Many years ago, my friend dated a certain guy.

They worked in the same office.
They tried so hard to hide their relationship from colleagues at work.

But at some point he suffered a major housing issue and had to move in with her.

She was the oldest and had 3 younger siblings living with her.

They accepted him in.
They did his laundry.
They called him Sir.
They served his food.
They attended to him.
They respected him.

The relationship kept going on.

She had a car, he started driving both of them to work together.

After a while, it seemed they couldn't hide it anymore and the whole office knew of it.

She was a reserved person while he was a bit more outgoing.

So when they weren't at work, he was out and about with her car.

He lived with her for over 3 years that I can remember.

I know many times I would ask her why they weren't formalizing their marriage instead of just living together.

She would say she has asked severally and he says he is saving up so they can do both the marriage and move out of that house, leaving it for her siblings.

Suddenly one day, my friend got a call from a lady.

The lady was calling her all sorts of names and asking her to leave her man alone.

They lady told her they were getting married soon and she was just a hopeless old wit*ch.

My friend called and told me.
She asked the man.
He denied knowing anything.

Long story short.

The calls and insults and threats from this other woman continued.

Our man kept denying.

My friend did some digging and found the girl to be true.

Within a few weeks, our man moved out and married that girl.

It's been over 14 years now.

My friend suffered a major major heartbreak and never found love again.

She is over 45 now and not married.

Both my friend and the man are my Facebook friends.

I see him post his kids birthdays as they keep growing.

I never healed so I never comment on his posts.

I guess in life we win some, we lose some.

I have never stopped wondering why he did it this way.

He used her car, her siblings, her sweat and everything to take himself a wife. Why didn't he have the decency to tell her and maybe explain why he couldn't marry her.

It would have been painful, but atleast we would find some closure.

Two of her 3 siblings died after the heartbreak. They were ill.. She almost went mad.

She cried so much that till date, I feel her face has a fixed crying state on it.

My heart remains ever so heavy about her.

I hope that someday, I can look at his family pictures that he posts often and truly find healing.

It's been such a struggle.

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It happens to men too

Jennyclay is highly disappointed in the lady.

Some people are wicked. The man is heartless.

But it is not one-sided. It also happens to men. No gender deserves unfairness.

wicked world

Foolish woman! She got what she deserves for bringing a man into her house, without him paying her bride price. And to think such immoral act in front of your kid siblings who turned slave to a total non entity! FOOLISH WOMAN!

So many ladies are currently doing this, 'Abuja Marriage ' of a shame. How can you be living with a man that's not your husband, as in, I don't understand why!!!?

As a single girl sef, don't allow a man into your house. talk to whoever outside your compound, or in his car. OR better still go to his own house, 4ck him there! No 4ck any man for Ya house. Not even your boyfriend!

Some sef dey chop beating join

Some ladies truly get fish brain.

When I was single, you can never know who I'm dating. I just dey run my package(s) discreetly. When I got married, many guys wey I dey waka with shock. They couldn't believe their eyes. . Some who happen to know my husband, till date are still wondering how I was able to pull that off.

The mgbeke above me is feeling funky

Experience like this makes most people to be very brutal,
don't want to be mugu in the name of love,
and only chase materials instead.

Nice people are always last.

It happens to men too so

Jeon:
This is why most people are very brutal,
don't want to be mugu in the name of love,
and only chase materials instead.

Nice people are always last.

Yeah we know, some even ended up with 3 kids while being a single mother, we know.

Not everyone will find love

Men 1-0 Women

She invested too much in the relationship and lost in the end. I always tell ladies that there is nothing wrong if you ask a man to define the type of relationship both of you share. Any man that is sincere and into you, will formalize the union within a year of dating.

There was a red light when the other lady started calling and insulting her. She wld have ended the relationship then but love keep pushing her.

does that make it right?

nicho450:


It happens to men too

Nawa Ooo, this is beyond redpillers.
Betrayal of trust

some women are very foolish and the reason why all the above shiiit happens to them:
A) the above man didnt move in with her because he loved her or anything, he did so because he NEEDED A PLACE TO STAY (even a mumu would understand that). so the issue is not that they were a couple, the issue is that he had to pretend that he liked her s that he could use her, because he had no place to stay. when all was good in his life, he never tried to live with her. HER MISTAKE.

B) while living with her, he started to use her stuff, and SHE ACCEPTED. not because that was right, but because she foolishly thought that they were together as a couple, not understanding that this man was just waiting to bounce back so he could leave her. HER MISTAKE.

C) the minute this other woman called and told her that she was in a r/ship with this man, she should have invited this woman so that all 3 of them could resolve this issue FACE TO FACE... sadly she decided to ignore what this woman was telling her and believe the snake that she was sleeping with. HER MISTAKE.

the only person to blame here is HERSELF!

