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Witnessing A Loved One Die In Your Presence by DaddyRochie1642: 7:32am On Jan 17 |
It's over one year I lost my mother to stage 4 breast cancer, the breast cancer was not detected early, - I remember that day very clearly like it was yesterday, - It was on a Sunday morning, she was responsive their on her hospital bed, she was even smiling with the doctor attending to her, - I was there, my younger brother was there, my older cousin was there, we were there by her side, the doctor attending to her left, - Few minutes after the doctor left, mummy closed her eyes, - We immediately rushed and called the doctors to the situation, the brought their machine for CPR, the machine couldn't detect her pulse/vitals, - She was pronounced dead after several efforts. - I couldn't believe I just saw mummy die before my eyes, - My younger brother went nuts right there in the hospital, my older cousin shed tears, his eyes were red, I was too shocked, I just sat down beside her body and held her hand for over an hour, she was 52years old. - This memory plays in my head each day. - My younger brother was never himself After mummy's passing, - He developed some kind of mental health issues, it was so bad for him, - My younger brother became a complete shadow of himself, this is someone that is full of Life and energy when mummy was alive. - Doctor said it was schizophrenia which was triggered due to the loss of a loved one as he was very close to her. - With combined efforts, my younger brother slowly overcame the mental health issue, - Each time I look at him, I'm so glad we rallied around for him, I am so glad I played my role and stood by him at that low point in his life, I'm filled with happiness each time I see him. - Witnessing a loved one die in your presence is a scar for life, it can damage a person for Life. You can share your experience if you wish, it is not an easy thing to talk about. 186 Likes 18 Shares |
Re: Witnessing A Loved One Die In Your Presence by Kobojunkie: 7:45am On Jan 17 |
DaddyRochie1642:By any chance, was your mother religious? Was she a member of any church were she prayed regularly or prayer groups or the likes? |
Re: Witnessing A Loved One Die In Your Presence by DaddyRochie1642: 7:47am On Jan 17 |
Kobojunkie: She was 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: Witnessing A Loved One Die In Your Presence by Kobojunkie: 7:48am On Jan 17 |
DaddyRochie1642:Care to reveal which? |
Re: Witnessing A Loved One Die In Your Presence by WombBreaker: 8:38am On Jan 17 |
Imagine saying your brother's mentally ill TF Schizophrenia is not a mental illness please Your brother's a state of paranoia that his mommy died 14 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Witnessing A Loved One Die In Your Presence by DaddyRochie1642: 10:08am On Jan 17 |
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Re: Witnessing A Loved One Die In Your Presence by DaddyRochie1642: 10:09am On Jan 17 |
WombBreaker: The doctor said so, he was diagnosed, you seem to have a problem with it 75 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Witnessing A Loved One Die In Your Presence by talk2hb1(m): 1:33pm On Jan 17 |
I can relate, when my Dad died in my hand in 2022, although I had the premonition 3days ahead. I still can’t get over him till today. 62 Likes 4 Shares |
Re: Witnessing A Loved One Die In Your Presence by ChybuzzDD(m): 2:17pm On Jan 17 |
DaddyRochie1642: May her soul RIP 41 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Witnessing A Loved One Die In Your Presence by ChybuzzDD(m): 2:20pm On Jan 17 |
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Re: Witnessing A Loved One Die In Your Presence by Mindlog: 2:34pm On Jan 17 |
WombBreaker:Schizophrenia is a serious mental illness! Where did you learn, it isn't? 79 Likes 4 Shares |
Re: Witnessing A Loved One Die In Your Presence by WombBreaker: 2:36pm On Jan 17 |
Mindlog: That's a lie I know a guy with schizophrenia that's doing well more than the average dude 4 Likes 6 Shares |
Re: Witnessing A Loved One Die In Your Presence by WombBreaker: 4:42pm On Jan 17 |
psychicdreams: RoyalRoy Seun Quoted troll keep using multiple alts and Derailing threads Violation of multiple rules |
