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Re: JAPA: My Marriage Shakes by Mexyz(m): 3:15pm On Dec 26, 2023 |
Notfogotten: Nawao, Man of the house for Naija don decide to lay low for obodo oyinbo God is wonderful 5 Likes |
Re: JAPA: My Marriage Shakes by 10thTenthMan: 3:15pm On Dec 26, 2023 |
IbrahimSola: The thing is most men do not know. And when I say so, I am not exaggerating. Many of us do not know what our women will do once they have financial power and autonomy. A place where they are far away from societal and cultural demands, controls and expectations. A place where divorce isn’t frowned at and in fact the woman stands to gain from the separation. No MAN CAN COME HERE OR SHOULD COME HERE TO VOUCH FOR HIS WIFE OR SPOUSE OR GIRLFRIEND. E GO SHOCK YOU!!! That women you think you know in Nigeria IS NOT THE SAME PERSON Abroad. Na two different people. It has nothing to do with Church, religion, denomination, tribe or ethnic group. We don see separation within all forms from Catholic, Deeper Life, Jehovah’s Witnesses, Hausa, Yoruba, Ijaw, Igbo etc. IT IS A RISK THAT ALL MEN MUST PLAN FOR, ACCEPT AND KNOW PROPER MITIGATION MEASURES TO TAKE. My advice. Factor this possibility of your spouse (husband or wife) misbehaving when you sponsor them or both of you support yourselves to go abroad. The one wey I hear recently, Husband ask wife “Are you Mad” for not answering her calls for almost 6 hours and the kids were stranded outside the house in winter because the daughter forgot the key at home. Wife was no where to be reached. Call GMS no answer. Call WhatsApp, No picking. The man was afraid that neighbors might see the kids outside and call child protective service people which will lead to questions and issues. He works in Nigeria and spends his time-off with his family overseas. When she eventually picked and he told her the situation. What he says annoyed him is that she did not bother to hurry. She said she is in Walmart. He informed her that Walmart has free Wi-Fi and he has been calling her on WhatsApp for over 6 hours and she didn’t pick. He informed her that the kids are stranded and neighbors are seeing them outside. When he called her back like 30 minutes latter she was still claiming she is at Walmart and had not made any efforts to go home to the kids. He scolded her and asked if she is mad to not have immediately gone home to open the door for the kids. The “Are you Mad” question don cause quarrel wey people Dey pray Dey watch and hope say the woman get her sense back. 18 Likes 1 Share |
Re: JAPA: My Marriage Shakes by Free2Fly: 3:15pm On Dec 26, 2023 |
Ahmed0336: this one don escape his enemy's snare 4 Likes |
Re: JAPA: My Marriage Shakes by loswhite(m): 3:16pm On Dec 26, 2023 |
Kingpele:Lol someone is seeing red flags and you are talking of selfishness...Smh. OP should wait till they throw him out before him go get sense abi? To build a long lasting union depends on 2 parties so stop deceiving him. If your partner is not ready to build sorry you are wasting your time 9 Likes |
Re: JAPA: My Marriage Shakes by ivolt: 3:18pm On Dec 26, 2023 |
Another fake story. I know it is fake because the OP got all the details wrong about getting papers, timeline of eligibility and the usefulness of student visa. SMH 1 Like |
Re: JAPA: My Marriage Shakes by loswhite(m): 3:19pm On Dec 26, 2023 |
BloomingDale:Feminism will not help you. 9 Likes 1 Share |
Re: JAPA: My Marriage Shakes by We4all: 3:19pm On Dec 26, 2023 |
ednut1: Thanks for clarifying. But is the post graduate visa always guaranteed? |
Re: JAPA: My Marriage Shakes by occfx: 3:19pm On Dec 26, 2023 |
Notfogotten: Anything you sense about a woman, you are right... But been deported, I don't know. Find way to be independent as a man 6 Likes |
Re: JAPA: My Marriage Shakes by BloomingDale(f): 3:19pm On Dec 26, 2023 |
loswhite: Dey there make pant dey wear you. Respect is reciprocal. |
Re: JAPA: My Marriage Shakes by fortunechy(m): 3:20pm On Dec 26, 2023 |
Do u are informed too....?? I will advise u to leave her with the kids and come back to Nigeria to have peace of mind,to avoid sleeping on the street in UK in Winter season.... 1 Like |
Re: JAPA: My Marriage Shakes by loswhite(m): 3:20pm On Dec 26, 2023 |
BloomingDale:Your understanding of the word respect is flawed. 8 Likes 1 Share |
Re: JAPA: My Marriage Shakes by Free2Fly: 3:21pm On Dec 26, 2023 |
Beuberry: Shut up, this imp 1 Like |
Re: JAPA: My Marriage Shakes by membranus: 3:21pm On Dec 26, 2023 |
Britishpea: Hmmmmm. A word for the wise. 2 Likes |
Re: JAPA: My Marriage Shakes by ednut1(m): 3:22pm On Dec 26, 2023 |
We4all:yes, if you graduated and didn't work over the specified 20 hour work a week allowed for students. if not OYO |
