EreluRoz:
That's true but I can never date him. Is it possible that he's just being nice?

Festus30:
Death to all Simps… na simps dey make these ladies develop entitlement mentality.
Dem no fit help their fellow man but dem fit spend on a public rotten kpekus.

immortalcrown:
Life is somehow.

You reject who wants you and go for who chooses other people over you.

Godada:


I have an advice that I give to ladies related to me. Don't accept gifts from guys you don't like.

Just don't.

Neptunium:
Why did you collect his money n gave him your account number again? You know you don't like him n won't date him but you're accepting his money?

EreluRoz:
Don't insult him please, he's a very good man. Just not someone I can date. What do I do kos the guilt I feel is making me so uncomfortable

Proserpina:
I wouldn't know his intentions for you but I can predict to an extent. He's sowing and will want to reap someday. While he may be genuinely helpful there will be a time he would expect you to reciprocate through a act of goodness from you which you may not be willing or able to render. Be weary of gifts especially continuous ones you didn't request for. That's definitely planting.

Money is good no doubt but as a lady you have to learn to say no to free money sometimes. As times goes on you get indebted and roped. There are other means to solve your money issues aside free handouts. Nothing is "his gifts comes at the right time" it's just your subconscious setting you up for disaster. Abi ask yourself why is it always at the right time.

Please check this and move on from the man and his money if you won't have anything to do with him.

EreluRoz:
I said he was not having my refusal to give him, he insisted and I reluctantly gave him. But he has not asked me to date him, so I don't even know what to make of all these and I'm sure he should know I won't agree to date him. I can't even say some things I said to him in my message back then.

But what if he's just being nice? God knows I have never requested anything from him

Proserpina:
The bolded, he is close to home already and with time you will start thinking of ways to get over this guilt by succumbing . That's the psychology mean who attract women with gifts play. Before you know it you will start thinking of ways to at least level up with his kindness and somehow excuse his unattractiveness and everything as they say will become history. Lol . Not a bad love story Sha
And if you remain adamant he could resent you, now that's where the danger is because he's clearly obsessed with you.

Please talk to your mom and do whatever you have to do. Let mama ask him what his intentions are and let him know his fate. Very simple.

EreluRoz:
That's true but I can never date him. Is it possible that he's just being nice?

EreluRoz:
Few years back this man tried to make advances at me but was not bold enough to do so but he kept gifting me different things and crediting my account of which I never asked for. He was familiarizing with people around me and comes to our house to greet my mom because he lives nearby, will call me to greet me before going and all those unnecessary famzing. But he never had that boldness to ask me out.

EreluRoz:
Few years back this man tried to make advances at me but was not bold enough to do so but he kept gifting me different things and crediting my account of which I never asked for. He was familiarizing with people around me and comes to our house to greet my mom because he lives nearby, will call me to greet me before going and all those unnecessary famzing. But he never had that boldness to ask me out.

On my part I never demanded anything from him and whenever I want to reject his gifts and cash I couldn't because it always comes at the right time. I can't count the number of times I have sworn never to accept his gifts and cash but never for once did I keep to my words because he's gifted in sending cash and gifts at the perfect time.

This man is very unattractive to me, like that man you'll not even want anybody to see you standing with , so it has never even crossed my mind to have anything with him. So I summoned courage one day and text him to stop all those univited visits and stop wasting his time because I can never date someone like him(I was young and said some nasty things I regretted later) and unfortunately his cousins saw my nasty message to him, told others and they all wear this scornful looks whenever they see me as I later learnt my message caused problems in their house. Well, he stopped coming to our house, he relocated to a new place as I learnt he got a job that took him away from our location.

I never felt remorseful about all I did to him till recently as I'm now older and wiser. So, I was somewhere doing something and he also came there and saw me first, I was expecting a very cold reaction from him but he immediately came over and was very happy to see me, started gisting and all that, I gave him attention just to make up for my earlier bad attitude, I apologized over how I treated him and he said it's nothing that he's not holding anything against me as I was very young then. Before I say jerk he went to his car and gave me some bundles of cash, requested for my account number and he won't even accept my refusal to give him. So that's how this man resumed sending me money again, infact he's obviously now richer because if I mentioned the alert I always receive from this man nobody will believe me here. I narrated everything to my brother because he knew all I did to him back then, my brother started calling him fool which I felt bad and cautioned him to stop.

Now this man has not made any advances or wooed me but he's already acting more than a partner, infact I feel so guilty each time I see his alerts and calls. God knows I can never date him but I'm beginning to be so uncomfortable with all these. Let me not lie, it's so hard to reject his money as it usually comes at the right time.

Let me also add that he later got married but his wife left him few years into their marriage.

Honestly I'm tired and want to be free from all these.

Please am I at fault here? Or is he God sent to ease me at my times of need? Why am I feeling so guilty even though I have never requested anything from him?
Am I in trouble and what will be the end result of all these?

EreluRoz:
Few years back this man tried to make advances at me but was not bold enough to do so but he kept gifting me different things and crediting my account of which I never asked for. He was familiarizing with people around me and comes to our house to greet my mom because he lives nearby, will call me to greet me before going and all those unnecessary famzing. But he never had that boldness to ask me out.

