ZIMDRILL:


who said it its compulsory ?


A son/daughter in law never get anything in return

Adults/Elders lets also practice to return the favour lets exchange gifts not only receiving

You have been given a whole SEED, what do want again from those parents/elders apart from godly counsel and guidance.

GOD says it is compulsory.

Commonsense says it compulsory.

Human relations says it is compulsory.

Exodus 20:12 KJV
Honour thy father and thy mother: that thy days may be long upon the land which the Lord thy God giveth thee.

Deuteronomy 5:16 KJV
Honour thy father and thy mother, as the Lord thy God hath commanded thee; that thy days may be prolonged, and that it may go well with thee, in the land which the Lord thy God giveth thee.

Matthew 15:4 KJV
For God commanded, saying, Honour thy father and mother: and, He that curseth father or mother, let him die the death.

Matthew 19:19 KJV
Honour thy father and thy mother: and, Thou shalt love thy neighbour as thyself.

Ephesians 6:2 KJV
Honour thy father and mother; (which is the first commandment with promise

Klass99:
You are making a very sensible decision and I applaud you for it. You didn't have to lie about being broke sha, you would have told her hoha everything you said here. If she wants a bag of rice so badly for her mother let her make it happen from her own pocket and bank account na.

I say this as a woman who is sick and tired of seeing men on this forum behave like sissies, allowing their wives/women, to dictate or run things anyhow. For example, she mounts pressure on you for a 3rd or 4th child and you succumb, she mounts pressure about japa/relocation, you succumb and start running yourselves into financial debt, she mistreats the help and you stay silent, claiming women are powerful like that or some sort of nonsense to that effect which you people say.

I read comments at times by male users and think to myself when will some of these jackasses, be the men that they were created to be and lead their households right? You do the heavy financial lifting but allow someone to add to that financial burden with an extra child, an extra mouth to feed and more school fees to pay, when there was nothing wrong with the two kids you had already.

Children are expensive and you are preparing well for your first child, don't allow anyone derail you from that plan. Is it not the same rice we have been eating since the beginning of the year? What is now special about a bag of rice for Xmas? I really hate the pressures people mount on themselves and others during this season, we have turned the whole matter into something else.

Meanwhile I have a bag of 50kg rice for sale at 50k .

God bless you for this comment...

9free:



Thank God for National health insurance, scheme.

Hmmn.. Nice

Are you a government worker?

Esthered:

Maybe it's not his first child.

That's right

bravehost4u:


do DNA first before you start dragging who/what is most important. E get why sha

have you done DNA for yourself? do you know your true father? you can't be demanding for DNA test on a child when you yourself never know your fate

Gerrard59:
The comments are irritating!

The wife's siblings DID NOT BUY ANYTHING FOR THEIR MOM! Does it mean OP loves his mother-in-law more than her children? And in the post, I did not see any of their fathers mentioned. So, what exactly do men gain from marriage?! Let's assume they are alive, what are they gaining from marriage?

This marriage thing get as e be. Why should a man be saddled with the responsibility of catering for another family when he was not responsible for having them?

Ah! Wahala go dey!

The children bear your name

Valoromega:
My wife and I are expecting our first child, so currently I'm saving up money before the baby comes, we are also trying to get baby things of almost 400k.

But she wants me to buy Christmas rice for her mom. I've already decided that I'm not buying anything for anyone this December, including my own mom. But she wants me to buy for her mom which I refused becauze my baby is more important.
Mind you, she has elder ones who can't even get anything for their mom this December (she's the youngest). I just lied to her that I'm broke and I don't have any money. But I have close to 1.7 million which I want I to save for the baby and also get a car for when the baby comes.

I'm I making the right decision by ignoring everyone this December or should I take like 100k and just buy a bag of rice and share to the mom.

Personally I don't want to spend a dime on anyone because my child is the most important thing right now

I will advise you get a bag of rice for both Mum, or you can send them 50k each. This is festive season. You're not getting them rice every month are you?


