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Helping The Poor These Days Is Very Dangerous by Testiebobo(m): 6:53am On May 01 |
In this life not everybody you see really deserves a helping hand. I can tell you that some poor people are proud than some elites. We once had a neighbour who we were very close to. As in family-friends. So one day i saw the trouser that my friend was wearing, the trouser was under-sized for him because he had grown taller than the trouser's length. And that is even one of his best trousers he wore to church. So one day i picked some of my favourites clothings and jeans trousers even palm shoes. I ironed the clothes and some trousers and presented it to him. He was very glad and happy and showed his mum, the woman pretended to be happy about it sha. But till date, i have never seen my friend wearing anyone of them. The thing pain me o because i still loved the clothes and shoes i gave him. I am even confused maybe it is my friend or his mother that are ingrate. What do you call this type of attitude? Happy new month! 67 Likes 9 Shares
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Re: Helping The Poor These Days Is Very Dangerous by Jashub: 6:55am On May 01 |
So you stopped doing good just because of one person's actions....? Your way no pure I swear 101 Likes 10 Shares |
Re: Helping The Poor These Days Is Very Dangerous by immortalcrown(m): 7:01am On May 01 |
First, why do you condemn the entire people of Ondo because of your neighbours? 40 Likes |
Re: Helping The Poor These Days Is Very Dangerous by GreatVocalist: 7:11am On May 01 |
immortalcrown:Second, how does this singular experience make helping poor people dangerous? 70 Likes 5 Shares |
Re: Helping The Poor These Days Is Very Dangerous by Nazgul: 7:12am On May 01 |
Jashub:1 pair of stock jean is currently 20k at Mandilas in Lagos, long sleeve shirts is about 15k, shoes starts from 35k and above. Imagine giving someone all that and he disposes it in the trash and you're here saying his way no pure. Do you know what it takes to give out clothes that are still very useful to you in this Tinubu's era and the gift isn't appreciated? Some of you just condemn people recklessly without putting yourselves in their position. 283 Likes 18 Shares |
Re: Helping The Poor These Days Is Very Dangerous by nifemi25(m): 7:16am On May 01 |
Definitely this is not help.... Something you did while expecting thanks is not an help... Either he wore the cloth or not shouldn't be your problem.... You have done your best for him and why not wait for God to reward you.... You never can tell the guy might cherish the cloth to the extent of keeping it as one of his best cloth that need to be wear while going to an important occasion...simply because you haven't seen the guy put on the cloth doesn't means he didn't appreciate... 102 Likes 9 Shares |
Re: Helping The Poor These Days Is Very Dangerous by MrCork: 7:20am On May 01 |
Testiebobo: 2 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Helping The Poor These Days Is Very Dangerous by MrCork: 7:22am On May 01 |
Testiebobo: Testicle....you sayin u will stop helpin yor neibor becuzz she wear yor trouser twice...corrrrrect?..bro are u ok sir!!!((((no oofencsece))) 7 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Helping The Poor These Days Is Very Dangerous by Solofresh2: 8:09am On May 01 |
There is nothing bad in helping people because this your story no follow at all How can you give out something to someone only to start checking if they use it or not? It means you are not comfortable helping that person. Help people at your own comfort. If you know you are not comfortable helping then don't do it 29 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Helping The Poor These Days Is Very Dangerous by Reminderz: 8:14am On May 01 |
nifemi25:exactly... op, when you help someone genuinely, do not expect anything in return from them... you might get disappointed.. although, as humans, we love to be appreciated, I understand, but when you truly want to help, let that be the least thing on your mind, whether they appreciated you or not shouldn't be a problem, you've done your part... only expect your reward from your Creator. 6 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Helping The Poor These Days Is Very Dangerous by sulakishop(m): 8:16am On May 01 |
Another personal opinion not a general view. You may have a point though 2 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Helping The Poor These Days Is Very Dangerous by Caleb15(m): 8:20am On May 01 |
Give am bag of rice but E dey mind 2 Likes |
Re: Helping The Poor These Days Is Very Dangerous by VinnyBaba: 8:24am On May 01 |
Never Give Pple what they did NOT ask for. When you do, They Hardly value it. They feel you are Mocking their Situation. If You Wake up in the Morning and Take Rice and Beans to your Poor Neighbour, the Person will eat the Food but will be feeling like 'You told you I can't Feed myself, Are you saying I am so Poor?' One has to Be Careful when helping Nigerians. 95 Likes 5 Shares |
Re: Helping The Poor These Days Is Very Dangerous by BigDickProblems: 8:31am On May 01 |