On my part I never demanded anything from him and whenever I want to reject his gifts and cash I couldn't because it always comes at the right time. I can't count the number of times I have sworn never to accept his gifts and cash but never for once did I keep to my words because he's gifted in sending cash and gifts at the perfect time.

This man is very unattractive to me, like that man you'll not even want anybody to see you standing with , so it has never even crossed my mind to have anything with him. So I summoned courage one day and text him to stop all those univited visits and stop wasting his time because I can never date someone like him(I was young and said some nasty things I regretted later) and unfortunately his cousins saw my nasty message to him, told others and they all wear this scornful looks whenever they see me as I later learnt my message caused problems in their house. Well, he stopped coming to our house, he relocated to a new place as I learnt he got a job that took him away from our location.

I never felt remorseful about all I did to him till recently as I'm now older and wiser. So, I was somewhere doing something and he also came there and saw me first, I was expecting a very cold reaction from him but he immediately came over and was very happy to see me, started gisting and all that, I gave him attention just to make up for my earlier bad attitude, I apologized over how I treated him and he said it's nothing that he's not holding anything against me as I was very young then. Before I say jerk he went to his car and gave me some bundles of cash, requested for my account number and he won't even accept my refusal to give him. So that's how this man resumed sending me money again, infact he's obviously now richer because if I mentioned the alert I always receive from this man nobody will believe me here. I narrated everything to my brother because he knew all I did to him back then, my brother started calling him fool which I felt bad and cautioned him to stop.

Now this man has not made any advances or wooed me but he's already acting more than a partner, infact I feel so guilty each time I see his alerts and calls. God knows I can never date him but I'm beginning to be so uncomfortable with all these. Let me not lie, it's so hard to reject his money as it usually comes at the right time.

Let me also add that he later got married but his wife left him few years into their marriage.

Honestly I'm tired and want to be free from all these.

Please am I at fault here? Or is he God sent to ease me at my times of need? Why am I feeling so guilty even though I have never requested anything from him?
Am I in trouble and what will be the end result of all these?

EreluRoz:
Few years...

EreluRoz:
Don't insult him please, he's a very good man. Just not someone I can date. What do I do kos the guilt I feel is making me so uncomfortable

...because he is good to you do not make him a good man, you will be surprised he probably have not given half of the money he gave to you to his fellow brothers, men who are generous to women and usually very stingy.

Brothers, you can now see money does not win a girl's heart, a woman will like who she likes. She go only chop your money while it lasts. Rather than buying things for a woman to win her heart; invest that money on your looks and develop yourself nah she go run after you. If you notice these "fine boys" who wear designers clothes and wear lovely perfume hardly spend on women, but girls run after them.

immortalcrown:
Life is somehow.

You reject who wants you and go for who chooses other people over you.

Please am I at fault here? Or is he God sent to ease me at my times of need? Why am I feeling so guilty even though I have never requested anything from him?
Am I in trouble and what will be the end result of all these?

tochez24:


Try to give him a chance⚠️

He might be God's ordained husband for you.... Everybody cannot be fine as we want in a partner but they're some qualities you can't just overlook in someone.

He has not asked you out yet because he knows you will reject him, and he's right lol, that's why he's using cash and gifts to express his feelings for you.

You girls normally use person wey love una tru true dey play⚠️

I will advise you give love a chance!!!!!! One day.... call him and ask him to take you out, from there be more friendly with him and he will open up.

But for me, i will never try that.... No girl wey never accepted me as her boyfriend go see my one kobo 😁😁😁

EreluRoz:
Lailai he's not someone I can ever consider

tochez24:


Ok nah... be deceiving yourself, one day you will wake up to the reality check💯 and you will realize you threw away gold while gathering stones!!!!

Nothing dey this life baby girl, allow person love and cherish you o

I will share my life experience with you, when i was much younger.... I was very handsome, you know tall, dark and very chubby and full of life, i had many young girls throwing themselves at me. I never took anyone of them serious because i knew i could always replace them.

These girls were the one of the finest wife materials any sane man could easily pick a wife from... They were not demanding, pretty, hardworking and all but i never appreciate them back then. I was just enjoying my life with them as i can remember and i was very careful never to impregnate anyone of them.
I was living life so i thought!!!!!

Now, life has dawned on me.... As most of them are now married with kids as they post their pictures online, enjoying their different marriages. But for me, I'm still single and searching at 31 years lol

I have never found any girl half better than those i had back in the days⚠️

To get a wife material now seems more difficult than trecking to abroad... I now desire what i never appreciated when i had them!!!

But i must keep hoping on God👏🏽

Sometimes you will never know the value of what are rejecting until when you finally need it, have you ask yourself while you accidentally linked up with that man again It's not coincidence my dear... It's destiny knocking,and it could be disastrous for you if you miss it again.

Life is deep than how you think♂️

EreluRoz:
You don't get it, there's no way I can even consider him for anything. You won't get it, it's not all about looks sef, I don't like anything about him. At 31 you are still a young man,stop sounding like you are in your 60s, go to churches and get yourself a good and beautiful woman