ReacherSaidNoth:
You need to understand that some issues are beyond counseling, no one takes pride in hitting children.

So if your mother spanks you for taking meat from the pot she would become a lifetime enemy of yours? I'm sorry to say but you seem to have a child's sensitivity.

My parents have never spanked me for whatever reason, so I don't believe in spanking and I'm very flexible and obidient. See the way he said he flogged her, it's heartbreaking

ReacherSaidNoth:
Go and steal in public and ask no one to hit you

I'm not a religious person but I like the verse that says "foolishness is bound in the heart of a child; the rod of correction will drive it far from him".

OP has done well.

omoh, the rod of corrections effectivity depends on the child .. The more you spank someones, they they become hardened...

EreluRoz:

We are talking about domestic issues here and not robbery
You All think it's right to hit a child. If anyone hits me for whatsoever reason I will never forgive that person, I'll completely avoid having anything to do with them again.
Hitting me is like traumatizing me, so nobody should ever dare it.

Are you in Nigeria or in the state?

GboyegaD:
Interesting how you took pride in beating her and even abusing her to the point her body is swollen. She's shown you she's more matured than you are with the level of knowledge she's displayed in your old post.

What she needs now is more counselling and guidance than unnecessary beating. In it all, I wish you guys the best.

one of my neighborh's child steal alot. His elder brother and father gave him a thorough beating. The moment he remembers that if he should do anything stupid, there are people standby that'd beat the living day light out of him. This boy is now a complete changed person. He should be 24 by now. Beating help alot!

I don't know if you're a religion person or not, even the Bible support spanking a child that's going astray. I can't really recollect the Bible verse though.

foolishness is bound in the heart of a child; the rod of correction will drive it far from him".

All i see is a pretending child

Withdraw her from the boarding school.

Take the phone from her permanently.

Become her best friend she can confide in. So that whenever something like this wants to happen, you would easily sense it.

Try to know the kind of female friends she keeps. If her peers are lesbians or flirts, she'll definitely tow that path. Cos like the saying. "Show me your friends and I'll tell you who you are"

You've done well by taking up the matter. Don't let it slide. Continue keeping an eye on her. She's a girl, guys would keep coming. Educate her on the dangers of premarital sex.

GboyegaD:
Interesting how you took pride in beating her and even abusing her to the point her body is swollen. She's shown you she's more matured than you are with the level of knowledge she's displayed in your old post.

What she needs now is more counselling and guidance than unnecessary beating. In it all, I wish you guys the best.

God punish your head. Paedophile.

I'm sure you go around preying on naive little girls, that's why the beating pain you.

ITbomb:
A whure is a whure, once the forbidden fruit has been tasted, there is no going back, just a few crocodile tears, fake promises and change tactics

IT, this is very very wrong. How can you use such words on a child??!!

You did well.

ITbomb:
A whure is a whure, once the forbidden fruit has been tasted, there is no going back, just a few crocodile tears, fake promises and change tactics

How old are you?

didi100:
I told my mum and my aunty that was present about everything.My mum and aunty were very shocked and wanted to drop all the anger in them on my sister.I told them to let me do the flogging.We called my sister and started questioning her.My sister is very close to me among my siblings and I hardly flog her that is why I decided to do the flogging.
I flogged her mercilessly.I was asking her questions and showing her what I saw.From the questions I ask her I found out that she has not suck any dick as she said in the chat.She said she just felt like saying that maybe she want them to feel she is a big girl.She is still a virgin(the boy that she said she did something what is very small.She said her ex sch and that time that boy was 9 so I believe her hymen is not broken)

The boy that tell her to meet her somewhere close to our house has not done what he planned on doing because she did not see the last message he sent.I have taken the phone before the message came.I also confronted the 13years old boy and threaten him and gave him a big warning about my sister.I also called the ones I could and put warned them all.
Few hours later,I called her to the room and start advicing her.I told her "you know how I love you.Have I flogged you like this before? Why did you disappoint me and she started crying again and answered No.I ask her if I was wrong for flogging her and she said No.I gave her a 1hour+ advice.
I told her how guys planned and bet with their fellow guys to sleep with a girl and go back to their friends to tell them so that they will be praised by their friends and called boss and baba for the girls.I told her what the bible says about what she did.I told her to be a girl of class,a girl that won't have anything to do with stupid boys.A girl that won't be carried away by any sweet and lovely words of a boy that want her body.I warned her about what having sex at the age will do to her and how she will be the one to carry all the pain and disgrace and the boy can go scott free.I told her to pray to God and ask for forgiveness and grace not to engage in such again.I told her how to identify stupid boys.I told her to focus on her studies and promised her a gift if she do very well this new term.I also told her I will give her a paper containing some important and positive message she should be reading time to time as she is going back to school.

