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| Re: Coping After A Major Setback by Godmind2022(m): 12:03pm On Nov 30, 2023 |
27yo: Hmmmmmmm! 🥱 😲 Transportation business is not your passion. Call upon your own mind and discover what you really like to do for a living! |
| Re: Coping After A Major Setback by money121(m): 12:11pm On Nov 30, 2023 |
Ballotelle:OluwaNishola |
| Re: Coping After A Major Setback by Stevenbright(m): 12:11pm On Nov 30, 2023 |
The PO and another person who stated that he is in a similar situation failed to prepare for circumstances like this. How do you prepare? You must have at least savings that can fund your current lifestyle at least 3 months if you lost your job. With such provisions in place, you will not panic and fear will not conquer you. You will be surprised that on a normal day, you will be able to scale through these interviews you now fail. This is because fear is now tormenting you, you are now desperate and it shows on you. It make you to perform below your normal capacity because you are being too careful and thereby damping your creativity and self-confidence. Way to go: Tell yourself that this is just a phase which shall surely pass too like every other phases you have passed through before now. Also, you need to go out and get something doing no matter how small. Forget about your standard thing for now because all you need at the moment is getting creatively engaged and building your self-confidence in the process. When you are back on your feet, remember to cultivate the habit of saving for the rainy day! 1 Like |
| Re: Coping After A Major Setback by millionboi2: 12:17pm On Nov 30, 2023 |
LUAN:why not try being self employed,it might work 1 Like |
| Re: Coping After A Major Setback by CHRISTFUCKER: 12:39pm On Nov 30, 2023 |
Stealing from big corps , government and churches |
| Re: Coping After A Major Setback by LostMyZeal(m): 12:43pm On Nov 30, 2023 |
LUAN: I have a solution for you! But you might think it's ridiculous when I say it. And mind you, I've been in a similar situation with you but my setback was more devastating. Go to God; he has the blueprint of his plan for your life in his hands. Give your life to Jesus today and you'll get not just access, but also directions on how the plans can be actualized in your life. Beloved of God, be determined to follow God today and he'll turn everything about your life around. You must understand first and foremost that this life is more spiritual than physical (Ephesians 6: 10 - 12) No matter the matter, stay strong in God. What you are facing is God's way of getting your attention by calling you to himself. He wants to start something new in your life but you must be willing to pay the price at the altar of prayers and fasting. When God calls a man, those exercises become natural to such individual. So to get anything tangible out of this life you need to be empowered by God. I hope this little encouragement meets you well. 2 Likes |
| Re: Coping After A Major Setback by spinna: 12:46pm On Nov 30, 2023 |
Ballotelle: The best thing to do as a Christian when a setback happens, is to THANK GOD The Bible says in all things give thanks 1 Thess 5:18 and it's not just saying it for saying sake... It is a Spiritual Joker Card that stops the enemy (who probably brought the bad situation) in his tracks. And there are proven examples in the word. When they were in the wilderness Matt. 14: 17 -21there was no food and a big and very hungry crowd. But Jesus gave thanks for the very few bread and fish and it was multiplied to feed all."Taking the five loaves and the two fish and looking up to heaven, he gave thanks and broke the loaves."<quote> Another spiritual principles is the 7fold return from every disappointment.. I take this as a sort of reward for giving thanks in a bad situation.. the source is the scripture that says, thay shall come upon thee one way but flee against you seven ways.. Deuteronomy 28:7 As a Christian, every loss , based on the above scripture, will result in a sevenfold return of the lost item .. but this is if you are wise enough to thank God for the bad situation and claim the sevenfold return by praying with and believing in the scripture. So if you lost a 100k job and you get home , stay cheerful, give thanks to God for the incoming upgrade to 700k!..Dance around the sack letter, praise him that you are alive and breathing as the dead do not do any jobs, praise him that you are sane and employable and not roaming the streets naked as a mad man.. thank him for the knowledge you gained on the job.. Then claim the sevenfold return..thank him for that too. Then be at peace believing its done, rejoicing that a bigger thing is coming and it will This is why Christian Faith that is word based is so sweet..like having invincibility or power ups or codes in a video game.. this is why the Bible said his yoke is easy. I have tested this severally and it works All these are for born again Christians only and all it takes to be one is slto say a simple prayer and believing..A big part of Christianity is believing ( that's why we are called believers.) Learn about more Biblical Christian principles for victory in life even in hard times at Shiloh 2023 and under the Living Faith Church International here on this link : https://faithtabernacle.org.ng/ 4 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: Coping After A Major Setback by 1TrippleCee: 1:00pm On Nov 30, 2023 |
Resetinc: Stop forcing it. No one is talking about measuring with peers. But having a means to earn a simple decent living. Forceful philosopher 4 Likes |
