I have a stepsister living abroad, the daughter of my mom. She's been there since childhood, raised by her father, and has become independent.

Despite the physical distance, she has been supportive, particularly to my mom. Although she occasionally sends money to my mom, it's never quite enough for her.

I share a unique bond with her; we've always been close, even during her visit. The last time she sent me money was during my 100 level when things were tough. However, my focus shifted from financial help to maintaining a connection with her.

Recently, I noticed a change. Since July, she has been snubbing my messages, a puzzling behavior considering I don't seek financial assistance. I've made it a point to check on her regularly, something she mentioned our mom doesn't do. At my level now if she needs money I can even send for her but her recent attitude has totally changed my mind towards her. I'm contemplating blocking her and ending contact, as it seems that's what she wants.

It's a challenging situation, and I'm curious if anyone here has experienced anything similar.

Just leave her and pray for her.
She might be going through something that she can't tell you. Give her the benefit of doubt, and pray for her.

She may be focusing on hey job or something is taking her time... do well to pay for her.. she will reply u

Martinsmine:
She may be focusing on hey job or something is taking her time... do well to pay for her.. she will reply u

No matter your schedule and work almost 24/hr if you're into someone whom you so desires believe me definitely you must create a little time to reached that someone

Don't think that way ... She needs your mum's bonding first, if that is not happening, she would find it difficult to connect with you ...It is not like she doesn't want to connect to you , but sometimes it make it looks like she has done something wrong.

Martinsmine:
She may be focusing on hey job or something is taking her time... do well to pay for her.. she will reply u

I understand this too, I have a job coupled with a side hustle but I find time to engage people I cherish. It's not that hard for real and by the way she communicates with my Mom sometimes so it doesn't mean she don't have my time.
I'll just do well to leave her alone.

NOTE
Don't know how this post made it to FP, y'all saying I'm billing her need to read the post fgs.
She calls my Mom sometimes, that's why I'm bothered why she's refused to answer my messages. Having someone abroad doesn't mean you'll bill them, don't know why Y'all be thinking this way.

Cooolme:

I have a stepsister living abroad, the daughter of my mom. She's been there since childhood, raised by her father, and has become independent. Despite the physical distance, she has been supportive, particularly to my mom. Although she occasionally sends money to my mom, it's never quite enough for her.
I share a unique bond with her; we've always been close, even during her visit. The last time she sent me money was during my 100 level when things were tough. However, my focus shifted from financial help to maintaining a connection with her.
Recently, I noticed a change. Since July, she has been snubbing my messages, a puzzling behavior considering I don't seek financial assistance. I've made it a point to check on her regularly, something she mentioned our mom doesn't do. At my level now if she needs money I can even send for her but her recent attitude has totally changed my mind towards her. I'm contemplating blocking her and ending contact, as it seems that's what she wants.
It's a challenging situation, and I'm curious if anyone here has experienced anything similar.

No block am.....just stop writing her

Cooolme:

I understand this too, I have a job coupled with a side hustle but I find time to engage people I cherish. It's not that hard for real and by the way she communicates with my Mom sometimes so it doesn't mean she don't have my time.
I'll just do well to leave her alone.

@bolded is what you should have done before now than coming on a faceless forum to grumble like a woman.

Life is not hard, dey for who dey for you. Stop carrying people like a bag of cement when they can't lift you like a loaf of bread.

Zonefree:

@bolded is what you should have done before now than coming on a faceless forum to grumble like a woman.

Life is not hard, dey for who dey for you. Stop carrying people like a bag of cement when they can't lift you like a loaf of bread.

I've not experienced such before tbh, I grew up being loved and very bad at this detachment game y'all claim to have (learning tho) but someone you Video call, talk with for hours just stop communicating with you totally when you know you did nothing wrong, it's weird now. In this case it's not a friend or partner rather a very close relative you have a strong bond with.
I have time on my hands though, it's my grumble not yours.

Dont. Give it time

SIXTEENTH:


No matter your schedule and work almost 24/hr if you're into someone whom you so desires believe me definitely you must create a little time to reached that someone

This is not blood ooooo
This is distant love.
Bro even when she think of reaching out she feela u will bill her.... if na me i will keep bombing her with offline messages so far say she never block u

Martinsmine:


This is not blood ooooo
This is distant love.
Bro even when she think of reaching out she feela u will bill her.... if na me i will keep bombing her with offline messages so far say she never block u

So true

Martinsmine:


This is not blood ooooo
This is distant love.
Bro even when she think of reaching out she feela u will bill her.... if na me i will keep bombing her with offline messages so far say she never block u

Lol me bill her?
Last time I did that was 4 years ago, since I learned about this black tax...Didn't want to be part of it abeg, can't be entitled to someone's money.

