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Re: My Sister Completed Her House Without Telling Any Of Us Including My Mum by OBTOREPA(m): 11:55am On Dec 23, 2023 |
Dikastan:I'm talking based on experience. |
Re: My Sister Completed Her House Without Telling Any Of Us Including My Mum by WantsandMore: 11:55am On Dec 23, 2023 |
babaYIBO:listen to "Identity " by Oliver de Coque & rest your mind |
Re: My Sister Completed Her House Without Telling Any Of Us Including My Mum by advanceDNA: 11:57am On Dec 23, 2023 |
Lekan239: I find begging others money very irritating and inconsiderate...and that's because i feel everyone is just managing themselves... so I hate it when people justify begging...what's worse here is that shes using her money for what she likes including ówámbe parties... but thinks it's cool to beg someone for their own money...(which they may not have plenty but give her because shes family) By the way i'm not the op..u pple should read well before directing ur comment..... 2 Likes |
Re: My Sister Completed Her House Without Telling Any Of Us Including My Mum by Collins4u1(m): 12:01pm On Dec 23, 2023 |
Tell you, to help with serving Mason or what. There's 99% chances that you'd try to benefit financially through one way or the other if you're told so with all due respect, knowing or not knowing isn't an issue, rest! 1 Like |
Re: My Sister Completed Her House Without Telling Any Of Us Including My Mum by Naira2Man(m): 12:01pm On Dec 23, 2023 |
SIRTee15: How is it betrayal of trust?, did she borrow money and run away with it, or did she scam anybody, you people just create bad blood btwn people this is evil, totally wrong, everybody should mind their business, it is people like you that collect the properties of children if something happens to their parents, just be happy for her and work for your own, understand that she kept it quiet becos she does not want distractions of any kind or type from anyone family or friends 2 Likes |
Re: My Sister Completed Her House Without Telling Any Of Us Including My Mum by loswhite(m): 12:06pm On Dec 23, 2023 |
Jewessgratitud3:To whom much is giving much is expected. If I share alot things with you I also expect the same energy...if you.like call it entitlement mentality. I can't control what ppl chooses to do in any of my relationships but I will respond appropriately. I will not complain but trust me our relationship will definitely change. It is as simple as that. 2 Likes |
Re: My Sister Completed Her House Without Telling Any Of Us Including My Mum by loswhite(m): 12:10pm On Dec 23, 2023 |
havenz:Exactly how they die and dash money to banks....lol. I know you don't have to trust nobody but in the end you must trust someone or else you end up trusting a stranger banker...lol while your family suffer when you die. 2 Likes |
Re: My Sister Completed Her House Without Telling Any Of Us Including My Mum by hardcore007: 12:12pm On Dec 23, 2023 |
Very wise woman. Dem for use taxing collect the money for her house. 1 Like |
Re: My Sister Completed Her House Without Telling Any Of Us Including My Mum by ericoleon(m): 12:24pm On Dec 23, 2023 |
It's a good thing fir your sister to build a house weather secretly or not, you should be proud of her and applaud her . But the aspect if her begging when she has more than enough that's really bad. 1 Like |
Re: My Sister Completed Her House Without Telling Any Of Us Including My Mum by EvangelistChuks(m): 12:25pm On Dec 23, 2023 |
Lif e is not about what you achieve but what you were able to build. Achivevement last at most a lifetime but what you build,transcends time or generations. |
Re: My Sister Completed Her House Without Telling Any Of Us Including My Mum by SeriouslySense(m): 12:28pm On Dec 23, 2023 |
You got it, i think that's the issue, hiding the house is not the matter, it is pretending to be broke. advanceDNA: |
Re: My Sister Completed Her House Without Telling Any Of Us Including My Mum by IVORY2009(m): 12:30pm On Dec 23, 2023 |
Shalommy: tete |
Re: My Sister Completed Her House Without Telling Any Of Us Including My Mum by Deeprooted: 12:35pm On Dec 23, 2023 |
Since my 'friend' accused me of being into yahoo, I unfriended him immediately without telling him anything. When he later got to know about my property in Abuja, the envy became so obvious. Tell no one about anything you plan to achieve 2 Likes |
Re: My Sister Completed Her House Without Telling Any Of Us Including My Mum by babaYIBO: 12:39pm On Dec 23, 2023 |
Manuel91: L I hope your close relatives do same for you. Especially the people you love with all your life and always ready to divulge your life progress to them. I hope your kids do same for you as well. 1 Like |
Re: My Sister Completed Her House Without Telling Any Of Us Including My Mum by rezzy: 12:43pm On Dec 23, 2023 |
Those kind thing don't bother me but it's good to tell a family member you trust so well. Some 12 years back, a young guy in my street was building a house at Agbara, he bought sand and followed the tipper. Tipper collided with a truck both driver and this young guy died. But the driver's boy made it alive. If not for that boy, the wife did not know the husband was building a house. It was the boy that showed them the land. |
Re: My Sister Completed Her House Without Telling Any Of Us Including My Mum by babaYIBO: 12:45pm On Dec 23, 2023 |
Ofadaman: You people aren’t seeing this thing in the same perspective as I want, but I understand, this is the internet until it becomes your reality. I’m talking about someone that go about acting broke and all the family would not mind contributing to donate to her. Funniest thing is, non of our parents know and my dad to death complained about the fact that she’s the most different amongst us. I was defending her in front of my dad. Begging him to forgive her whatever she must hav done. 2 Likes |
Re: My Sister Completed Her House Without Telling Any Of Us Including My Mum by Jaycee07(m): 12:46pm On Dec 23, 2023 |
