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Re: Getting Married And Living In Your Parents House. What Is Wrong About It by 1Sharon(f): 11:30pm On Jan 25 |
Nazgul: No woman should agree to that scam. |
Re: Getting Married And Living In Your Parents House. What Is Wrong About It by LEARNPYTHON(m): 11:30pm On Jan 25 |
JessicaRabbit:This is a sensible submission and beautifully written too 👍 However, what if your parents' abode is not a sprawling palace nor do you have any sort of business nearby; basically, your decision to stay with them after marriage is based on financial reasons. But your parents don't mind— at least they show no sign to suggest otherwise. Would it still be fine to stay with them ? Also, is your submission based on experience or just what you feel/understand is appropriate to do under the circumstances ? |
Re: Getting Married And Living In Your Parents House. What Is Wrong About It by Icebreeze(m): 11:32pm On Jan 25 |
It's toxic.. It might be with you, but what about your wife? |
Re: Getting Married And Living In Your Parents House. What Is Wrong About It by Gentlesoul2021(m): 11:32pm On Jan 25 |
koolib: Can u share... |
Re: Getting Married And Living In Your Parents House. What Is Wrong About It by Gentlesoul2021(m): 11:32pm On Jan 25 |
harry2sexy: |
Re: Getting Married And Living In Your Parents House. What Is Wrong About It by 1Sharon(f): 11:43pm On Jan 25 |
EconomistXplain: Who told you this?? You sabi Indians at all? |
Re: Getting Married And Living In Your Parents House. What Is Wrong About It by Demurray: 11:57pm On Jan 25 |
Wives that are too proud and disrespectful, who refused to bow for inlaws most especially mother in law would find the house hot for her to stay because the mother in law would not tolerate nonsense. Thereby tagging her mother in law witch and other abusive names. Their kinds are so many on this platform, they would never support living in their father in law house even for a day. There's nothing wrong with it. It will only benefit them especially when both are working as a salary earner and the right person to look after their kids is the mother in law . 1 Like |
Re: Getting Married And Living In Your Parents House. What Is Wrong About It by ufotunang: 12:02am On Jan 26 |
It's wrong...at a certain time your parents will start not to respect you and your wife....your brother and sister will not respect you and your wife they will look down on you |
Re: Getting Married And Living In Your Parents House. What Is Wrong About It by dreamwords: 12:02am On Jan 26 |
NikoDeBonAmi:there is nothing wrong with it as long as your own parent are still living in there parent house, as long as your wife to be is also comfortable with it |
Re: Getting Married And Living In Your Parents House. What Is Wrong About It by kwasoly(m): 12:05am On Jan 26 |
NikoDeBonAmi: A man cannot cleave without leaving, it is in the leaving you can cleave to your wife. The scripture cannot be broken. |
Re: Getting Married And Living In Your Parents House. What Is Wrong About It by Acidosis(m): 12:09am On Jan 26 |
None at all. Seyi Tinubu (probably) lives in one of his father's properties in Lagos/Abuja/London. Poverty makes everything appear ugly and stup!d. |
Re: Getting Married And Living In Your Parents House. What Is Wrong About It by rickleye: 12:11am On Jan 26 |
NikoDeBonAmi: Dude nothing is wrong . As long as you are staying in a BQ while you are saving to get your own house and move out . Don’t be intimidated by others timeline. 1 Like |
Re: Getting Married And Living In Your Parents House. What Is Wrong About It by jmoore(m): 12:16am On Jan 26 |
kwasoly:Una just dey quote bible with misinterpretation. |
Re: Getting Married And Living In Your Parents House. What Is Wrong About It by Judolisco(m): 12:17am On Jan 26 |
Nice2023:it's a norm in India.... It's jst a cultural thing here to leave your family and start another family.... But in India it's like a shame when u ain't staying with your parents 1 Like |
Re: Getting Married And Living In Your Parents House. What Is Wrong About It by intruder15(m): 12:28am On Jan 26 |
NikoDeBonAmi: Most of these laws are applicable for the poor. The rich no de check these things. What matters to me is the intention to staying back. There should be a plan. There are people that got married, had mutual understanding between husband and wife, raised more funds due to less expenses on rent and built their house. Then moved out into their own house. Is that not sweet? Na mumu de seek validation for people mouth. 4 Likes |
Re: Getting Married And Living In Your Parents House. What Is Wrong About It by Bigchristo: 12:40am On Jan 26 |
NikoDeBonAmi:Stop asking nonsense questions; it’s never good to get married and still be living in your parents house as a man even if it’s one bed room apartment get it ready before you marry leave your parents house and start your own family, however a married person needed privacy with his wife don’t come and allow your family to intrude into your private affairs with your wife that’s not a good thing to do |
Re: Getting Married And Living In Your Parents House. What Is Wrong About It by Myer(m): 1:05am On Jan 26 |
jmoore:It balls down to the person you're getting married to. If she's fine with it, you will enjoy it. But if she isn't fine with it,, any slight issue will be attributed to staying in your parents house. |
Re: Getting Married And Living In Your Parents House. What Is Wrong About It by explored(m): 1:28am On Jan 26 |
suprising! hmmmm |
Re: Getting Married And Living In Your Parents House. What Is Wrong About It by BitterTruth0001: 2:04am On Jan 26 |
