Kobojunkie:
You spoke my mind on this!

That woman should be tossed out of that position — not just removed —with immediate effect for harboring, talk less of making public, such a view regarding women and marriage. What stewpidity and disconnect, this in 2024!

Armaggedon:
It's a man's decision to make how he expresses love for his family and not in woman's place to judge.

A responsible man is a man that plays his role and fulfils his obligation to his family and not a man without ego. Every man has ego and pride while every woman crave for care and attention.

In most cases of domestic violence (not all) it's provocation by women that cause it. If you provoke a man to act violently on you and you expect to blackmail him with "maturity" or "responsibility" you are not helping yourself since you both are most likely going to reconcile. Even if you decide to abandon the marriage, you are not leaving intact, and he has far better chances of remarry than you. Who lost.

What's the point of exchanging words since you can simply keep quiet and save your children from watching scenes of violence. This is the point the minister is making.

Use of seemingly hurtful words on wife doesn't indicate lack of love from husband. Even so, men will apologize in most cases when the rage is over.

Mansa6:


And where did this woman you are hating UNFOUNDEDLY say anything about marriage being a dictatorship

Are you actually this BLAND and DENSE upstairs!?

Jesus Christ!

MrBrownJay1:


i was expecting a :"thank you for educating me" but that's ok...

BTW using colored letters is another way to emphasize/draw special attention to something i wrote.

DaytonaAries:
It's the response from men for me. Nigeria still has a long way to go in educating the male child.

In a saner country; do you think you can beat your your wife for arguing with you? Men in this post are glorifying domestic violence. Do you think if some women shut up their husband won't beat them.


Go to homes for women that have been abused. You would know that domestic violence isn't a thing of just keeping your mouth shut. Some women if they breathe the wrong way, thier husband would beat them, if they sit they wrong way, they get beat up even infront of their kids. Some men even ask their kids to beat the mother.


How a whole Minister of women affairs can come hear and say such things and think keeping quiet would stop domestic violence is appalling.


You need to teach people no one has the right to hit anyone just because they have an argument with you. Would men beat uo their bosses or colleagues for the same argument? No they would not.


The response from men in this post just reeks of ignorance on domestic violence issues. It Just reeks of poverty riddled mentality and lack of exposure. I don't blame them, it is the society that makes them think it is right to beat up their wives and get away with it I blame.

luminouz:
Leave me alone naaaaa...
Agbaya oshi!!!

bukatyne:


Why should she be tossed out of the position?

She is doing the best with the resources handed to her: a 'Nigerian' husband and his wife.

It is not her duty to train men for marriage or tell women to pick right or tell both parties to work towards creating a harmonious marriage.

She is only advising women to avoid becoming a stats in her office because like she said, if a woman is not ready to leave the marriage and gets beaten, it is the same apology she gets for keeping quiet she gets for injuries sometimes irreparable.

Even if the husband is punished, the injuries are irreparable. Or what sort of punishment would bring back a damaged eye or broken leg?

MrBrownJay1:


see this man suffering from amnesia...YOU are the one who quoted me with your nonsense!

DaytonaAries:



Really? That is the only advice she can give women. She can't advice women that no one should be assaulting them mkst especially their husbands. She can't educate women that if their husband beats them uo fir an argument they should consider leaving their marriages. Why should women be the ones to shut up and remain in silence for the fear that their husband would beat them up? That is making a mockery of women that have gone through domestic violence. A man that would beat his wife up during an argument would beat the wife up if he isn't satisfied with something else.


Instead of her to educate women that domestic violence shouldn't be tolerated and end this "dictator and servant" mindset. She is in all facts asking women who are dissatisfied to keep quiet so their husband won't beat them up! How is that a sane thing to say.


Educate women on their rights. Assault and battery are crinimal offences that if any person commits needs to be held accountable.


Women are human beings too. They have feelings. Not all women are perfect but that doesn't mean that they should be keep num when they find things unfavourable to them just becuase their husband would beat them up during an argument.


