Manuel91:
Abegiii!!
I don’t see anything wrong with that; people need to stop being entitled. What you’re allowed to know is what you get; be it family or friend. Respect people’s decision. The fact that your family decides to make moves without informing any of you doesn’t mean they love you less. They’re just comfortable operating that way, which shouldn’t be a reason to be upset. Being upset only shows some sought of envy towards the information… my opinion!!

Naira2Man:


How is it betrayal of trust?, did she borrow money and run away with it, or did she scam anybody, you people just create bad blood btwn people this is evil, totally wrong, everybody should mind their business, it is people like you that collect the properties of children if something happens to their parents, just be happy for her and work for your own, understand that she kept it quiet becos she does not want distractions of any kind or type from anyone family or friends

Jewessgratitud3:


If you can view some people in a certain way, why can't the guys friend do same? Do you really know the kind of person the op is and how his friend views him.?
Lets stop condemning others for choosing to do things their own way especially if it doesn't affect other people directly.

xpressnow:
Way to go!

Oloriibuu ni overwhelmly majority of we blacks. Trust me, she moved that way for a reason.

One of you in the family might carry a bad energy (if you know what I mean) which wouldn't allow her to start/complete the project. It might be you, your mother, or someone else in that family, or it might be for 'nother reasons.

The only thing I don't approve of is asking for money from you under false pretense. [/b] But I approve of acting broke - eni eleni ko fe kan ba toun je. [/b] Don't quote me if you don't understand how "evilicious" blacks have been since.... If you don't get it, forget about it.

babaYIBO:


Funny enough, nobody relied or expected anything from her.

Shalommy:
She's a wise woman. Some family members are obstacles. Chaii..

advanceDNA:

Building ur own place secretly is one thing ...

pretending to be broke, building ur own house and telling ur folks to give ur money is another thing ....That's exploitation of family ties and the church mind ur family members naturally have towards u..... It's wickedness.

dettolgel:


I don't think you read through the first page before jumping into conclusions. The op problem is not she not telling family but asking others for money claiming she is broke and not doing anything for their mom.

I would rather make my siblings know that I am building and as a result I am not flush with cash to give. If my brother or sister is building a house (I know their financial capacity all of them) and ask me for money that they are broke. I will give it to them knowing that house project is really expensive and that they are probably scrapping the bottom of the barrel to put a roof over their head (which I consider a smart move), I will give to them.

But if I am not aware that they are building and thy ask me for money personally I won't drop because like I said I know their financial worth. I would think they are being wasteful or are being scammed.

Thank God for the type of family I have. At least one of us will be aware of what is going on. We don't have to tell the whole family but at least one person should know, that was how my parents raised us.

Shalommy:
You can't be a cheerful giver and expect better achievements. She did well. Congrats to her.

Jewessgratitud3:
Why is this a problem and why are some of you feeling so entitled and wanting to be in the know of other people's private life and plans?

The other day it was a friend complaining that his friend didn't tell him he was building a house. Abeg, Shey Dem collect money for una hand take build the house nii?

A person has the right to conceal his plans from the public until he has accomplished it and you have no right to condemn him for it. He even told you people after successfully completing his project and instead of you to be happy for him you're angry. for what? Did you have plots to t.wat his plans.

Please, never divulge your plans until it is matured and successfully accomplished because some people are dream killers and will destroy your plans even before you accomplish it..

Be happy for him. He owes non of you any explanations. When you too build your own don't tell him.

Shalommy:
She's a wise woman. Some family members are obstacles. Chaii..

SIRTee15:


I'm sure if your blood sister keeps her pregnancy secret from u and only gets to know when she post the newborn baby on facebook...u will nearly die of heart attack and feel horribly betrayed.
U will fight her, your parents and other siblings for their betrayal. That's exactly how it feels for the op.
Even blood sister far, if you suddenly see the wedding pictures of your seemingly best friend on social media but she didn't tell u; I'm 100% sure u will cry buckets of tears that night and not sleep.

ExudeLoveToAll:



Concealing your plans is your right but putting your loved ones in financial pressure when you can afford it is a different thing altogether. Where I have issues is putting others in tight positions while she acts broke so that they can feel empathetic and give her the money.

Personally I live a covert and classified life but I can't beg a pin from family and friends when I know I can afford a thousand pin. Do your thing and allow others do their, that's life.

advanceDNA:

Building ur own place secretly is one thing ...

pretending to be broke, building ur own house and telling ur folks to give ur money is another thing ....That's exploitation of family ties and the church mind ur family members naturally have towards u..... It's wickedness.

izubext007:
For you to complian , she has a reason to to do so

Shalommy:
She's a wise woman. Some family members are obstacles. Chaii..

babaYIBO:
Just saw a thread where a guy is complaining about his friend not telling him about the fact that he was building his house, and I see a lot of comments complaining condemning the said friend.

https://www.nairaland.com/7892469/he-completed-house-without-uttering

Funny how people exact same thing happened to me last year, this time it wasn’t a from a friend but a blood sister who I thought loved me the way I do for her.

This woman was building her house while pretending to everyone that she was broke.

Funniest thing is, few weeks to moving to us getting to know about the house, she was asking me to lend her 300k as she has plenty debts to pay. Almost sent her 100k, but then I remembered how she prefers to party with her women associates more than she’s willing to buy anything for my parents. This is someone that my dad built and opened shop for.

If a friend do this to me now, walahi I won’t be surprised.

Shalommy:
You can't be a cheerful giver and expect better achievements. She did well. Congrats to her.

babaYIBO:
Just saw a thread where a guy is complaining about his friend not telling him about the fact that he was building his house, and I see a lot of comments complaining condemning the said friend.

https://www.nairaland.com/7892469/he-completed-house-without-uttering

Funny how people exact same thing happened to me last year, this time it wasn’t a from a friend but a blood sister who I thought loved me the way I do for her.

This woman was building her house while pretending to everyone that she was broke.

Funniest thing is, few weeks to moving to us getting to know about the house, she was asking me to lend her 300k as she has plenty debts to pay. Almost sent her 100k, but then I remembered how she prefers to party with her women associates more than she’s willing to buy anything for my parents. This is someone that my dad built and opened shop for.

If a friend do this to me now, walahi I won’t be surprised.

Shalommy:
She's now a landlady. So, try and build your own.

maasoap:


Ni ile aye, ile asan kan naa yii? Hehe!!
If you are living a life that you can't even trust anyone in your family (including your mother and father), I don't think you should even be relating with them anymore.
We're not talking about putting them in charge here, but to just share the good news

purples25:
If she tells one person, the secret will spread.

No one will help her with money, 'after all she is building a house. Why will I help someone that has enough money to build her own house...'

They will also bill her heavily. She is now a big girl.

Haven't you also seen where someone who was trusted with a secret would come out and expose it without an ounce of shame or fear? The only thing the exposed person would hear is sorry, or even reprimands. She was afraid because she didn't know who that person would be. She was being careful.

advanceDNA:


U don't even know how to make comments on nairaland....always rushing to comment...

Whatisurproblem:
🧹🪄🧹🧹🪄🧹🧹🪄🪄! So you want me to advise you to kill your sister because she's wiser and smarter than you having known you are a lazy 🦥🦥🦥🦥🦥🦥🦥 baga

advanceDNA:


U can't even see who posted topic about her sister .....u are rushing into some elses comment ..insulting at the slightest chance u get ....I not too get ur time...so u free to run mouth today.....

Whatisurproblem:
you, Op, everyone supporting Op are Lazy 🦥 witch 🧹🪄