NoToPile:
I am finding it difficult to digest this.

She had sex before her first period.

First she should be Withdrawn from boarding school. She has had too much unfiltered access. The phone should be collected.

And you guys need to go hard on her, very very hard, she's not even officially a teenager yet ke? Twelve?

My own sex education is always and will always be abstainence shikena.
She might still be redeemable.

Parenting these days is becoming harder, one has to be very intentional about it these days.
This is so disheartening, little children boys and girls taking about pussy, moaning and all that.
I don't blame parents that give their children close marking.


Tell your mum everything and that she needs to be Withdrawn from boarding school.

O ma de wa olagbara ke?
Parents do all you can and must to protect and discipline your children, it's getting worse, if you need to flog the craze Comot do so you will have rest.


That said it was ordinary harmless extra cool Chochocho I did that year at 17 already In the uni ooo the talk I heared from my big male cousin that midnight was not here. He even called the uniben boy I was talking to on the spot, introduced himself, saved his number for many years.

You will hear so because you are in the uni now you can be talking to boys abi, in the midnight at that.
Don't you know you are still 17.
I need to be sure you are not talking to a thirty something year old man.
Give me your phone, collected his number from my the phone log of my alacatel colored screen
Them no born me well to protest.

These days they will say it's invasion of privacy... Blehblehbleh. Speaking Grammer.

Years later myself and him always laugh about the incident.



The hard discipline might have to come from you go hard on her please or else she is gone.

ProudWitch:
Kobojunkie and ValCon888 has dropped wise ways on approaching the matter; sex education is needed.

Now you, this isn't necessary. Next time don't be so narrow-minded. There are some parents that watch their kids like hawk and it still doesn't stop their kids from doing wrong things.

didi100:
Good evening all.I'm an old member here but because of shame I created this account.This post is long,pls bear with me and read to the end.I'm 23 years old,my baby sister is 12 years.
She's in a female boarding school.We parked to our own house two years ago and my mum's secondary friend daughter is living next to us.So whenever my sister come back,she will go there and visit her.We allow her to go there as per only girl in the house and a friend is just in the next compound.
They are also some boys around that are + and - 3years her age if I am not mistaken.I and my Mom have warned her about those boys.My mom always tell her to be mindful of them because she is a female and if anything happen,she will be the one to bear the consequences.
She came back for her first term holiday,my mom gave my sister her old phone because she has some primary females friends and our female cousins too she like communicating with using my moms phone so my mom gave my sis her old phone to use.
Yesterday,I wanted to look for something in the phone.She was begging me to give her the phone and I shouted at her to open the phone.I just felt like opening the gallery which she didn't know of and I saw a picture of a boy's dick.I was surprised and confused.I scroll more.I then saw pictures of her snapping her breast and pictures of her vagina.She didn't know I saw all this.I asked her to remove all the passwords.I left her presence and went somewhere else.
Then I open the WhatsApp and saw the unbelievable.I could not believe my 12years old sister is this rotten.My mum warned her not to open Facebook but she opened.I also saw dirty chats.On the WhatsApp I saw porn related stickers and porn videos a boy sent to her.This girl was smart enough to put on disappearing messages.I must have missed some dirty acts she did.
Pls help me.I'm in the University and most of her holidays,I'm not around.I feel like a failure as the first born and senior brother.I never thought or imagine my sister will be such.I need you guys advice.No body in my family know about this except me and she will be going back to the boarding house on Sunday.I need your answers urgently.What should I do Pls matured response only. I will send screenshot of what I saw.Pls Admin,send to the front page
Modified:For the virgin part,she said her ex school.That was primary school and the boy which I know was her classmate.He should be 10 or 11 then

maureensylvia:


I get where you are coming from, but for a 12 year old?
She’s too small…we are talking about someone that’s not yet a teenager here(teenagers can be stubborn and adventurous). I’m a mother, I understand this way better.

A 12 year old is not developmentally ready to engage in sexual activity, and the potential consequences for their safety and well-being are extremely concerning. It's important to remember that even if a 12 year old says they want to have sex, they may not understand the implications.
The girl is likely vulnerable and at risk.

didi100 should have an honest and open conversation with her sister about the concerns she has.
He should come from a place of love and caring, and try to understand where her sister is coming from. It's possible that her sister is struggling with other issues or feeling neglected or unsupported.

Approaching it with empathy and compassion is really important.

This should be the duty of the mother though

ruggedtimi:
Na tik tok cause alll this things

Inspirer1:

Well said.

Parents should always preach Godliness to their children right from when the children starts to walk and talk.

Like you opined also, she needs to be withdrawn from the boarding school, to be able to spend more time with her.
The bro and mum needs to do more talking about God, they should NEVER be harsh with her as it'll worsen the situation, they should be direct though in terms of the discussions, also enquire and letting her know that she's only being used and Nothing else, re-channel her towards her studies, on how to be successful in life, on present realities, and that it's not that she won't still 'enjoy' whatever she's enjoying now later on, she should never allow herself to be used cos that's what is happening now with her, they really need to make her understand.
Don't pump too much into her at once, it's little at a time, it'll take time but will be worth it.
It'll be well.

