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Re: My Sister Completed Her House Without Telling Any Of Us Including My Mum by maasoap(m): 1:26pm On Dec 23, 2023 |
Manuel91: Terrible opinion. Your family! |
Re: My Sister Completed Her House Without Telling Any Of Us Including My Mum by dettolgel: 1:32pm On Dec 23, 2023 |
Naira2Man: I don't think you read through the first page before jumping into conclusions. The op problem is not she not telling family but asking others for money claiming she is broke and not doing anything for their mom. I would rather make my siblings know that I am building and as a result I am not flush with cash to give. If my brother or sister is building a house (I know their financial capacity all of them) and ask me for money that they are broke. I will give it to them knowing that house project is really expensive and that they are probably scrapping the bottom of the barrel to put a roof over their head (which I consider a smart move), I will give to them. But if I am not aware that they are building and thy ask me for money personally I won't drop because like I said I know their financial worth. I would think they are being wasteful or are being scammed. Thank God for the type of family I have. At least one of us will be aware of what is going on. We don't have to tell the whole family but at least one person should know, that was how my parents raised us. 2 Likes |
Re: My Sister Completed Her House Without Telling Any Of Us Including My Mum by SIRTee15: 1:38pm On Dec 23, 2023 |
Jewessgratitud3: I'm sure if your blood sister keeps her pregnancy secret from u and only gets to know when she post the newborn baby on facebook...u will nearly die of heart attack and feel horribly betrayed. U will fight her, your parents and other siblings for their betrayal. That's exactly how it feels for the op. Even blood sister far, if you suddenly see the wedding pictures of your seemingly best friend on social media but she didn't tell u; I'm 100% sure u will cry buckets of tears that night and not sleep. 2 Likes |
Re: My Sister Completed Her House Without Telling Any Of Us Including My Mum by maasoap(m): 1:38pm On Dec 23, 2023 |
xpressnow: Ni ile aye, ile asan kan naa yii? Hehe!! If you are living a life that you can't even trust anyone in your family (including your mother and father), I don't think you should even be relating with them anymore. We're not talking about putting them in charge here, but to just share the good news 3 Likes |
Re: My Sister Completed Her House Without Telling Any Of Us Including My Mum by Xpol: 1:54pm On Dec 23, 2023 |
babaYIBO:She might have realized she loses opportunities whenever she shares her intention with people. Sometimes it's good to finish your project before sharing it with people who won't have direct impact on it. I hope you understand what I'm saying. If she sees you as someone whose input will really be helpful in the project she would let you know. People like her don't trust easily and that's a good thing. Sometimes it's good not to be easily predictable. 3 Likes |
Re: My Sister Completed Her House Without Telling Any Of Us Including My Mum by ExudeLoveToAll: 2:14pm On Dec 23, 2023 |
Shalommy: And she becomes an obstacle to other family members, collecting money from them indsiguise of borrowing even when some are struggling to keep up with life. Her character doesn't portray someone who wants to mind their business, you don't put pressure on others just because you want to succeed. Do your thing and stop putting pressure on others. 1 Like |
Re: My Sister Completed Her House Without Telling Any Of Us Including My Mum by ExudeLoveToAll: 2:15pm On Dec 23, 2023 |
advanceDNA: Leave that girl, don't know why they don't put their critical thinking skills while commenting. You want to succeed but still go ahead to pull down others. |
Re: My Sister Completed Her House Without Telling Any Of Us Including My Mum by Naira2Man(m): 2:16pm On Dec 23, 2023 |
dettolgel: So this is the reason why you people are angry with her, what kind of thinking is this? I am broke lend me money I will return it on so and so day so becos you borrow me I most tell you I am building house, the money did I not return it?, she is a smart girl she was building house and she told everybody she is broke so everybody left her alone, in every family some will have while some will have more, it takes real sacrifice to build wealth who knows maybe her husband is sacrificing different kinds of insults at work just to push and encourage his wife, he know rent payments will soon be removed from their wage bill and they can use that rent for other developmental projects mean while your own husband is forming big man paying for other peoples drinks at bar, in this Nigeria of today you push yourself if you want success, you keep on investing in your family's development be4 you realise it you are climbing people will be telling you that you are lucky but you create your own luck with focus and smart working methods. please she borrow money from you she did not borrow money from, I am broke or I am not broke that woman do not do any wrong she worked hard and she achieved celebrate her! 1 Like |