Nice2023: This is a very uncouth manner of speaking’. Do you not have any social etiquettes ? |
Re: Getting Married And Living In Your Parents House. What Is Wrong About It by ericmor: 2:04am On Jan 26 |
jmoore: Letting people decide your future has killed so many people future in Nigeria. You need to be wise. My guy got married and moved out of his father's house, after 3yrs of paying house rent and paying children school fees, my guy got tired of the expenses as things were increasing every year, my guy quickly moved back to one of the apartment in his father's house and now guy is happy again because he now have savings and his own house is work in progress now. You just need to take advantage of what you have to elevate yourself in Nigeria and don't do follow follow |
Re: Getting Married And Living In Your Parents House. What Is Wrong About It by hakeemhakeem(m): 2:17am On Jan 26 |
Nothing is wrong with it after all this was a normal practice in ages, whereby people lived in the same compound at the village 1 Like |
Re: Getting Married And Living In Your Parents House. What Is Wrong About It by hakeemhakeem(m): 2:19am On Jan 26 |
CandidAdmin: Don't you knack where you live with your neighbors |
Re: Getting Married And Living In Your Parents House. What Is Wrong About It by placeofallure(f): 2:37am On Jan 26 |
NikoDeBonAmi: You included a clause in your query...if it's a big estate and your apartments are metres apart like the Okoya's Oluwa ni Sola estate for instance, no problems; I fit dey one week, we no go see. But to live with my husband's family, right under each other's noses, sharing the same space...I Cannot Can! No matter the amount of tolerance and understanding you have or they have, Ẹ ma ni problem o. There will be rifts, there will be rancour, husband go settle matters taya, later he will take sides, then there will be gang up, family war don land be that! I don't have the energy biko. Too many important things to do than to live every minute of your life being careful not to annoy the other person. You should be allowed to be vulnerable in your own space! |
Re: Getting Married And Living In Your Parents House. What Is Wrong About It by Sibetolo: 2:43am On Jan 26 |
This answers it . It depends on the relationship between the Husby his parents and how much of a WOMAN the wife is among other factors that determines the rightness or wrongness. We wer Socratiz: |
Re: Getting Married And Living In Your Parents House. What Is Wrong About It by elijahozzy(m): 2:50am On Jan 26 |
securitywatch50: You see the man enough has put many man to the grave, there is no crime not to be man enough, may why man Dey pass man, no let any one pressure you 1 Like |
Re: Getting Married And Living In Your Parents House. What Is Wrong About It by cattylove7(f): 2:51am On Jan 26 |
If your parents have a boy squatter or a guest house/challet a couple can stay behind the main house, yes, you can take that risk But living. in your parent's house while you are married. Hell no That is the beginning of disrespects, etc. - blog www.cattylove.com |
Re: Getting Married And Living In Your Parents House. What Is Wrong About It by PlanetZero: 3:06am On Jan 26 |
If you like live in your gra d mothers house. It is your choice. But if your spouse doesn't support it. No way u can force him or her |
Re: Getting Married And Living In Your Parents House. What Is Wrong About It by Lexusgs430: 3:11am On Jan 26 |
It's wrong on all levels....... You might not mind, but what does your wife truly feel about the arrangement....... |
Re: Getting Married And Living In Your Parents House. What Is Wrong About It by Sammy249: 3:12am On Jan 26 |
If your parents have a massive house then that's just a wise thing or if you see paying for what's currently available when searching for a accommodation doesn't just make sense , infact its the richest of the richest that do this the most , the Adenugas and the Okoyas children still reside in thier parents palatial home, it's poor men children that thier father never achieved nothing palatial I'm life that be quick to go pay another man 70% of his or her salary every year total on house rent payment, if y'all fathers were successfully you don't need to move out , because rich people are far smarter why paying for another man's kids future and when they retire they have no property to show for all thier years of hard work and paying rent majority with the salaries , don't rush to move out be wise even till 40years , moving out early only leads to more promiscuity and spending of money lavishly and later regretting in life |
Re: Getting Married And Living In Your Parents House. What Is Wrong About It by athaliya(f): 3:30am On Jan 26 |
I love such and I pray for such. As long as it's a peaceful home. Free and trusted nanny for my kids, free police for my hubby There might be initial friction but with time, everyone will grow closer. 1 Like |
Re: Getting Married And Living In Your Parents House. What Is Wrong About It by pasuma(m): 3:43am On Jan 26 |
There's absolutely nothing wrong with it but the problem is mostly with the ladies, they may frustrate your existence just to move out of the house. Indians do it , more of a norms with them, you find 3 generations living in the same compound. I stayed 7 years after marriage in my father's house until I completed my 4 flats in isolo before moving out. Maybe I was just lucky with my wife but some ladies wouldn't even stay 1 week sha jmoore: 2 Likes |
Re: Getting Married And Living In Your Parents House. What Is Wrong About It by Emman08: 3:54am On Jan 26 |
What is wrong? EVERYTHING |
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