We are not changing her school.From my search,I didn't find any of her female classmates involved in this.It's not from her school,it's all from the house.I know girls can have some dirty conversations between themselves in school but that won't change if she goes to a mixed day school. No phone for her again till university.No more leaving the house.After all,I told her to come and hug me and she came.Immediately she started hugging me,she started crying again.She started telling me sorry over and over again.My mum and aunty advices her too.I will put my eyes on her very well and my mum will too and other siblings.

This is just the beginning. Follow her bumper to bumper and always pray for her because at the end of the day, she will still make her choices, whether good or bad. We can only guide them so that when that time comes, our guidance will influence those choices.

That beating was very necessary, by the way. Don't mind those saying you shouldn't have flogged her. This generation of parents have chosen to spare the rod, which is why the children they are bringing up are nothing to write home about

Stop flogging your female children in the name of love, that is how she will start associating love to brutality, and that is how domestic violence starts. I have met girls that if u don't beat them, they would say you don't love them this is how it starts.

And lastly why the f....ck are u hugging ur sister, we are Africans sha and such things are alien to us, no go allow devil use u

didi100:

It seems like you did not read to the end.I know the kind of relationship I have with my sister that is why I told my mum let me do the flogging.I flogged her with my hand and use that same hand to hug her.She knows what she did was wrong and she deserve the flogging.This my sister was gisting with me not long ago.She knows I will never flog her over a slight issue.The swollen part was not necessary though but I got really angry.You can't blame me

I pray all your words of advice are taken by her and she understands why she needs to wait and not be too eager for things she shouldn't be involved with at this age.

LandMann:


God punish your head. Paedophile.

I'm sure you go around preying on naive little girls, that's why the beating pain you.

DonBenny77:

Just STFU

jamesversion:


Dem suppose knack you 2x2 plank for your head.

You guys are a special bunch of clowns. You are busy crying over my comment rather than give your opinion on the matter.

Lifeinlight:
one of my neighborh's child steal alot. His elder brother and father gave him a thorough beating. The moment he remembers that if he should do anything stupid, there are people standby that'd beat the living day light out of him. This boy is now a complete changed person. He should be 24 by now. Beating help alot!

I don't know if you're a religion person or not, even the Bible support spanking a child that's going astray. I can't really recollect the Bible verse though.

foolishness is bound in the heart of a child; the rod of correction will drive it far from him".

In my opinion, beating can correct ill behaviors however, things like this need emotional intelligence to educate the child on why this shouldn't be her priority. She's shown she's knowledgeable albeit, from the things she's heard from a manipulation perspective. Therefore, what is needed is using the trust the child has in you to reorient her in the right path truthfully.

Ishilove:

This is just the beginning. Follow her bumper to bumper and always pray for her because at the end of the day, she will still make her choices, whether good or bad. We can only guide them so that when that time comes, our guidance will influence those choices.

That beating was very necessary, by the way. Don't mind those saying you shouldn't have flogged her. This generation of parents have chosen to spare the rod, which is why the children they are bringing up is nothing to write home about

Ishilove, long time no see.

I will not support the idea of beating/flogging a child until her body gets swollen. Beating, of course, is necessary but not to that extent. If I were you, I'll apologise for going extreme. That way, she can trust you again. Moving on, learn to control your anger so you don't end up in prison.

For every other thing you've done, 👍

WhisperedNoise:

Ishilove, long time no see.

Long time ke? I'm usually around o, though not as much as before because of time constraints and majorly because the forum is becoming a cesspit.

Hope you're good?

Acidosis:
I will not support the idea of beating/flogging a child until her body gets swollen. Beating, of course, is necessary but not to that extent. If I were you, I'll apologise for going extreme. That way, she can trust you again. Moving on, learn to control your anger so you don't end up in prison.