Re: My Sister Completed Her House Without Telling Any Of Us Including My Mum by ExudeLoveToAll: 2:19pm On Dec 23, 2023 |
Shalommy: It's fine to collect and put others on financial pressure while using yours without judiciously. You are saying the family members she run to for financial help should have declined her request at all times isn't it? This same attitude is why I can't roll with a woman who thinks she was made to collect and not to give. 1 Like |
Re: My Sister Completed Her House Without Telling Any Of Us Including My Mum by ExudeLoveToAll: 2:24pm On Dec 23, 2023 |
Jewessgratitud3: Concealing your plans is your right but putting your loved ones in financial pressure when you can afford it is a different thing altogether. Where I have issues is putting others in tight positions while she acts broke so that they can feel empathetic and give her the money. Personally I live a covert and classified life but I can't beg a pin from family and friends when I know I can afford a thousand pin. Do your thing and allow others do their, that's life. 2 Likes |
Re: My Sister Completed Her House Without Telling Any Of Us Including My Mum by CrossRhodes: 2:25pm On Dec 23, 2023 |
Shalommy:This is a very foolish talk and mindset |
Re: My Sister Completed Her House Without Telling Any Of Us Including My Mum by mfm04622: 2:33pm On Dec 23, 2023 |
SIRTee15: Why would I be upset? Her life, her family, her choices! 1 Like |
Re: My Sister Completed Her House Without Telling Any Of Us Including My Mum by mfm04622: 2:33pm On Dec 23, 2023 |
ExudeLoveToAll: She needed the money. That she is building a house does not mean she can't be broke at any time. 2 Likes |
Re: My Sister Completed Her House Without Telling Any Of Us Including My Mum by izubext007: 2:34pm On Dec 23, 2023 |
For you to complian , she has a reason to to do so |
Re: My Sister Completed Her House Without Telling Any Of Us Including My Mum by Tallysmallz(f): 2:43pm On Dec 23, 2023 |
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Re: My Sister Completed Her House Without Telling Any Of Us Including My Mum by babaYIBO: 2:52pm On Dec 23, 2023 |
izubext007: Lol, I’m not complaining. Everybody’s fine. I’m just relating to similar situation with the thread mentioned in the OP. A very close friend of mine traveled to the UK without informing me all throughout his plans, I swear to God, it didn’t move me one bit and we still talk and laugh over it today. I understand that nobody owes your anything. ,but when it comes to family, I don’t entirely believe same. Because when all the chips are down, your family is all you got. Dead or alive. |
Re: My Sister Completed Her House Without Telling Any Of Us Including My Mum by sonofsteven: 2:56pm On Dec 23, 2023 |
[quote author=advanceDNA post=127586604] Building ur own place secretly is one thing ... pretending to be broke, building ur own house and telling ur folks to give ur money is another thing ....That's exploitation of family ties and the church mind ur family members naturally have towards u..... It's wickedness.[/quot Seconded |
Re: My Sister Completed Her House Without Telling Any Of Us Including My Mum by JealousCobra(m): 2:58pm On Dec 23, 2023 |
Shalommy: She will be wise to bury herself when she dies. Nonsense. |
Re: My Sister Completed Her House Without Telling Any Of Us Including My Mum by purples25(f): 3:27pm On Dec 23, 2023 |
If she tells one person, the secret will spread. No one will help her with money, 'after all she is building a house. Why will I help someone that has enough money to build her own house...' They will also bill her heavily. She is now a big girl. Haven't you also seen where someone who was trusted with a secret would come out and expose it without an ounce of shame or fear? The only thing the exposed person would hear is sorry, or even reprimands. She was afraid because she didn't know who that person would be. She was being careful. 2 Likes |
Re: My Sister Completed Her House Without Telling Any Of Us Including My Mum by KIDfurniture(m): 4:10pm On Dec 23, 2023 |
Sell it off babaYIBO: |
Re: My Sister Completed Her House Without Telling Any Of Us Including My Mum by DMerciful(m): 4:19pm On Dec 23, 2023 |
Seems you have a wicked mind like her Shalommy: 1 Like |
Re: My Sister Completed Her House Without Telling Any Of Us Including My Mum by toprealman: 4:23pm On Dec 23, 2023 |
