My friend has a fiancee, and they’ve been living together as a couple for a while now. They even have a baby together. However, they haven’t officially married yet due to the bride price request and expenses from the lady’s family.

Recently, he confided in me about a troubling incident. They all went to a party, got drunk, and unfortunately, he ended up having sex with his future sister-in-law. Since then, they’ve been engaging in this affair whenever she visits.

When he told me, I was deeply disappointed and urged him to stop, especially because I have a close relationship with their family.

Yesterday, he called me in distress because the sister is threatening to reveal their affair to their family. He felt compelled to disclose the matter to his fiancée before she hears it from someone else.

His fiancée reached out to me for advice, expressing her desire to leave the house. I’m unsure how to advise her in this challenging situation.

Nigga might not make it out alive if he's not strong.....

Op you are the one that shamelessly slept with your fiance's sister, I so much dislike men that engage in this type of abomination. Of all people in this world it has to be her sister, I can never forgive such till I leave this earth and will still not forgive him in heaven if any foolish man dares try this with me around my friends because I don't have stupid family members that can indulge in this thing.

She should just leave the stupid man and ask God to judge them. If I'm the one I'll silently leave but will never speak a word with him again till the end of time and I'll train my child to despise him so much he'll wish he never existed. I sooooooo much hate this type of nonsense.

Nobody should preach forgiveness because there are things that are unforgivable.

EreluRoz:
Op you are the one that shamelessly slept with your fiance's sister, I do much dislike men that engage in this type of abomination. Of all people in this world it has to be her sister, I can never forgive such till I leave this earth and will still not forgive him in heaven if any foolish man dares try this with me around my friends because I don't have stupid family members that can indulge in this thing.

She should just leave the stupid man and ask God to judge them. If I'm the one I'll silently leave but will never speak a word with him again till the end of time and I'll try my child to despise him so much he'll wish he never existed. I sooooooo much hate this type of nonsense

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Man! I’m trying to figure out how to settle this because my friend has been reaching out to help talk to the girl, but I don’t even know what to say to her.

mayDtolu:
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Man! I’m trying to figure out how to settle this because my friend has been reaching out to help talk to the girl, but I don’t even know what to say to her.

tell him to cut off his randy dick

This is haram! He can’t marry that woman. How desperate is the woman that wants to marry him. This is some hillbilly nonsense. Africans don’t get down like that. We were never such a Classless people.

EreluRoz:
Op you are the one that shamelessly slept with your fiance's sister, I so much dislike men that engage in this type of abomination. Of all people in this world it has to be her sister, I can never forgive such till I leave this earth and will still not forgive him in heaven if any foolish man dares try this with me around my friends because I don't have stupid family members that can indulge in this thing.

She should just leave the stupid man and ask God to judge them. If I'm the one I'll silently leave but will never speak a word with him again till the end of time and I'll train my child to despise him so much he'll wish he never existed. I sooooooo much hate this type of nonsense.

Nobody should preach forgiveness because there are things that are unforgivable.

Truly, you hate this shitty scenario! You typed with so much anger. I wonder how some men find female family friends, female in-laws, siblings' wife, fiancée female friends, your guy girlfriends attractive.

All these aforementioned should be a no go area, else lack of self discipline.

You are not telling us the full story, you are deliberately leaving some details out,

I'm sure you asked that your friend with his coconut head why the sister in-law is suddenly threatening to expose their affair, what was the reason for the threat?,

Your friend with his coconut head and the sister in-law with her coconut head continued the affair which shows that they were both enjoying it.

I ask again and give me an accurate answer;
why did the sister in-law with her coconut head start threatening to expose the whole thing.

the man lacks self respect. i will advice her to just leave the relationship else she will be sorry in the future.

DaddyRochie1642:
You are not telling us the full story, you are deliberately leaving some details out,

I'm sure you asked that your friend with his coconut head why the sister in-law is suddenly threatening to expose their affair, what was the reason for the threat?,

Your friend with his coconut head and the sister in-law with her coconut head continued the affair which shows that they were both enjoying it.

I ask again and give me an accurate answer;
why did the sister in-law with coconut head start threatening to expose the whole thing.

Because he made some promises and can't fulfil them.

I despise weak men who can't control themselves and don't operate under any moral code. Who have no sense of the consequences of their actions and the pain they bring to those they claim to love.

Anyways, the truth will always set you free.

He should tell his fiance himself and be ready for whatever consequence that will arise from there.

She will be mad, betrayed, and lose her trust, and that might spell the end of the relationship, but again, this is the price he chooses to pay the first day he committed such an abominable act.

