stormborn28:

■ So OP should go to the kitchen and cook because he want to contain waste which his wife a grow adult can not learn to do after several advice.
■ Then I will consider she a woman unlearned. Probably she is not educated

Is Op some sort of god that he can't go into his own kitchen to cook food that his own family can eat? Op is equally a grown up like his wife so why can't he equally enter kitchen to cook for his family?

2 she is the one OP chose to marry so insulting her is tantamount to insulting OP.

Mehn ?! Just came online to relax but saw this challenge and responses from amazing NLDRS. NA WAO ! some of our responses are quite way off for a union of 15! Honestly if you ain't married( like many of the ladies here seem),or you do not have a close elder/younger brother with this kind of situation on hand ,you might not be able to relate or empathise with the op. For most of us here giving great ounsel "itsiwell*,"fiscus" etc big ups to you all,great minds are you. If your advice is asking op to "go cooking" while d lady does something else, IT SHOWS U AINT MARRIED AND WOULD LIKELY WOULD NEVER BE with this kind of ugly feminist mentality ,keep deiceving and disgusting your self forming macho woman, GOD GO HELP YOUR GENERATION O!!

Try practicing scarcity for a while n watch her adjust. Do with much qualms in the home

Dey carry am go play monkey post, play against am......if she be keeper,dey blast the ball for her face or Bobbi......or dey tackle and clear am like soldier......
..... nothing you fit do if na house....over Sabi wetin....wife....?!
.....the end

Kobojunkiee:
Is Op some sort of god that he can't go into his own kitchen to cook food that his own family can eat? Op is equally a grown up like his wife so why can't he equally enter kitchen to cook for his family?

2 she is the one OP chose to marry so insulting her is tantamount to insulting OP.

OP married her because he believe she can cook for him and save waste. This is some of the instances girls will complain that they can not go to their boyfriend house to cook since he has not married them.. How will a guy get to know this shortcoming?

You are saying nobody forced OP to marry her. If OP had seen this during their dating, a can berth that he wouldn't have married her

Kobojunkiee:
Is Op some sort of god that he can't go into his own kitchen to cook food that his own family can eat? Op is equally a grown up like his wife so why can't he equally enter kitchen to cook for his family?

2 she is the one OP chose to marry so insulting her is tantamount to insulting OP.

by gidjah(m): 4:39pm
Mehn ?! Just came online to relax but saw this challenge and responses from amazing NLDRS. NA WAO ! some of our responses are quite way off for a union of 15! Honestly if you ain't married( like many of the ladies here seem),or you do not have a close elder/younger brother with this kind of situation on hand ,you might not be able to relate or empathise with the op. For most of us here giving great ounsel "itsiwell*,"fiscus" etc big ups to you all,great minds are you. If your advice is asking op to "go cooking" while d lady does something else, IT SHOWS U AINT MARRIED AND WOULD LIKELY WOULD NEVER BE with this kind of ugly feminist mentality ,keep deiceving and disgusting your self forming macho woman, GOD GO HELP YOUR GENERATION O!!

stormborn28:
■ OP married her because he believe she can cook for him and save waste. This is some of the instances girls will complain that they can not go to their boyfriend house to cook since he has not married them.. How will a guy get to know this shortcoming?
■ You are saying nobody forced OP to marry her. If OP had seen this during their dating, a can berth that he wouldn't have married her

OP married her for 15 years believing this even when the evidence was contrary? Now you are paintinh Op an imbe_cile too?

2. Na wa oo!

cooooooks:
When husband and wife are joined together, they become one.

Lol!
Now Laugh at yourself.

stormborn28:

Mehn ?! Just came online to relax but saw this challenge and responses from amazing NLDRS. NA WAO ! some of our responses are quite way off for a union of 15! Honestly if you ain't married( like many of the ladies here seem),or you do not have a close elder/younger brother with this kind of situation on hand ,you might not be able to relate or empathise with the op. For most of us here giving great ounsel "itsiwell*,"fiscus" etc big ups to you all,great minds are you. If your advice is asking op to "go cooking" while d lady does something else, IT SHOWS U AINT MARRIED AND WOULD LIKELY WOULD NEVER BE with this kind of ugly feminist mentality ,keep deiceving and disgusting your self forming macho woman, GOD GO HELP YOUR GENERATION O!!