Cooolme:

I have a stepsister living abroad, the daughter of my mom. She's been there since childhood, raised by her father, and has become independent. Despite the physical distance, she has been supportive, particularly to my mom. Although she occasionally sends money to my mom, it's never quite enough for her.
I share a unique bond with her; we've always been close, even during her visit. The last time she sent me money was during my 100 level when things were tough. However, my focus shifted from financial help to maintaining a connection with her.
Recently, I noticed a change. Since July, she has been snubbing my messages, a puzzling behavior considering I don't seek financial assistance. I've made it a point to check on her regularly, something she mentioned our mom doesn't do. At my level now if she needs money I can even send for her but her recent attitude has totally changed my mind towards her. I'm contemplating blocking her and ending contact, as it seems that's what she wants.
It's a challenging situation, and I'm curious if anyone here has experienced anything similar.

perhaps you should puzzle your mom with every curiosity you've to help you find out why the sudden change of attitude. Sometimes moodiness, orher times financial or family obligations some other times they good need some space. Try to ascertain sha

Mathematically, it's one (or a combo) of these three probabilities:

1:
She's met a guy & chanelling her time, care (and probably money) to him.

2:
Her friend(s) might have been advising her on how NOT to give shishi again

3:
Just the usual light switch behavior of women.
Today, they love-bomb you....
Tomorrow, they act like you don't exist.



In summary:
Face your life bros.
As a man, nobody really send you for dis life (probably except your parents). 💯

Then let her be and stop bombarding her with msg. When she's ready she will reply you.

Cooolme:

I have a stepsister living abroad, the daughter of my mom. She's been there since childhood, raised by her father, and has become independent. Despite the physical distance, she has been supportive, particularly to my mom. Although she occasionally sends money to my mom, it's never quite enough for her.
I share a unique bond with her; we've always been close, even during her visit. The last time she sent me money was during my 100 level when things were tough. However, my focus shifted from financial help to maintaining a connection with her.
Recently, I noticed a change. Since July, she has been snubbing my messages, a puzzling behavior considering I don't seek financial assistance. I've made it a point to check on her regularly, something she mentioned our mom doesn't do. At my level now if she needs money I can even send for her but her recent attitude has totally changed my mind towards her. I'm contemplating blocking her and ending contact, as it seems that's what she wants.
It's a challenging situation, and I'm curious if anyone here has experienced anything similar.

Don't block her... just let her be.. don't force it.. just give her the space she wanted... she will connect back whenever she's ready

You probably don't know what's up with her. Just give her the space she needs. It's not easy for any of our young people that goes out there.

I have quite a number of family members and friends out there and for some of them, I happen to listen to their stories while sorting themselves out.

It's okay to listen to their rants as they don't have as much listening ear over there. It is also frustrating for me as I can't do much to help out. But if there's one thing I learnt, it's not to hold their absences against them in their early days. They need it a lot.

Dey your dey.
If she reach out to you then welcome her but if she doesn't then free her.
She could be going through stuffs and she doesn't want distractions.
It might not even be about you so calm down.
Like for for example, I no want anyone to call me or text me or chat me no matter who you are. I just want to dey my dey. It's not that I hate or they did anything to me, na just the way I feel at the moment. So calm down.

Toor. Give her some break.

Or send messages that don't need/demand replying but show that you care about her wellbeing. Do that occasionally or periodically, as you will. Let her know you are distressed and worried about her. That you think she might be going through something and you pray whatever it is, she comes out bigger.

Just do that once in a while.

No forget her birthdays o. Even if na to post on her wall on Facebook those days.

Blood is thicker than nonsense o.

She knows quite well your constant checking up on her is all about money or needing assistance even though u dey pretend. However, she might be going through some issues at the moment so stop the constant messages for now and let her breath. She'll certainly respond to you whenever she's ok to do so.

Why she go reply..as u wan use billing kill her

Are you feeling entitled or what??

Why considering to block her?

Why not just leave her there and forget about her, until whatever that held her over there in the abroad decides to leave her alone a little bit?

Is her uncommunicative presence in your contact-list really affecting any aspect of your life?

Like..
Why do even have to consider blocking her?

It is well. You should try to reach her. She may be going through a lot.

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As you wan kii am nko? Every man na per head o

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Hope all is well