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Re: How Do You Manage With A Wasteful Over Sabi Wife by Mandate1: 3:36pm On Dec 11, 2023 |
vazsily:not every quote u see online you've have to reply to. Save yourself the stress. Since you've spoken to your wife repeatedly on this issue, do get her family members involved to talk to her. If no changes afterwards, try reduce what you drop for feeding, that way she will adjust. |
Re: How Do You Manage With A Wasteful Over Sabi Wife by Kobojunkiee: 3:38pm On Dec 11, 2023 |
Dyfynezz12:Since Op is now complaining that the contribution he married her for is not good enough he can either look to exchanging equal responsibilities with her. ![]() |
Re: How Do You Manage With A Wasteful Over Sabi Wife by ThunderFireAgba: 3:39pm On Dec 11, 2023 |
highvaluewoman:Since she trained you from being a house wife, when you get married become the "house man" so your wife will be the one hustling and putting food on the table. Since she brought you up well and showed you path to success. ![]() |
Re: How Do You Manage With A Wasteful Over Sabi Wife by SmartyPants(m): 3:40pm On Dec 11, 2023 |
Kobojunkiee: That's what the post is about. They have divided the responsibilities but one partner is not pulling their weight. To suggest that the solution is for the other partner to take on extra weight is frankly strange. The solution lies in getting the other partner to fix their ways. What he needs are ideas on how to do this. |
Re: How Do You Manage With A Wasteful Over Sabi Wife by jamesversion: 3:42pm On Dec 11, 2023 |
vazsily: You said you wanted to run from the marriage na. Person dey run leave him wife because of food? Who does that. Abeg tell us the real thing wetin dey pepper you for the marriage. I learnt over 15 years ago from one senior lawyer, now a SAN, how to give a reason why I'm taking an action, whilst I have my main reason for doing it. ![]() |
Re: How Do You Manage With A Wasteful Over Sabi Wife by Dyfynezz12(m): 3:43pm On Dec 11, 2023 |
Kobojunkiee:Saying OP should be cooking is out of the equation. Y not look at the side where the wife should adjust on her wastefulness considering the effect of the economy cox that's the main reason why OP is complaining |
Re: How Do You Manage With A Wasteful Over Sabi Wife by Afamed: 3:43pm On Dec 11, 2023 |
brain54: There are things you expect a grown up woman to adjust to. When those things do not come especially after several attempts to make her see reasons, definitely the marriage could be tiring |
Re: How Do You Manage With A Wasteful Over Sabi Wife by highvaluewoman(f): 3:48pm On Dec 11, 2023 |
ThunderFireAgba: Bat, I'm a woman. Now, get a life. |
Re: How Do You Manage With A Wasteful Over Sabi Wife by Iamhawkeyez: 3:49pm On Dec 11, 2023 |
sometimes the best thing to do is to teach people a bitter lesson cos a saying says sufferings are lessons this holiday if your mum, close friends or siblings stays ard send your kids for holidays then give her money to cook talk to her and warn her before cooking she shouldn't over cook hereby wasting or sharing the food unnecessarily, if she disobeys sort ur stomach outside for this period mk hungry beat her small, it might cause her a hard factory reset to adjust to this current hard times. I'm not really against giving out to ppl but wen it gets out of hand it becomes an issues, cos las las if she no give dem hungry no go kill dem, dem go still source their means |
Re: How Do You Manage With A Wasteful Over Sabi Wife by Kobojunkiee: 3:49pm On Dec 11, 2023 |
SmartyPants:OP's complaint isn't that she does not cook but rather that she does so wastefully. So it isn't that she isn't pulling her weight but rather that OP is not happy with her method of doing it. And my suggestion isn't that OP takes on extra responsibilities. Surely, OP's responsibility in his own home does not begin and end with going to work and coming back home. if that is the case, then I would recommend marriage counseling for the couple. ![]() |
