Valoromega:
My wife and I are expecting our first child, so currently I'm saving up money before the baby comes, we are also trying to get baby things of almost 400k.

But she wants me to buy Christmas rice for her mom. I've already decided that I'm not buying anything for anyone this December, including my own mom. But she wants me to buy for her mom which I refused becauze my baby is more important.
Mind you, she has elder ones who can't even get anything for their mom this December (she's the youngest). I just lied to her that I'm broke and I don't have any money. But I have close to 1.7 million which I want I to save for the baby and also get a car for when the baby comes.

I'm I making the right decision by ignoring everyone this December or should I take like 100k and just buy a bag of rice and share to the mom.

Personally I don't want to spend a dime on anyone because my child is the most important thing right now

1. You have 1.7m but you can't use 0.055m as Christmas gift to your mum n mother-in-law.
2. You lied you are broke to your pregnant wife. I just hope you are taking good care of her enough.
3. I just pity your pregnant wife n una future as you guys have along way to go on this your habit. I just hope your wife knows the kind of person she is married to and prepared.

Valoromega:


I've thought about this and it's a very good reason. I won't lie, when it comes to my pregnant wife and the baby, my mother inlaw will go through hell for them. When the baby is born she will be the one to do the caring. I think I'll sacrifice 100k to buy the rice and other things for both my mom and my mother in law. But I tell me wife I bought it on credit ( the seller is close to us)

You don't need to explain to anyone your source of income just be good and you would receive blessings.

Nazgul:

1.7m in Tinubu's Nigeria is rubbish. No thanks to inflation and high dollar rate.

Do you know that at child both a considerable amount of that money would go into the hospital expenses. After being discharged from the hospital, there are still other things you'll have to keep buying.

Baby soap and cream.

Napkins.

Baby milk formular.

Baby clothes.

Routine medical checkup.

Coupled with your regular household expenses.

If he does this consistently for 3 months, that 1.7m would finish.

If he's working for a company, medical insurance would pay almost everything, he may not spend for hospital bills. I didn't spend too except a few minor expenses. Regular household expenses, more money would come to augment that and his savings would increase.

Valoromega:
My wife and I are expecting our first child, so currently I'm saving up money before the baby comes, we are also trying to get baby things of almost 400k.

But she wants me to buy Christmas rice for her mom. I've already decided that I'm not buying anything for anyone this December, including my own mom. But she wants me to buy for her mom which I refused becauze my baby is more important.
Mind you, she has elder ones who can't even get anything for their mom this December (she's the youngest). I just lied to her that I'm broke and I don't have any money. But I have close to 1.7 million which I want I to save for the baby and also get a car for when the baby comes.

I'm I making the right decision by ignoring everyone this December or should I take like 100k and just buy a bag of rice and share to the mom.

Personally I don't want to spend a dime on anyone because my child is the most important thing right now

You did well with your decision

But if she continues to pressure you

That 100k

Send 50k to your mum and her mum in her presence

Call both mum and wish them happy Christmas and let use the 50k to entertain themselves

Your wife will give you another pressure for some thing else, learn to stand by your words and stamp on your feet if you know that you can't afford her need and that the need is not really necessary ar that time

I am still wondering what baby items you need to buy with 400k

As for the 1.7m that you have, you are planning to buy a car. Pls think twice before you waste that money

Arrival of a baby is always an expensive moment but full of joy

Esthered:


300k for baby things oga mi?
I think it's on the high side sha o.
Only if they're buying the consumables in bulk.

Lol 300k not on the high side oh

I have spent 200k on baby items and I'm not through yet. Never new expecting a first baby is this expensive ooooooh

Acidosis:


150k? Is it for ewa or garri? Please don't have a baby with this mindset. You're clearly not ready. We are in 2023 not 2020.

For peace of mind;

Baby things - budget 300k upwards
Another 300k-1m for emergency or elective CS.

Thank God for National health insurance, scheme.

SamuelAnyawu:


Lol 300k not on the high side oh

I have spent 200k on baby items and I'm not through yet. Never new expecting a first baby is this expensive ooooooh

Not surprised though. Some first time mothers mostly buy things the baby will neither need nor use as long as the money is available. While some others do it to pepper other mothers in the maternity wards.