***yawn***

vazsily:


He who wears a shoe knows where it hurts the most! In summary i should quit complaining and cook myself after all i won't be the first; your suggestion!! I will not divulge beyond my complaint of food waste and it is pertinent to note that I am least astonished by your off key notes. Why you tell Tinubu make e self fuel for petrol station so that the price will be exactly how he wants it bcoz he cannot delegate or rely on his subordinate!!

What she meant is you got what you want. Now that there is issue lead by example. Show her how to cook with lesser money so she could start from there.

Kobo wake up !no one said other wise, most men do cooking at home,I as a matter of fact adopted cooking as my major hubby,( though I have become lazy as d days go by and by).What we are saying which your stubborn head and soul wouldn wanna accept is this, "your solution is wrong and horrible for this matter on ground kobo ,don't give us part of your junks to consume as counsel here today.This shouldnt be the major reason why op should fly into the kitchen so as to "make a point" or 'prove to his wife 'that he also can cook and b a better manager,"thus trying to get her to adjust "!!that's horrible to the ears ,that's defective on our side here and men here gather to say back off from posting this your awkward feminist counsel. It is not tbe required .

Kobojunkiee:
Is Op some sort of god that he can't go into his own kitchen to cook food that his own family can eat? Op is equally a grown up like his wife so why can't he equally enter kitchen to cook for his family?

2 she is the one OP chose to marry so insulting her is tantamount to insulting OP.

gidjah:
■ Kobo wake up !no one said other wise, most men do cooking at home,I as a matter of fact adopted cooking as my major hubby, though I have become lazy as d day go by and by. ... This should t be theajot reason why op should fly into the kitchen so as to make a point or prove to his wife that he also can cook ,"this trying to get her to adjust "!!that's horrible to the ears ,that's defective on our side here and theen here gather to say back off from posting this your feminist counse. It is not tbe required .

So it is also about keeping up with the ego and not really about resolving the problem then to you?

Kobojunkiee:
OP married her for 15 years believing this even when the evidence was contrary? Now you are paintinh Op an imbe_cile too?

2. Na wa oo!

I repeat, that woman is the type that dodge going to her boyfriend house for things like cooking because she has a flaw there. If OP had discovered it during courtship, he would have ended the relationship

stormborn28:
■ I repeat, that woman is the type that dodge going to her boyfriend house for things like cooking because she has a flaw there. If OP had discovered it during courtship, he would have ended the relationship

Na wa oo...this one wey you dey cast Op as an imbe_cile so. Na so you hate am reach?

1. I'm not religious.

2. Become one/are in agreement sound like the same thing to me.

Kobojunkiee:
In agreement, not in some mythical spirit or soul like Africans or your gods of men like to fill your heads with through their many fables.

cooooooks:
1. I'm not religious.

2. Become one/are in agreement sound like the same thing to me.

OK. Just making sure you were not going to follow that up with the bullsheet line, "marriage is spiritual" or something close.

Kobojunkiee:
Na wa oo...this one wey you dey cast Op as an imbe_cile so. Na so you hate am reach?

I did not say that ..it is your words. Take responsibility

stormborn28:
■ I did not say that ..it is your words. Take responsibility

I am not the one who has been demeaning OP'S choice upandan.

If truly she's wasting resources, then tell her to be cooking half of what she used to cook but if like you said she will not listen, try and find out the quantity she cooks. pack all the food into a store, measure out half of what she normally cooks, and drop for the days meal then lock up the rest carry key go work. abi she go beat you if you do this one too?

I don't know how a man go dey fear woman wey he marry dey feed say he no fit talk to her

Just imagine over cooking and looking for who to share the food for. . Marriage go humble you spirit, you will b shock to see some behaviours you spouse will strt unveiling

vazsily:
No be if she gree sit down! My matter dey really complicated. Things are expensive now and it's not funny. She no dey hear. Na to run dey my mind. Bcoz at the rate we dey go na BP remain for me. How do I even make her understand. She go market comes back and nah over cooking. I go the market, same thing. If say these kids are already grown, I swear I will walk away.

