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Re: Finding A Wife Is Really Not Easy O by skj1377(m): 5:35pm On Feb 06 |
Yes. Many women but very few can be married. If you make a mistake you may be unhappy for life or may need to divorce her. Be careful and remember to avoid flashy ladies. 18 Likes |
Re: Finding A Wife Is Really Not Easy O by Afrobasic(m): 5:47pm On Feb 06 |
Na mumu dey marry. 2 Likes |
Re: Finding A Wife Is Really Not Easy O by Auxtan(m): 6:05pm On Feb 06 |
Afrobasic:One day you will be that mumu. 32 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Finding A Wife Is Really Not Easy O by LeeSmart: 6:12pm On Feb 06 |
Auxtan:My brother no follow that advice, run oo. 4 Likes |
Re: Finding A Wife Is Really Not Easy O by Nicepoker(m): 6:23pm On Feb 06 |
Jewessgratitud3:You still de here? ![]() |
Re: Finding A Wife Is Really Not Easy O by Rokiat(f): 6:27pm On Feb 06 |
Jeon: Don’t mind them. Only if many women woke up to this truth. Men benefit from marriage not women and many women end up unhappy because they give so much. Many of our grandmothers suffered so much all in the name of marriage. All you hear them talking about is how much they endured glorifying struggle love, instead of teaching the younger generation to do better, choose themselves love themselves do better know they are the prize and never pedestalize these men. Never settled for broke men choose lifestyle and then grow in love. Marriage for a woman is never an achievement. A man should feel lucky not you for you are gonna give so much even by just giving birth. 10 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: Finding A Wife Is Really Not Easy O by Emmanuel900(m): 6:37pm On Feb 06 |
Rokiat: What does men benefits from marriage oya list dem 6 Likes |
Re: Finding A Wife Is Really Not Easy O by Rokiat(f): 6:39pm On Feb 06 |
Emmanuel900:I don’t care or give a damn what a man benefits, if men think they don’t benefit nothing they can give up marriage all together. 9 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Finding A Wife Is Really Not Easy O by Jeon(f): 6:46pm On Feb 06 |
Rokiat: And the thank you or retirement pay for those women are: the men cheating, maltreating her or chasing her away. Many of our grandmothers suffered so much all in the name of marriage. All you hear them talking about is how much they endured glorifying struggle love, instead of teaching the younger generation to do better, choose themselves love themselves do better know they are the prize and never pedestalize these men. Never settled for broke men choose lifestyle and then grow in love. Marriage for a woman is never an achievement. A man should feel lucky not you for you are gonna give so much even by just giving birth. For me I can't do all those things in the name of having a successful marriage and bearing the name "virtuous woman". We all see how those virtuous women end up,they end by death or starting from square one. 7 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: Finding A Wife Is Really Not Easy O by Emmanuel900(m): 6:51pm On Feb 06 |
Rokiat: Oya so badass lol |
Re: Finding A Wife Is Really Not Easy O by Rokiat(f): 7:04pm On Feb 06 |
Jeon:I have seen it too many times, these so called good women gets paid nothing but mistreatment. It is no Surprise that most divorce are initiated by women, many of them so miserable in their marriages. The K drama Doctor Cha is great example of this. There’s no reward for been a good naive wife/woman. You have to always choose yourself first, put yourself first, love yourself, put yourself as priority and stand on your standards. First step is never believing in this fairytale of falling in love. You were born with love already, your mama loves you or if she didn’t/don’t you love yourself ![]() What you need from men is for them to provide and protect, with this mindset you choose the man that will provide for you, the man that will give you princess treatment and treat you well, naturally you will grow in love with this man, this is how it should be. Like that you will always choose the best mate because you ain’t choosing on some flimsy emotion of falling in love, but what’s best for you and what will benefit you and your future children in the long run. Anytime you see a movie or show about the supposed good woman and bad woman, choose what the supposed bad women is doing, cuz 9/10 times she’s only putting her self first, having standards being a gold digger which is actually a good thing, and actually been smart, but the movies/shows wanna brainwash you to be the supposed goodgirl who will choose the broke guy to suffered with him in the gutters, forgive all his cheating forgive his physical/emotional abuse. The brainwashing is something else, you have to be smart to catch up to it, not surprising though many men are the one directing these shows. lol I am not suffering for no man. Never! I was not born a gender just to come and suffer for a man and prove my worth to one. God forbid. 11 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: Finding A Wife Is Really Not Easy O by Connected1: 7:09pm On Feb 06 |