Don't be a stingy man. This should not call for debate. Show live to your in laws. They gave birth and trained a full child for you not an slowpoke or a deformed being. What is in rice? Will you even be willing to support when your inlaws have health challenges? But you will be ready to buy a cow if they die. Your buying that rice elevates you in their eyes. You must even package N10k for chicken for them. They will eat from you and pray for you. All the best bro

So it's bag of rice you will buy for your mother and mother inlaw that will finish your money or not make you get a car and baby stuffs? If you decided not spend on ANYBODY this December, so your mother has turned to ANYBODY... Bro get your compass together and don't be wayward

is not bad. as an inlaw you will try and access their home weather they have something like that for Christmas. if you have do it

9free:

Not surprised though. Some first time mothers mostly buy things the baby will neither need nor use as long as the money is available. While some others do it to pepper other mothers in the maternity wards.

I swear if not that I stood my ground and stepped down on many stuffs maybe I should be coasting home to 350k

Can't wait to behold my first child

Bros why are you so petty? Buying rice for your wife mom is normal thing to do this yultide season! DAMN! Most time we men are the problem in marriages today and not the women, if tomorrow the woman start acting stubborn and also start giving you hell and also start denying you sex, na you go still run come here dey come complain and na you cause am. HOW MUCH IS A BAG OF RICE OR EVEN HALF BAG OF RICE THAT YOU CANT BUY FOR YOUR MOTHER INLAW?? bros change your ways oh make you non go turn that beautiful wife of yours to a monster someday oh

You sound to me like a bad in-law! Whatever you are buying for baby that will cost you 400k! Inasmuch as that's your choice,do this singular thing that will make your wife happy considering her condition.
My friend,go and buy that rice, even if na half bag.

Valoromega:
My wife and I are expecting our first child, so currently I'm saving up money before the baby comes, we are also trying to get baby things of almost 400k.

But she wants me to buy Christmas rice for her mom. I've already decided that I'm not buying anything for anyone this December, including my own mom. But she wants me to buy for her mom which I refused becauze my baby is more important.
Mind you, she has elder ones who can't even get anything for their mom this December (she's the youngest). I just lied to her that I'm broke and I don't have any money. But I have close to 1.7 million which I want I to save for the baby and also get a car for when the baby comes.

I'm I making the right decision by ignoring everyone this December or should I take like 100k and just buy a bag of rice and share to the mom.

Personally I don't want to spend a dime on anyone because my child is the most important thing right now

Buy. Little things count for a woman who cares. Make the sacrifice. God bless you and your family. From all of us at the Catalyst Men Network International, Lagos

ikeno:
Oga, show love by buying a big of rice and share to both families it will not prevent you from getting things you will need for your baby. Beside, she will be the one to come and do umugwo for you baby

And don’t you think he will spend more during the Omugwo?

You think the N1.7m is enough, with rate of inflation, you will be surprised the money might not even be enough
The guy should be allowed to follow his plans, she has other siblings, let them contribute money and buy bag of rice for their mother beside the guy said he is not even buying for his own Mother too so make everybody rest

SamuelAnyawu:


Lol 300k not on the high side oh

I have spent 200k on baby items and I'm not through yet. Never new expecting a first baby is this expensive ooooooh

It is well sir. Things are very expensive.
Pele oooo.
I remember then my cost drivers were diapers and formula. I was buying formula in carton especially at 3 to 6 months when baby drinks more than 120 ml 4 to 6 times daily.
If your woman can do exclusive breastfeeding, it's WAY cheaper. I didn't lactate well.

Irrespective of whatever reasons you may have, since you know ur wife likes her mum so much and she wants her to have something for Christmas knowing fully well her siblings won't be getting anything for their mum, you should help her take care of her mum. Appreciate the woman who just gave birth to your child and show you care for her family. She will love and respect you the more. Please buy the rice and even add chicken to it. U are Mr capable. God will provide enough money for the baby. Congrats boss

My dear bro, that is life for you.
You can make decisions yourself if you are single.

Now that you have a life partner, it's not always easy to make sole decisions like Abacha or Idi Amin Dada of Uganda.

Please, God will replenish your pocket when you do for others.

Kindly take the 100k, buy the rice and tell them to rebag for you so you can share to her mom and your mother too.

100k will never stop your plans.

The bottom line is your wife will be happier, comfortable and will even respect you more as she prepares to deliver.

I wish you safe delivery of your baby and a happy home.

Remain blessed.

Look at issue from sacrificial dimension to allow peace to reign.. Believe God and he will supply all you need to take good care of your baby .. Women do act like baby but their actions may be spiritual .. we need the wisdom of God to understand their complexity..

Man U ain't stingy jare, but you can do half bag of rice each for the moms with small oil and stuffs. Your family comes first, when care comes now na ur wife go first jump up and her mom too because u are taking care of her daughter

You’re a good man. Your baby and family 1st. Your baby go chop all that money ooo

Valoromega:
My wife and I are expecting our first child, so currently I'm saving up money before the baby comes, we are also trying to get baby things of almost 400k.