MrBrownJay1:
some women are very foolish and the reason why all the above shiiit happens to them:
A) the above man didnt move in with her because he loved her or anything, he did so because he NEEDED A PLACE TO STAY (even a mumu would understand that). so the issue is not that they were a couple, the issue is that he had to pretend that he liked her s that he could use her, because he had no place to stay. when all was good in his life, he never tried to live with her. HER MISTAKE.

B) while living with her, he started to use her stuff, and SHE ACCEPTED. not because that was right, but because she foolishly thought that they were together as a couple, not understanding that this man was just waiting to bounce back so he could leave her. HER MISTAKE.

C) the minute this other woman called and told her that she was in a r/ship with this man, she should have invited this woman so that all 3 of them could resolve this issue FACE TO FACE... sadly she decided to ignore what this woman was telling her and believe the snake that she was sleeping with. HER MISTAKE.

the only person to blame here is HERSELF!

All true.. The guy was only playing along because of what he needed at the time

All this kind of insult that could have been easily avoided. Chai!
This story is really touching

It’s all her Fault. Doing the right thing is different from being in love. If she housed him for couple of months then talk him down to get his own place that’s the first step of respect no matter how bad his story is.
Ladies listen, if a man cannot work out accommodation then forget that man. He’s not ready for serious relationship. We keep giving excuses like “what if, what if” (I know someone will quote me with a “what if” scenario) nevertheless, don’t do that it’s wrong to start staying with a man when he’s not married to you. Ask our parents how things are done. This generation keeps getting it wrong with stupid motivational speeches.
Let’s go back to how things are done from the beginning. I don’t feel sorry for stupidity in the name of love. Love kwa

talk2hb1:
Nawa Ooo, this is beyond redpillers.
Betrayal of trust

There is nothing Redpill about the guy's cowardly and manipulative character.

I tell People, Redpill ain't about lying and manipulating a woman into sleeping with you.
That shiit is as weak as fvck.

I won't diviate from the topic sha, but please, there is nothing Redpill in the guy's attitude.

she should Adopt a child and live her life to the fullest. Everyone is not destined to be married!

I m speechless,and at the end of the day,Don't be surprised karma will deal with the man.

Maybe him losing 2 of his kids same way.

Some ladies are very foolish. Sleeping with a man you're not married to and playing wife to him is stupid. He will just use you for sex and everything else you're giving him. Why buy the cow when he can get the milk for free? The end result is him dumping you and marrying another lady. Ladies, be smart!!

I don't pity such wonen because they don't take advice. Premarital cohabitation is wrong on all levels. It reduces your worth as a woman. See finish will enter and the guy will go and marry that girl that is more reserved.

If someone had tried to talk to her then she would have shunned the person. They always believe they have the man wrapped around their fingers. Oyo.

It would have been better if she kept herself and even if she's still not married till now she would at least look fresh and young. But now the man has used her to a point of no return and moved to a chassis girl.

My ladies receive sense and stop giving your bodies cheaply to boyfriends.

Darevofpeace:
Many years ago, my friend dated a certain guy. They worked in the same office. They tried so hard to hide their relationship from colleagues at work. But at some point he suffered a major housing issue and had to move in with her. She was the oldest and had 3 younger siblings living with her.
They accepted him in. They did his laundry. They called him Sir. They served his food. They attended to him. They respected him. The relationship kept going on.....

No woman,no matter how desperate to find love, should do this to herself.

Too bad I must say just like this present regime

Xosh:
I m speechless,and at the end of the day, Don't be surprised karma will deal with the man.
Maybe him losing 2 of his kids same way.

Stop lying to yourself abeg!

Many wicked live much longer and more productive lives than their victims do. That is a fact.

You reap what you sow in this life... its unavoidable. I hope when the train wreck hits him, you will come back and update this story so that people can learn.

Jewessgratitud3:
I don't pity such wonen because they don't take advice. Premarital cohabitation is wrong on all levels. It reduces your worth as a woman. See finish will enter and the guy will go and marry that girl that is more reserved.

If someone had tried to talk to her then she would have shunned the person. They always believe they have the man wrapped around their fingers. Oyo.

It would have been better if she kept herself and even if she's still not married till now she would at least look fresh and young. But now the man has used her to a point of no return and moved to a chassis girl.

My ladies receive sense and stop giving your bodies cheaply to boyfriends.

used and overused evening newspaper too dey talk 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

Sirqt5:
used and overused evening newspaper too dey talk 🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

My matter will kill you on this forum.
Mark it.

Error401:
does that make it right?

No not at all. The motive of my reply is different.

Society favour women in things like this. But women do it more to men

Jewessgratitud3:


My matter will kill you on this forum.
Mark it.

Madame Merychen, Callidora, Charis123, CharisElois, Jewessgratitud3 n ya other monikers, better go threaten the hundred men u've slept who dumped u ooo , not an innocent person on the internet . Am not the cause of ur frustrations aunty .