Rokiat:Everyone benefits from marriage equally, stop saying what you don't know because you are in a competition with unknown men here. Men brag about not needing marriage because they age like wine, at 55 - 60 a can easily get married to any woman of his choice. Whereas a woman at 55 have very limited or no options at all, so neither men nor women benefit more, one just has more bragging rights. 16 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Finding A Wife Is Really Not Easy O by Emmanuel900(m): 7:10pm On Feb 06 |
Jeon: It is actually very simple If you only respect and value virtuous men that only cherish positive values like honesty, integrity, loyalty, dignity, honour, self respect, humility etc the chance of securing a good man is very high but most of these so call virtuous women are only attracted to only go after bad boys that only cherish all the negatives values in humanity and hope to win them over with their good virtues. He may be sweet, loyal and kind to you because he is getting the pvssy from you. Is he also sweet, loyal and kind to all the good people and friends around him ? that's the secret to locating a good man but most women would rather be jealous and manipulate that kind of man to turn evil so they can enjoy him alone. Most women don't care how their man is treating others as long as he is treating them good that's how most women end up with a bad man, you will know a bad man by the way he treat others apart from you. 10 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Finding A Wife Is Really Not Easy O by Jeon(f): 7:25pm On Feb 06 |
Rokiat: lOl same thing happening in the on going kdrama "Marry my husband". And did you know that this k drama of a thing is getting so much hate from the men, why? because it is now leading to so many divorce . The K drama Doctor Cha is great example of this. There’s no reward for been a good naive wife/woman. You have to always choose yourself first, put yourself first, love yourself, put yourself as priority and stand on your standards. First step is never needing love from these men. You were born with live already, your mama loves you or if she didn’t/don’t you love yourself always, if you don’t you better learn to. Bad girl always win, the men also say it . Bad girls are for fun, while good girls are for marriage. Apply sense and you will get the hidden message. I will never be that woman of suffering in marriage with the experiences that are everywhere. 8 Likes 5 Shares |
Re: Finding A Wife Is Really Not Easy O by Rokiat(f): 7:34pm On Feb 06 |
Connected1: In competition with which men? For what? To prove what? Lol lol Ohhh a man can not just get married to any woman of his choice what the hell are you talking about? Unless offcourse he’s rich. Many men actually are not with their dream woman because they can’t actually afford her. A man didn’t age like fine wine unless he has money. Looks means nothing for a man without money. What the fu…ck are we gonna do with a man’s good looks? Or how beautifully he aged? Is that going to send my children to good school pay the bills, take me on vacation etc? Also marriage is not everyone goal in life. There are actually women that are happier without marriage. The majority that are are miserable Anyways. Single women are happier married men are happy married women are mostly miserable. (Cold hard truth) 4 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Finding A Wife Is Really Not Easy O by Rokiat(f): 7:36pm On Feb 06 |
Jeon: Didn’t please. Knowledge is power. |
Re: Finding A Wife Is Really Not Easy O by Afrobasic(m): 7:36pm On Feb 06 |
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Re: Finding A Wife Is Really Not Easy O by Jeon(f): 7:45pm On Feb 06 |
Rokiat: My sister that was the covenant I made with myself right before clocking 20s, because of what I am seeing. Another recent one is a person closer to me experiencing this. The man is now misbehaving with a woman residing in their compound, not even out. After spending close to 40 years in marriage, selling shoes in oni market for over two decades and now the good woman is been replaced by the bad woman. Guess what the grass is greener . And this man doesn't even answer the calls of his children [ one is in outside Africa, studying medicine the others are in nursing school in Nigeria]. This woman was down with typhoid for two weeks, the man showed no concern towards her. 8 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Finding A Wife Is Really Not Easy O by Elzazzi: 7:45pm On Feb 06 |