This Minister could have done better please!

luminouz:

Shût ya ass up and stop being emotional. You and I both know the minister has a point. But feminazis like you Huff and Puff and end up saying nothing. What experience do you have to counter that of a woman who prolly is old enough to be your mother? Unless you don't understand English, she advocated for peace in the house and a way for women to handle issues with their husbands but here you are, screaming your head off, thinking by arguing incessantly is the way forward. Some women outrightly demean their husbands, some physically fight him, others deliberately frustrated his life to a point he lashes out the only way he knows, by physical violence. The minister is just saying you lots should mind how you address your husbands- FOR PEACE TO REIGN. Yet here you are, already abusing the men and calling them vile names. You need to take the minister's advice and learn to shût dafuq UP

Just to bust your bubble, domestic violence occurs abroad too but it's not talked about in newspapers.

DaytonaAries:



This your pit reeks of your ignorance leaving in a patriarchal society. You say I am being emotional? Then you must be delusional.


I won't insult you because you already lack intellect and I don't blame you. There is nothing I would say that would change your "poverty riddled mindset" much less on issues like domestic violence. From the way you are foaming at the mouth I can see that you don't like being countered.


I would say one thing: women aren't perfect and if a woman decides to assault or get down with her husband then she lacks intellect or is variably stupid. But that doesn't mean that because an husband and wife have an argument, he has a right to beat her up. No one has a right to hit anyone just because they have an argument with you. Men need to know that is not right. You don't tell women to keep quiet in fear that they would get beat up.


You invariably assume every household is the same. You think that every woman and man are the same. Domestic violence is a real societal issue. You educate women on their rights as a Minster and don't give advice that push away the problem.


Again, no matter what I say it won't change your mindset.

luminouz:
Agbayaaaaaa!!!
Shioorrrr

MrBrownJay1:

luminouz:

Better...now go away.

MrBrownJay1:


why you keep quoting me?

luminouz:

You won't insult me after saying I lack intellect? 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
Shey na compliment you shower me with then ni? OLODO rabata!!!

Oh, so my opinion is due to my 'poverty-riddled mindset'? I guess your own opinion is because you are rich? 🤣🤣🤣

You see how argumentative you already are. The minister is sha warning you or you go collect wotowoto.

Go and marry first. Then you go leaaaarrnnnnn!!!

wany:

Silly you, no gender has monopoly of violence.but rather both parties should respect one another and be matured in their dealing.

JessicaRabbit:
I'm surprised that in this day and age, people can make posts like this full of basic fallacies and stereotypes, and no one bats an eye. Probably has to do with Nigeria's patriarchal society.

A woman has every right to judge how a man treats her and her family, especially if he is abusive or neglectful. Love isn't a participation trophy. It's a two-way street paved with kindness, open communication, and the understanding that abuse and neglect are major potholes no relationship should drive through.

You are making a sweeping generalization that assumes that all men have the same personality traits and needs, just as all women do. Stereotypes aren't entirely justified, you know. You also imply that gender roles and obligation are fixed and predetermined -- which is a sexist and outdated view that ignores the diversity and complexity of the human species. A responsible man is a man that respects his partner and his family, and does not let his ego and pride get in the way of their happiness and well-being. A responsible woman is a woman that does the same. Every person, regardless of gender, has ego and pride, as well as care and attention. These are not mutually exclusive or incompatible.

This is a classic example of victim-blaming, which is a form of psychological abuse that shifts the blame from the perpetrator to the victim. It also uses fear, guilt, and shame to manipulate the victim into staying in the abusive relationship. There is absolutely no justification for domestic violence, and no one deserves to be abused. Provocation is not a valid excuse, and maturity and responsibility are not blackmail. They are the minimum requirements for a healthy and respectful relationship.

It's true that exchanging words in a heated environment may easily escalate issues, but you can't use that context to justify a complete lack of communication in a relationship. In any conflict, both parties should be able to express their feelings, thoughts, and needs, and to resolve conflicts peacefully and constructively. Silence is not a solution, it is a symptom of fear and oppression. You are falsely equating verbal communication with physical violence, while suggesting that the victim is responsible for preventing the violence by remaining silent. How is this not gaslighting? Aren't you denying the victim's voice and reality?

I'm sorry, but this is the most ludicrous thing I've heard this month. Since when did husbands transcend the mortal realm to the point where their words and actions become unconditional and unquestionable? If a man or woman can't control their speech, then they simply lack respect, empathy, and compassion, which are essential components of love. If as a man, you find yourself in an emotionally abusive relationship where your wife doesn't listen to you and has no iota of respect for you, despite all your efforts, you can try letting go of your ego and approach her. Let her understand how she's making you feel, and if her lack of respect persists, then I don't see why you shouldn't prioritize your mental health, and leave that prison of a relationship.