It will be worse if she finds out from someone else and even worse, after the marriage has occurred. She would hate him more, probably seek vengeance or do something worse.

So he should tell her now. If she chooses to stay and forgives him, then the relationship will be built on a strong foundation, and he would not be tormented by his conscience, if he still has one.

Mentholated:
Because he made some promises and can't fulfil them.

Chai!!,

So you're telling me that your friend was making promises that he could not fulfill because the sister inlaw's vagina is too sweet abi

Tell that your friend that I Said that he is a foolish idiot.

My mind dey tell me say na the op gangaN do that sh!t.

Op you 4cup & must be thoroughly!

I remember when I went to visit my x one time like that. I gave her some money to go buy some food for us, including her elder sister. The girl went & came back almost immediately; I was surprised!

Later, whilst seeing me off, I asked my x how she was able to come back with the food so quickly. The said to me frankly that she does not trust her sister with me alone in the house. Then, she went ahead to tell me how her sister "snatched" her first boyfriend. I became speechless till we got to the busstop.

Woos wobi, op I no get any advice for you because you are a very weak simp! Na for that your babe to organize men make dem mend you.

The mistake was having a child with a man who had not married her, traditionally or religiously. Another mistake from the man is having a child with a woman you are not yet married to because the bride price expenses are too high. Why not tackle A before H? Why not trash out the bride price (a stoopid concept on its own) issue FIRST before having a child with the woman? Then, the final mistake is having sex with your sister-in-law. Just as you don't sheet where eat (having sex with suppliers/clients/work colleagues), you don't have sexual relationships with your in-laws. You respect boundaries. May I ask, which ethnic group(s) are the individuals members of?

Life is hard; some people just make theirs harder. Na the innocent pikin I pity.

His randiness has created another single mother. Later it's his like that will insult and degrad them.

My advice - Tell her with the mindset of ending it all.

Tell him to fix himself before creating another single mother

DaddyRochie1642:




Chai!!,

So you're telling me that your friend was making promises that he could not fulfill because the sister inlaw's vagina is too sweet abi

Tell that your friend that I Said that he is a foolish idiot.

I am not the op. I suggested a possible answer to your question.

This kind thing na to find the babe small hush money. Like 50k cash. Not transfer o. Cool wadada!

50k in 500 naira crispy mint! Or even 200 naira mint. Buy am from Aboki

That type that still has the smell of CBN on it. If you get money make am 100k. That is 1 bundle of 200naira notes.

20k parcel x 5
E go full her hand when you hand it over to her. She can't say no to that. She be babe


Tell her you're sorry to hurt her and you wish it didn't have to come to this but she should hold that one and you guys will talk later.


Also tell her not to hurt her sisters feelings by exposing this. Besides, what promises did you make to her that made her threaten to spill the beans?..

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Some people are destined to be doomed, even the Greek gods can't help them.

Among everyone at the party, it is that particular prospective sister in law he ended up with. Who get drunk to that level these days?

Your friend is just an inadequate, foolish, disorganized, low valued, unreasonable, callous dubious, heinous, idiotic, crude, rigid, un-African, a lesser man, disgustful, disdainful, selfish, inconsiderate, octopus, low budget Davido, and delusional sex maniac (nympho).

He should go to hell.

I hate guys that are slave to pussy. The annoying thing is, if you see this terrible, misguided, dysfunctional, sex starved sister that he slept with, there will be nothing special about such cheap, lonely and abandoned pussy.

The deed has already been done.

No need to wish if things went this way or that way. We only have decisions about now and the future. The past is immutable.

He has lost her trust.

The price he'll pay daily is that he'll consistently prove that he has changed because his fiancee will doubt every one of his moves and words. If the fiancee decides to stay.

Trust has always been a problem in the world. Once broken, it becomes (impossible) difficult to amend. The worst is that betrayals have a rippling effect. It affects those who are innocent. To trust genuine people becomes harder and harder.

The child is already a link between them. If she can find a sound and good relationship as a single mother or can manage herself, let her leave her fiance and forge a better and new life with a man whom she can trust and be open. (However, this wouldn't erase her fears).

The fiance too can do the same. But the guilt laid in his heart will last for a very long time. He will project his insecurities and fear of betrayal to his new partner. Also with his current fiancee if they reconcile.

Counterintuitive, albeit dark, she has won his trust forever. He will do everything to prove that he is a change person. The woman can use this as leverage to get him under her tenterhooks, especially when she decides to develop dark personality traits.

Thanks.

