I lost someone recently and this girl who was an old flame came for the burial, she decided to stay till the next day, she stayed at my place overnight, we stayed up all night talking, catching up and just snuggling on the couch, she's someone I'm very attracted to sexually and physically, there was a time I thought I'd end up with her but it didn't work and we both started dating other people, so I friendzone her like I trust myself that nothing can happen between us even if she's naked, and that's why I didn't tell my girlfriend my old flame was passing the night.

When it's time to sleep she got into her lingerie and hopped on my bed, I got my duvet and spread it on the ground, trust me I'm not simping, she's someone I don't see as a sex object, I respect her and I wouldn't demoralize her for any reason even if she's a stripper, I spread my duvet to sleep on the ground and she had this look of surprise and disappoinment, I didn't care though, she then told me to come to the bed that it's big for three people, I told her goodnight, but she wouldn't sleep, she kept talking to me, asking me questions about my girl, our sex life etc, I told her everything cuz we were that close.

Eventually we all slept and the next morning she started giving me attitude, I won't go into that because it's a long story, I got fed up and asked her what's up, then she told me I am a good guy, and she hate that about me, I was like is that a bad thing? She said most guys would not let her sleep alone last night, that I should have had sex with her, that all the clues were there and I was just not getting it, that she wouldn't be contacting me anymore.

I couldn't say anything because the thought of just having her crossed my mind so many times, what stopped me is the respect I have for her, she's not a cheap slut I can just have sex with but she didn't appreciate my respect, second reason is, I also hold myself in high esteem, playing hard to get is a game two can play afterall we both moved on, third I have a girlfriend for Pete sake, lastly, she fit later say I pressured her into having sex and I have seen what ruin that can do to a man's life, was I wrong to exercise restraint and self control? Now she's hating me so much.

Ignore her

Your conscience is clear
U did well to respect her and to stay Faithful to your girl

That girl way you hold high esteem na somebody dumping ground,the way you see her doesn't matter.

Fake story that has been shared MULTIPLE times on NL.

Get yourself a job.

Na man you be, ladies need to start understanding that sex is for two people

Namaster:
Fake story that has been shared MULTIPLE times on NL.

Get yourself a job.

Lol, because girls no send you doesn't mean we're all like you bro, calm down.

People are out there hustling to make better future for themselves but some are lazy goons who will rather die and wake up on social media sharing some meaningless stories up and down.
Lazy Nigerian youths.

To predict the future of these ones dey easy.
Tomorrow, they will start calling govt.

Good

descarado:
People are out there hustling to make better future for themselves but some are lazy goons who will rather die and wake up on social media sharing some meaningless stories up and down.
Lazy Nigerian youths.

To predict the future of these ones dey easy.
Tomorrow, they will start calling govt.

And your idea of hustling is only out there and never being on social media? You must be really suffering to be oblivious of the fact that you can stay on your bed doing social media and still hustling or making money, I'm sorry for you bro, I already have a future and worrying about where I'd eat isn't part of it, thanks.

Thank God for your soul.


If to say you sleep with am and she later dey claim say u take advantage of her nko. She fit even claim rape.

Baba declare booze on ya head.

Ignore her tantrums.
It's painting her because you didn't fall into the trap she had set.
Celebrate yourself bro.
Thank God it's obvious we still have men with self control

She could be carrying an std
Na man you be

Snub her b1tch ass
They’re many like that these days

Na real man you be...her nuclear weapon failed...you can't be manipulated..

Congratulations! You just dodged a pregnancy that’s not yours

natedensel:
I lost someone recently and this girl who was an old flame came for the burial, she decided to stay till the next day, she stayed at my place overnight, we stayed up all night talking, catching up and just snuggling on the couch, she's someone I'm very attracted to sexually and physically, there was a time I thought I'd end up with her but it didn't work and we both started dating other people, so I friendzone her like I trust myself that nothing can happen between us even if she's naked, and that's why I didn't tell my girlfriend my old flame was passing the night.