For every other thing you've done, 👍

Dakun, please where in his post did he state that he flogged her until her body was swollen? Someone else mentioned it on this thread and I've gone back twice to reread the post but I can't find it. Abi na me no dey see well?

Ishilove:

Dakun, please where in his post did he state that he flogged her until her body was swollen? Someone else mentioned it on this thread and I've gone back twice to reread the post but I can't find it. Abi na me no dey see well?

Maybe he revised that comment. I didn't find those exact words either. I believed the poster because he (the op) did not deny what the poster mentioned.

GboyegaD:






You guys are a special bunch of clowns. You are busy crying over my comment rather than give your opinion on the matter.

I advised him in the initial thread not to pet his little sister on this issue, to flog her very well and take her down to those boy(s) and threaten, if possible, beat the hell out of them and still report to his mother and the parents of the boy(s). That is how an elder brother acts, if not, inside this Nigeria, they will mess his sister up badly.

Also, For your reading delight.
Proverbs 13v24: Whoever spares the rod hates his son, but he who loves him is diligent to discipline him.

Proverbs 23:13&14.

13 Do not withhold discipline from a child; if you punish them with the rod, they will not die. 14 Punish them with the rod and save them from death.

Proverbs 20:30

30 Physical punishment cleanses away evil; such discipline purifies the heart.

You still deserve better planking for your miserable advice to him. Better 2x2 plank on that your coconut head.

jamesversion:
■ Also, For your reading delight.
Proverbs 13v24: Whoever spares the rod hates his son, but he who loves him is diligent to discipline him.
Proverbs 23:13&14.
13 Do not withhold discipline from a child; if you punish them with the rod, they will not die. 14 Punish them with the rod and save them from death.
Proverbs 20:30
30 Physical punishment cleanses away evil; such discipline purifies the heart.
You still deserve better planking for your miserable advice to him. Better 2x2 plank on that your coconut head.

Interesting that you quote Scripture to support your stance regarding violence against children. Do you know what eventually happened to the people of Israel to whom those verses were given by their "wise men"? God eventually punished and scattered them for refusing to obey Him after all He put them through. He destroyed the Nation of Israel around 700 BC and scattered all the people of the Nation of Israel to the end of the end beginning of that time. The country called Israel today is nothing of the Nation of Israel that God Himself created and constituted in the Land of Canaan.

OP says he flogged the girl. We are yet to know what comes next but you already concluded that the girl is changed from this one event. Isn't that a tad naive on your part?

jamesversion:

I advised him in the initial thread not to pet his little sister on this issue, to flog her very well and take her down to those boy(s) and threaten, if possible, beat the hell out of them and still report to his mother and the parents of the boy(s). That is how an elder brother acts, if not, inside this Nigeria, they will mess his sister up badly.

Also, For your reading delight.
Proverbs 13v24: Whoever spares the rod hates his son, but he who loves him is diligent to discipline him.

Proverbs 23:13&14.

13 Do not withhold discipline from a child; if you punish them with the rod, they will not die. 14 Punish them with the rod and save them from death.

Proverbs 20:30

30 Physical punishment cleanses away evil; such discipline purifies the heart.

You still deserve better planking for your miserable advice to him. Better 2x2 plank on that your coconut head.

If beating works the way you all claim, Nigeria should be much better than it is right now. Parents wey dey beat pikin say e steal and the parent dey still from government etc. Abi no be people wey dem beat anyhow full government?

Abeg, no make letter kill you because na spirit dey give life ooo. Because you dey quote like say na you write Bible but e no sure say you dey do everything wey Bible talk.

Kobojunkie:
Interesting that you quote Scripture to support your stance regarding violence against children. Do you know what eventually happened to the people of Israel to whom those verses were given by their "wise men"? God eventually punished and scattered them for refusing to obey Him after all He put them through. He destroyed the Nation of Israel around 700 BC and scattered all the people of the Nation of Israel to the end of the end beginning of that time. The country called Israel today is nothing of the Nation of Israel that God Himself created and constituted in the Land of Canaan.

OP says he flogged the girl. We are yet to know what comes next but you already concluded that the girl is changed from this one event. Isn't that a tad naive on your part?