| Re: Coping After A Major Setback by occfx: 1:04pm On Nov 30, 2023 |
Ballotelle: Talking from experience, it makes you humble, stronger, and a thinker. You are likely to create something during this phase. However, handling the rejections, insults, etc is another topic. Just keep pushing but don't commit suicide. However good or bad situation is it will change. |
| Re: Coping After A Major Setback by LUAN(m): 1:05pm On Nov 30, 2023 |
LostMyZeal:thank you sir for the advice. I will turn back to God. I can't help myself anymore 1 Like |
| Re: Coping After A Major Setback by LUAN(m): 1:09pm On Nov 30, 2023 |
occfx:mine is effecting my mentally, I have inability to think on the best thing to do to myself, each time I woke in the morning, I will be as confused as what I can't describe, infact I am a confusionist . I can't create anything as you stated. |
| Re: Coping After A Major Setback by LUAN(m): 1:13pm On Nov 30, 2023 |
Resetinc:you are right Bro. But I don't have any attom of happiness in me. Which is also important, not even to talk about daily meal which seems difficult to me, if not the fact am not a type that eat much |
| Re: Coping After A Major Setback by LUAN(m): 1:15pm On Nov 30, 2023 |
27yo:omor, not easy oo. |
| Re: Coping After A Major Setback by oghenetegah(m): 1:16pm On Nov 30, 2023 |
LUAN:remember when the going get tough, the tough will get going. All will be well. |
| Re: Coping After A Major Setback by AKWATGOLD1(m): 1:27pm On Nov 30, 2023 |
I have seen when the breadwinner lost his job and his wife tells him that when there is no money, the man preek should not rise simply mean that if you cannot cater for basic need in the house such husband should not ask for sex. Ballotelle: |
| Re: Coping After A Major Setback by XploraBen(m): 1:52pm On Nov 30, 2023 |
LUAN:I thought I was the only one that think all of these and feel this way.  It's a sad reality, most especially if you're from a struggling family. But as a man, we just have to stay strong, get back on your feet, and restrategize. God will see us through my bro. 1 Like |
| Re: Coping After A Major Setback by occfx: 2:16pm On Nov 30, 2023 |
LUAN: If you are still single, you should be grateful. Just change location, come out every morning for menial jobs and as an experienced person, you will get the right connection before you know it. It would have been worst if you have dependants. Assuming you already have kids and your wife is not bringing much, still attempt to change location but if that won't work for now, you have no choice than to downgrade to menial jobs outside your vicinity. Just make sure you don't stay in the house to avoid depression. At worst get a teaching job of 30k a month. That was what I did to keep body and soul busy 1 Like |
| Re: Coping After A Major Setback by idtiwo: 2:40pm On Nov 30, 2023 |
Hmmm, let me give you my story to encourage you. I finished school in 2003, got a good job in one of the telecom firms, worked hard, did my masters, got married and saved lots of money sufficient to start a business. Then in 2008, I felt i wasnt fulfiled with paid employment again.Dangote was always my role model, so I resigned and decided to go into business. I went into a good business, did well for few months and along the way, a staff connived with my supplier in a state in nigeria ,my capital vanished overnight and the rest is history. By 2009, i was back to ground zero and every attempt I made to revive myself in business failed and full time HARDSHIP set into my life (probably like what you are facing now). To make matter worse, my wife who was a youth corper when i married her just had my first baby around this time . So the baby arrival, wife not working and myself not working againg made matter worse. We were practically living from hands to mouth. It was a hell but that was the beginning of my hell. By mid 2010, my wife had to go take a teaching job in a nusery school near our house in lagos then with a baby of less than one year at hand. The salary was 10K and that was the only money coming into the family. When depression was knocking at my door, one day, i left the house and worked kilometers away from home with no destination in mind. I was just going, weeping inward and praying in ward for God to show me mercy for the sake of my new baby. Then, all of a sudden, having worked kilometers, i saw a shop where they were selling phone accessories and i walked in. I told the young guy there (younger than me by years), i told him i would want help him to be marketing his accessories daily around the neighbouhood and he would be paying me commission on every sales I make per day. The young man looked at me and asked if he could trust me and i assured him that i wont dissapear him. I was speaking good english and I think the guy just feel in love with me. So, he asked me to start that day.He didnt know me, no guarantor, no application, nothing whatsoever. He just trusted me .He gave me 3 pieces of charger, phone batteries, MP3 charger, power bank etc and i left his shop. I started moving from streets to streets and anybody i saw on the road, i would be marketing to them to buy charger, power bank etc. I would add a little mark to the price the guy gave me. By 6pm, I would return to his shop and hand over my sales to him and return the unsold goods and he would pay me commission on what i sold and i would go home with about N700 or N800 commission and that would be our diner money for that day. It was a tough season that i never prayed for my enemy