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Re: How Do I Deal With A Manipulative Stepmother by jaxxy(m): 3:11pm On Jan 02
The day u know and take full responsibility and accountability for ur life is the day u start living b4 then u were only existing.

u being 27 doesn't mean anything to Anybody

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Re: How Do I Deal With A Manipulative Stepmother by 10thTenthMan: 3:14pm On Jan 02
UYEMDO35:
Why does my stepmother keep ruining my life, manipulating the people around me, and keep doing things that hurt me and my siblings?
Life has been so unbearable ever since she came into our house.....
She constantly seek to destroy the good relationship that I have with my father and When she notice that am not around she start condemning me infront of my father and pretend to be nice when she sees me.
And dis woman already have 2 children that are upto my age but she doesn't talk much about dem but instead prefer to gossip us to my father..... My father on d other side is not even responsible as a man but instead prefer to sit with her and download all our past life to her in which she now later use it against I and my siblings.
My experience with dis so call people call family wasn't a child's play. They made my life look miserable for me
after graduating from school so i decided to come home to stay with dem pending till when my results will be out but instead dis people use my eyes see shege. My unknown step mother wan suffer me with food and I nearly die of hunger.
I just couldn't tolerate their attitude anymore so I decided to purchase Army form when it came out online.
And God saw me through the screening process and I made it to the final list in which we will be going for training soon.

Once everything goes well for me I intent to ghost dem cuz dis was never my plan to join the military.



You say why does she hate you and make life miserable? Because she is your STEPMOM. You and your siblings aren’t hers. She wants her kids to be in the good side of your dad and inherit whatever he has left. She wants her kids to be pampered which she feels will increase their chances of success and succeeding more than you and your siblings. In fact she doesn’t wish you well. You aren’t her kids. She wants her blood and her DNA bearing kids to survive and thrive and succeed much more than you can. You are a bloody competitor in that house. In fact if you are the first son, she will continue painting you black to see if your father will hand over his property to her own kids. Her own blood. So just know what you are already into now and forever have sense.

Another reason could be that you aren’t a stepson that respects and assists her. You aren't a useful stepson. Some of your actions she may also perceive as disrespectful, insolent and divisive. Do you respect and assist her or do you claim to be first son or big boy and treat her like “which time dem marry you come wey you come Dey get mouth for my papa house”? How well have you tried to get close to your step-siblings? How well have you tried to get close to her? Get close is not to develop feelings to sleep with her o, as some hilariously recommend here. Biko. In fact I am praying she is old and has zero sex appeal. How much have you tried being her friend and being responsible around the house. At this age why do you feel entitled to be fed by her?

Anyway, the solution?

Leave that house and Get Successful. You are old enough to do so. Especially as a man. Get enlightened and get very self-reliant! That Army wey you join as you enter use your head well and see small small business wey you fit do. Shay na to buy yam from your posting to the closest city to sell? Do it! Shay na to learn some tech skills to supplement military posting money? Do it! Shey na to pick up artisanal skills? Look around your daily life and activities, pick up a skill and offer a service then scale the business? Do it. Avoid Gambling, Alcohol and Women. Avoid the temptation to impress people and splashing money because you made small sales in business.

Pick up multiple income streams. And prepare to assist and encourage your younger siblings.

BE SELF SUSTAINING AND SELF RELIANT. You aren’t supposed to rely on that woman for feeding. Find some menial jobs to do so that you feed yourself.

Note that, that woman doesn’t owe you a fucking thing. No one does. And that is the harsh realities of life. The earlier you understand this and realize that you were not created a cripple/physically challenged or mentally challenged, then at this age, think properly, start small BUT TAKE ACTION!

Finally, people say try to sleep with her. 😄😄😄 cheesy Please don’t mind them. Your father will forever hate you and place a curse on you. I don’t believe in curses. But it isn’t a good thing to try to sleep with your father’s wife. As a man, Stepmoms, Aunties, Cousins, Sister In-laws, Nieces, Granddaughters, God daughters, Mother-in-laws and ANY Minor ARE AND MUST BE OFF LIMITS!! Besides, sex is the least of your problems.