If you'd rather plead and beg your child not to be bad, good for you. But the good ol' koboko is way to go for real Christians. I don't expect you to accept my views, especially as you aren't a Christian.

jamesversion:
■ If you'd rather plead and beg your child not to be bad, good for you. But the good ol' koboko is way to go for real Christians. I don't expect you to accept my views, especially as you aren't a Christian.

The way for Christians ofcourse. The Koboko did not work for the Israelites.... they still didn't obey God at the end of the day and God eventually had to curse and scatter them like Moses said He would - Deuteronomy 30 vs 1 - 6. So, it seems Christians are not intelligent at all in that they blindly copy ideas without in fact asserting the worth of those ideas.

By the way, why not at least consider the fact that even with all of the flogging of your many Christian groups today, Nigeria remains a cesspit that one cannot write home about? I mean we are talking of over 60 years of Christianity in Nigeria and still nothing good to show for it — the citizenry, many raised and flogged mercilessly by their Christian parents are just as corrupt as the country itself.

Uyi168:
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Guy forget that thing o.

Many of us would have been wayward today if not for the correctional beatings we received back then..

Special slaps wey dey reset brain..

Tell me you believe many are not wayward despite the beatings? A country where we all know the extent of corruption naim you dey talk like say the beatings change things? Walahi, wetin beatings do pass na say e change people's tactics.

GboyegaD:


If beating works the way you all claim, Nigeria should be much better than it is right now. Parents wey dey beat pikin say e steal and the parent dey still from government etc. Abi no be people wey dem beat anyhow full government?

Abeg, no make letter kill you because na spirit dey give life ooo. Because you dey quote like say na you write Bible but e no sure say you dey do everything wey Bible talk.

The parents have to be an exemplar to their kids, else the actions of the parents is inherently hypocritical.

It is expected that your child should look up to you for good. That is the basis.

I sabi Bible na. I repented when I was 12yrs old. I'm late 30s, e no easy sha as devil no dey gree, especially with women.

GboyegaD:






You guys are a special bunch of clowns. You are busy crying over my comment rather than give your opinion on the matter.

You are a donkey, having read both threads what opinion do want to hear again.
Don't face your family problems keep having opinions on how others handle theirs.

Kobojunkie:
The way for Christians ofcourse. The Koboko did not work for the Israelites.... they still didn't obey God at the end of the day and God eventually had to curse and scatter them like Moses said He would - Deuteronomy 30 vs 1 - 6. So, it seems Christians are not intelligent at all in that they blindly copy ideas without in fact asserting the worth of those ideas.

By the way, why not at least consider the fact that even with all of the flogging of your many Christian groups today, Nigeria remains a cesspit that one cannot write home about? I mean we are talking of over 60 years of Christianity in Nigeria and still nothing good to show for it — the citizenry, many raised and flogged mercilessly by their Christian parents are just as corrupt as the country itself.

You need to discern the difference between Churchgoing and Christianity. There are as many churchgoers as mosque-goers in Nigeria. But Nigeria is the way it is because of lack of sincerity in their religious lives.

It is systemic and unfortunately will remain like this until this world is done away with. To believe Nigeria will be better is self deceit.

jamesversion:
■ You need to discern the difference between Churchgoing and Christianity. There are as many churchgoers as mosque-goers in Nigeria. But Nigeria is the way it is because of lack of sincerity in their religious lives.
■ It is systemic and unfortunately will remain like this until this world is done away with.
■ To believe Nigeria will be better is self deceit

Nonsense! Na the same thing all of them be. LOL....🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

2. Systemic? The rest of the world does not have anything close to what you have in Nigeria though so what in the world are you talking about abeg!

3. So what is the point of flogging your kids then?

EBUBS:
No girl, I repeat no girl should use a smart phone before university

But guys should use right? Same guys that are doing fraud and killing people up and down.

Kobojunkie:
Nonsense! Na the same thing all of them be. LOL....🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

2. Systemic? The rest of the world does not have anything close to what you have in Nigeria though so what in the world are you talking about abeg!

3. So what is the point of flogging your kids then?

So no be people children dey be Engineers, doctor, lawyer inside Nigeria. So you'd rather your kids turn out to be hook up girls and riffraffs?

Even inside Sodom & Gomorrah, Lot and his family were God-fearing. Majority of Nigerians could be bad but good people still abound.

Abeg, what you will. I'm done with you.