When it's time to sleep she got into her lingerie and hopped on my bed, I got my duvet and spread it on the ground, trust me I'm not simping, she's someone I don't see as a sex object, I respect her and I wouldn't demoralize her for any reason even if she's a stripper, I spread my duvet to sleep on the ground and she had this look of surprise and disappoinment, I didn't care though, she then told me to come to the bed that it's big for three people, I told her goodnight, but she wouldn't sleep, she kept talking to me, asking me questions about my girl, our sex life etc, I told her everything cuz we were that close.

Eventually we all slept and the next morning she started giving me attitude, I won't go into that because it's a long story, I got fed up and asked her what's up, then she told me I am a good guy, and she hate that about me, I was like is that a bad thing? She said most guys would not let her sleep alone last night, that I should have had sex with her, that all the clues were there and I was just not getting it, that she wouldn't be contacting me anymore.

I couldn't say anything because the thought of just having her crossed my mind so many times, what stopped me is the respect I have for her, she's not a cheap slut I can just have sex with but she didn't appreciate my respect, second reason is, I also hold myself in high esteem, playing hard to get is a game two can play afterall we both moved on, third I have a girlfriend for Pete sake, lastly, she fit later say I pressured her into having sex and I have seen what ruin that can do to a man's life, was I wrong to exercise restraint and self control? Now she's hating me so much.

Sometimes ...women just want to chop and clean mouth too.......

..but hey!!! U did the right thing...u ddnt miss anything by controlling urself....na just slimy mucus membrane.....probably smell like rotten fish.....

Imagine she came with pregnancy to trap u..

Guy..she go dey alright...make she vex...

natedensel:
I lost someone recently and this girl who was an old flame came for the burial, she decided to stay till the next day, she stayed at my place overnight, we stayed up all night talking, catching up and just snuggling on the couch, she's someone I'm very attracted to sexually and physically, there was a time I thought I'd end up with her but it didn't work and we both started dating other people, so I friendzone her like I trust myself that nothing can happen between us even if she's naked, and that's why I didn't tell my girlfriend my old flame was passing the night.

When it's time to sleep she got into her lingerie and hopped on my bed, I got my duvet and spread it on the ground, trust me I'm not simping, she's someone I don't see as a sex object, I respect her and I wouldn't demoralize her for any reason even if she's a stripper, I spread my duvet to sleep on the ground and she had this look of surprise and disappoinment, I didn't care though, she then told me to come to the bed that it's big for three people, I told her goodnight, but she wouldn't sleep, she kept talking to me, asking me questions about my girl, our sex life etc, I told her everything cuz we were that close.

Eventually we all slept and the next morning she started giving me attitude, I won't go into that because it's a long story, I got fed up and asked her what's up, then she told me I am a good guy, and she hate that about me, I was like is that a bad thing? She said most guys would not let her sleep alone last night, that I should have had sex with her, that all the clues were there and I was just not getting it, that she wouldn't be contacting me anymore.

I couldn't say anything because the thought of just having her crossed my mind so many times, what stopped me is the respect I have for her, she's not a cheap slut I can just have sex with but she didn't appreciate my respect, second reason is, I also hold myself in high esteem, playing hard to get is a game two can play afterall we both moved on, third I have a girlfriend for Pete sake, lastly, she fit later say I pressured her into having sex and I have seen what ruin that can do to a man's life, was I wrong to exercise restraint and self control? Now she's hating me so much.

Discipline is what many seek can't have. You self respect is more and you become more valuable

natedensel:
I lost someone recently and this girl who was an old flame came for the burial, she decided to stay till the next day, she stayed at my place overnight, we stayed up all night talking, catching up and just snuggling on the couch, she's someone I'm very attracted to sexually and physically, there was a time I thought I'd end up with her but it didn't work and we both started dating other people, so I friendzone her like I trust myself that nothing can happen between us even if she's naked, and that's why I didn't tell my girlfriend my old flame was passing the night.

When it's time to sleep she got into her lingerie and hopped on my bed, I got my duvet and spread it on the ground, trust me I'm not simping, she's someone I don't see as a sex object, I respect her and I wouldn't demoralize her for any reason even if she's a stripper, I spread my duvet to sleep on the ground and she had this look of surprise and disappoinment, I didn't care though, she then told me to come to the bed that it's big for three people, I told her goodnight, but she wouldn't sleep, she kept talking to me, asking me questions about my girl, our sex life etc, I told her everything cuz we were that close.