But she wants me to buy Christmas rice for her mom. I've already decided that I'm not buying anything for anyone this December, including my own mom. But she wants me to buy for her mom which I refused becauze my baby is more important.


Mind you, she has elder ones who can't even get anything for their mom this December (she's the youngest). I just lied to her that I'm broke and I don't have any money. But I have close to 1.7 million which I want I to save for the baby and also get a car for when the baby comes.

I'm I making the right decision by ignoring everyone this December or should I take like 100k and just buy a bag of rice and share to the mom.

Personally I don't want to spend a dime on anyone because my child is the most important thing right now

Which car do you want to buy for 1.6 million? 😂😂😂

albert2512:


1. You have 1.7m but you can't use 0.055m as Christmas gift to your mum n mother-in-law.
2. You lied you are broke to your pregnant wife. I just hope you are taking good care of her enough.
3. I just pity your pregnant wife n una future as you guys have along way to go on this your habit. I just hope your wife knows the kind of person she is married to and prepared.

If a woman knows how much you have saved up as a man , be it gf or wife , it is guaranteed she will pressure you into taking bit by bit ,and still encourage you more will come till it's finished.

She will still be the one to blame you for spending recklessly

Guy go and find a better place to sit down, can you listen to your self?

fykes:
What's sort of men do we have these days.

A woman that is having your baby deserves every goddam thing in the world that she asks for.

In making a family, the average man throws in cash and hardworking, the woman gives her life.

So the baby no belong to the mother too abi?

My guy, I will advise you to just buy few necessary things for the baby cos, you can't buy baby things at once if not, it would become useless. Buy as the baby growing, don't buy once.

Valoromega:


I've thought about this and it's a very good reason. I won't lie, when it comes to my pregnant wife and the baby, my mother inlaw will go through hell for them. When the baby is born she will be the one to do the caring. I think I'll sacrifice 100k to buy the rice and other things for both my mom and my mother in law. But I tell me wife I bought it on credit ( the seller is close to us)

You don't have to lie bro, especially when it is not even needed to lie

Valoromega:
My wife and I are expecting our first child, so currently I'm saving up money before the baby comes, we are also trying to get baby things of almost 400k.

But she wants me to buy Christmas rice for her mom. I've already decided that I'm not buying anything for anyone this December, including my own mom. But she wants me to buy for her mom which I refused becauze my baby is more important.
Mind you, she has elder ones who can't even get anything for their mom this December (she's the youngest). I just lied to her that I'm broke and I don't have any money. But I have close to 1.7 million which I want I to save for the baby and also get a car for when the baby comes.

I'm I making the right decision by ignoring everyone this December or should I take like 100k and just buy a bag of rice and share to the mom.

Personally I don't want to spend a dime on anyone because my child is the most important thing right now

Do not mind those headless people ask you to turn to father Christmas all in the name of pleasing people, there are other period you can extend your arm of love, not necessarily festive period. These set of people will come back at you if you cant provide for your home, aside the baby items, hospital bills and drugs is there, naming ceremony is there, utility bills is there, moreover you have plans of getting a Car, do not sacrifice your goals for someone else pleasure

Eriokanmi:
How much is a bag of rice? Nothing is too much to sacrifice for your wife guy. You may not realise how much she would appreciate that later

I no gree. How come wife no fit afford bag of rice 4 her mama loz

Zonefree:


A wife that can't afford one bag of rice for her mother is a BIG liability to her husband.

- A man will kneel and beg a woman to marry him.

- Same man will pay bride price

- Same man will organize and foot the weeding bills.

- Same man will pay for hospital bills

- Same man will also take care of the wife's family

All just for procreation?

Wetin man dey gain for marriage

what men gain from marriage is lifetime slavery for women and children

Zonefree:


A wife that can't afford one bag of rice for her mother is a BIG liability to her husband.

Maybe in Christiandom but not in Islam.

Nazgul:

1.7m in Tinubu's Nigeria is rubbish. No thanks to inflation and high dollar rate.

Do you know that at child both a considerable amount of that money would go into the hospital expenses. After being discharged from the hospital, there are still other things you'll have to keep buying.

Baby soap and cream.

Napkins.

Baby milk formular.

Baby clothes.

Routine medical checkup.

Coupled with your regular household expenses.

If he does this consistently for 3 months, that 1.7m would finish.

for were I’m no go reach 3months , a month money don finish naira don turn too weightless for a currency i think we should switch to Chinese yuan