LordIsaac: Key word.. never marry out of pity. |
Re: Finding A Wife Is Really Not Easy O by Rokiat(f): 7:59pm On Feb 06 |
Jeon: I am not surprised. Many women stay in the dark because the older generation is not teaching the younger ones any better. They suffered and they want the younger ones to suffered too. Pathetic. A lot of lot of women were pickmeishas and held Internalised misogyny and raised their daughters To be one. A Lot of unlearning and learning to be done I tell you. 3 Likes |
Re: Finding A Wife Is Really Not Easy O by BBIA: 8:03pm On Feb 06 |
Jeon:You never stop disappointing English. ![]() 3 Likes |
Re: Finding A Wife Is Really Not Easy O by Rokiat(f): 8:22pm On Feb 06 |
Jeon: I am not surprised. The only true love you gonna feel is the love a mother gives you when you are a baby. That is why as a woman your interest should be first. Put your self first always. Never invest too much emotion into them. You have to act and think like a man. They always put their own interest first, they are never too emotionally invested. As a woman do the same but x2 Understand that this is just a man for God sake just a man lol never lose yourself over one. It really hurt me when I see women killing themselves for these good for nothing dudes. I can bet you the red flag been there since year 1 but she was there just to save face and trying to be a good wife, see where that got her, That is why as a woman you go for a provider man. Your money is your own his money is for you both. You saved your money invest and have something going for your self incase of raining days like this. If he up and leave so be it. Or if you decide to leave because of whatever reasons so be it. Never get too attached to anything, I mean he’s just a person he could die you know. Like that if it comes to an end then so Be it know that you can be happy with or without a man. But if you are foolish enough to love a broke man and build with him, waste your youth best years suffering for him your womb, when something like this happens how do you recover from it? As a woman you have to choose wisely. 5 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Finding A Wife Is Really Not Easy O by Eunoiaa(f): 8:43pm On Feb 06 |
Snowx: Let me summon dating expert and relationship coach PureFace1 for you guys to come and counsel you. Please, sir, can you help explain this phenomenon? ![]() Because according to you, a man of 60, 70 can get a young virgin of 20 if he wishes, yet men in their late twenties to thirties are finding it hard to do? How come, o knowledgeable one? 5 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Finding A Wife Is Really Not Easy O by Prettygirl200(f): 8:44pm On Feb 06 |
Auxtan:I understand that feeling so sorry about that, quick question you mean u haven't dated or u are not having a date at the moment? Abi you get but u no wan marry her, which one? 1 Like |
Re: Finding A Wife Is Really Not Easy O by Snowx: 8:48pm On Feb 06 |
Eunoiaa: You funny..you talking as if you are living in Mars..in this dispensation you will easily find a virgin..is only God that will give you wife in this dispensation 2 Likes |
Re: Finding A Wife Is Really Not Easy O by Eunoiaa(f): 8:50pm On Feb 06 |
talk2hb1: Why do you care about love? Isn't respect the most important thing a man values from a woman? 2 Likes |
Re: Finding A Wife Is Really Not Easy O by Iamblessed85: 8:53pm On Feb 06 |
talk2hb1: Wow. I had to log in for this. Funny thing is, it sounds like bragging untill you experience it and see how the feeling sucks. Sad part is, the ladies that are on same success level with you are most times too arrogant, busy and proud. The ones that are less successful see you as a meal ticket. 18 Likes 4 Shares |
Re: Finding A Wife Is Really Not Easy O by Eunoiaa(f): 8:55pm On Feb 06 |
Snowx: Nor be me tok am o. ![]() Na your fellow man talk am. 2 Likes |
Re: Finding A Wife Is Really Not Easy O by MrCork: 8:56pm On Feb 06 |
Auxtan: Bro u can find wifey on nairaland or anywhere....jusss pay them N15k (15000 naira...cash) & they be yours...I hav 3 all ready sir!!..THANK ME LATER!! ![]() 1 Like |
Re: Finding A Wife Is Really Not Easy O by talk2hb1(m): 9:05pm On Feb 06 |
Eunoiaa:That's why I said we get objectified, respect is required, but how can I trust her when I am down that she won't bail on me without love? 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Finding A Wife Is Really Not Easy O by talk2hb1(m): 9:07pm On Feb 06 |
Iamblessed85:You nailed it bro 7 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Finding A Wife Is Really Not Easy O by MayowaTallguy: 9:16pm On Feb 06 |
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