Many factors can come in: 1. How do you expect your friend (who is a guy) to feel wearing that clothe or shoe that the community is fond of seeing on you? This is why probably won't see him wear it. He could only wear it in a new area probably where he will spend an holiday or something but not in your area. 2. For some diabolical reasons or fears, his mom may have advised him not to wear any. I know one Big man in my area from nowhere brought me a short rugged jeans saying he wants to dash me. My mum gladly accepted it with a smile but she never allowed me touch it. 3. Other reasons best known to him and his Mom that you and I don't know. Whichever way, it's not a good thing from your side if you think you need to see him on the these wears and regret giving him in the first place. It may hinder your blessings. 26 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: Helping The Poor These Days Is Very Dangerous by LoveFayfay(f): 8:38am On May 01 |
@OP don't conclude this way. You might be so surprised to know that the clothes and shoes you gave the guy might be one of the most cherished outfit and he feels he would only wear it for 'important' event or occasion. Besides, you shouldn't keep looking out to know if he wears it or not. Just help/give; don't think it twice. 10 Likes |
Re: Helping The Poor These Days Is Very Dangerous by Collins4u1(m): 8:55am On May 01 |
it's your type will help someone and who won't give them space to breath. You gave out cloth and you're still monitoring to know when they wore it, so you'll have orgasm, abi nau. 5 Likes |
Re: Helping The Poor These Days Is Very Dangerous by KingLennon(m): 9:02am On May 01 |
nifemi25:Don't mind the guy, he wants to trend .. |
Re: Helping The Poor These Days Is Very Dangerous by advanceDNA: 9:12am On May 01 |
Testiebobo: Ondo pple?? U wicked oooo....how did u arrive at all ondo pple just because of this small matter?? U don help am.....forget what he did with it... If it's money u gave to him...will u still monitor what he spent the money on...guy...witchcraft dey ur body 3 Likes |
Re: Helping The Poor These Days Is Very Dangerous by Mikespecialone(m): 10:20am On May 01 |
He who does good needs no accolades. No matter what you do in this life, you cannot escape from yourself. Try to do good, and live without fear of doing good 5 Likes |
Re: Helping The Poor These Days Is Very Dangerous by I000Capacity: 10:20am On May 01 |
People prefer kindness by getting Food stuff or money rather than clothes. The reason isn't far fetched. You can be in a gathering and tell everyone your friend is wearing a cloth you dashed him. What could be more embarrassing? Just be kind to people regardless 7 Likes |
Re: Helping The Poor These Days Is Very Dangerous by iwaeda: 10:21am On May 01 |
Testiebobo:Better to go to Martins Street and buy new ones. Many are not happy to wear pass me down. Iwaeda Lori yen. I hardly give anyone used things, rather give Church welfare dept. Anyway you have done right, take solace, God will reward you. 4 Likes |
Re: Helping The Poor These Days Is Very Dangerous by Blaze14k: 10:21am On May 01 |
I hardly dash people money |
Re: Helping The Poor These Days Is Very Dangerous by Vicotex(m): 10:21am On May 01 |
Na who get dey help o. Me like this never eat since last night I no see who yo complain give.. If no be one thing I for don post my opay account make dem do me small thing for breakfast 😢 |
Re: Helping The Poor These Days Is Very Dangerous by ravensckar(m): 10:21am On May 01 |
Your neighbour's mum's action was totally in order. It's you who didn't understand their personality. Although I don't know their tribe, but I know for a fact that some people find it appaling to be gifted used clothes by their colleagues or contemporary. Especially when they didn't beg for it. It's an indirect way of saying that you are better than them. It's hurtful to their pride and prestige. If your neighbour had begged you directly or indirectly, that would have been a different case. Even I too often forbid my wife from gifting her children's used clothes to anyone around. She'd rather take them to the beggars at the roadside. A good neighbour should be conscious of other people's pride and feelings. Do not do anything that will hurt their pride. PS- some people have the superstitious believe that collecting used clothes from another person is tantamount to surrendering their destiny to them. I don't judge them though, this is Africa, the land of superstition 11 Likes 1 Share |
Re: Helping The Poor These Days Is Very Dangerous by chaddy16: 10:22am On May 01 |
Hey, take it easy. Your buddy hasn't crossed any lines. He likely plans to wear the clothes, just not around here. Believe me, he's really thankful. If you're unsure, just ask him to show you the clothes to confirm he still has them. Shikena |
Re: Helping The Poor These Days Is Very Dangerous by StPete: 10:22am On May 01 |
I’ve seen poor people do these. They believe if they were the clothes you give them, it will steal their star, their grace or whatever the fvck they concort in their heads 4 Likes |
Re: Helping The Poor These Days Is Very Dangerous by Modecaih: 10:22am On May 01 |
Don't generalize it,,just say helping the ungrateful poor is dangerous.. |
Re: Helping The Poor These Days Is Very Dangerous by sofeo(m): 10:22am On May 01 |
Okay |
Re: Helping The Poor These Days Is Very Dangerous by GloriousGbola: 10:23am On May 01 |
Testiebobo: You will find that he sold those clothes for a pittance. Poverty often completely fks with people's heads to the point where they do not understand value. More so when they get something without hustling for it. 1 Like |
Re: Helping The Poor These Days Is Very Dangerous by Dpharisee: 10:23am On May 01 |
OPM Pastor is yet to recover from helping those Chicken Republic dancing boys he sent to Europe 2 Likes |
Re: Helping The Poor These Days Is Very Dangerous by MaziObinnaokija: 10:23am On May 01 |
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