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Re: How Do I Deal With A Manipulative Stepmother by Exceed15: 3:15pm On Jan 02
tojahh:
This one you're going to the military because of your step mother so...


No come go dey transfer aggression to other civilians o. Remember na your step mother and father make your life take the military turn no be we for younder.

LOOOL...
Re: How Do I Deal With A Manipulative Stepmother by Exceed15: 3:17pm On Jan 02
I don't like the way your father is handling the situation? Well , create your path and follow it. Your days are numbered in that house.
Re: How Do I Deal With A Manipulative Stepmother by Lovelyn451(f): 3:17pm On Jan 02
Be actively involved in the home, do chores, clean, wash, when it's time to eat, cook for everybody including she and her children if there's no food, ask your father, and make sure you join him in his hussle ..ignore her.....

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Re: How Do I Deal With A Manipulative Stepmother by smiley73(f): 3:22pm On Jan 02
They're all the same dear, and I wonder why the father's always act the same. Just find your peace dear, that has always work for me, leaving the house will be the best way to get yourself. I pray you get your desires.
Re: How Do I Deal With A Manipulative Stepmother by BBIA: 3:22pm On Jan 02
UYEMDO35:
Why does my stepmother keep ruining my life, manipulating the people around me, and keep doing things that hurt me and my siblings?
Life has been so unbearable ever since she came into our house.....
She constantly seek to destroy the good relationship that I have with my father and When she notice that am not around she start condemning me infront of my father and pretend to be nice when she sees me.
And dis woman already have 2 children that are upto my age but she doesn't talk much about dem but instead prefer to gossip us to my father..... My father on d other side is not even responsible as a man but instead prefer to sit with her and download all our past life to her in which she now later use it against I and my siblings.
My experience with dis so call people call family wasn't a child's play. They made my life look miserable for me
after graduating from school so i decided to come home to stay with dem pending till when my results will be out but instead dis people use my eyes see shege. My unknown step mother wan suffer me with food and I nearly die of hunger.
I just couldn't tolerate their attitude anymore so I decided to purchase Army form when it came out online.
And God saw me through the screening process and I made it to the final list in which we will be going for training soon.

Once everything goes well for me I intent to ghost dem cuz dis was never my plan to join the military.

Step-Mothers aim to send you to your fate in Sambisa with village peoples approval is going as planned. grin
Re: How Do I Deal With A Manipulative Stepmother by id4sho(m): 3:23pm On Jan 02
UYEMDO35:
Why does my stepmother keep ruining my life, manipulating the people around me, and keep doing things that hurt me and my siblings?
Life has been so unbearable ever since she came into our house.....
She constantly seek to destroy the good relationship that I have with my father and When she notice that am not around she start condemning me infront of my father and pretend to be nice when she sees me.
And dis woman already have 2 children that are upto my age but she doesn't talk much about dem but instead prefer to gossip us to my father..... My father on d other side is not even responsible as a man but instead prefer to sit with her and download all our past life to her in which she now later use it against I and my siblings.
My experience with dis so call people call family wasn't a child's play. They made my life look miserable for me
after graduating from school so i decided to come home to stay with dem pending till when my results will be out but instead dis people use my eyes see shege. My unknown step mother wan suffer me with food and I nearly die of hunger.
I just couldn't tolerate their attitude anymore so I decided to purchase Army form when it came out online.
And God saw me through the screening process and I made it to the final list in which we will be going for training soon.

Once everything goes well for me I intent to ghost dem cuz dis was never my plan to join the military.


Now, listen and listen good!!!
Secretly have all photocopies of all landed assets of your father. This woman will run with everything. We experienced this in my family, I had to fight from 2016 till now to recover some. Most step mothers are evil and after wealth. It's few men that know their tactics. Act fast

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Re: How Do I Deal With A Manipulative Stepmother by Basildon1(m): 3:23pm On Jan 02
For your mind, you don give advice. 🤡
Ireportlive:
cool


In my journey through life one thing I learnt is how to be self sufficient and self reliant even if it means limiting my expenses


Second lesson, nobody is above reprimand and scolding


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Re: How Do I Deal With A Manipulative Stepmother by guru03(m): 3:24pm On Jan 02
Its high time you take the bull by the horn to advice her to respect herself so that you don't become aggressive to her and say you disrespect her.
Re: How Do I Deal With A Manipulative Stepmother by jaszplus12(m): 3:25pm On Jan 02
UYEMDO35:

I go deal with her mercilessly...... She dey look for all means to born for my father so that she can claim entitlement.
Let nature do the dealing with, you're out of the house already so move on with your life! Develop yourself and let Nature show you to the world! Leave revenge for God.

