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Re: Whom Should A Woman Listen To First? by Paramount01(m): 5:03pm On Mar 06, 2024
We4all:


Because of how much bride price?


Is not the amount is the process, do it on yourself if you can do it

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Re: Whom Should A Woman Listen To First? by Fiscus105(m): 5:03pm On Mar 06, 2024
RevenuesBoost:




This illustration is based on marriage grounds and some are saying she should disobey her husband because she doesn't need permission from anyone.

Imagine a Father telling his daughter not to go see her best friend, should she disobey?

Also imagine an elder brother telling his younger sis not to go visit a close friend, should she disobey?

You dare not step out of the house without informing my parents. This is for security reasons, why should it be different with husbands when he is the only person you are living with at that moment?


Many marry for different reasons, some see their husbands as strangers, others regard them as very close friends.
If you are married to a man that is more than a friend to you, you will certainly need his permission for everything because you see him as your guardian in the absence of your parents.


If he says no, don't drag it with him, rather make him see reasons you have to travel, if he insists, then relax.

It's his turn to be with you, your siblings have been with you from childhood, they should miss you more 😂. You'll eventually see them but that time is not the right time, your siblings will understand.


Las las, if you disobey your husband and marriage scatter, na them go still talk.
Just give your husband all the respect he needs and obey him, that's all.



Your advice is for few who have moral upbringing and in which they too, allowed the morality that parents wanted to impact be impacted in them, for others which constitute 90% of the society, ................they had damaged beyond repair.

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Re: Whom Should A Woman Listen To First? by na2016: 5:07pm On Mar 06, 2024
blackpanthar:



EVERYONE ON THAT LIST HANDED HER OVER TO THE HUSBAND ON THE WEDDING DAY.......... so it is over. Her choices should be based on HERSELF and HER HUSBAND. Simple.

Visions can always be cancelled.

Any other answer apart from this, are thr@sh!
Re: Whom Should A Woman Listen To First? by brightovio007(m): 5:08pm On Mar 06, 2024
oz4real83:
Questions like this came up immediately the world became a crazy place shocked. The answer to this question was very obvious when the world was still a normal place, it was visible to the blind and audible to the deaf shocked. A "wife" should obey the person that "paid her bride price" , if the pastor paid it, then she can obey her pastor undecided, that is why women should always be careful whom they get married to, if you marry nonsense, you must be willing to obey nonsense instructions shocked
Gbam, I respect your articulated opinion on this matter,

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Re: Whom Should A Woman Listen To First? by SpaceAngel: 5:09pm On Mar 06, 2024
If she doesn't listen to her husband and goes on the with visit, anything she sees when she comes back will be her own cup of tea. That's when all those that advised her would remind her that she's an adult and should be responsible for her actions. No need involving all these for such simple matter. She should also know that it's not all the people who gives her advice like her marriage, many would like her to be divorced and laugh at her in the end.
Re: Whom Should A Woman Listen To First? by netmillionaires(m): 5:11pm On Mar 06, 2024
She should obey her husband but the husband must give good reasons why he says no. If his intention is to separate her from her family and he refuses to change after some years, she should divorce him. The husband simply does not love her.

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Re: Whom Should A Woman Listen To First? by emapeteum(m): 5:12pm On Mar 06, 2024
Submission and who to listen to all depends on the person in question.you can't take advice from a foolish and an unreasonable husband.People talk about bride price:is the woman a possession or an article of trade.

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Re: Whom Should A Woman Listen To First? by Bruno3000(m): 5:12pm On Mar 06, 2024
omoredia:
Her husband if she has any sense in the head
What if the husband has no sense?

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Re: Whom Should A Woman Listen To First? by Honestey: 5:14pm On Mar 06, 2024
If I'm the husband you either listen to me for your own sake or listen to the pastor who is ready to be your new man or to your parents who are ready to welcome you back to the family or your sibling who is ready to welcome you to his/her matrimonial home.
Re: Whom Should A Woman Listen To First? by Elohorp(f): 5:17pm On Mar 06, 2024
SIXFEETUNDER:
Her husband

Obey and submit to your husband after all he married her and she's no longer under her father any more



Only a feminazi will go against the words of her hubby


A submissive and feminine woman will obey her husband and tell her siblings to come visit her instead only if the husband agrees

Not everyone what's a wife that like that,alot of men now want independent strong wives not that picture you are drawing up
Re: Whom Should A Woman Listen To First? by Paramount01(m): 5:18pm On Mar 06, 2024
Monaboo:



None.

