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How Can He Take Custody Of His Son by Smartdoctor: 10:42pm On May 02 |
Good evening guys, please I need an urgent legal advisors in the forum to assist my cousin brother. He had divorced and sent her wife back to the village for the past six months ago. But the court asked him to be paying a certain amount of money monthly for the child's wellbeing which he has been doing. But unfortunately the effect of the money has never been significant by looking at the physical appearance of the child. He always sends relatives to check on the child of which several reports have reached him about how the boy is always been abandoned to be wandering about alone while the mother will be hanging out with friends. What strucked him to his nerves was the recent report about the child been seriously sick and rumours that the mother now deals with several sexual partners while still breastfeeding the child.... He travelled from Abuja immediately to his hometown to retrieve the boy via court order but unfortunately the court denied him because the baby is believed to be too young at 1 year and 3 months old. Now that the court had adjourned the case till 28th this month, he however decided to stay put in his hometown to treat the baby. The baby was taken to the hospital. the doctor took off his clothes and to our greatest suprise, the child's body looks so rough, rashes and boils all over her armpit down to his genital region. Laboratory test was carried out and the report showed that the child have sexually transmitted infections. Fungi infection (,jock itch) and candidiasis. All these evidences have been push to the judge phone and what we are afraid of, is the possibility of the judge cautioning her to take care of the child and allow her to continue taking the child's custody. Can he take the child forcefully after having all these evidences against the mother? 13 Likes 2 Shares
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Re: How Can He Take Custody Of His Son by MrBrownJay1(m): 10:58pm On May 02 |
taking a child from a breastfeeding mother is never ideal but if the safety of the child is in jeopardy, then no judge will refuse to take the child away from reckless mother.... the issue is that you need CONCRETE PROOF to show that the state of the child is a direct result of the mother's actions, and not that the child is just catching common sickness (like any other child would at such age) 102 Likes 4 Shares |
Re: How Can He Take Custody Of His Son by fyzaila: 10:59pm On May 02 |
The boy is still very young quite alright, but with a good lawyer you can win the case with this evidence and provided you have a significant and well trusted someone who can take care of the baby very well. The mother is very careless. Guys should stop jumping into marriage for one useless reason or the other. Don't just choose a wife, choose a good mother for your child please. 85 Likes 6 Shares |
Re: How Can He Take Custody Of His Son by Smartdoctor: 11:01pm On May 02 |
MrBrownJay1:The result of the diagnosis is available 6 Likes 1 Share |
Re: How Can He Take Custody Of His Son by immortalcrown(m): 11:01pm On May 02 |
Nawa oh! 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: How Can He Take Custody Of His Son by Ahniin: 11:02pm On May 02 |
The other bitter sored side of divorce.its now the grass that's suffering it. Secondly you don't expect the condition of the child to look posh based on they're in the village ravaged with so much crawling insects and the rest,so the child skin must be affected. It takes a smart n vigilant mum to ensure the child looks healthy n well kept. 3rdly...The mother whoring and keeping multiple sex poachers as partner says alot about her kind of person. My only painment here is the child paying and contracting these diseases due to the stupidity of both adults she chooses as PARENTS.imagine a toddler of 1year 3 months. THE SOLUTION.....kindly have a calm heart to heart talks with the mother to allow you care for the child(please don't be harsh with words and don't even make attempts to forcefully take the child n abscond to your base. Nada must happen to that child,she/he must be priotised 21 Likes 7 Shares |
Re: How Can He Take Custody Of His Son by Smartdoctor: 11:02pm On May 02 |
fyzaila:Thanks 1 Like |
Re: How Can He Take Custody Of His Son by MrBrownJay1(m): 11:06pm On May 02 |
Smartdoctor: again, you need to have concrete proof that the state of the child is due to the reckless actions of the mother.... so if all the above you mentioned can be contracted while in contact with other kids at kindergarden or in the compound where they live, then your whole plot will fail. have you tried talking to mama? have you tried co-parenting? have you tried being closer to the child so that you can be more present in his life to monitor his/her wellbeing? remember, no matter how hard you hate that woman or what type of reckless life she lives, she IS and will STILL remain the child's mother and therefore would have rights to have access to the child (if/when the child is in your care). 16 Likes 1 Share |
Re: How Can He Take Custody Of His Son by Smartdoctor: 11:06pm On May 02 |
Ahniin: |
Re: How Can He Take Custody Of His Son by Smartdoctor: 11:10pm On May 02 |
MrBrownJay1:The child is currently undergoing treatment in the hospital and the dad is constantly with him since a week. He's intention is to keep up with the child till the fixed date of the hearing in the court so that he present these evidences 2 Likes |
Re: How Can He Take Custody Of His Son by MrBrownJay1(m): 11:12pm On May 02 |
Smartdoctor: hopefully he has a plan B, C and D... if the child is left in mother's care. 1 Like |
Re: How Can He Take Custody Of His Son by Smartdoctor: 11:13pm On May 02 |
MrBrownJay1:Please what are these plans likely to be sir? |
Re: How Can He Take Custody Of His Son by Ahniin: 11:15pm On May 02 |
What a mother ![]() I still insist you guys have a round table talk(I hope the mother isn't scared that once she releases the child to you,her meal ticket is gone) Chai. . poor baby. May I know what even led to the divorce? Was domestic violence involved? 5 Likes |
