Thanks to all who advised me sensibly. At least my conscience is clear that I'm not In the wrong.

For the haters, continue hating. Your words make no sense to me and are not valid In the grand scheme of things . So keep your warped opinion to yourselves.

Sigh!!!!

Family of hate!

So you guys still carried your adolescence beef till you came of age!
Too bad.
And from your write up I can't really point out what caused the hatred between your two sisters, don't tell me it's about "beauty".

You did no wrong trying to resolve their issues. If your mom who gave birth to them can't, then it will be very hard for you to.You can't please everyone.Be on a neutral ground with both of them and move on.With time,they will settle their difference

If I talked now, you will start saying you reject and cancel it with the blood of Jesus.

If you liked, cancel this one too.

You see! There is a difference between family and relative. You might be related to someone by blood and not be a member of the same family in the events of things. That's why you may find family among your colleagues, friends, clubs or even in the church, and they'll come thru for you more than any of your biological siblings.

Don't siblings kill one another?
Don't siblings snatch one another's partners?
Don't fathers sleep with their son's wives?
Don't son sleep with their step moms?

The essence of family is to have each other's back. To show you what's possible when there is someone watching your back, which is not always about money.

You need a lil bit knowledge of psychology and anthropology to deal with people.

Know this and know peace. Anyone who tries to save a dying relationship is not a Godsent or an angel. That person is a weakling and will evidently be looked down on.Blood binds you together but family is not by force, it's by choice.

Most times when you try to settle with people. They often feel like they are something special in the grand scheme of things and like they are the best thing to happen to the world after men discovered loiloi and eidikaikong.
It helps them fuel their pride and they begin to show the God-Complex personality.


A human being who has no devotion to ha own biological family is less than an animal. For even animals have a sense of responsibility to their families. Even if there was a tale of what transpired between she and the eldest. For the fact that she couldn't listen to your mom and dad's counsel already shows that she has no regard for anyone.
If you're not a bastard, you should be jealous on your parents' behalves.

This is how to deal with someone like that.
I don't know if you're someone like me. If you were like me.
The first thing I'd do is to rip her off her pride. To make her realize that she isn't shit and doesn't amount to nothing.

Anyone who tells you to play maturity is a stupid person. Your elder sister is egoistical and she desperately needs people that'll suck up to her and massage her ego. Do that and perish.

The best way you can take care of her ego is total avoidance. Just pretend like she doesn't exist.

•Work hard and don't look up to her for money or any assistance.
•If she called you by mistake, don't return her calls.
•If any of your other siblings wants to talk about her to you. Sternly warn them not to ever mention her name to you again.(They will be the one to deliver your message to her)
•Don't ask about her unless you wanna know if she's around before you go see your parents.
•If she offered you anything, do not accept.
•Don't go home when she is at home. (Make it evident that she's irritating)
•If per chance you met her at home, do not greet her. Leave that same day or very early the following morning depending on the distance.
•Avoid her and her things.
•DONT TRY TO BE A GOOD PERSON. You will lose your respect.

Jewessgratitud3:
The origin of this matter I'm about to talk about dated back to early 90s and I'll like to say how it all started before I go into what happened recently and how I got entangled in the whole thing.

Early to mid 90s my two elder sisters, first and second were already in their teens with the eldest almost rounding off with secondary education while the second one was still in SS class. I was still in lower primary.

The first one was what you would call dark , slim and beautiful. Very tall and graceful too but the second is oyinbo . As in curly hair with a finely chiseld nose just like my dads families that look like white people. So she was referred to as half-caste those days and this also attracted suitors to her at an early age. When, I say suitors, I'm talking about Rich men coming to the house with cars to see my dad from the church where she was a chorister. We attended Assumption Catholic church at Falomo then so her suitors were mostly catholic big boys but because she was not done with school my dad will always tell them to wait or she herself will turn them down. Our first on the other hand was not the social type so she hardly attracts those kind of of men. Though she had a boyfriend who was a student and comes around to greet my Mom. Very respectful guy. He's her husband today.