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Re: How Do I Deal With A Manipulative Stepmother by jaszplus12(m): 3:26pm On Jan 02
id4sho:


Now, listen and listen good!!!
Secretly have all photocopies of all landed assets of your father. This woman will run with everything. We experienced this in my family, I had to fight from 2016 till now to recover some. Most step mothers are evil and after wealth. It's few men that know their tactics. Act fast
Great advice!!

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Re: How Do I Deal With A Manipulative Stepmother by Guruindahouse(m): 3:41pm On Jan 02
If you don't want to join military, better not to do that.

Don't you have any friend(s) that you can't put up with for a while?

What are your plans besides joining the military?
UYEMDO35:


You said nobody is above scolding I agree with you on that but it should be done moderately not at the expense of neglecting my feelings and present stage in life.
Am 27yrs old no be small piking I be.
Re: How Do I Deal With A Manipulative Stepmother by aliscomonaj: 4:19pm On Jan 02
Quit them fast bro. You can chat me i will tell you more
UYEMDO35:
Why does my stepmother keep ruining my life, manipulating the people around me, and keep doing things that hurt me and my siblings?
Life has been so unbearable ever since she came into our house.....
She constantly seek to destroy the good relationship that I have with my father and When she notice that am not around she start condemning me infront of my father and pretend to be nice when she sees me.
And dis woman already have 2 children that are upto my age but she doesn't talk much about dem but instead prefer to gossip us to my father..... My father on d other side is not even responsible as a man but instead prefer to sit with her and download all our past life to her in which she now later use it against I and my siblings.
My experience with dis so call people call family wasn't a child's play. They made my life look miserable for me
after graduating from school so i decided to come home to stay with dem pending till when my results will be out but instead dis people use my eyes see shege. My unknown step mother wan suffer me with food and I nearly die of hunger.
I just couldn't tolerate their attitude anymore so I decided to purchase Army form when it came out online.
And God saw me through the screening process and I made it to the final list in which we will be going for training soon.

Once everything goes well for me I intent to ghost dem cuz dis was never my plan to join the military.

Re: How Do I Deal With A Manipulative Stepmother by iamL(f): 4:39pm On Jan 02
E reach your family now u nor fit flex muscles na when you become a military man you will start flexing muscles for ordinary civilians.
Re: How Do I Deal With A Manipulative Stepmother by iamL(f): 4:41pm On Jan 02
aliscomonaj:
Quit them fast bro. You can chat me i will tell you more

I hope you will be responsible for him in all ramifications after he has quit them and chat you up.
Re: How Do I Deal With A Manipulative Stepmother by davinchecodes(m): 4:42pm On Jan 02
UYEMDO35:
Why does my stepmother keep ruining my life, manipulating the people around me, and keep doing things that hurt me and my siblings?
Life has been so unbearable ever since she came into our house.....
She constantly seek to destroy the good relationship that I have with my father and When she notice that am not around she start condemning me infront of my father and pretend to be nice when she sees me.
And dis woman already have 2 children that are upto my age but she doesn't talk much about dem but instead prefer to gossip us to my father..... My father on d other side is not even responsible as a man but instead prefer to sit with her and download all our past life to her in which she now later use it against I and my siblings.
My experience with dis so call people call family wasn't a child's play. They made my life look miserable for me
after graduating from school so i decided to come home to stay with dem pending till when my results will be out but instead dis people use my eyes see shege. My unknown step mother wan suffer me with food and I nearly die of hunger.
I just couldn't tolerate their attitude anymore so I decided to purchase Army form when it came out online.
And God saw me through the screening process and I made it to the final list in which we will be going for training soon.

