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Re: When We Say Dont Marry If You Don't Have A Sustainable Income, This Is Why by aremubabs: 10:52am On Nov 26, 2023 |
Jewessgratitud3: If we all wait to have SUSTAINABLE income, none of us would be married right now. Or perhaps, you can define sustainable income for us? What is a sustainable income? |
Re: When We Say Dont Marry If You Don't Have A Sustainable Income, This Is Why by Silentgroper(m): 11:04am On Nov 26, 2023 |
sandygechy:Ok .. Do not contribute to the finance of tour home .. na you sabi ... |
Re: When We Say Dont Marry If You Don't Have A Sustainable Income, This Is Why by Jamie1000: 11:09am On Nov 26, 2023 |
Now imagine marrying a single mom with her child. And yours . Bills bills ๐ซ ๐ฉ 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: When We Say Dont Marry If You Don't Have A Sustainable Income, This Is Why by Greenfaces: 11:11am On Nov 26, 2023 |
Optimum2023:hmm... land of 800k in Abuja! What's the size. No tell me say 322 sqm. Tell me 50 by 50 or 24 by 20 |
Re: When We Say Dont Marry If You Don't Have A Sustainable Income, This Is Why by aremubabs: 11:17am On Nov 26, 2023 |
Vinnie2000: This is laughable. Even in developed countries, only a privileged few or the lucky ones in the middle can foot all their bills without complaints. If we went by your logic, many people would not be married today. Getting wedded is not so much about the current financial status as planning. When my wife and I wedded, our total income was not even up to 100k. But we had made plans. I am a heavy saver. Fortunately for me, my wife is too. We planned our finances. Of course, we did get help here and there, but we both knew that it was temporary as we planned. In the earliest months of our marriage, my father still sent stipends to me. Now, I send triple of that stipends to my dad and still send to my wife's mom. Not that I make a million naira per month, but I know how to use money, and I have a great financial partner in my wife. Now, there are men who go into marriage fulfilling all the requirements you listed above. They were able to foot their basic bills and all that. And then, after wedding, they start struggling financially? Or you think that it is not possible? I will tell you why some men go into marriage financially OK and then start struggling a few months or years in marriage. Lack of planning. The fact that you could feed yourself or pay your bills before marriage does not mean you would be able to when you get married. Situations change, especially if your partner is financially wasteful. I know of a neighbor who threw lavish birthday parties for his children every year. He has four children, so four lavish birthdays every year. He is doing well currently, but around this time last year, he almost committed suicide when he suffered financial setback. I did not even know until one day when I visited my children's school to pay off their school fees balances. It was test time, and his children were all in the waiting room. I questioned them, and they said they didn't know why they were not allowed to take the tests. It was the school administrator that now told me only one of the children had some of her school fees paid for. The three others were owing full school fees. Marriage is not so much about your current financial status. It is more about the two people going into it. Do they both have something doing that gives them income. If the man is the only one that has an income, what are the plans for growing that income? It takes two to tango. So, consider your partner's financial behaviour too. Things would not always be rosy financially. How would they make the most of small incomes? Would they stay when things are booming and start parking as soon as things start going downhill? 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: When We Say Dont Marry If You Don't Have A Sustainable Income, This Is Why by Jewessgratitud3: 11:20am On Nov 26, 2023 |
Jamie1000: Na you wan go carry another man bukata na. So be prepared. 1 Like |
Re: When We Say Dont Marry If You Don't Have A Sustainable Income, This Is Why by sandygechy(f): 11:20am On Nov 26, 2023 |
Go and make money and provide for ur family because itโs ur duty as a man!!! Na u sabiโฆ. Silentgroper: 1 Like |
Re: When We Say Dont Marry If You Don't Have A Sustainable Income, This Is Why by Shed2013(m): 11:28am On Nov 26, 2023 |
Na better parents Born u and bring u up in good way , u suck ur mother's breast very well that's why u get sense , greetings because u dey think before u write . ExudeLoveToAll: 1 Like |
Re: When We Say Dont Marry If You Don't Have A Sustainable Income, This Is Why by highchief1: 11:30am On Nov 26, 2023 |
psucc:congrats my man.if e get anytime when man need money,trust me na when ur kids Dey infant stage.I pray for every parents.i know wetin my eyes see. 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: When We Say Dont Marry If You Don't Have A Sustainable Income, This Is Why by yemmit90: 12:00pm On Nov 26, 2023 |
endsarrrs: No. |
Re: When We Say Dont Marry If You Don't Have A Sustainable Income, This Is Why by Juniorangel(m): 12:04pm On Nov 26, 2023 |
Your immediate family are the ones who will push you into this 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: When We Say Dont Marry If You Don't Have A Sustainable Income, This Is Why by yemmit90: 12:05pm On Nov 26, 2023 |
Jewessgratitud3: Ok, PM me with your location, if you stay near me, we can go to both supermarkets and local market and see. Even pharmacies drugs are way more expensive than what you get from normal drugs shops. |
Re: When We Say Dont Marry If You Don't Have A Sustainable Income, This Is Why by Jewessgratitud3: 12:25pm On Nov 26, 2023 |
yemmit90: I'm not talking about pharmacies. Of course those ones can't be compared in terms of quality. So the prices can't be the same. I'm talking about normal grocery stores. If youll do a 100k shopping for me now Ill give you my location ![]() ![]() ![]() Don't worry, I don't stay near you. |