to go though. This was what i did from 2010 to 2013. While i was doing this mobile sales job, I was applying for jobs daily with my 2.1 first degree certificate and my masters degree (I thank God i was smart enoughto do my masters when I was working in the telecom firm). I applied for uncountable number of vacancies but never got a job. Fast forward to 2014,I was owing 2 years house rent and my landlord gave a quit notice to pack out. At that stage, God Almighty had mercy on me and one of the aptitude test i did came back with an invitation for interview. The challenge was that the interview was going to be in Abuja. I borrowed 5k from a friend to enter night bus to get to Abuja to attend the interview and behold God gave me the job. The starting salary was 560k (an international NGO) . From there, my story changed. That was how i relocated to Abuja and God saved me from landlord eviction embarrasment. Today, i work with a global organisation with multipe 6 digits fat salary, got houses of my own and other great achievements of life BUT with all that, I can never forget the years 2009 - 2014. Those were the darkest years of my life. I SUFFERED. Op, i have been there before and i can relate with you that its a terrible place to be for a man. If you are not married, its still better for you. All you need to do is to start anything that you hands find to do,even it its labourer, please do it. Dont ever stay at home thinking because your problems will just be compounded. While doing anything you can lay your hands to do, please keep applying for jobs daily in hundreds and one day, I mean one day, the Good Lord will open that door for you and your life will never be the same again.Its a season and it will soon pass over. Wishing all the best. Please, when you eventually get that God's favour and your story changes, kindly share the testimony here to motivate other. Aurevoir 20 Likes 3 Shares |
| Re: Coping After A Major Setback by professore(m): 3:11pm On Nov 30, 2023 |
27yo:be careful how you lose interest, don't lose your strength. |
| Re: Coping After A Major Setback by professore(m): 3:14pm On Nov 30, 2023 |
LUAN:don't lose hope, most people pass through similar things and have stories like this to tell. 1 Like |
| Re: Coping After A Major Setback by Raydave: 3:25pm On Nov 30, 2023 |
[quote author=LUAN post=127241252]Op, it has never been easy for me, I cried all night and blame in everything that' happen to me, not only did I lost my job last, I fail two good Job interview just 10 months interval, one was November last year, another one This year September, with good salary expectation of More than 300k, I cried all night, I can't console myself, I don't really know where got it wrong. My IQ is zero, I doubt my intelligent, I wish I never attended school. I wish I could just died because I can't face the shame, because I have disappointed my family, and my friend, I'm now a failure after graduating with 2'1. No job, no achievement, I don't even know what to do to myself anymore You need to Man up....I'll like to know your age range? |
| Re: Coping After A Major Setback by SUNNYBRIGHT1347(m): 3:39pm On Nov 30, 2023 |
Am going through similar situation one of the post that blessed my life on nairaland I learned from every comment 4 Likes |
| Re: Coping After A Major Setback by Raydave: 3:47pm On Nov 30, 2023 |
[quote author=idtiwo post=127244606]Hmmm, let me give you my story to encourage you. I finished school in 2003, got a good job in one of the telecom firms, worked hard, did my masters, got married and saved lots of money sufficient to start a business. Then in 2008, I felt i wasnt fulfiled with paid employment again.Dangote was always my role model, so I resigned and decided to go into business. I went into a good business, did well for few months and along the way, a staff connived with my supplier in a state in nigeria ,my capital vanished overnight and the rest is history. By 2009, i was back to ground zero and every attempt I made to revive myself in business failed and full time HARDSHIP set into my life (probably like what you are facing now). To make matter worse, my wife who was a youth corper when i married her just had my first baby around this time . So the baby arrival, wife not working and myself not working againg made matter worse. We were practically living from hands to mouth. It was a hell but that was the beginning of my hell. By mid 2010, my wife had to go take a teaching job in a nusery school near our house in lagos then with a baby of less than one year at hand. The salary was 10K and that was the only money coming into the family. When depression was knocking at my door, one day, i left the house and worked kilometers away from home with no destination in mind. I was just going, weeping inward and praying in ward for God to show me mercy for the sake of my new baby. Then, all of a sudden, having worked kilometers, i saw a shop where they were selling phone accessories and i walked in. I told the young guy there (younger than me by years), i told him i would want help him to be marketing his accessories daily around the neighbouhood and he would be paying me commission on every sales I make per day. The young man looked at me and asked if he could trust me and i assured him that i wont dissapear him. I was speaking good english and I think the guy just feel in love with me. So, he asked me to start that day.He didnt know me, no guarantor, no application, nothing whatsoever. He just trusted me .He gave me 3 pieces of charger, phone batteries, MP3 charger, power