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My Relationship Of 9 Months Just Crashed by Prettygirl200(f): 9:18am On Dec 14, 2023 |
According to him I don't support his dreams, I don't encourage him, that my love for him was conditional, over time he keeps telling me that all the ladies that have come into his life has this tendency of supporting him and all of that, and I happen not to fall in that category, so because of that he keeps comparing and making reference's all the time it's always brings issues between us every now and then. Some months ago he was facing serious financial problems, and all I was able to do the little I could even though it was chicken change but again he met a lady who did more than I did and the comparison started again, it again brought fights and arguments, off recent he has met a lady who according to him supported him greatly which he told him he has been able to bounce back and things are getting better, after some days he told me thesame lady confessed that she was in-love with me it was after that confession he then told me that he has seen and known how a woman can love unconditionally, that the lady never asked him of anything , that she supported his dreams and is encouraging something I couldn't do. Before then he told me about some things I was doing which he didn't like, I tried to adjust to suit in the woman he wanted me to be character wise that was when he told me I was acting up and pretending to love him because of what I stand to gain from him. I just got fed up of the whole thing and told him that if the lady is the kind of woman he wants in his life he should be with her, he has always talked about a supportive woman and since I couldn't or didn't fall in that category I decided to let him go in other for me to have peace of mind. So I blocked him everywhere just so it will be easy for me to forget about him and everything, I don't know if I did the right thing?. 56 Likes 7 Shares |
Re: My Relationship Of 9 Months Just Crashed by Henry22(m): 9:20am On Dec 14, 2023 |
Get a job and focus on improving in yourself 212 Likes 11 Shares |
Re: My Relationship Of 9 Months Just Crashed by FarmBusinessNG: 9:21am On Dec 14, 2023 |
Sorry dear. Heal first and don't blame yourself for everything. In relationship failures, both parties make mistakes. Also circumstances may not be right. Give yourself time. Get out, go out. Enjoy even the breeze. Who knows, better maybe ahead 48 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: My Relationship Of 9 Months Just Crashed by judatech: 9:22am On Dec 14, 2023 |
Christmas discharging... country hard for men with many chicks this period. 151 Likes 6 Shares |
Re: My Relationship Of 9 Months Just Crashed by AwokenVawulence: 9:22am On Dec 14, 2023 |
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Re: My Relationship Of 9 Months Just Crashed by Prettygirl200(f): 9:25am On Dec 14, 2023 |
FarmBusinessNG:Thanks for the encouragement. 11 Likes 5 Shares |
Re: My Relationship Of 9 Months Just Crashed by Anny69(f): 9:26am On Dec 14, 2023 |
Ehya. Enjoy your single life. Quotes 1&2 have given the best advice already. 22 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: My Relationship Of 9 Months Just Crashed by A4alpha: 9:29am On Dec 14, 2023 |
another one don chop break fast I have learnt not to make decision or action out of anger, peace of mind above all but I think you shouldn't block him yet. just delete his number or add a figure to his number so you won't see his whatsapp activites anymore. They said when a man marries two wifes then and only then he will know which one is better, so unblock him for now. It's obvious your heart is still with him. 12 Likes 4 Shares |
Re: My Relationship Of 9 Months Just Crashed by Johnycastro18: 9:29am On Dec 14, 2023 |
"According to him I don't support his dreams, I don't encourage him, that my love for him was conditional...." No man would want to continually date a liability.... If the above statement from him is true, Then you self, you no try ![]() 93 Likes 5 Shares |
Re: My Relationship Of 9 Months Just Crashed by worldclass68(m): 9:33am On Dec 14, 2023 |
See wahala....before and mostly nah men usually have this kind of complain. |
Re: My Relationship Of 9 Months Just Crashed by Matix222: 9:36am On Dec 14, 2023 |
Anny69: I pity that your boyfriend if he is still with a lesbian like you Small girl of 19 years has gone awol even your parents are at fault 3 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Relationship Of 9 Months Just Crashed by ONEjoblessGUY: 9:36am On Dec 14, 2023 |