We rice by lifting others

Edusouls:
women are just the worst type of parasitic species of God’s creation , a grown up woman cannot buy rice for her mum without her husband’s money? He must buy it and also buy for her mum for things to balance Abby? Na only beauty, pussie and pleasure nature give u, Una empty completely

your mentality is wack. A virtuous woman is far better than a woman who can afford a bag of rice but lack the major things

real men do not go after a woman that can afford basic things but a virtuous woman that'd give them peace

albert2512:


1. You have 1.7m but you can't use 0.055m as Christmas gift to your mum n mother-in-law.
2. You lied you are broke to your pregnant wife. I just hope you are taking good care of her enough.
3. I just pity your pregnant wife n una future as you guys have along way to go on this your habit. I just hope your wife knows the kind of person she is married to and prepared.

Op is fvcking annoying. if i happen to be his wife, i may be tempted to divorce him. very stingy thing

Offpointng:


But OP you did not try, you have a whooping sum of 1.7m I see no reason why you shouldn't allow ur mother in law have atleast 1m outta the money. and since the budget for the baby is 400k, you'd be left with 300k. Man you'll still have alot at ur disposal

iamsense:
So it's bag of rice you will buy for your mother and mother inlaw that will finish your money or not make you get a car and baby stuffs? If you decided not spend on ANYBODY this December, so your mother has turned to ANYBODY... Bro get your compass together and don't be wayward

Op is really annoying

Valoromega:
My wife and I are expecting our first child, so currently I'm saving up money before the baby comes, we are also trying to get baby things of almost 400k.

But she wants me to buy Christmas rice for her mom. I've already decided that I'm not buying anything for anyone this December, including my own mom. But she wants me to buy for her mom which I refused becauze my baby is more important.
Mind you, she has elder ones who can't even get anything for their mom this December (she's the youngest). I just lied to her that I'm broke and I don't have any money. But I have close to 1.7 million which I want I to save for the baby and also get a car for when the baby comes.

I'm I making the right decision by ignoring everyone this December or should I take like 100k and just buy a bag of rice and share to the mom.

Personally I don't want to spend a dime on anyone because my child is the most important thing right now

interesting

so you can't buy a bag of rice for your mother inlaw to celebrate the season? i pity that your wife seriously

Stephench:


You guys should quit talking rubbish. He has his own family that's his immediately responsibility and the wife's family is not his responsibility. What stupid in-laws are you guys talking about? Wtf is in laws?

change your mindset please. you can help and support your in-laws as a man once in a while.

UnfairLife7:
have you done DNA for yourself? do you know your true father? you can't be demanding for DNA test on a child when you yourself never know your fate

That is the trend these days

UnfairLife7:
change your mindset please. you can help and support your in-laws as a man once in a while.

It's not his responsibility. You help people when you have not when you don't have and not even able to give your own parents

UnfairLife7:
interesting

so you can't buy a bag of rice for your mother inlaw to celebrate the season? i pity that your wife seriously

Pity the wife's children and the wife's parents who are not able to buy bag of rice for themselves and their mother

Stevenbright:


You can do the small you can but make sure it is for both your mom and her's!

So i must treat my mom equally to my mother-in-law? Never. In my life. If my wife thinks otherwise, she should do that with her own money. Marriage is a scam to me I must say.

searchlight:
So i must treat my mom equally to my mother-in-law? Never. In my life. If my wife thinks otherwise, she should do that with her own money. Marriage is a scam to me I must say.

You are misinterpreting my post. His wife only care about something being given to her mom but I am telling him to make sure whatever he wants to do, should be for both his mom and mother-in-law.

searchlight:
So i must treat my mom equally to my mother-in-law? Never. In my life. If my wife thinks otherwise, she should do that with her own money. Marriage is a scam to me I must say.

It's not a scam. It depends on the parties in the marriage.
My husband has lots on his hands and told me he wouldn't be doing anything for my parents and I told him not to bother as myself and my sister had sent money to her to stock the house for the festivities. I made sure to follow up that he does something for his peeps.
I as his wife supports his family's ministry monthly and I told him I can't do extra this season as I have lots too.

writeprof:


You have been given a whole SEED, what do want again from those parents/elders apart from godly counsel and guidance.

GOD says it is compulsory.

Commonsense says it compulsory.

Human relations says it is compulsory.