Re: How Do You Manage With A Wasteful Over Sabi Wife by Kobojunkiee: 3:51pm On Dec 11, 2023 |
Dyfynezz12:Look at her for what? OP says she cooks, she just does not do it the way he would prefer for her to, and he claims she is over sabi, so what is there to look at? ![]() |
Re: How Do You Manage With A Wasteful Over Sabi Wife by brain54(m): 3:51pm On Dec 11, 2023 |
Afamed:Exactly... |
Re: How Do You Manage With A Wasteful Over Sabi Wife by sokera: 3:51pm On Dec 11, 2023 |
vazsily:maybe she has never work all her life, I advise you to let her work |
Re: How Do You Manage With A Wasteful Over Sabi Wife by SmartyPants(m): 3:55pm On Dec 11, 2023 |
Kobojunkiee: It's up to the couple how they divide duties. You just said so yourself literally. Now if they have divided up the responsibilities and one person is not performing theirs properly, its out of place to suggest the other person should resolve this by taking on their duties. And yes, wasteful cooking falls within the scope of not pulling her weight because under the given economic challenges, both partners have the additional joint duty of displaying financial prudence. This is an addendum to their predefined provider and manager roles, and they should perform their duties as though they are pulling in the same direction. Wasting precious resources when its getting harder to gather them is one partner working against the other who is working hard to be able to provide despite the difficulties. A team cannot function in this way, nor can it function by forcing al the load to one partner. All she has to do is make a simple adjustment to how she cooks. A man should not have to take on the cooking just because his wife is wasteful, when there are clearly divided duties. That's like suggesting the wife should go and do her husbands job if he comes home with a poor appraisal report. 1 Like |
Re: How Do You Manage With A Wasteful Over Sabi Wife by akanke79: 3:56pm On Dec 11, 2023 |
vazsily: Simple solution ,let her start contributing to the family upkeep in ratio 60:40.you see that she will sit up.Some women sabi waste but them no sabi spend their money.Let her be responsible for the food in the house while to cater to other bills and watch if he will change. Another solution is to get her a measuring cup. |
Re: How Do You Manage With A Wasteful Over Sabi Wife by Kinzo0917(m): 3:57pm On Dec 11, 2023 |
FOOLISH ADVICE. I USE TO LOOK UP TO YOUR CONTRIBUTIONS HERE. BUT I AM TRULY DISSAPOINTED WITH THIS. ANYWAYS... THAT IS YOUR OPINION Kobojunkiee: 1 Like |
Re: How Do You Manage With A Wasteful Over Sabi Wife by Kobojunkiee: 3:58pm On Dec 11, 2023 |
SmartyPants:Again, OP's complaint isn't that she does not cook but rather that she does so wastefully. So it isn't that she isn't pulling her weight but rather that OP is not happy with her method of doing it. And my suggestion isn't that OP takes on extra responsibilities. Surely, OP's responsibility in his own home does not begin and end with going to work and coming back home. if that is the case, then I would recommend marriage counseling for the couple. ![]() |
Re: How Do You Manage With A Wasteful Over Sabi Wife by Collins4u1(m): 4:00pm On Dec 11, 2023 |
Allow to foot the shopping bill for one week. |
Re: How Do You Manage With A Wasteful Over Sabi Wife by Kinzo0917(m): 4:02pm On Dec 11, 2023 |
MUST YOU REPLY THAT OTU? NA HER TYPE NP DEY RESPECT THEIR HUSBANDS. WOMEN WHO FEELS THEY ARE EQUAL WITH MEN. vazsily: 1 Like |
Re: How Do You Manage With A Wasteful Over Sabi Wife by Elsueno: 4:02pm On Dec 11, 2023 |
Gadafii: That's just it, also if u buy foodstuff in bulk, d wastage is even worse, they over cook, splash everything like say its gotten for free. |
Re: How Do You Manage With A Wasteful Over Sabi Wife by bonnyhope: 4:05pm On Dec 11, 2023 |
Rexymania: Beans sf don cost |
Re: How Do You Manage With A Wasteful Over Sabi Wife by bonnyhope: 4:07pm On Dec 11, 2023 |