When the second one finished secondary school and was preparing to enter school. The disturbances became too much it now looked like our first is not getting any attention. so it felt somehow then as the second will always flaunt and then the beef started. I don't actually know who started the beefing but I remember they fought almost all the time and started keeping malice. My dad flogged and flogged the two of them to settle, no way!
My Mom tried talking to them, no way.

Fast-forward to when our first Borns guy
( now husband) mustered the courage to start coming to our house to visit. He would like to talk to everyone but my elder sister wouldn't have it whenever he's talking to our second born. So the guy began to notice there was a beef between both of them. He now tried to settle them but my eldest sister got angry and warned him to stay out of it. He tried severally to the point where we in the middle had to tell him to stay out of it. They continued like that untill my elder sister got married and left.

One day my eldest sisters husband came to our house and was gisting with the second one and I saw him collecting her number, me I wasn't happy because she's not talking or respecting my elder sister so why give her husband number. I come do small amebo. I told my eldest that her husband collected my immediates number. in fact at that point I was irritated at the way the guy was behaving. If you ask him he'll say he wants to settle them. Who beg am biko. Men? I kuku told on him.


His wife asked him and he didn't deny so she told him to delete her number. He gave her the phone to delete it herself and she did. The guy was not happy.

Now to what happened. my immediate was always blessing and showering us with gifts and all. Meanwhile Iv been telling the first to just let the past be gone and try settle with the second one and she was willing. She tried calling her but the second refused to pick her calls. She told me and I said leave her. God sees you are willing and have tried by first calling her.


Then one Christmas ( three years ago) the immediate came around and was just sharing money for us the younger ones. I also made her favorite snacks well packaged for her and we were all eating, drinking and merrying when the first one called me on phone and, I told her we were out balling with the second born and that she gifted us for the xmas. My elder sister now said she should let it reach her side o. After the call I told her what our first said to see her reaction. She said what did you tell her? I said I just told her you gifted us and she requested for her own goodies too.

You wont believe my immediate elder sister cut me off since then and stopped gifting me things. Like each time she comes around she'll not even call me like before, she'll call the others and for three years will gift them and not give me anything. Those ones will call and be telling me she was around and gave them heaven and earth.. me too I boned. So because I tried to settle them she blacklisted me.

She reduced our communication to yearly birthday wishes and season greetings. Me too I maintain lane. This year she didn't even send and me I didn't bother.

What exactly was my offense in trying to bring them back together in unity and love.?
Did I do anything bad or overstep my boundaries.?

the highlighted statement is where your problem come from.

Your sister have stone heart and it will do her no good.

Because she think she is a demigod now because of the money she has.

She should know that money 💰 don't last forever but relationship do.


And if you are the gossiping type from today stop. Why must you do amebo that your other sister greased you people.

To me you are the cause of their wahala

Na every matter you go bring come nairaland?

JONSYN7154:

To me you are the cause of their wahala

Shut up

JONSYN7154:
the highlighted statement is where your problem come from.

Your sister have stone heart and it will do her no good.

Because she think she is a demigod now because of the money she has.

She should know that money 💰 don't last forever but relationship do.


And if you are the gossiping type from today stop. Why must you do amebo that your other sister greased you people.

To me you are the cause of their wahala

She didn't know about what I told the elder one. My sisters husband too doesn't know up till today because he didn't know I saw when he gave her this phone to put her number in the parlor. I was peeping from the bedroom. Not like he hid it but he wouldn't suspect I was the one who told his wife. My immediate sis didn't even know her number got deleted .

It's because she disrespected my elder sister a lot and kept malice with and she now has the guts to give her husband number. For what? Now see what she's doing to me.

Wo me I don't have time.

Everything I know about this op I knew it against my wish.

Attention seeking syndrome is on another level

Les:


Shut up

you guys are quick to insult. You don't even know why I said it.