Re: JAPA: My Marriage Shakes by loswhite(m): 3:25pm On Dec 26, 2023 |
PDJT:Good advice for useless Nigerian men....lol. They are over paying just to be with a woman. Once a woman tell them yes they think in their head that they have hit jackpot. Nigerian men are paying the price of their foolishness because the only thing most of them are good at is to buy a woman. 12 Likes 1 Share |
Re: JAPA: My Marriage Shakes by We4all: 3:27pm On Dec 26, 2023 |
ednut1: OK. Thanks once again. |
Re: JAPA: My Marriage Shakes by lomprico(m): 3:29pm On Dec 26, 2023 |
Notfogotten: Find one oyibo dey run tinz with |
Re: JAPA: My Marriage Shakes by Jeezuzpick(m): 3:29pm On Dec 26, 2023 |
Cutehector: In other words, when she's like 65. Good luck! 1 Like |
Re: JAPA: My Marriage Shakes by PDJT: 3:30pm On Dec 26, 2023 |
10thTenthMan: -Nothing wrong with the principle of child support. If they are indeed his kids, he would provide for them regardless. However, if he doesn't have access to the kids as he wishes whilst paying the child support, then he should consider relocation ASAP. Let the woman raise the kids in the harsh UK environment, when all the kids are grown and left home, we shall then see what remains of the woman. 2 Likes |
Re: JAPA: My Marriage Shakes by Mike008(m): 3:33pm On Dec 26, 2023 |
JAPA can be a double-edged sword. Do not allow the reason for Japa destroy your marriage. You sound as though, Japa is more important than your marriage, so you should be on a mission to save your marriage not save your Japa. Those who are advising you to create a backup plan, have you imagined the consequences of what will happen if your wife discovers your motive? It's good to have an alternative plan, but carry your wife along and make her part of the plan. Try as much as possible to save your marriage first. P.S. You don't need Japa to have a happy marriage. 1 Like |
Re: JAPA: My Marriage Shakes by femi4: 3:34pm On Dec 26, 2023 |
Notfogotten:What if you're hallucinating...what are the red flags 1 Like |
Re: JAPA: My Marriage Shakes by Dijita: 3:38pm On Dec 26, 2023 |
jaxxy: You made a good point. Some of them is creating problem for themselves based on hearsay and social media. OP this is my advice to you: Remember she is your wife you marry each other because you love one another. If there is an issue, discuss it with her as if you are in Nigeria. Also get off your high horse, you should respect your wife the way you expect her to respect you. If you walk out on your wife, are you going to go and marry an angel? Over 90% of Nigerians in diaspora are in good loving relationship with their partners. Don't let the few bad ones you are reading in the media affect you. You are going to definitely go through rough patches but you will be glad you stick to it in the long run. Remember you have 3 kids. Breaking your home can have immeasurable negative impacts on your children 3 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: JAPA: My Marriage Shakes by Xkale1996(m): 3:39pm On Dec 26, 2023 |
Notfogotten:guy double ur hustle Save enough Try and know the necessary steps before you leave her Don't tell your close friends or relatives about your plans Keep a secret from ur family If not casala if burst Lay low for now Husle o 1 Like |
Re: JAPA: My Marriage Shakes by YoungBlackRico(m): 3:41pm On Dec 26, 2023 |
How'd y'all end up with this kind of situation and people? |
Re: JAPA: My Marriage Shakes by PlushyRealtor: 3:41pm On Dec 26, 2023 |
joebeckz: Nice advice. Bro my question is, is it possible for someone on a tourist visa to get registered in a school in the USA? |
Re: JAPA: My Marriage Shakes by seborrhic: 3:42pm On Dec 26, 2023 |
10thTenthMan:But won't it be factored that the kids were left in the cold for that long? I know the worst offence is child abuse or neglect. This story get as he be unless the man is not telling the truth.Leaving kids out in the cold because they cannot access their home due to the woman's absence,is even the woman in this case that should be scared shitless that the story doesn't get out. 5 Likes |
Re: JAPA: My Marriage Shakes by newnigerdelta00: 3:43pm On Dec 26, 2023 |
Notfogotten: You have Japa, kindly enjoy your Japa |
Re: JAPA: My Marriage Shakes by Mosba: 3:44pm On Dec 26, 2023 |
Notfogotten: Firstly, the bolded statement above is detailed enough for me to know who you are if I were your partner. Secondly, I believe the red flag you mentioned isn't the Nigeria green white green flag. So tell us a little bit of details so we can know what you are about to face. 2 Likes 1 Share |
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