities right, whatever you see, you face.

afrodoc2:


That is very commendable and admirable.

raumdeuter:
P Diddy accuser settle case

https://www.cnbc.com/2023/11/17/sean-combs-cassie-settle-her-bombshell-rape-sex-trafficking-lawsuit-day-after-filing.html

CrystalTiger:
So it's true what they say about P.Diddy's lawyers.. Settlement in less than 48hrs..

raumdeuter:
P Diddy accuser settle case

https://www.cnbc.com/2023/11/17/sean-combs-cassie-settle-her-bombshell-rape-sex-trafficking-lawsuit-day-after-filing.html

iamoyindamola:

Even after settlement can't the police investigate
Obviously pdiddy ain't innocent of these charges but he's buying his way out

BlueRayDick:


Police will need evidences from key witness’ statements . Key witness don collect settlement money and has probably signed legally binding documents which forbids her from talking to police .

So police is handicapped just like that .

BlueRayDick:


But I read the opposition guy is like 78 years old ; hope he’s not the kind of Buhari taking over from Jonathan situation that is happening in Liberia ?

afrodoc2:


The most important thing is to allow the rule of law and go by what the people want. In the long run allowing the people make their choices and mistakes is what will strengthen the political institutions.
Otherwise we will be left with a situation like in Cameroon when one man wants to “help” the people all the time because he feels, rightly or wrongly, that he is the best option for the country. That is all well and good if he is a truly benevolent despot, but when he is a murderous tyrant like Abacha or Pol Pot the people have no legal recourse.

BlueRayDick:


Police will need evidences from key witness’ statements . Key witness don collect settlement money and has probably signed legally binding documents which forbids her from talking to police .

So police is handicapped just like that .

afrodoc2:


There is a reason why many outlets didn’t jump to castigate Diddy. People were waiting for his move.
If you as a hip hop outlet (esp African-American) jump on the anti-Diddy bandwagon in this life n death case you might find things really tough.

BlueRayDick:


Yeah, I get .

Goodluck to the people of Liberia ; hoping the septuagenarian will be absolution to their political and economic woes

BlueRayDick:


It's like speaking out against the Jews in corporate America . U go later go dey sell firewood for Siberia when matter cast for u

Realmrsean:
I told g gbola yesterday that I read his lawyers are one of the best in the game..

Mehn there are men and there are legends.. Diddy is up there with likes of Jay-Z legend-wise

BlueRayDick:


It's like speaking out against the Jews in corporate America . U go later go dey sell firewood for Siberia when matter cast for u

GloriousGbola:


what is left of kid cudis career is toast. man should just go and start doing security

also possible that all along cassie was just angling for a big payout

also diddy has seen R kelly's demons catch up to him and he knows how it will end if the floodgates ever open

KingTom:

You have it all backwards

raumdeuter:
P Diddy accuser settle case

https://www.cnbc.com/2023/11/17/sean-combs-cassie-settle-her-bombshell-rape-sex-trafficking-lawsuit-day-after-filing.html

Ibime:


Hahaha. P Diddy is a wise man, no time for dragging

Cassie is also a smart hard nosed girl. After all the justice cries and right to speak up lamba, she was after the hard cold cash

She wanted $30m, I reckon Diddy paid $20m-$30m

iamoyindamola:

I don't think he negotiated 🤣🤣

Emaprince:
No mind the guy.

P Diddy don dey run things like a boss before Jay z came up.