Jewessgratitud3:


She didn't know about what I told the elder one. My sisters husband too doesn't know up till today because he didn't know I saw when he gave her this phone to put her number in the parlor. I was peeping from the bedroom. Not like he hid it but he wouldn't suspect I was the one who told his wife. My immediate sis didn't even know her number got deleted .

It's because she disrespected my elder sister a lot and kept malice with and she now has the guts to give her husband number. For what? Now see what she's doing to me.

Wo me I don't have time.

Your sister is your sister no matter what.

Jecci:
Everything I know about this op I knew it against my wish.

Attention seeking syndrome is on another level

You also seeking same attention had to mark register to show your hateful self in my post cos nobody knew you existed on this forum til now.

Let the attention seeking be on another level at least better than hating on a total stranger.


You have been noticed, now use the exit button and never you miss your way to my post again.

I

YOU AND THESE YOUR LONG FAKE STORIES SEF

FRANCISTOWN:

If I talked now, you will start saying you reject and cancel it with the blood of Jesus.

If you liked, cancel this one too.

You see! There is a difference between family and relative. You might be related to someone by blood and not be a member of the same family in the events of things. That's why you may find family among your colleagues, friends, clubs or even in the church, and they'll come thru for you more than any of your biological siblings.

Don't siblings kill one another?
Don't siblings snatch one another's partners?
Don't fathers sleep with their son's wives?
Don't son sleep with their step moms?

The essence of family is to have each other's back. To show you what's possible when there is someone watching your back, which is not always about money.

You need a lil bit knowledge of psychology and anthropology to deal with people.

Know this and know peace. Anyone who tries to save a dying relationship is not a Godsent or an angel. That person is a weakling and will evidently be looked down on.Blood binds you together but family is not by force, it's by choice.

Most times when you try to settle with people. They often feel like they are something special in the grand scheme of things and like they are the best thing to happen to the world after men discovered loiloi and eidikaikong.
It helps them fuel their pride and they begin to show the God-Complex personality.


A human being who has no devotion to ha own biological family is less than an animal. For even animals have a sense of responsibility to their families. Even if there was a tale of what transpired between she and the eldest. For the fact that she couldn't listen to your mom and dad's counsel already shows that she has no regard for anyone.
If you're not a bastard, you should be jealous on your parents' behalves.

This is how to deal with someone like that.
I don't know if you're someone like me. If you were like me.
The first thing I'd do is to rip her off her pride. To make her realize that she isn't shit and doesn't amount to nothing.

Anyone who tells you to play maturity is a stupid person. Your elder sister is egoistical and she desperately needs people that'll suck up to her and massage her ego. Do that and perish.

The best way you can take care of her ego is total avoidance. Just pretend like she doesn't exist.

•Work hard and don't look up to her for money or any assistance.
•If she called you by mistake, don't return her calls.
•If any of your other siblings wants to talk about her to you. Sternly warn them not to ever mention her name to you again.(They will be the one to deliver your message to her)
•Don't ask about her unless you wanna know if she's around before you go see your parents.
•If she offered you anything, do not accept.
•Don't go home when she is at home. (Make it evident that she's irritating)
•If per chance you met her at home, do not greet her. Leave that same day or very early the following morning depending on the distance.
•Avoid her and her things.
•DONT TRY TO BE A GOOD PERSON. You will lose your respect.

Everything you said up there I already activated. Silent mode activated since and when they bring up her matter I stylishly corner the topic.

Pussyisgud:
YOU AND THESE YOUR LONG FAKE STORIES SEF

And you keep reading the fake stories yet you complain. What does that make you?

JONSYN7154:
Your sister is your sister no matter what.

I don't hate her but I won't force myself on someone who's pushing everyone away.

Cerebellum:
Family of hate!

So you guys still carried your adolescence beef till you came of age!
Too bad.
And from your write up I can't really point out what caused the hatred between your two sisters, don't tell me it's about "beauty".

Exactly what I told my inlaw. If my parents could not settle the quarrel no body can.

Jewessgratitud3:


I dey seek cheap attention

Leave people that are taken alone, go and find your husband.