brain54: 15yrs hm don try na Make you try it for 1 Yr make we see 1 Like |
Re: How Do You Manage With A Wasteful Over Sabi Wife by pharmaking: 4:08pm On Dec 11, 2023 |
Options abound: Stop buying in bulk and start buying in smaller quantities.You can give her impression that your salary has been slashed or business is not smooth as before. She will fight, but u must maintain your ground. You also talked about running away.If that option comes, please take it.Don't bother about children. They will be fine.Just ensure u send money for their wellbeing. A woman is supposed to know how to avoid waste. God hates waste. Your wife is trying to impress neighbors.Some women react to inferiority complex that way. I never knew my woman could take care of home appliances until I stop buying them.The moment u spoil it carelessly, I look away.Let us see who will be stressed. She continued from where I stopped by buying deep freezer, blender etc. Once it is their money, they can never waste it. 3 Likes |
Re: How Do You Manage With A Wasteful Over Sabi Wife by FarmBusinessNG: 4:09pm On Dec 11, 2023 |
yahoodetector: See me see heavy laughter o 2 Likes |
Re: How Do You Manage With A Wasteful Over Sabi Wife by cooooooks(m): 4:14pm On Dec 11, 2023 |
When husband and wife are joined together, they become one. ThunderFireAgba: |
Re: How Do You Manage With A Wasteful Over Sabi Wife by stormborn28(m): 4:16pm On Dec 11, 2023 |
Kobojunkiee: So because he wants things to be done right he should always go to the kitchen for an adult(his wife). What happens to the saying" learning on the job"? So for over a decade the wife has still not learn how to contain waste.. For your information, consider such woman as foolish. What is so difficult to adjust? |
Re: How Do You Manage With A Wasteful Over Sabi Wife by gabicon: 4:17pm On Dec 11, 2023 |
vazsily: It might be a ritual in her family that has been passed to her. I will suggest you have a family finance system put in place, a budget for every thing money is spent on has to be itemized in the home. If the food budget is 100k, if she exceeds it, it should be Clear that there are no bail out. The problem is you are giving money for food upon request, money should be shared by budget, I will suggest you start with weekly food budget, to give her a latitude to make mistakes, fixing a weeks mistake is easier than month mistake, when she has learnt, you can then make it a monthly thing. She will come with many excuses, just make sure you don't crack. |
Re: How Do You Manage With A Wasteful Over Sabi Wife by Kobojunkiee: 4:20pm On Dec 11, 2023 |
stormborn28:He is equally an adult so why can't he be in the kitchen again? ![]() 2. I never knew that was a saying that applied as far as everyone. ![]() 3. Well, no one put a gun to OP's head when he married her or chose to stay married to her for 15 years so I am not sure why you think calling her foolish changes or solves anything at this point. ![]() |
Re: How Do You Manage With A Wasteful Over Sabi Wife by Kobojunkiee: 4:21pm On Dec 11, 2023 |
cooooooks:In agreement, not in some mythical spirit or soul like Africans or your gods of men like to fill your heads with through their many fables. ![]() |
Re: How Do You Manage With A Wasteful Over Sabi Wife by brain54(m): 4:24pm On Dec 11, 2023 |
bonnyhope:LOL... |
Re: How Do You Manage With A Wasteful Over Sabi Wife by aycorporat(m): 4:25pm On Dec 11, 2023 |
vazsily: Bros abeg no mind that idiot wey dey always feel say him be star guidance and counselor with the foolish emoji he attaches to his write ups. Only he who wears the shoes knows where it pinches |
Re: How Do You Manage With A Wasteful Over Sabi Wife by stormborn28(m): 4:34pm On Dec 11, 2023 |
Kobojunkiee:So OP should go to the kitchen and cook because he want to contain waste which his wife a grow adult can not learn to do after several advice. Then I will consider she a woman unlearned. Probably she is not educated |
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