She should listen to GOD.

He speaks.


Even God give reverence to th husband over his wifs
Re: Whom Should A Woman Listen To First? by Elohorp(f): 5:19pm On Mar 06, 2024
Frigga13:


Be like you Dey snore for speeding Honda bike .. of course you’re not married

Make your husband .. even if the useless simpnask you not to go and you .. based on today marriage you leave go..

Na when you go understand that simp .. Na man with prick..

Una go just come online they render una fellow females useless and unmarried with stupid statements ..

You obviously see why you’re single with teenage brain

You lack manner of approach
Re: Whom Should A Woman Listen To First? by GenderMix: 5:19pm On Mar 06, 2024
We need to understand that in marriage, the husband is responsible for the safety and security of all family members including the wife. So his decision is very important especially in this instance of travelling far.

Although we don't know the circumstances surrounding him saying NO. However, some travels are not really expedient especially in this case where we have video calls. If the movement is of no economic value then the wife should apply common sense and obey the husband.

Ultimately, if the wife is wise, she should obey the husband and look for other approaches to convince the man on a later date if it's important to her. Any reasonable husband knows that it's good for himself and wife to visit his wife's people once in a while especially the parents. It's just normal
Re: Whom Should A Woman Listen To First? by Elohorp(f): 5:20pm On Mar 06, 2024
paba:
The man is the HEAD OF THE FAMILY & the WOMAN can be ANYTHING from the COLLAR DOWNWARDS ...
Can a head survive without a body?

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Re: Whom Should A Woman Listen To First? by zrocky: 5:22pm On Mar 06, 2024
stevestifler:
A woman wanted to travel & to see her sibling who invited her because they'd not seen in more than a year & her husband says no. She involves her parents & pastor & even her best friend, they all have different opinions. Some said go, some said stay.

As a married woman, whose words should be taken in highest regards?

1. Her siblings that she's spent all her life with
2. Her parents that gave birth to her
3. Her pastor that sees visions & guides her spiritually
4. Her husband
5. Her best friends that she's known from childhood

Let's have matured responses from experienced and responsible nairalanders.
her husband. Sometimes it might not be the perfect time to travel especially if they got kids. It's also important for married couples to communicate to each other before taking any decisions

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Re: Whom Should A Woman Listen To First? by Elohorp(f): 5:23pm On Mar 06, 2024
MichaelSokoto:
warris all dis bs pls?

Cup of garri is above #200 & una dey push irrelevancies enter fp?

excuse mi!

Yes thank you I've noticed that's it's only this type of topics that lead to enough exchange of curses and insults that usually tread on naira land no actual productive things trend her,only stupid matters concerning other people marriage,fake relationship stories,sex,only man and woman matter the know here

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Re: Whom Should A Woman Listen To First? by Monaboo(m): 5:31pm On Mar 06, 2024
Paramount01:



Even God give reverence to th husband over his wifs

She should listen to THE ONE who gives the "reverence".

Not the "reverencee"...

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Re: Whom Should A Woman Listen To First? by BluelightHotel: 5:32pm On Mar 06, 2024
The truth is that many women today don’t know how to be a wife tbh.
Re: Whom Should A Woman Listen To First? by Greenfusion: 5:33pm On Mar 06, 2024
Monaboo:



None.

She should listen to GOD.

He speaks.
My best answer....

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Re: Whom Should A Woman Listen To First? by Greenfusion: 5:35pm On Mar 06, 2024
MVLOX:


The same God who calls her the husband her head or the same God who asked her to respect and follow the head ship of the husband?
So if the ship is leading to destruction should the woman stick to the ship?
Re: Whom Should A Woman Listen To First? by naija4life247: 5:37pm On Mar 06, 2024
stevestifler:
A woman wanted to travel & to see her sibling who invited her because they'd not seen in more than a year & her husband says no. She involves her parents & pastor & even her best friend, they all have different opinions. Some said go, some said stay.