EreluRoz:
Op you are the one that shamelessly slept with your fiance's sister, I so much dislike men that engage in this type of abomination. Of all people in this world it has to be her sister, I can never forgive such till I leave this earth and will still not forgive him in heaven if any foolish man dares try this with me around my friends because I don't have stupid family members that can indulge in this thing.

She should just leave the stupid man and ask God to judge them. If I'm the one I'll silently leave but will never speak a word with him again till the end of time and I'll train my child to despise him so much he'll wish he never existed. I sooooooo much hate this type of nonsense.

Nobody should preach forgiveness because there are things that are unforgivable.

it is an abomination. a man can marry 2 sisters as wives. it is not a taboo

Show him this thread below.

https://www.nairaland.com/8013443/man-marries-two-beautiful-women

Problem solved.

galantjoe:


it is an abomination. a man can marry 2 sisters as wives. it is not a taboo

Nonexisting1:
Show him this thread below.

https://www.nairaland.com/8013443/man-marries-two-beautiful-women

Problem solved.

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Person wey never get bride price and orisi to marry na him you wan make him drop for two
We never talk fine wey him go pay🤣🤣🤣🚴🚴🚴🚴🚴🚴🤣🤣🤣🤣🚴🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

EreluRoz:
Op you are the one that shamelessly slept with your fiance's sister, I so much dislike men that engage in this type of abomination. Of all people in this world it has to be her sister, I can never forgive such till I leave this earth and will still not forgive him in heaven if any foolish man dares try this with me around my friends because I don't have stupid family members that can indulge in this thing.

She should just leave the stupid man and ask God to judge them. If I'm the one I'll silently leave but will never speak a word with him again till the end of time and I'll train my child to despise him so much he'll wish he never existed. I sooooooo much hate this type of nonsense.

Nobody should preach forgiveness because there are things that are unforgivable.

You're a woman, so your response is expected

Alphamentips:
This kind thing na to find the babe small hush money. Like 50k cash. Not transfer o. Cool wadada!

50k in 500 naira crispy mint! Or even 200 naira mint. Buy am from Aboki

That type that still has the smell of CBN on it. If you get money make am 100k. That is 1 bundle of 200naira notes.

20k parcel x 5
E go full her hand when you hand it over to her. She can't say no to that. She be babe


Tell her you're sorry to hurt her and you wish it didn't have to come to this but she should hold that one and you guys will talk later.


Also tell her not to hurt her sisters feelings by exposing this. Besides, what promises did you make to her that made her threaten to spill the beans?..

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Rubbish, you've lost the game and whatever advantage you think you've. She wouldn't genuinely forgive you, she can only pretend to forgive you to siphon more resources from you. That's a tickling time bomb that put you into a big loss at the end

Of course he fvcked up, who never fvcked up hands in the air, no hands??

The deed has been done. What's the way forward?
1. Apologize: if it's not accepted, move on. Life is no difficult if you don't make it difficult for yourself.

2. Move on: Your gf abi fiance will find it difficult to truly forgive you because she's still seeing her sister everyday. She'll hate you and her sister.

3. Cut off connections with her sister: whether you keep maintaining connections with her or cut it off, she'll strike and it will be lethal. However the effects from you maintaining connections with her will be more than from you cutting off connections with her

4. Don't dwell on it, forgive yourself. You didn't kill anybody and even if you did, still forgive yourself.

5. Enjoy life to the fullest, remember you can die at anytime. Good luck

dontrulee:


You're a woman, so your response is expected

You see no wrong in what he did?

EreluRoz:
You see no wrong in what he did?

I see my dear and you're entitled to your own opinion and I respect your decision 💯.

However, people have committed worse crimes and life still continued.

What the man did was definitely wrong but that doesn't mean he should wallow in the pool of self pity when he can dust himself and move on

dontrulee:


I see my dear and you're entitled to your own opinion and I respect your decision 💯.

However, people have committed worse crimes and life still continued.

What the man did was definitely wrong but that doesn't mean he should wallow in the pool of self pity when he can dust himself and move on

Dust himself and move on? Like he shouldn't care about the hurt he caused his fiancee? Like seriously?

Men keep disappointing day by day 😭

EreluRoz:
Dust himself and move on? Like he shouldn't care about the hurt he caused his fiancee? Like seriously?

Men keep disappointing day by day 😭

Yes my dear, dust himself and move on after tendering an apology that will most likely not be accepted.

His fiancee was hurt agreed but unfortunately there's little or nothing he can do about it.

Men and women keep disappointing everyday, such is life. Brace up.