Once everything goes well for me I intent to ghost dem cuz dis was never my plan to join the military.



Joining Nigeria army might be a very bad decision.
Cause you might just be used as cannon fodder.
Pawns for politicians.
Re: How Do I Deal With A Manipulative Stepmother by Fhaze(m): 5:12pm On Jan 02
ExudeLoveToAll:


He was looking for an easy way out of the house, then the military can calling boom.

Do you know the options he had as at the time ??
Re: How Do I Deal With A Manipulative Stepmother by ahnie: 5:19pm On Jan 02
kiss kiss kiss
AfahaAbia:


Wow how did u know this What you said is 100% true
Happy festives.
Re: How Do I Deal With A Manipulative Stepmother by rumenase(m): 5:31pm On Jan 02
UYEMDO35:


You said nobody is above scolding I agree with you on that but it should be done moderately not at the expense of neglecting my feelings and present stage in life.
Am 27yrs old no be small piking I be.
Nigerian military is not worth it bro
Re: How Do I Deal With A Manipulative Stepmother by UYEMDO35(m): 5:48pm On Jan 02
aliscomonaj:
Quit them fast bro. You can chat me i will tell you more
Why do u suggest that I should quit the military job?
If u have any useful advice for me u can reach me Via-WhatsApp
08134619146

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Re: How Do I Deal With A Manipulative Stepmother by armyofone(m): 6:31pm On Jan 02
Aboks:
wahala


military life ain't easy bro

what u get is not wat u expect

Nothing is easy in life. Let him go and do it.

Better than sit in an environment he finds toxic.
Re: How Do I Deal With A Manipulative Stepmother by armyofone(m): 6:33pm On Jan 02
UYEMDO35:
Why does my stepmother keep ruining my life, manipulating the people around me, and keep doing things that hurt me and my siblings?
Life has been so unbearable ever since she came into our house.....
She constantly seek to destroy the good relationship that I have with my father and When she notice that am not around she start condemning me infront of my father and pretend to be nice when she sees me.
And dis woman already have 2 children that are upto my age but she doesn't talk much about dem but instead prefer to gossip us to my father..... My father on d other side is not even responsible as a man but instead prefer to sit with her and download all our past life to her in which she now later use it against I and my siblings.
My experience with dis so call people call family wasn't a child's play. They made my life look miserable for me
after graduating from school so i decided to come home to stay with dem pending till when my results will be out but instead dis people use my eyes see shege. My unknown step mother wan suffer me with food and I nearly die of hunger.
I just couldn't tolerate their attitude anymore so I decided to purchase Army form when it came out online.
And God saw me through the screening process and I made it to the final list in which we will be going for training soon.

Once everything goes well for me I intent to ghost dem cuz dis was never my plan to join the military.


You made the right choice. It will be well for you.
Re: How Do I Deal With A Manipulative Stepmother by Verbtips(m): 6:40pm On Jan 02
firstly,i don't female to join any millitary force
but if it becomes successful save the money you want to save take you siblings out of the house guide them.
since your step mother is playing and offence
then for the time being be playing defence 4get abt your fada for nw
becus the pill he has taken has is potent.
just find a second
basket and put your second egg
and secondly
as you are playing defence
think of a way to play offence 2
just leave your fada house go hustle with your sibling
make she no kill una
as the saying goes if you play their dirty game them go give you pain
but if you lose your life wetin you gold
she may kill you one day
Japa
japa
Re: How Do I Deal With A Manipulative Stepmother by Ebymyk(m): 6:58pm On Jan 02
I feel your pain.. I have a Step mom too... All of them are that stupid.. Causing confusion here and there,try by all means to maintain the relationship you have with your dad... Don't allow her come between you and your dad...she sees you as a threat to her and her children... Step mom's are pretenders, no matter how they pretend to love you, na scam... She's doing all in her power to push you and your siblings out of the picture.. You and your siblings should have 1 voice... And be careful with her food... She has no right to starve you. It's your father's house..if she's not willing to give you food..Report her to your dad, if he doesn't take swift action, go and prepare food for yourself to eat in that kitchen,thunder fire that woman ... It's your father's money.. Be spiritually alert... Don't ever believe or trust step mom's, the are snake's.... Know your rights,if she's behaving as if she's on the same page with you, she's just looking for a soft spot or your vulnerability to step on...please watch it... Be wise...