As a married woman, whose words should be taken in highest regards?

1. Her siblings that she's spent all her life with
2. Her parents that gave birth to her
3. Her pastor that sees visions & guides her spiritually
4. Her husband
5. Her best friends that she's known from childhood

Let's have matured responses from experienced and responsible nairalanders.

Parents and Husband, if not, Ogun go kee her Mama

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Re: Whom Should A Woman Listen To First? by MrBrownJay1(m): 5:37pm On Mar 06, 2024
stevestifler:
A woman wanted to travel & to see her sibling who invited her because they'd not seen in more than a year & her husband says no. She involves her parents & pastor & even her best friend, they all have different opinions. Some said go, some said stay.

As a married woman, whose words should be taken in highest regards?

1. Her siblings that she's spent all her life with
2. Her parents that gave birth to her
3. Her pastor that sees visions & guides her spiritually
4. Her husband
5. Her best friends that she's known from childhood
6. HER OWN DAMN SELF.

FIXED

this woman should sit down and decide whose opinion is more important in her life at that moment, whether her pastor, her sibling, her parents, her best friend or her husband.... but should also be very careful as the wrong decision could destroy her future FOR EVER.

if i am your husband and am giving you a valid reason why not to go and you are going regardless (because you listened to the opinion of the above irrelevant people(, then you best start a new family with them as ours will be over).

Let's have matured responses from experienced and responsible nairalanders.

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Re: Whom Should A Woman Listen To First? by Greenfusion: 5:38pm On Mar 06, 2024
MVLOX:


You are obviously a gen z baddie as such you know nothing about marriage neither are you ready to get married
Why would you deny your wife to see her family, justify and Educate us please
Re: Whom Should A Woman Listen To First? by Nauttyprof(m): 5:41pm On Mar 06, 2024
Some parents are the reason new marriages don't last. They want to control the new marriage as if the daughter was still under their control. They call shots as if their daughter is still under their roof and the man who is the husband is but a figure head. No respect for the man and the man on the other hand, sees what they are trying to do with his marriage and as such go against them too.

Sometimes, the wife also make it obvious too as if the family of the wife controls the affairs in the new marriage and this becomes a big problem in the marriage.

If you ask the husband, he will definitely give his reason why he didn't allow his wife to go. Parents must realise that new marriages must be allowed to breath and then, let the wife be submissive to her husband.
Re: Whom Should A Woman Listen To First? by folake4u(f): 5:42pm On Mar 06, 2024
Aren't y'all tired of these useless questions? undecided
Re: Whom Should A Woman Listen To First? by SweetDipBenny(m): 5:46pm On Mar 06, 2024
Her neighbour smiley
Re: Whom Should A Woman Listen To First? by Maxtipulation(m): 5:46pm On Mar 06, 2024
If she's married she should listen to her husband only the rest are inconsequential
Re: Whom Should A Woman Listen To First? by Morbeta11(m): 5:46pm On Mar 06, 2024
Jeon:
Why will a normal man deny a woman to go see her family?.
Some Women dy marry shéha !.

Nah woman of before go obey, even if there's no valid reason for denying her to see her blood family. But now try it on most women.

When they collect millions in bride price and materials nko...they outrightly sold the woman.
Re: Whom Should A Woman Listen To First? by Maxtipulation(m): 5:46pm On Mar 06, 2024
folake4u:
Aren't y'all tired of these useless questions? undecided

Who will you listen to?
Re: Whom Should A Woman Listen To First? by emonis88: 6:00pm On Mar 06, 2024
As d husband, she can choose to go, but she, should remain there ,cus she doesn't have a husband anymore.
Re: Whom Should A Woman Listen To First? by AfonjaConehead: 6:07pm On Mar 06, 2024
No real man will deny his woman that....for what reason nah

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