This marriage don tire this man, seems there are some unresolved issues. Because I don't understand how difficult it is to have a conversation with your wife and do properly meal planning.

vazsily:
Them say who dey ask questions no dey miss road. Although with the Internet crazy people are bound so I am circumspect.

I have been married over 15 years and in that time I have always complained about the way my wife over cooks and then start looking for who to share the food with in the name of giving alms. You would think having managed kitchen and home for that long, food measurement should come naturally.

I have not taking much interest until with the recent inflation and high cost of goods in the market. And why I struggle with the Grace of God to earn a living, madam on the other hand thinks going to the market regularly and living above my salary na achievement without any adjustment. The matter don tire me, I want to simply pick my bags and run but for the kids.

Responsibility is a choice but I think she's abusing it. Giving to the poor comes naturally for me but you must be wise about it. How do i resolve this?

It's under 5 years, say the truth. She's crying about it all over the place too.

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vazsily:
Them say who dey ask questions no dey miss road. Although with the Internet crazy people are bound so I am circumspect.

I have been married over 15 years and in that time I have always complained about the way my wife over cooks and then start looking for who to share the food with in the name of giving alms. You would think having managed kitchen and home for that long, food measurement should come naturally.

I have not taking much interest until with the recent inflation and high cost of goods in the market. And why I struggle with the Grace of God to earn a living, madam on the other hand thinks going to the market regularly and living above my salary na achievement without any adjustment. The matter don tire me, I want to simply pick my bags and run but for the kids.

Responsibility is a choice but I think she's abusing it. Giving to the poor comes naturally for me but you must be wise about it. How do i resolve this?

don’t buy food in large quantity, if she wants to cook rice give her money for one and half de rica, at least it reach ur household for a day or 2, same applies for every other food items.

Gadafii:
man has gone out to earn a living and feed the home the only thing that’s probably required of the wife is the cooking but you still want the man to take over the cooking while “she spend her energy something else”
if spending her energy on something else means she will go out to earn money and buy food stuff for the house then no problem, otherwise she no get any other job than to live according to the mama means
If she wan do Sara for people make she use her personal money do am

E de do me like that junkie of a person no stable

Adexvivacity:
OP, fear those under 30 singles.... Imagine someone telling u to cook if u dnt like how she waste food 😂😂😂😂😂

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ChybuzzDD:


Don't reply to that moniker next time.

It's probably a bot or virus, not our fellow human

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vazsily:
Them say who dey ask questions no dey miss road. Although with the Internet crazy people are bound so I am circumspect.

I have been married over 15 years and in that time I have always complained about the way my wife over cooks and then start looking for who to share the food with in the name of giving alms. You would think having managed kitchen and home for that long, food measurement should come naturally.

I have not taking much interest until with the recent inflation and high cost of goods in the market. And why I struggle with the Grace of God to earn a living, madam on the other hand thinks going to the market regularly and living above my salary na achievement without any adjustment. The matter don tire me, I want to simply pick my bags and run but for the kids.

Responsibility is a choice but I think she's abusing it. Giving to the poor comes naturally for me but you must be wise about it. How do i resolve this?

Chai.. it's quite unfortunate that your marriage has turned to Hell on earth...

Call her parents to a formal meeting and make these serious concerns known to them, involve your church pastor too if possible. Just try and exhaust every peaceful options to effect a change or else you will get depressed beyond repair. In the meantime strictly Tighten your belt and wallet while doing that.

Kobojunkiee:
I am not the one who has been demeaning OP'S choice upandan.

No one is demeaning anybody. It is what the woman in question is that is what i am making emphasis on. If she is discipline, there won't be waste. When the truth is stated, most women take it as insult

Please don't pick advice from here that will hurt your golden 15yrs marriage please. God is our great provider, you're only acting in place of the Almighty.

My suggestion : Tell her how much you loved her, how you admire her attitude over the years... and that she's the best that could happen to you. Then tell her that you don't want anything to bring problems between both of you but the current situation in Nigeria is trying to....

Now tell her that, her cooking habit has been great over the years, but everything has time and season.... That its time to adjust so that you won't over work yourself or start disliking her

Start reducing the money you give her

Draw up a budget and if it finishes, o ti tan.

Your kids will suffer for a bit. Hopefully sense will be restored to Mrs. Darosa.