MrBrownJay1:
taking a child from a breastfeeding mother is never ideal but if the safety of the child is in jeopardy, then no judge will refuse to take the child away from reckless mother.... the issue is that you need CONCRETE PROOF to show that the state of the child is a direct result of the mother's actions, and not that the child is just catching common sickness (like any other child would at such age)

fyzaila:
The boy is still very young quite alright, but with a good lawyer you can win the case with this evidence and provided you have a significant and well trusted someone who can take care of the baby very well.

The mother is very careless. Guys should stop jumping into marriage for one useless reason or the other. Don't just choose a wife, choose a good mother for your child please.

Smartdoctor:
The result of the diagnosis is available

Ahniin:
The other bitter sored side of divorce.its now the grass that's suffering it.

Secondly you don't expect the condition of the child to look posh based on they're in the village ravaged with so much crawling insects and the rest,so the child skin must be affected.
It takes a smart n vigilant mum to ensure the child looks healthy n well kept.

3rdly...The mother whoring and keeping multiple sex poachers as partner says alot about her kind of person.

My only painment here is the child paying and contracting these diseases due to the stupidity of both adults she chooses as PARENTS.imagine a toddler of 1year 3 months.

THE SOLUTION.....kindly have a calm heart to heart talks with the mother to allow you care for the child(please don't be harsh with words and don't even make attempts to forcefully take the child n abscond to your base.

Nada must happen to that child,she/he must be priotised

Appreciated 👍 lots of people advised her to allow the father take custody even her own blood sister but she refused

MrBrownJay1:


again, you need to have concrete proof that the state of the child is due to the reckless actions of the mother.... so if all the above you mentioned can be contracted while in contact with other kids at kindergarden or in the compound where they live, then your whole plot will fail.

have you tried talking to mama? have you tried co-parenting? have you tried being closer to the child so that you can be more present in his life to monitor his/her wellbeing? remember, no matter how hard you hate that woman or what type of reckless life she lives, she IS and will STILL remain the child's mother and therefore would have rights to have access to the child.

Smartdoctor:
The child is currently undergoing treatment in the hospital and the dad is constantly with him since a week. He's intention is to keep up with the child till the fixed date of the hearing in the court so that he present these evidences

MrBrownJay1:


hopefully he has a plan B, C and D... if the child is left in mother's care.

Smartdoctor:
Please what are these plans likely to be sir?

MrBrownJay1:
- have you tried talking to mama?
- have you tried co-parenting?
- have you tried being closer to the child so that you can be more present in his life to monitor his/her wellbeing?

Smartdoctor:

Please what are these plans likely to be sir?

Ahniin:

Snuck in on the mother,whisked the child n vamoose.... what's hard there to decode?

Smartdoctor:

Oshé

MrBrownJay1:


here again:

Ahniin:
The other bitter sored side of divorce.its now the grass that's suffering it.

Secondly you don't expect the condition of the child to look posh based on they're in the village ravaged with so much crawling insects and the rest,so the child skin must be affected.
It takes a smart n vigilant mum to ensure the child looks healthy n well kept.

3rdly...The mother whoring and keeping multiple sex poachers as partner says alot about her kind of person.

My only painment here is the child paying and contracting these diseases due to the stupidity of both adults she chooses as PARENTS.imagine a toddler of 1year 3 months.

THE SOLUTION.....kindly have a calm heart to heart talks with the mother to allow you care for the child(please don't be harsh with words and don't even make attempts to forcefully take the child n abscond to your base.

Nada must happen to that child,she/he must be priotised

Smartdoctor:
Good evening guys, please I need an urgent legal advisors in the forum to assist my cousin brother.
He had divorced and sent her wife back to the village for the past six months ago.
But the court asked him to be paying a certain amount of money monthly for the child's wellbeing which he has been doing.
But unfortunately the effect of the money has never been significant by looking at the physical appearance of the child.
He always sends relatives to check on the child of which several reports have reached him about how the boy is always been abandoned to be wandering about alone while the mother will be hanging out with friends.
What strucked him to his nerves was the recent report about the child been seriously sick and rumours that the mother now deals with several sexual partners while still breastfeeding the child....
He travelled from Abuja immediately to his hometown to retrieve the boy via court order but unfortunately the court denied him because the baby is believed to be too young at 1 year and 3 months old.
Now that the court had adjourned the case till 28th this month, he however decided to stay put in his hometown to treat the baby. The baby was taken to the hospital. the doctor took off his clothes and to our greatest suprise, the child's body looks so rough, rashes and boils all over her armpit down to his genital region.
Laboratory test was carried out and the report showed that the child have sexually transmitted infections. Fungi infection (,jock itch) and candidiasis.
All these evidences have been push to the judge phone and what we are afraid of, is the possibility of the judge cautioning her to take care of the child and allow her to continue taking the child's custody.
Can he take the child forcefully after having all these evidences against the mother?

LilMissFavvy:
The child is better off staying with the mother. If your friend cared so much about the child, he shouldn't have left his marriage with a baby as young as that. He should face his life, and stop monitoring what his ex wife does with her body, he himself will want to remarry and then dump the child in hands of a step wife. He is not different.

Ahniin:
What a mother .
I still insist you guys have a round table talk(I hope the mother isn't scared that once she releases the child to you,her meal ticket is gone)

Chai. . poor baby.

May I know what even led to the divorce?
Was domestic violence involved?

Smartdoctor:

Same infidelity

Ahniin:

From you or madam?

UnfairLife7:
The child is better off being with the mother. If your so called friend care so much about the wellbeing of his child, he shouldn't have end his marriage.

He can only talk to the child mother to look after her child properly but he can't have the child to himself