babaYIBO:These things are assessed on a daily. Fact is she gives no shii about you and actually thinks she is smart. This happens all the time. It’s a call only you can make! 1 Like |
Re: My Sister Completed Her House Without Telling Any Of Us Including My Mum by BluntCrazeMan: 4:36pm On Dec 23, 2023 |
Shalommy:Going forward,, the treatment from the family changes. Being a landlady is more important to her. But relationship with the family is now pretentious -- going forward. 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: My Sister Completed Her House Without Telling Any Of Us Including My Mum by xpressnow: 4:36pm On Dec 23, 2023 |
Sharing good news before or after it's materialize is dangerous IF shared with the wrong people, family members inclusive. But how would you know them? They don't have marks on their foreheads, or walk around with billboards. Most times, they are your super religious people. Yes, you're right about cutting such wicked people out of your life. Now don't get me wrong, we still have some amazing family members - amazing moms, dads, and siblings. To anyone reading this, thank your stars if you're truly blessed with them. However, we also have a lot of evil moms, dads, and siblings who roll with the devil. No one has the stats, so we can stick to the use of quantifiers such as some and a lot/many. What's even crazy is that some people trust their fathers, mothers, and/or siblings so much without knowing that it's that same person/group they trusted with their life that's behind their affliction. Some will never know - they'll just blame their lot in life on the economy, the Nigerian factor, & the rest of it, and console themselves with Bible/Quran. But in actuality, na one or a coalition of member of their household who has held them down. For some, they'll realize later, later in life - it'll be too late. They would have lost their best years and days. Did you know that opolopo lo je pe iya to bi won lo de baba won magolo ti ko fi jeeyan. Nipa bee, iya waa diran fun iya, baba, ati awon omo? oh my, oh my, oh my. Blacks why did you chose this lot? My advice to everyone I like is for them to not lose guard IF they themselves are not part of these Oloribuu to n ja ile onile lati fi bo ti won leyin. maasoap: |
Re: My Sister Completed Her House Without Telling Any Of Us Including My Mum by chrisj2(m): 4:37pm On Dec 23, 2023 |
Are we missing the part where the sister was Scamming family members out of money by pretending she is broke... She can be as secretive as she wants but dont pretend you don't have money... It is underhand and breaks trusts! |
Re: My Sister Completed Her House Without Telling Any Of Us Including My Mum by advanceDNA: 4:38pm On Dec 23, 2023 |
purples25: .... U want your family to help u when u are in need of support and finance but hide your victories and days of plenty from them....haba!!...It's not being careful...it's being self-centered and selfish....she wony bury herself with all her carefullness u know |
Re: My Sister Completed Her House Without Telling Any Of Us Including My Mum by Whatisurproblem(m): 4:56pm On Dec 23, 2023 |
advanceDNA:🧹🪄🧹🧹🪄🧹🧹🪄🪄! So you want me to advise you to kill your sister because she's wiser and smarter than you having known you are a lazy 🦥🦥🦥🦥🦥🦥🦥 baga 1 Like |
Re: My Sister Completed Her House Without Telling Any Of Us Including My Mum by advanceDNA: 4:58pm On Dec 23, 2023 |
Whatisurproblem: U can't even see who posted topic about her sister .....u are rushing into some elses comment ..insulting at the slightest chance u get ....I not too get ur time...so u free to run mouth today..... |
Re: My Sister Completed Her House Without Telling Any Of Us Including My Mum by Thinktwicemybro: 5:38pm On Dec 23, 2023 |
God bless her wisdom. She is wise 1 Like |
Re: My Sister Completed Her House Without Telling Any Of Us Including My Mum by Whatisurproblem(m): 6:23pm On Dec 23, 2023 |
advanceDNA:you, Op, everyone supporting Op are Lazy 🦥 witch 🧹🪄 1 Like |
Re: My Sister Completed Her House Without Telling Any Of Us Including My Mum by eepeepook: 6:28pm On Dec 23, 2023 |
Telling people your plans before completion can jinx them. See me being close to japa for good only for a distant relative to promise me a well paying job. Such job will elevate me from traveling out with only a suitcase to traveling out with the means to survive for months. Now, shame dey catch me to explain why I changed my mind on disappearing since two months ago. 2 Likes |
Re: My Sister Completed Her House Without Telling Any Of Us Including My Mum by advanceDNA: 6:30pm On Dec 23, 2023 |
Whatisurproblem: U no sabi read and apply context joor.....u waste money for school.... 1 Like |
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