Eventually we all slept and the next morning she started giving me attitude, I won't go into that because it's a long story, I got fed up and asked her what's up, then she told me I am a good guy, and she hate that about me, I was like is that a bad thing? She said most guys would not let her sleep alone last night, that I should have had sex with her, that all the clues were there and I was just not getting it, that she wouldn't be contacting me anymore.

I couldn't say anything because the thought of just having her crossed my mind so many times, what stopped me is the respect I have for her, she's not a cheap slut I can just have sex with but she didn't appreciate my respect, second reason is, I also hold myself in high esteem, playing hard to get is a game two can play afterall we both moved on, third I have a girlfriend for Pete sake, lastly, she fit later say I pressured her into having sex and I have seen what ruin that can do to a man's life, was I wrong to exercise restraint and self control? Now she's hating me so much.

fine, don't contact her anymore too.

don't allow her or anyone else to gaslight you for doing the right thing.

That part of vacating the bed for her was unnecessary, especially when the bed space is a big one.
You could had created distance and made boundary with pillow, then went about the self control till morning.

You did the right thing. Pussy ain't gold...if she wanted you, she would say it, or get naked and come to you.

well ofcourse you're a SIMP
And she told you so; in a subtle way.

A guy who isn't a simp wouldn't need to sleep on the floor just to avoid having sex with a Hot lady at night.

Don't give a damn about what she says and focus on what matters. HIV spreaders, Pregnancy trappers, False rape accusers, sexual harrassment accusers and home breakers are everywhere destroying men and self-control is the best defence against them. Start building on your self-control now for the future.

You are one of the men, unlike Davido who knelt and was crying to have a woman, that is bringing respect to men. Congratulations! We are proud of you, you escaped disease.

You did well. Allow her to start misbehaving towards you. When she is done, she will still reach out to you or let the friendship die a natural death if sex is her problem out of all the issues rampaging every human these days.

If it was to be me, I will also act the way you acted. But in my own case, I won't have sex cuz it will spoil the grace I am carrying right now.

Some persons won't understand. A lady might think I don't like her, but it's just me trying to protect what I possess within me.

Sex is not everything. Having sex with multiple girls can spoil many things for you as a man. That's why I have been trying my best to stay off it myself as I have had my own fair share of it in the past.

You did well. Feel no regret!

TheBlueDiamond:



fine, don't contact her anymore too.

don't allow her or anyone else to gaslight you for doing the right thing.

That part of vacating the bed for her was unnecessary, especially when the bed space is a big one.
You could had created distance and made boundary with pillow, then went about the self control till morning.

If he had done so, the same woman will tell it to those who care to listen how this dude is impotent & suffers chronic erectile dysfunction, and couldn't do the do.


Stop rationalizing women's emotions.

@OP Na her hate dey feed you?.. why worry your head over irrelevancies??

The joke is on you. Never, ever respect a 9ja girl. They are all slut, and you must treat them as such. If not, they will take you for an idiot or mugu because you refuse to recognize them accordingly.

Hear it to day and make peace with your life. All 9ja girls na ashawo. Even if you never know say your wife or girlfriend na ashawo, just set trap for her and you go confirm.

Na oloshio them be ooh, no let their innocent look or emotions confuse you.

Kindly use and dump them.

If you are married, divorce them immediately for your safety.

descarado:
People are out there hustling to make better future for themselves but some are lazy goons who will rather die and wake up on social media sharing some meaningless stories up and down.
Lazy Nigerian youths.

To predict the future of these ones dey easy.
Tomorrow, they will start calling govt.

There is money online. Gone are the days when everyone will be going to the office to work.

I just finished attending to one of my online print on demand works. But you can see I am online. That's the freedom working for yourself brings to you. No one will dictate to you when and what time to be online. You can be working and still be going through posts on Nairaland. That's freedom at its peak.

I trade too. As a swing trader, I don't have to always be in front of my chart every minute. And that alone, provides me the free time to dilly dally with other things.

Soft life with freedom to transverse the world is what we all want. Not the one that will tie you down and make you not have time for your own social life.

