This guy had been wooing this lady for over 3 years but she repeatedly turned him down. He then had this very horrible accident that paralysed his left shoulder/arm. He couldn't go back to his place of work (a private organisation), as he had to relocate back to his parents house for proper care since he wasn't married.

The lady eventually accepted to date the guy, either because of his continued absence (they say ; absence makes the heart grow fonder) or she was served breakfast in an anonymous relationship. Either ways, it never mattered to him (at least he now has his dream woman)

They were all loved-up until the lady started exhibiting some weird attitude. She''d give him silent treatment for weeks over issues he can't actually place a finger on. If he asks her to tell him what's wrong with her, she'll retort or mumble with a "nothing" (I personally hate such answers). He'd ask if she's tired of the relationship probably due to his continued absence. She'd say she still loves him. It's been months now, she doesn't call, text or chat. She picks offence anytime he asks if she's tired of the relationship. She's never remorseful. If he flares up, another wahala.

I wonder why she's still in the relationship. Is it familiarity (familiarity breeds contempt) or going through some confidential issues. He loves her so much and even intends to marry her. If I advise him to ditch her, he reminds me of how many ladies rejected him because of his condition, if he leaves her; how and where will he start from? That he'd rather she calls it quit, but not him (considering her immense sacrifice).

I think he needs serious prayer.
Or do you think she'd eventually change.
How should he handle this toxic and emotionally draining relationship?

Chenzee:
This guy had been wooing this lady for over 3 years but she repeatedly turned him down. He then had this very horrible accident that paralysed his left shoulder/arm. He couldn't go back to his place of work (a private organisation), as he had to relocate back to his parents house for proper care since he wasn't married.

The lady eventually accepted to date the guy, either because of his continued absence (they say ; absence makes the heart grow fonder) or she was served breakfast in an anonymous relationship. Either ways, it never mattered to him (at least he now has his dream woman)

They were all loved-up until the lady started exhibiting some weird attitude. She''d give him silent treatment for weeks over issues he can't actually place a finger on. If he asks her to tell him what's wrong with her, she'll retort or mumble with a "nothing" (I personally hate such answers). He'd ask if she's tired of the relationship probably due to his continued absence. She'd say she still loves him. It's been months now, she doesn't call, text or chat. She picks offence anytime he asks if she's tired of the relationship. She's never remorseful. If he flares up, another wahala.

I wonder why she's still in the relationship. Is it familiarity (familiarity breeds contempt)? He loves her so much and even intends to marry her. If I advise him to ditch her, he reminds me of how many ladies rejected him because of his condition, if he leaves her; how and where will he start from? That he'd rather she calls it quit, but not him (considering her immense sacrifice).

I think he needs serious prayer.
Or do you think she'd eventually change.
How should he handle this toxic and emotionally draining relationship?

you can’t satisfy those creatures they hate hearing the truth once you tell them the truth the silent treatment with start ,they are possessed by demon

The bitter truth here is that that banny has used you to heal...So now she's been healed,she just wanna end the whole relation-boat both of you were...

Make he move on with him life abeg....At least,he should be wise Enough to know he has been dumped.

Sonnobax15:

The bitter truth here is that that banny has used you to heal...So now she's been healed,she just wanna end the whole relation-boat both of you were...

Make he move on with him life abeg....At least,he should be wise Enough to know he has been dumped.

It's gonna be a bitter pill for him to swallow considering his condition.

Chenzee:


It's gonna be a bitter pill for him to swallow considering his condition.

I understand bro..but that's life for you and me....The better you know now that people are bound to come into our lives and equally bound to leave anytime they deem fit,the better for your heart.

Make he move on abeg..

Sonnobax15:
I understand bro..but that's life for you and me....The better you know now that people are bound to come into our lives and equally bound to leave anytime they deem fit,the better for your heart.

Make he move on abeg..

I pray he understands.

Igbofirstson:
you can’t satisfy those creatures they hate hearing the truth once you tell them the truth the silent treatment with start ,they are possessed by demon

It's very annoying. It irritates me.

Chenzee:


It's very annoying. It irritates me.

ignoring them is the best weapon to use against them

No sentiments.
If the babe was your sister.
What advice would you give her?

It's beta the guy moves on, if he is not a weakling it's better for him. He should be at peace than at war with the said banny.

Allow him to trust God to find a new partner, he should pray about it too.

To be in such a terrible condition is worrisome finding a partner but it is possible, he needs a higher influence as a sure mate to be there whenever he beckons.