Mindlog:
In some cultures, any child born within a marriage conducted within their tradition belongs to the husband irrespective of the DNA test outcome.

Carcholce:
∆ In what culture? Does it happen it happen in your village?

Kobojunkie:
That happens to be the default as far as customary law in Nigeria. Insisting that paternity fraud has been committed amounts to seeking requesting divorce from one's spouse in that case whether or not the accusation is proven true.

Natbrowny:
What will you do? Can't say really. Many things could happen, Humiliation, Murder etx etc etc

Will you keep them? F*CK NO

Will you still love them as much as you did? F*CK NO. After discovery, things changes. FOR REAL

Heheheheee! Bro, tamper justice with mercy na. The children are innocent na.


What happens to your wife? Her problem. Its her kids, They will leave my residence with immediate effect. Situations like this requires zero patience and full ruthlessness..

My sacrifices stops when discovery is made. As heartbroken and painful as it can be.


Na why gun violence dey UK be that. Discover shits like dis, open fire straight and go to jail knowing u judged someone as you are been judged too.

Nazgul:
■ He said culture not law. Let me rephrase the question for you... which culture in Nigeria openly accepts children an unfaithful wife gave birth to?

Carcholce:


In what culture?

Does it happen it happen in your village?

Chenzee:
After years of training and loving your children, you discover they aren't yours.

What will you do?
Will you keep them?
Will you still love them as much as you did?
What happens to your wife?

Nazgul:

He said culture not law.

Let me rephrase the question for you... which culture in Nigeria openly accepts children an unfaithful wife gave birth to?

Kobojunkie:
What you consider Culture is defined by rules/laws and that law is what is indicated.

SIMPonPatrol:


So you want to tell me that if you nurture your child from a baby up to the time he graduates from a private university at the age of 22 you will suddenly remember to do DNA test then disown the child if the test is negative?

Is that not foolishness?!

Chenzee:
After years of training and loving your children, you discover they aren't yours.

What will you do?
Will you keep them?
Will you still love them as much as you did?
What happens to your wife?

Nazgul:

He said culture not law.

Let me rephrase the question for you... which culture in Nigeria openly accepts children an unfaithful wife gave birth to?

Tallesty1:
A man and his wife were separated but not divorced, the woman got pregnant and formally filed for divorce. The man accepted, bride price was returned but the man told her to use it to take of his child that she was carrying. Claimed it was his own since she took in while still married to him. Court ruled in his favor. Whether that is still in practice today is what I don't know. The man was my neighbor and I believe you know where I'm from.

pocohantas:


Lmao! I have heard of these stories that is why I think some of the pseudo-alphas on NL do not know their culture because strange things have been happening. I do wonder why they did it __To spite the other man, abi they are sterile. These men were not broke asses o. Ever since I got closer to my parents, I have heard shocking stories of innocent-looking aunties and uncles.

Nazgul:

He said culture not law.

Let me rephrase the question for you... which culture in Nigeria openly accepts children an unfaithful wife gave birth to?

pocohantas:


Lmao! I have heard of these stories that is why I think some of the pseudo-alphas on NL do not know their culture because strange things have been happening. I do wonder why they did it __To spite the other man, abi they are sterile. These men were not broke asses o. Ever since I got closer to my parents, I have heard shocking stories of innocent-looking aunties and uncles.

Twoclans:


My home town ( I am from an igbo state ) will take any child that a woman gives birth to while still married to the man.If they are separated and the normal rites of returning the bride price has not been done,they will still claim that child.Making the real father loose out .

Mind you they are not claiming the child from a point of love but from a need to spite the woman and her lover.

Tallesty1:
I think it is because of the archaic believe that whoever pays a woman's bride price owns her and therefore owns what she owns. The man in my story already has 5 boys and a girl.

Nobody is innocent anything. If you are opportuned to sit with elders and hear their tales, you go shock.

Way back when a girl's nude was leaked, first in my village. I was with my aunt that day and was like na only God go help us wey never marry, unto say good girls don finsh. Madam told me to shut up. Say there have always been and there will always be good women. Said the difference between then and now is that they didn't have phones and internet to upload some of the things they did, mentioned that they had fear and respect.

No be today nyash dey back.

Chenzee:
After years of training and loving your children, you discover they aren't yours.

What will you do?
Will you keep them?
Will you still love them as much as you did?
What happens to your wife?

GloriousGbola:


We have a family friend who is a big man and on and off during my childhood, I heard my folks talk about how the man was sterile or something of that nature. But he and his wife had two boys.

Also this

https://dailytimesng.com/yoruba-men-dont-mind-wives-cheat-funmi-iyanda/

pocohantas:


And their generation was more discreet. Unlike ours that open mouth waaa. Only if you are opportuned to eavesdrop on their meetings or have parents that like gist, then you will know. Some of these old aunties were never married. We only assumed they are widows. Whereas they never married, but had kids for a man.

My grandfather's concubine was living in our compound. She was outside, but when her kids grew and had money, they used their share of land to build a small house for her inside our compound. So my grandmother was seeing her everyday. By fire by force.

She even outlived both my grandfather and his two "legal" wives.

Mindlog:


There are cultures in Nigeria (you are free to research) where historically, any child born during the marriage the man has paid the bride price, is the man's child......read up and ask questions from elders from different communities.

Jman06:
You people readily make this assertion forgetting or not knowing that it is only if the man is willing to accept such child that such scenario is possible, or if the man died immediately after marrying the wife, then the lady maybe asked to stay and bear children for the family especially if the dead husband was the only child. In some cases, if a family loses their male children/child without those children being married or have children, then the family could look for a willing lady, marry her and allow her to birth children with other men.

So, it is not that the woman cheated on her husband and then had a bastard child only for the man to later discover that the child is not his. No man accepts such woman and child in Igbo culture.

So, Kobojonkie and co should take note.

Mindlog:


Ask elders in your community, if it has been accepted in history?

EreluRoz:
Honestly this paternity fraud should be a criminal offense with severe punishment, it's very bad.

There should be limit to wickedness because how will you comfortably allow a man to toil and train children that are not his? Some people no get conscience for this life.

The man should just continue with the kids as his in this type of case kos he has already invested his life in them.

Tallesty1:
∆ A man and his wife were separated but not divorced, the woman got pregnant and formally filed for divorce. The man accepted, bride price was returned but the man told her to use it to take of his child that she was carrying. Claimed it was his own since she took in while still married to him. Court ruled in his favor. Whether that is still in practice today is what I don't know. The man was my neighbor and I believe you know where I'm from.

Jman06:
∆ You people readily make this assertion forgetting or not knowing that it is only if the man is willing to accept such child that such scenario is possible, or if the man died immediately after marrying the wife, then the lady maybe asked to stay and bear children for the family especially if the dead husband was the only child. In some cases, if a family loses their male children/child without those children being married or have children, then the family could look for a willing lady, marry her and allow her to birth children with other men.
So, it is not that the woman cheated on her husband and then had a bastard child only for the man to later discover that the child is not his. No man accepts such woman and child in Igbo culture.
So, Kobojonkie and co should take note.

Kobojunkie:
Dey there dey form your own ideas for inside your head there. Go out there and visit the details of your Customary Laws and stop making noise up and down on nairaland abeg!