Re: Witnessing A Loved One Die In Your Presence by Kobojunkie: 4:55pm On Jan 17 |
WombBreaker:Please describe this guy, and what you mean by he is doing well. 21 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Witnessing A Loved One Die In Your Presence by Kobojunkie: 4:58pm On Jan 17 |
DaddyRochie1642:Oh, I see! Just wondering whether the cancer was asymptomatic or she was merely blinded by religion. Sadly, she is gone. please take heart. 5 Likes |
Re: Witnessing A Loved One Die In Your Presence by WombBreaker: 5:00pm On Jan 17 |
Kobojunkie: Look up Terry Davis There are more like him |
Re: Witnessing A Loved One Die In Your Presence by DaddyRochie1642: 5:08pm On Jan 17 |
Kobojunkie: Can breast cancer be asymptomatic, I'm curious 8 Likes |
Re: Witnessing A Loved One Die In Your Presence by Kobojunkie: 5:18pm On Jan 17 |
DaddyRochie1642:It is possible but rare. 2 Likes |
Re: Witnessing A Loved One Die In Your Presence by Kobojunkie: 5:20pm On Jan 17 |
WombBreaker:Are you joking? Terry Davis, who struggled with the illness, eventually dying at 48 did well for himself. 16 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Witnessing A Loved One Die In Your Presence by EbenezerTriumph: 5:29pm On Jan 17 |
DaddyRochie1642:I lost my dad on November last year. I almost lost my sanity as he died at 84 and even at that age he sponsored me through school (I'm a fresh graduate). Graduating and coming back home I lost him to the cold hands of death. His death affected me and I almost got sacked at work. Till now I'm yet to recover 49 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Witnessing A Loved One Die In Your Presence by Fira09(m): 5:33pm On Jan 17 |
psychicdreams:What is this? Lmao 1 Like |
Re: Witnessing A Loved One Die In Your Presence by sholay2011(m): 5:35pm On Jan 17 |
Kobojunkie:What is really your problem? Jeez... This thread is quite emotional and OP's writeup really broke my heart. I'm glad your younger brother is doing fine now. 37 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Witnessing A Loved One Die In Your Presence by DaddyRochie1642: 5:39pm On Jan 17 |
EbenezerTriumph: Wow,.... this deep, even at his age, his passing has this kind of impact on you, imagine, if he had passed at a younger age, There was a guy I knew that was always telling me to be strong when our mother passed each time we meet, - two months later, one day me and him met and he was telling me that the time he was telling me to be strong and stay strong after our mother passed away, it was after he lost his father one month later that he realized what I was going through that period our mother passed. - he told me that it is not easy for him to stay strong after loosing his father, he was asking me for tips on how to stay strong after such a loss. People that have not experienced loosing a loved one can never ever relate to it. 75 Likes 7 Shares |
Re: Witnessing A Loved One Die In Your Presence by Kobojunkie: 5:54pm On Jan 17 |
psychicdreams:He did well, how? |
Re: Witnessing A Loved One Die In Your Presence by Mindlog: 6:45pm On Jan 17 |
WombBreaker: Go read up on schizophrenia and post any link that claims it is psychopathological. 4 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: Witnessing A Loved One Die In Your Presence by bellong: 12:31am On Jan 18 |
WombBreaker: I think your opinion stems from the believe that people living with mental illness cannot live a normal life. It is ignorance to believe the lie. DSM-V classified schizophrenia as a serious mental illness. People with mental illness can still live a normal life with support from behavioural therapy, anti-psychotic medications and other therapy methods. Yes, people with schizophrenia can live well and still contribute to the society. Professor John Nash, a Nobel laurette in Mathematics is a classic example. @OP, the loss of loved ones is very painful particularly those who have made significant impact in our lives. The good memories we have of them and the great life they lived help to alleviate the pain. Happy to hear that your brother got the help he needed and didn't develop a treatment resistant schizophrenia. It is well with you all. 10 Likes |
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