Who cares if anybody knows if I exist or not here
I am still telling you nobody actually cares about all these your life histories can you just stop. At this point I just think there's a vacuum you are trying to fill because I don't get the need for your constant posting of personal stories all the time. Always want to be the center of attention which shows you are not getting enough or any at all in the real world so here you find solace.

Get a grip on yourself please nobody actually cares Mercychen with your multiple personality disorder

Jewessgratitud3:


You also seeking same attention had to mark register to show your hateful self in my post cos nobody knew you existed on this forum til now.

Let the attention seeking be on another level at least better than hating on a total stranger.


You have been noticed, now use the exit button and never you miss your way to my post again.

I

Jewessgratitud3:


I don't hate her but I won't force myself on someone who's pushing everyone away.

then get your own money and be a demigod like her.

Jecci:
Who cares if anybody knows if I exist or not here
I am still telling you nobody actually cares about all these your life histories can you just stop. At this point I just think there's a vacuum you are trying to fill because I don't get the need for your constant posting of personal stories all the time. Always want to be the center of attention which shows you are not getting enough or any at all in the real world so here you find solace.

Get a grip on yourself please nobody actually cares Mercychen with your multiple personality disorder

Imagine the audacity... youre filled with so much hate that has consumed you to a point of no return hence the outburst.

How is it your business what I do here? Oh.. it choking the living daylight out of you. Hey, you know what, ? I DON'T CARE WHAT YOU OR YOUR COHORTS THINK ABOUT ME POSTING ALL THE TIME. FOR ALL I CARE YOU-ALL CAN CRY FROM NOW TILL ETERNITY. YOU AIN'T SEEN NOTHING YET. UNA GO CRY TAYA.

AS LONG AS IM NOT TELLING YOUR STORIES , YOU CANT TELL ME TO STOP. FOR WHAT NOW?

Go and command your children and younger ones at home to stop doing their thing.

Why am I even wasting my precious time with you?

JONSYN7154:
then get your own money and be a demigod like her.

Like I didn't have my own money? By the grace of God everyone is doing well . She just wants to be that caring big sis that's why she gives not like we keep going to ask.

Jewessgratitud3:


Like I didn't have my own money? By the grace of God everyone is doing well . She just wants to be that caring big sis that's why she gives not like we keep going to ask.

ok

Sigh!!!!

Cerebellum:
Family of hate!

So you guys still carried your adolescence beef till you came of age!
Too bad.
And from your write up I can't really point out what caused the hatred between your two sisters, don't tell me it's about "beauty".

This wasn't necessary, you little boy.

Honestly those Nairalanders up there shouting she's looking for cheap attention, the question is why comment on a topic you don't like?

Abi she forced you to comment?

If you don't like the thread, kindly press back and leave the op alone.

Which one is na insulting person?

You claim someone is looking for attention, yet you dey comment on the thread. No be juju be dat?


To the topic, aunty, if you really want to end this fight, call a family meeting. If it doesn't work, no that this fight is a never-ending war!!!

NPFLADMIN:
Honestly those Nairalanders up there shouting she's looking for cheap attention, the question is why comment on a topic you don't like?

Abi she forced you to comment?

If you don't like the thread, kindly press back and leave the op alone.

Which one is na insulting person?

You claim someone is looking for attention, yet you dey comment on the thread. No be juju be dat?


To the topic, aunty, if you really want to end this fight, call a family meeting. If it doesn't work, no that this fight is a never-ending war!!!

My brother. I think we suggested it one time but it didn't work out. At this juncture na to just leave her when she's tired cos I know she'll eventually get tired, na she go find us come.

JONSYN7154:
the highlighted statement is where your problem come from.

Your sister have stone heart and it will do her no good.

Because she think she is a demigod now because of the money she has.

She should know that money 💰 don't last forever but relationship do.


And if you are the gossiping type from today stop. Why must you do amebo that your other sister greased you people.

To me you are the cause of their wahala

Sometimes money last forever and relationships don't.