Exodus 20:12 KJV
Honour thy father and thy mother: that thy days may be long upon the land which the Lord thy God giveth thee.

Deuteronomy 5:16 KJV
Honour thy father and thy mother, as the Lord thy God hath commanded thee; that thy days may be prolonged, and that it may go well with thee, in the land which the Lord thy God giveth thee.

Matthew 15:4 KJV
For God commanded, saying, Honour thy father and mother: and, He that curseth father or mother, let him die the death.

Matthew 19:19 KJV
Honour thy father and thy mother: and, Thou shalt love thy neighbour as thyself.

Ephesians 6:2 KJV
Honour thy father and mother; (which is the first commandment with promise

nigger pliz dont assume every lives according to the bible

the same bible says leave inheritance for your kids,

who has failed here tge kids or parents ?


Based on the story, who bad here son - in - law or the daughter who should think first of his/parents ?

ZIMDRILL:


lets not rush to blame men

1 where is the husband of this mother in law ?

2 Where are the rest of the children of this mother-in- law ?

Lets nit rush to blame to judge the son-in- law without checking people who must be directly involved in the welfare of the mother in law

People have became lazy and greedy by making it as if its duty of the daughter/son in laws to do duties or roles when infact, the children/wife/hubby of that person and other relatives to look after their own. Daughter/son in laws are just a top up, of things that are supposed to be run by children/hubby/wife and blood relatives.

If the wife had said eg hubby me my sisters/brothers we have raised so much for mother is there anything you can top up with ? am sure hubby would for real top up

But unfortunately some wives think, her mums responsibility is now transfer to her husband, which wrong unless in special circumstances


Am not against looking after our own, but lets not be selfish in putting everything on your husband while your other siblings are not putting their heads together

In as much as you've got a point but this is just u generalising. Remember the Op didn't made mention that d wife has been demanding to gift her mum things. He only mentioned Xmas which means once a year. The op is very wrong and a bad inlaw. He could be a good father though buy he appears to me as a bad husband and an inlaw.

You said my mind. This is the season to show love. Buy the rice and share for both families.I m not only sharing for both familes. Also to my extended family. Na once in a year.+author=ikeno post=127594572]Oga, show love by buying a big of rice and share to both families it will not prevent you from getting things you will need for your baby. Beside, she will be the one to come and do umugwo for you baby[/quote]

Icesnow:
In as much as you've got a point but this is just u generalising. Remember the Op didn't made mention that d wife has been demanding to gift her mum things. He only mentioned Xmas which means once a year. The op is very wrong and a bad inlaw. He could be a good father though buy he appears to me as a bad husband and an inlaw.

How is he wrong ?

Gerrard59:
The comments are irritating!

The wife's siblings DID NOT BUY ANYTHING FOR THEIR MOM! Does it mean OP loves his mother-in-law more than her children? And in the post, I did not see any of their fathers mentioned. So, what exactly do men gain from marriage?! Let's assume they are alive, what are they gaining from marriage?

This marriage thing get as e be. Why should a man be saddled with the responsibility of catering for another family when he was not responsible for having them?

Ah! Wahala go dey!

thank you, you have a wider thinking than most people here.

UnfairLife7:
your mentality is wack. A virtuous woman is far better than a woman who can afford a bag of rice but lack the major things

real men do not go after a woman that can afford basic things but a virtuous woman that'd give them peace

so because she is a virtuous woman doing simple and occasional spendings must be on the man..

9free:

Not surprised though. Some first time mothers mostly buy things the baby will neither need nor use as long as the money is available. While some others do it to pepper other mothers in the maternity wards.

Really? Staying in a maternity ward because you want to show off when you can pay extra for a private ward? Nawa.

FairM0neyL0an:
this is wrong information.
Who is trustnone?
Pay off your debt oga or we'll drag your ugly ass out and expose you on social media

U are trustnone and u will chop ban for throwing false into

Acidosis:


Really? Staying in a maternity ward because you want to show off when you can pay extra for a private ward? Nawa.

Is like you no know our ladies well. Who wan talk about the over 300k baby items wey dem buy come hospital for inside private ward?
The more eyes that see, the better the peppering....