We have the power to create the type of life we want, travel the world, go on vacation while still making money from the corner of our bed. It's all soft life.

So, what are we saying? Your claim of young men being lazy cuz they are online is out of place. There are some of us that have systems that are already making us money while we sleep. We don't need to keep working just to make money. That's what we call set and forget type of systems.

But if some persons who don't know what's going on always see a guy like me online, they will think I am lazy. Heck no. That's far from it.

Working doesn't mean one shouldn't have time for himself and social life.

She's someone you are sexually attracted to , She's not a cheap slut, you don't want to demoralized her, you just dey jam talk

That girl you don't see as sex objects, and don't want to demoralize her or what ever, those are the things she actually wanted, now she sees you as a weak man for being a good man, like you said.
I am not encouraging you to cheat on your girl, but all these your talk of you don't want to demoralize her is simping mentality, learn

You even had to vacate your bed that could accommodate three people, you are worse than davido crying for a crumb of the pusse 🤣🤣🤣😂😂

Savedday2:
The joke is on you. Never, ever respect a 9ja girl. They are all slut, and you must treat them as such. If not, they will take you for an idiot or mugu because you refuse to recognize them accordingly.

Hear it to day and make peace with your life. All 9ja girls na ashawo. Even if you never know say your wife or girlfriend na ashawo, just set trap for her and you go confirm.

Na oloshio them be ooh, no let their innocent look or emotions confuse you.

Kindly use and dump them.

If you are married, divorce them immediately for your safety.

You're very short sighted bro, and a misogynist I bet, don't you have a mom and sisters? Well I do, I wouldn't classify every naija girl ashawo, maybe you're referring to your mom and sisters but not mine, if you have nothing meaningful to say just shut your thrash.

Karlifate:


If he had done so, the same woman will tell it to those who care to listen how this dude is impotent & suffers chronic erectile dysfunction, and couldn't do the do.


Stop rationalizing women's emotions.

lol, I'm aware of her probable myopic and slandering tendencies of course.
It's her mouth, she's free to babble her mouth anyhow.

besides, him sleeping on the floor still won't stop her from being blabbermouthed and spit those balderdash out to anyone with listening ears.

You did well.

Next time sleep on the bed and have her sleep on the floor.

Summary, she feels you don’t like her.

natedensel:
I lost someone recently and this girl who was an old flame came for the burial, she decided to stay till the next day, she stayed at my place overnight, we stayed up all night talking, catching up and just snuggling on the couch, she's someone I'm very attracted to sexually and physically, there was a time I thought I'd end up with her but it didn't work and we both started dating other people, so I friendzone her like I trust myself that nothing can happen between us even if she's naked, and that's why I didn't tell my girlfriend my old flame was passing the night.

When it's time to sleep she got into her lingerie and hopped on my bed, I got my duvet and spread it on the ground, trust me I'm not simping, she's someone I don't see as a sex object, I respect her and I wouldn't demoralize her for any reason even if she's a stripper, I spread my duvet to sleep on the ground and she had this look of surprise and disappoinment, I didn't care though, she then told me to come to the bed that it's big for three people, I told her goodnight, but she wouldn't sleep, she kept talking to me, asking me questions about my girl, our sex life etc, I told her everything cuz we were that close.

Eventually we all slept and the next morning she started giving me attitude, I won't go into that because it's a long story, I got fed up and asked her what's up, then she told me I am a good guy, and she hate that about me, I was like is that a bad thing? She said most guys would not let her sleep alone last night, that I should have had sex with her, that all the clues were there and I was just not getting it, that she wouldn't be contacting me anymore.

I couldn't say anything because the thought of just having her crossed my mind so many times, what stopped me is the respect I have for her, she's not a cheap slut I can just have sex with but she didn't appreciate my respect, second reason is, I also hold myself in high esteem, playing hard to get is a game two can play afterall we both moved on, third I have a girlfriend for Pete sake, lastly, she fit later say I pressured her into having sex and I have seen what ruin that can do to a man's life, was I wrong to exercise restraint and self control? Now she's hating me so much.

Carry on bro,as far as e no reduce or age, although that how some girl behave,but you don't.know her motive,