Prettygirl200: Don't u think time........u sat yo ass to type dis long nonsense to seek attention would have been for something meaningful?? ![]() 5 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Relationship Of 9 Months Just Crashed by advanceDNA: 9:37am On Dec 14, 2023 |
Prettygirl200: .....u both have different expectations.... He wants a lady thats more investing in a relationship...but you want to do little or nothing, which some men don't mind.. . ....there's no crime here..... Break up is fine instead cheating on or hurting each other..... Single life is bae..no one to demand and stress you for anything..... 14 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Relationship Of 9 Months Just Crashed by Michelle55: 9:39am On Dec 14, 2023 |
You will be fine darling... Just dust your ass and move on. 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Relationship Of 9 Months Just Crashed by Mhizzard(m): 9:39am On Dec 14, 2023 |
Peace of mind is the best thing that could ever happen to human in his/life.however,if you ain't being supportive try and amend yourself in that aspect because no man can ever crave for unsupportive wife 11 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Relationship Of 9 Months Just Crashed by Ballzproblem2: 9:39am On Dec 14, 2023 |
I'm glad he upgraded, after women dey leave men at their worst find person your level if you are not willing to support 15 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Relationship Of 9 Months Just Crashed by Anny69(f): 9:40am On Dec 14, 2023 |
Matix222:🐈⬛ Meow. 1 Like |
Re: My Relationship Of 9 Months Just Crashed by Prettygirl200(f): 9:42am On Dec 14, 2023 |
advanceDNA:That was why I let him go, I don't want that constant reminder of him telling me that am with him for what I will gain, he's the type that always wanted a supportive lady he always tells me that and it seems all the ladies who usually fall for him are always in that category so I just felt I shouldnt be there, that's why I just broke up myself. I want him to be happy and if being with that lady makes him happy who am I to do otherwise. 12 Likes |
Re: My Relationship Of 9 Months Just Crashed by woginid967: 9:42am On Dec 14, 2023 |
Prettygirl200:A man has a mission or vision to his life, a wife is the one who comes to assist.... A knife is the one who comes to divide ➗ that vision. A wife is supposed to be HELPMEET This means every guy has areas in his life he is screaming HELP ME. If you cant help a guy.. dont go on dates with him Dont spread your legs for him Dont collect money from him Dont gist long with him Simple. You will heal, go to the gym, go out more and meet new people. Its well, you will find someone who is suited for you. 19 Likes |
Re: My Relationship Of 9 Months Just Crashed by Prettygirl200(f): 9:44am On Dec 14, 2023 |
woginid967:Amen and thanks. 1 Like |
Re: My Relationship Of 9 Months Just Crashed by immortalcrown(m): 9:46am On Dec 14, 2023 |
The most important thing is missing in this post. What is that quality of his that attracts ladies to him and make those ladies help him even financially? 4 Likes |
Re: My Relationship Of 9 Months Just Crashed by Dyfynezz12(m): 9:47am On Dec 14, 2023 |
He saw some1 better 4 Likes |
Re: My Relationship Of 9 Months Just Crashed by StPete: 9:50am On Dec 14, 2023 |
I hope you were not the demanding type that was always asking for money and never supporting in return. 8 Likes |
Re: My Relationship Of 9 Months Just Crashed by Prettygirl200(f): 9:54am On Dec 14, 2023 |
A4alpha:Won't unblocking him be harmful? I just want to forget about him. Unblocking him will make me want to go back or if he messages me I wil want to reply him, according to him when the lady confessed she loves him he told her that he has a girlfriend and the lady to him to leave me that since I couldn't support him that am a leach, u see it has always been like this whenever a lady happens to fall for him they tend to do all of these and the comparison will start whenever he does that I always try to leave because I want his happiness, I don't want him to use it against me in the future. 2 Likes |
Re: My Relationship Of 9 Months Just Crashed by lordnkem000(m): 9:55am On Dec 14, 2023 |