babaYIBO:Ops Are you angry that your sister built a house and completed it without letting you or anyone else in the family knew about it, or this is anger and surprise about her deceit, claiming to be broke when she had a major financial investment?? 1 Like |
Re: My Sister Completed Her House Without Telling Any Of Us Including My Mum by babaYIBO: 12:46pm On Dec 23, 2023 |
Xpol: Funny enough, nobody relied or expected anything from her. |
Re: My Sister Completed Her House Without Telling Any Of Us Including My Mum by SeriouslySense(m): 12:50pm On Dec 23, 2023 |
At least she you dont have to worry about her, since she has something that could help her. Although there is no longer trust, but she can stand on her own. Move on and focus on whats ahead. But that her pretending was not good, seems she used the family to gather capital babaYIBO: 1 Like |
Re: My Sister Completed Her House Without Telling Any Of Us Including My Mum by SweetDipBenny(m): 12:52pm On Dec 23, 2023 |
People keep things to themselves this days, especially in Nigeria 🇳🇬 1 Like |
Re: My Sister Completed Her House Without Telling Any Of Us Including My Mum by babaYIBO: 12:52pm On Dec 23, 2023 |
SIRTee15: The most painful part is that I have so much regard for her. I’m never entitled to her money, infact I sometimes give her money because of her level of acting broke. I also go out of way to make sure I stand for her even when she had issue with my dad when he was alive. You know that feeling when you love someone, not because of what they want to give you, but because you just want the best for them and you want them to be happy. 3 Likes |
Re: My Sister Completed Her House Without Telling Any Of Us Including My Mum by Ripama: 12:53pm On Dec 23, 2023 |
E get why |
Re: My Sister Completed Her House Without Telling Any Of Us Including My Mum by SeriouslySense(m): 12:55pm On Dec 23, 2023 |
If you claim you really care, then you wil move on, because its time to do so, do not dwell on pain. At least not for long. babaYIBO: 2 Likes |
Re: My Sister Completed Her House Without Telling Any Of Us Including My Mum by swiych(m): 12:56pm On Dec 23, 2023 |
Once in this life you realize that no one owes u nothing, I repeat no one, then u will go far in life. 1 Like |
Re: My Sister Completed Her House Without Telling Any Of Us Including My Mum by vickydevoka(m): 12:58pm On Dec 23, 2023 |
bestman09:It doesn't matter, the living should hustle theirs. When I make money I will do the same. I can't be alive n be fighting for my own money bcus you are my wife |
Re: My Sister Completed Her House Without Telling Any Of Us Including My Mum by babaYIBO: 1:04pm On Dec 23, 2023 |
SeriouslySense: I’m not dwelling on the pain whatsoever and I’ve really moved on. Most times when I’m sharing money to my siblings in festive periods, I still include her in the sharing. But her actions has thought me to not put her on the family level that I put others, I honestly now see her as a stranger. I’m a family oriented person and I believe the way we treat family should be different from the way we treat strangers. Usually treating your family with regards and love will not be just for your own benefit, but also foster on your kids too. How you treat your siblings will definitely have impact your children as well. You don’t treat your siblings like a total stranger and expect them to treat your children like your own when you’re around or not. 6 Likes |
Re: My Sister Completed Her House Without Telling Any Of Us Including My Mum by SeriouslySense(m): 1:08pm On Dec 23, 2023 |
You have done the right thing to be genorous despite her deceits, and moving on. You are right, and that is the right thing to do, but i think in nigeria, especially southern Nigeria, we tend to to become easily jealous, and want others to be lower than us, because we like using power to oppress and use those who dont have the same priviledges, such culture destroys the people in the long run. And thinking like how you are thinking is wise and that is how we should be thinking. Being together as a family, helps in knowledge sharing, even in skill discovery, if the family are wise and not forcused on quarrels and drama. It also helps to pass on wisdom acquired by elders and helps the children to be more confident and know a lot about their strenghts. Although we may be losing some of these things, but these are the ties that helps us, when we cannot help ourselves. I hope she stops that attitude, because it breaks family ties, and what if she is alone and trully needs help, no one will trust she is authentic. Building the house and hiding that fact from everyone, is not a problem, but pretending to be broke and collecting money is the matter, she should not try to look smart and make others look like fools, especially if her intention was to use it as a means to gather capital. babaYIBO: 1 Like |
Re: My Sister Completed Her House Without Telling Any Of Us Including My Mum by Shikena(m): 1:15pm On Dec 23, 2023 |
Building her house in secret - YES (Wise decision) Pretending to be broke - YES (Wise decision) Pretending to be broke to extort money from loved ones - NO (Very callous of her) |
Re: My Sister Completed Her House Without Telling Any Of Us Including My Mum by maasoap(m): 1:15pm On Dec 23, 2023 |
Shalommy:That's a very bad idea and act. It is not good at all not trusting anyone in your family but still keep asking them for favours. 2 Likes |
Re: My Sister Completed Her House Without Telling Any Of Us Including My Mum by Shikena(m): 1:17pm On Dec 23, 2023 |
Yes, that's a very callous user. If you don't trust them then why are you going to them for favours? maasoap: 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: My Sister Completed Her House Without Telling Any Of Us Including My Mum by maasoap(m): 1:19pm On Dec 23, 2023 |
Jewessgratitud3: What a poor terrible mindset and mentality! |
Re: My Sister Completed Her House Without Telling Any Of Us Including My Mum by maasoap(m): 1:23pm On Dec 23, 2023 |
babaYIBO: She successfully alienated herself from the rest of her family 2 Likes |
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