Armaggedon:
There is nothing wrong with the head having ego. It's rather the inability of the subordinate to acknowledge and respect it that leads to constant friction.

descarado:
Nigerian women have heard her.
At the end of the day as you treat your wife like a slave not a partner, the arms of another man awaits her in secret. It may be your close friend whom she ran to for advice or your brother.

I remembered a thread here saying Nigerian married women ranked first in committing adultery and most kids are not fathered by their husbands. So, let's continue to be the Nigerian version of alpha male while their wives look for happiness and fulfilment elsewhere
What was in practise in developed nations the men stopped it because the emotional chain of bondage and it caused was more that their ego satisfaction. An unhappy wife equals unhappy nation. Do your research.

I reckon it's fear that made this woman spew this rubbish.

luminouz:

Lemme naaaa...

tunjijones:
Talk from now till tomorrow, them no go hear.

And besides it's kinda difficult to be submissive. Some men can be so petty and annoying.

GlorifiedGod:
lol
They should keep their mouth shut abeg
I hope Jennyclay and that big mouth jewess will learn from this

DaytonaAries:



Really? That is the only advice she can give women. She can't advice women that no one should be assaulting them most especially their husbands. She can't educate women that if their husband beats them up for an argument they should consider leaving their marriages. Why should women be the ones to shut up and remain in silence for the fear that their husband would beat them up? That is making a mockery of women that have gone through domestic violence. A man that would beat his wife up during an argument would beat the wife up if he isn't satisfied with something else.


Instead of her to educate women that domestic violence shouldn't be tolerated and end this "dictator and servant" mindset. She is in all facts asking women who are dissatisfied to keep quiet so their husband won't beat them up! How is that a sane thing to say.


Educate women on their rights. Assault and battery are crinimal offences that if any person commits needs to be held accountable.


Women are human beings too. They have feelings. Not all women are perfect but that doesn't mean that they should be keep num when they find things unfavourable to them just becuase their husband would beat them up during an argument.


This Minister could have done better please!

Armaggedon:
It's a man's decision to make how he expresses love for his family and not in woman's place to judge. A responsible man is a man that plays his role and fulfils his obligation to his family and not a man without ego. Every man has ego and pride while every woman crave for care and attention.

In most cases of domestic violence (not all) it's provocation by women that cause it. If you provoke a man to act violently on you and you expect to blackmail him with "maturity" or "responsibility" you are not helping yourself since you both are most likely going to reconcile. Even if you decide to abandon the marriage, you are not leaving intact, and he has far better chances of remarry than you. Who lost.

What's the point of exchanging words since you can simply keep quiet and save your children from watching scenes of violence. This is the point the minister is making.

Use of seemingly hurtful words on wife doesn't indicate lack of love from husband. Even so, men will apologize in most cases when the rage is over.

DaytonaAries:



This just proves my point. Mentioning wotowoto because I have a conflicting opinion to yours or because I called you ignorant or you lack intellect which is no way an insult.


Going through the quotes between you and another member of this ame issue who gave a response similar to mine. You had the same reaction. I can see you would be a person give your wife wotowoto if she so much as argues with you.


This is the reason why you and most people with this mindset need to be educated.

DaytonaAries:



Really? That is the only advice she can give women. She can't advice women that no one should be assaulting them most especially their husbands. She can't educate women that if their husband beats them up for an argument they should consider leaving their marriages. Why should women be the ones to shut up and remain in silence for the fear that their husband would beat them up? That is making a mockery of women that have gone through domestic violence. A man that would beat his wife up during an argument would beat the wife up if he isn't satisfied with something else.


Instead of her to educate women that domestic violence shouldn't be tolerated and end this "dictator and servant" mindset. She is in all facts asking women who are dissatisfied to keep quiet so their husband won't beat them up! How is that a sane thing to say.


Educate women on their rights. Assault and battery are crinimal offences that if any person commits needs to be held accountable.


Women are human beings too. They have feelings. Not all women are perfect but that doesn't mean that they should be keep num when they find things unfavourable to them just becuase their husband would beat them up during an argument.


This Minister could have done better please!