Re: How Can He Take Custody Of His Son by MrBrownJay1(m): 11:16pm On May 02 |
Smartdoctor: here again: MrBrownJay1: |
Re: How Can He Take Custody Of His Son by Ahniin: 11:17pm On May 02 |
Smartdoctor:Snuck in on the mother,whisked the child n vamoose.... what's hard there to decode? 1 Like |
Re: How Can He Take Custody Of His Son by Smartdoctor: 11:20pm On May 02 |
Ahniin:Oshé 1 Like |
Re: How Can He Take Custody Of His Son by Ahniin: 11:21pm On May 02 |
Smartdoctor: ![]() |
Re: How Can He Take Custody Of His Son by Smartdoctor: 11:23pm On May 02 |
MrBrownJay1:All these have been tried. But the stubborn mother wouldn't allow these work. Thou, we have in mind that even if it has to be righteous to see that the child lives a healthy life, we will |
Re: How Can He Take Custody Of His Son by LilMissFavvy(f): 12:59am On May 03 |
The child is better off staying with the mother. If your friend cared so much about the child, then he should not have left his marriage with a baby as young as that. He should vface his life, about what his ex wife does? He is not different, soon 10 Likes 2 Shares |
Re: How Can He Take Custody Of His Son by LilMissFavvy(f): 1:04am On May 03 |
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Re: How Can He Take Custody Of His Son by Double0h7(f): 2:26am On May 03 |
This is why picking the mother of your children has to be based on evidence of intelligence and self actualisation instead of virginity and age. He took a naive “girl” from the village and when she wouldn’t comply to his orders he sent her back to the village with his son in tow. Tell your cousin to wait until she finds his replacement, then she’ll drop his son off to him so she could play house with her new boo. Poor little tingting 😒 12 Likes |
Re: How Can He Take Custody Of His Son by Kajaard: 4:52am On May 03 |
Ahniin: FACTS ✴️ 💯 |
Re: How Can He Take Custody Of His Son by frozen70(f): 5:01am On May 03 |
Smartdoctor: Taking the child forceful will not solve the problem He already has enough evidence to tender in the court for the court to grant him custody of the child In most cases, court will grant a man custody of a child of the woman lacks the capacity to look after the child and in this case, this is one of them He is likely to get the custody of the child but must make plans for her to see his child maybe once a month 8 Likes |
Re: How Can He Take Custody Of His Son by TheWinterBird(f): 5:09am On May 03 |
OP, your "cousin brother" is doing the right thing. Big props to him. The fact that he has been sending her money and keeping an eye on his son's wellbeing/welfare are indications that he's a present father and good man, as he has not abandoned his child despite their divorce. Kudos to him for taking him to the hospital for medical attention, including tests. Please don't listen to any ugly comment above telling him to "face his life" and simply abandon the child. I hope he's able to get custody. God bless him. LilMissFavvy:How is he monitoring what she does to her body? He did the right thing taking him to the hospital to get him checked out and have tests carried out on him, which revealed he has sexually transmitted infections. Is that not something he should be concerned about? Your telling him to abandon the child is really the height of wickedness. 27 Likes 4 Shares |
Re: How Can He Take Custody Of His Son by AcadaWriter: 5:13am On May 03 |
Nawa oh! |
Re: How Can He Take Custody Of His Son by Smartdoctor: 6:50am On May 03 |
Ahniin:Same infidelity 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: How Can He Take Custody Of His Son by Ahniin: 6:55am On May 03 |
Smartdoctor:From you or madam? 1 Like |
Re: How Can He Take Custody Of His Son by Smartdoctor: 7:09am On May 03 |
Ahniin:From her. She saved several numbers on her phone with "my brother 1, my brother 2 and so on." But her husband found out when he picked her call at night when she went out without her phone and one of the numbers with my brother called. The first word from the caller was " baby boo check your WhatsApp " then the husband now waited for her to come and unlock the phone to read the said WhatsApp message. Behold! and there were so many sexting across her chat contacts 6 Likes 1 Share |
Re: How Can He Take Custody Of His Son by kingthreat(m): 7:24am On May 03 |
Let him not try and use force. Let him use wisdom. A woman with multiple sexual partners sees a child as a hindrance. Talk to her family members that your move is in the best interest of the child and she is welcome to see her child anytime. Using force will make her use the child as a weapon to hurt him. 7 Likes 1 Share |
Re: How Can He Take Custody Of His Son by UnfairLife7(m): 9:04am On May 03 |
The child is better off being with the mother. If your so called friend care so much about the wellbeing of his child, he shouldn't have end his marriage. He can only talk to the child mother to look after her child properly but he can't have the child to himself 2 Likes |
Re: How Can He Take Custody Of His Son by Ahniin: 9:50am On May 03 |
Like seriously? UnfairLife7:Did you read the part where he cited INFIDELITY? TRULY THAT CHILD NEEDS THE MOTHER TO NESTLE HIM DUE TO THE FACT THAT HES STILL NESTLING ON HER MILK,but in cases like this,due to the whorring nature of the birth giver,the child is better off with the father as it stands. Please be logical with your reasoning and keep your emotions in check. Another good thing is....they can co-parent ,it's a flexible decision. And if she refuses the co parenting thingy..oga abeg find way take that baby from her for good. No be every woman fit to bear the tag of a MOTHER. 14 Likes 1 Share |
Re: How Can He Take Custody Of His Son by Biglittlelois(f): 9:52am On May 03 |
Some ladies are not meant to be mothers, very stupid woman with no outa of shame, she's breastfeeding yet whoring about knowing diseases can be transmitted through breastfeeding, I'm so sad for the innocent child 😢 If possible let your brother forcefully take the child away from her if that's what it takes for the toddler to be healthy. 6 Likes 1 Share |
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