Re: When We Say Dont Marry If You Don't Have A Sustainable Income, This Is Why by psucc(m): 1:42pm On Nov 26, 2023 |
highchief1:Hmmm! Raising a human being is not an easy thing especially if you are the type that wants or seek a brighter future for them. . it's tasking presently; paying house rent at 3 different locations, school fee, upkeep money, etc. But for sure, tomorrow shall be better. |
Re: When We Say Dont Marry If You Don't Have A Sustainable Income, This Is Why by psucc(m): 1:50pm On Nov 26, 2023 |
Shed2013:As you extol him, also remember we're in the world of inequalities. As Nigerians will say - this life no balance. Honestly, all of us can't make it to a wife that brings something to the Union. Even those who are lucky, some are regretting it, some are blaming themselves why they didn't go for those who had nothing to offer. Just that we should make do if in our choice we pick bones in place of flesh. |
Re: When We Say Dont Marry If You Don't Have A Sustainable Income, This Is Why by jojothaiv(m): 1:53pm On Nov 26, 2023 |
Wawelexy:This particular one is a skit and I have nothing to say. 1 Like |
Re: When We Say Dont Marry If You Don't Have A Sustainable Income, This Is Why by kushme: 1:54pm On Nov 26, 2023 |
Jewessgratitud3: I dislike this statement... What stops women from doing the same? A thief's statement cos they want to benefit where they sow little to nothing cos they've pucci and feel entitled. We are in a digital world for christ sake, more women are cashing out these days. Fvckin' support the familia,too, if you believe in gender equality. And if you don't, then continue making that statement to the man till he drops dead. A corrupt nation with less jobs and opportunity to go round for the citizens, an environment not easy to do business. You think these realistic and ugly parameters would help a lot of people make it in the present Nigeria even if they double their hustle? For your information, Africa as a continent isn't coming out of poverty any time soon. Please do us a favor by listing these hustles many men need to double in order to come out of this current situation, like China(pulling over 700million people out of poverty) did.. |
Re: When We Say Dont Marry If You Don't Have A Sustainable Income, This Is Why by Jamie1000: 2:13pm On Nov 26, 2023 |
Jewessgratitud3: No me. But, they need to marry also. Expecially the good ones, that was abused. Not the ones that left because of Money or selfish reasons. |
Re: When We Say Dont Marry If You Don't Have A Sustainable Income, This Is Why by endsarrrs(f): 3:07pm On Nov 26, 2023 |
yemmit90: Okay thanks(I am mixing up his Nairaland handle with yours) Yommi is dead anyway. He passed away. Just this Sunday morning he was found dead in his apartment alone at fagba, Lagos state. |
Re: When We Say Dont Marry If You Don't Have A Sustainable Income, This Is Why by omostar: 3:18pm On Nov 26, 2023 |
Must you buy baby food? I make home made food for all my babies. It is healthier and cheaper. |
Re: When We Say Dont Marry If You Don't Have A Sustainable Income, This Is Why by yemmit90: 3:41pm On Nov 26, 2023 |
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Re: When We Say Dont Marry If You Don't Have A Sustainable Income, This Is Why by mechanics(m): 6:22pm On Nov 26, 2023 |
Eyah, things will get better soon. |
Re: When We Say Dont Marry If You Don't Have A Sustainable Income, This Is Why by Mayflowa(m): 9:06pm On Nov 26, 2023 |
Justkatty: Are you U.P. E initials? |
Re: When We Say Dont Marry If You Don't Have A Sustainable Income, This Is Why by Ginaz(f): 9:15pm On Nov 26, 2023 |
PedoBear: As I nor want be baby mama e pain you full body. your ashewo sister's should be ashamed of birthing bastards everywhere. See Satanist dey call person witch. Mumu dey worry you |
Re: When We Say Dont Marry If You Don't Have A Sustainable Income, This Is Why by Xosh: 9:58pm On Nov 26, 2023 |
Mayflowa:The acclaimed pedophilic university of Benin lecturer. Osas I m ashamed on your behalf! You have a super beautiful wife n lovely kids,hope you won't ask her for her nudes n contact details. You can attack me with your alternates. |
Re: When We Say Dont Marry If You Don't Have A Sustainable Income, This Is Why by Gentlesoul2021(m): 10:14pm On Nov 26, 2023 |
SIXTEENTH: Congrats on ur twins. May the ground soft for us. Eno easy at all... 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: When We Say Dont Marry If You Don't Have A Sustainable Income, This Is Why by Kobojunkie: 10:23pm On Nov 26, 2023 |
Silentgroper:It really doesn't matter that they both did as what instead matters is the agreement that they both agreed to in their union. If the man said he would carry all financial burden on his head then he should be expected to do just that. ![]() |
Re: When We Say Dont Marry If You Don't Have A Sustainable Income, This Is Why by Kobojunkie: 10:24pm On Nov 26, 2023 |
Jewessgratitud3:Diet of Akamu alone has really don terrible things to the brains of many Africans out there abeg! ![]() ![]() ![]() ![]() 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: When We Say Dont Marry If You Don't Have A Sustainable Income, This Is Why by Kobojunkie: 10:26pm On Nov 26, 2023 |
cletz991:African man save yourselves from ignorance. Akamu no get single nutritional value to it yet you believe it is more than enough to feed to your growing babies? And when those babies turn out to be no different from those before them, una go dey look left and right for something to blame. ![]() |
Re: When We Say Dont Marry If You Don't Have A Sustainable Income, This Is Why by Kobojunkie: 10:28pm On Nov 26, 2023 |
ufotunang:Where in my comment there did I state this which you assert? ![]() |
Re: When We Say Dont Marry If You Don't Have A Sustainable Income, This Is Why by Gentlesoul2021(m): 10:29pm On Nov 26, 2023 |
Nathaniel111: Chai see soft ground. Dey share us games oo |
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