Cc:
didi100

Acidosis:


What exactly would sex education do in this situation? I really want to know. Will it prevent her from searching the meaning of "c'um," moan, on Google? Will it prevent her from sharing nudes?

The church does not see sex education as a taboo. In fact, the church more than any other institution teaches you to respect and keep your body. What other "sex education" do you want to give an 11 year old child?

This child obviously has a lot of free time on her hands to wander away. Children who are her age are in church reciting bible verses, acting drama, and all. That's how to keep a child's mind busy and safe from the evils of this world. You can't give an 11 year old child a phone and sex education and go to sleep. You'll only wake up to a prostitute at 12. The more they know, the more they want to know.

If the things you know about sex today (i.e., STIs, unwanted pregnancy) have not stopped you from having sex, why do you expect a different result from a child? What a child needs is TOTAL and ABSOLUTE abstinence by whatever (preventative) means. Nothing else.

Acidosis:
The fact that your mom has warned her severally means you must not spare the rod.

If you think that your child will keep her virginity just because you teach them sex education, then you are the most ignorant person on earth.

The more a child knows, the more he/she wants to know. A child needs close monitoring/"marking" and intense policing. Even Google, YouTube, Movies, Netflix, DStv, etc. gave you a tool called parental control. But you guys never used it. Instead, you gave a child adult tools and content.

You just can't warn a child or give sex education and go to sleep. They'll explore beyond whatever you may have taught.

Sex education will only help her to get better at what she already does, i.e., how to avoid teenage pregnancy, STIs, etc. There are better approaches to tame her completely untill she's grown.

Develop countries will always preach the soft approach until it's a Nigerian guy harassing a female child with nud.ity. Have you seen how they arrest and embarrass Nigerian immigrants in the UK who send nu.des to teenage girls? No go dull yourself o. Go hard before you lose her.

didi100:

I will soon tell my mom.My dad is not around ,he travelled.People here thinks my mum is not a disciplinarian.I know how my mum flogs my sister for any nonsense she does to a extent I will be the one begging.I will spill everything later today and I know my mom will be very very harsh on her.

Jeon:
Lolz.
nah one redpill sister be this.
Their sisters are not useless like Nigerian ladies.


😁 They have morals and dicknities . Because this is what their brothers are always teaching.

Scholace:
There are ladies that still keep themselves till marriage, courtesy their upbringing and personal choice. My sister got married as a virgin @24. My dad was a disciplinarian and she also chose to keep herself. A Muslim friend of mine also got married as virgin @25.

fyzaila:



Op pick this advice, this approach is brutal but it will go a long way to bring discipline in that girl. It seems she doesn't do any form of worship. Omo she's damn to small for all this rubbish.

maureensylvia:


I get where you are coming from, but for a 12 year old?
She’s too small…we are talking about someone that’s not yet a teenager here(teenagers can be stubborn and adventurous). I’m a mother, I understand this way better.

A 12 year old is not developmentally ready to engage in sexual activity, and the potential consequences for their safety and well-being are extremely concerning. It's important to remember that even if a 12 year old says they want to have sex, they may not understand the implications.
The girl is likely vulnerable and at risk.

didi100 should have an honest and open conversation with her sister about the concerns she has.
He should come from a place of love and caring, and try to understand where her sister is coming from. It's possible that her sister is struggling with other issues or feeling neglected or unsupported.

Approaching it with empathy and compassion is really important.

This should be the duty of the mother though

Gadafii:
This your sister na mama for the boys o

From the first screen shot, niccca said “send the pusse” like a gangster 😭

If na me be you, I go first beat demon comot for her head first, then sit her down and tell her how she’s in a wrong path and heading towards destruction, list all she’s going to gain and loose if she continue in that path, including being a baby mama and uneducated, let her know how bright her future is but is about to throw all that away with her foolishness


After then, seize the phone from her and ensure she doesn’t have access to the internet until she’s done with secondary school, for now

madscientist88:
its sad,the girl need serious drills,can you imagine just 12? im still in shock.

Kobojunkie:
Talk to your mum about putting her on birth control immediately . If she is already sexually active, it is only a matter of time before you start hearing the worst may have happened. You have the advantage of approaching her, not as a parent but as an experienced older brother who is himself, not a virgin, and has no blinders on about these things, so take advantage of that at least, but make sure to be sensitive to the fact that she is still a 12-year old. Teach her why you would rather she not be into these things.

She needs to know why it is important for her to take care of herself. She needs to be made to see that the path she has chosen would require a lot of work on her path and you need to help her understand all that would be required to keep herself safe from infection and pregnancy and also being taken advantage of by predators out there. Please be patient and kind as you help her along so she comes to realize for herself that she is indeed not old enough for what she may already be involved with and that it is OK to quit until much later.