bank etc and i left his shop. I started moving from streets to streets and anybody i saw on the road, i would be marketing to them to buy charger, power bank etc. I would add a little mark to the price the guy gave me. By 6pm, I would return to his shop and hand over my sales to him and return the unsold goods and he would pay me commission on what i sold and i would go home with about N700 or N800 commission and that would be our diner money for that day. It was a tough season that i never prayed for my enemy to go though. This was what i did from 2010 to 2013. While i was doing this mobile sales job, I was applying for jobs daily with my 2.1 first degree certificate and my masters degree (I thank God i was smart enoughto do my masters when I was working in the telecom firm). I applied for uncountable number of vacancies but never got a job. Fast forward to 2014,I was owing 2 years house rent and my landlord gave a quit notice to pack out. At that stage, God Almighty had mercy on me and one of the aptitude test i did came back with an invitation for interview. The challenge was that the interview was going to be in Abuja. I borrowed 5k from a friend to enter night bus to get to Abuja to attend the interview and behold God gave me the job. The starting salary was 560k (an international NGO) . From there, my story changed. That was how i relocated to Abuja and God saved me from landlord eviction embarrasment. Today, i work with a global organisation with multipe 6 digits fat salary, got houses of my own and other great achievements of life BUT with all that, I can never forget the years 2009 - 2014. Those were the darkest years of my life. I SUFFERED. Op, i have been there before and i can relate with you that its a terrible place to be for a man. If you are not married, its still better for you. All you need to do is to start anything that you hands find to do,even it its labourer, please do it. Dont ever stay at home thinking because your problems will just be compounded. While doing anything you can lay your hands to do, please keep applying for jobs daily in hundreds and one day, I mean one day, the Good Lord will open that door for you and your life will never be the same again.Its a season and it will soon pass over. Wishing all the best. Please, when you eventually get that God's favour and your story changes, kindly share the testimony here to motivate other. Aurevoir Omoo this your story really met me at the right time....Ain't gonna relent with my Hustling Spirit 💯 3 Likes |
| Re: Coping After A Major Setback by yewit37486: 4:04pm On Nov 30, 2023 |
idtiwo: I read every single line of your comment, such an inspiring story, God indeed came through for you and I believe you sharing your experience here will certainly encourage others who are in their own dark season at the moment. Thank you for sharing. 3 Likes |
| Re: Coping After A Major Setback by Myer(m): 4:23pm On Nov 30, 2023 |
Ballotelle:First realize that most disappointments are but blessings in disguise. Many people are stuck in jobs they do not like but pays their bills. You've been forced out of that pool. What will you have launched into if you had not lost your job but you decided to resign? Do not limit yourself. Is your wife supportive? Is she working? If no, you may need to be under-employed to foot your bills. If yes, take your time to pray for direction. Some times you need some time to decide what you will do. Most importantly, every thing starts with getting God right. 2 Likes 1 Share |
| Re: Coping After A Major Setback by Exceed15: 6:13pm On Nov 30, 2023 |
I have been there. Mehn it was tough. Infact situation would humiliate u sometime.What helped me was good relationship I had with few people in d past. Just know that this is phase and will soon past.I kept hope alive and surrounded myself with people who value me. Today things are much better. 3 Likes |
| Re: Coping After A Major Setback by Mirablefaith4: 6:25pm On Nov 30, 2023 |
Hdryh
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| Re: Coping After A Major Setback by Kingsize4eva(m): 6:28pm On Nov 30, 2023 |
This is exactly what am going through. A family man with 2 boys, thank God I married a good wife who keeps reassuring me that everything will be well. By this time last year, I had 3 cars to myself, I was doing very well until a business partner whom I trusted so much made away with my money and the rest was history. Most times I cry and weep like a baby, being the breadwinner of my family and watching my parents suffer is what breaks me down the most. Just today my mum sent me 3k from the village, just to show you guys how bad my condition is. A guy of 32 who once owns cars now jumping bike to drop his children at school. Let me save this here, I hope and pray nature smiles at me soon. I read a comment were one guy was talking about saving for the rainy days, bro pray problem doesn't come. Ps note-Am a graduate of History and international studies with 2:1, I base in Warri, incase you have any job or hustling please notify me. Thanks 7 Likes |
| Re: Coping After A Major Setback by year2013: 6:44pm On Nov 30, 2023 |
Stevenbright: Thanks for your comment. You just made my day. |
| Re: Coping After A Major Setback by virginboy1(m): 7:38pm On Nov 30, 2023 |
Some comments are insightful |
| Re: Coping After A Major Setback by Ballotelle(m): 8:41pm On Nov 30, 2023 |
1TrippleCee:Civil 35 |
| Re: Coping After A Major Setback by 1TrippleCee: 8:44pm On Nov 30, 2023 |
Ballotelle: Connect. January |
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