The kind of comments I've been reading here on this matter makes me feel so proud of being in this forum. There's nothing wrong in a man looking for a woman who can join him build his dreams and if that woman can't do that, then she's free to go as u rightly did. All u had to do was show him u can be that girl for him but u chicken out because u know u can't support a man's dreams I guess. As long as that man never drove u away, then it means he still believed in u but u lack faith in yourself to see it.. be wise prettygirl200 26 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: My Relationship Of 9 Months Just Crashed by lilvicky68(m): 9:56am On Dec 14, 2023 |
How you want take make Christmas hair now? ![]() 10 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Relationship Of 9 Months Just Crashed by Jeon(f): 9:56am On Dec 14, 2023 |
This happens when you placed love at the top of your life budget instead of improving yourself, you are trying to improve for someone. Remember this "Men can never be pleased no matter how good and dedicated you are" . over time he keeps telling me that all the ladies that have come into his life has this tendency of supporting him and all of thatNot one lady, not two, but all the past ladies supported him before you came into the picture,yet he left the supportive relationships .Why did you not ask him why he left the supportive ones?. Before then he told me about some things I was doing which he didn't like, I tried to adjust to suit in the woman he wanted me to be character wise that was when he told me I was acting up and pretending to love him because of what I stand to gain from him.You ask Wahala, you no ask Wahala. Omo ,you don suffer for relationships since I know you for NL. Sorry dear. Next time open your eyes and don't love with all your heart Love takes advantages of good girl. 19 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: My Relationship Of 9 Months Just Crashed by Prettygirl200(f): 9:56am On Dec 14, 2023 |
Johnycastro18:Am a human am aren't perfect, I can't be everything a man wants in a woman, I have my good and bad sides, I can't change but can adjust because I love and care for that person, tried to adjust to suit him that was when he told me I was pretending and acting up to love him which wasn't true. I was trying to adjust because I cared about him too even though am not as rich as those ladies supporting him financially. 2 Likes |
Re: My Relationship Of 9 Months Just Crashed by YourGFsnatcher: 9:57am On Dec 14, 2023 |
Prettygirl200: There's nothing better that a woman can do in her man's life than support his ambition. I don't mean give him money, just the knowledge that you understand and support his ambition is enough. Its not when everything works out that you start forming like u care abt what he does. 5 Likes |
Re: My Relationship Of 9 Months Just Crashed by Prettygirl200(f): 10:00am On Dec 14, 2023 |
Mhizzard:i don't have much am a young girl in my very early twenties, am doing my best even though it's not enough but I can't go and steal or make prostitution, I still tried to adjust when he saw that he then told me I was acting up and pretending because of what I wanted to gain, that statement made me really weak. 3 Likes |
Re: My Relationship Of 9 Months Just Crashed by advanceDNA: 10:05am On Dec 14, 2023 |
Johnycastro18: She no try kee? Be like u nor get most naija women thinking.....Women don't ever believe they no try in their relationship........ To them, once they say yes to dating u ...that's 20% contributing to your life...having sex with you is 80% ....their contribution is complete..... No thanks to men that worship women ...most naija women are used to relationship that men do all the work to keep the relationship going.... they want to get spoiled, want u to contribute to their life and progress, open shop for them if they are not productive, if they have no education, u should pay, while their own contribution is sex they also want to enjoy but make u feel like their doing u a favor by "giving" u the sex ..... What's worse is that they also make u feel the sex is a bigger contribution than all your efforts..... That's why once a man comes along that wants more, like the op's boyfriend.. They can't function in such relationship cos such relationship will be too much stress for them.. 36 Likes 6 Shares |
Re: My Relationship Of 9 Months Just Crashed by Prettygirl200(f): 10:06am On Dec 14, 2023 |
lordnkem000:I want him to be happy with whomever is able to support him, i think leaving him is the best thing to do. I want peace of mind. I hope he's happy. 2 Likes |
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