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Re: How Do I Deal With A Manipulative Stepmother by gidjah(m): 7:41pm On Jan 02
ahnie:
They gave you guys 2:weeks break which I believe is gonna end tomorrow ot next.

You think the "background checks" really works ? We are in the public forum so let's keep it sealed my dear.Our boys here only had a week and have returned to day morn ,hoping to move to kano State ( fulgore) within the week or weekend max. HE HAS MADE IT ONCE HE can get to that stage.Its rare for one to be sent parking once he gets to Kano except if village people no still gree.He will also do well for him self now since he's gonna be the govt child ! He should also be able to further his education and sail Foward since his parents couldn't do much.His other kids too would benefit from him,the youngest (if male) should be with him and learn the ropes of life.Hope you used the break to hustle hard for money.

Your next travelling will be Kano state,my dear I would advice you to engage in lots of prayers.

Whilst you'll be there,a background info is Gon be conducted on the schools you attended,and your kinsmen
I sincerely pray it turns out a success for you.
Re: How Do I Deal With A Manipulative Stepmother by ahnie: 7:44pm On Jan 02
[quote author=gidjah post=127747722][/quote]
I think you're wrong on this...so many has bn sent back from Kano
Due to stuffs I would love to keep secret.


Let's just keep it at that.
Last year I had a candidate who got sent back due to the areas I mentioned.....

Ours here were given 2 weeks break,which I believe is everywhere for those that enlisted.

Make we just seal our lips.
Re: How Do I Deal With A Manipulative Stepmother by Ganjafama(m): 7:51pm On Jan 02
UYEMDO35:

I go deal with her mercilessly...... She dey look for all means to born for my father so that she can claim entitlement.
So she has no child for your father?
Re: How Do I Deal With A Manipulative Stepmother by gidjah(m): 8:01pm On Jan 02
Hmm.. its okay then.Been out of the system for some while now(particularly the ops section) I understand that the security system now has seriously deteriorated hence the need for such.i also know when the SEC system was breached in d last administration,lots of loop holes were used and abused,the thing really gets me mad every time I come to remember this.You see this 'loose joints' we are crying about all over the country today ? (am sure you code)na them cause am all over using bogotry and tribalism! I am waiting for the COAS list to be out , expecting two of my ruggeds to be shortlisted,thinking it should be out within the week ,can't say why it's taking time. Thank you ma .
ahnie:

I think you're wrong on this...so many has bn sent back from Kano
Due to stuffs I would love to keep secret.


Let's just keep it at that.
Last year I had a candidate who got sent back due to the areas I mentioned.....

Ours here were given 2 weeks break,which I believe is everywhere for those that enlisted.

Make we just seal our lips.
Re: How Do I Deal With A Manipulative Stepmother by ahnie: 8:03pm On Jan 02
My pleasure sir!
gidjah:
Hmm.. its okay then.Been out of the system for some while now(particularly the ops section) I understand that the security system now has seriously deteriorated hence the need for such.i also know when the SEC system was breached in d last administration,lots of loop holes were used and abused,the thing really gets me mad every time I come to remember this.You see this 'loose joints' we are crying about all over the country today ? (am sure you code)na them cause am all over using bogotry and tribalism! I am waiting for the COAS list to be out , expecting two of my ruggeds to be shortlisted,thinking it should be out within the week ,can't say why it's taking time. Thank you ma .
May Allah (SAW)see the op Tru.
Re: How Do I Deal With A Manipulative Stepmother by linearity: 8:12pm On Jan 02
You deal with them by completely ignoring them.

All that is being done is to instigate a response from you and given the heights of the manufactured lies against you, what they are not counting on is a non-response from you.

They are patiently waiting for that response and hopes in anger you will say or do something they will then hold on to in order to justify and placate their throbbing conscience.

Ignoring their existence would further heighten their guilty conscience.

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