Our court wedding was supposed to be on Friday. I caught her telling a married man I love you and calling each other all sweet names. I confronted her and she said she was telling of proving to me she was faithful that I should draw whatever conclusions I wanted to.

I went to work on Monday and came back and told her I wanted to pause the weeding until we could sort our issues and she said we should call it off totally.

As we speak she has moved back to her mom’s house with the two kids, what do I do?

PS: she was raised by a single mom

Rejoice for what the lord has done... You just escaped! Rejoice bro.

Allow her go with the kids, let this current economic situation reset her brain, but make sure you are doing your quota has regards to the kids upkeep. If she comes back for reunion, please don't take her back. If you do, premium tears awaits you.


I don't know why a part of my mind is telling me that your name is Oluwasimpleton, and that you will take her back when she comes begging.

Cohabitation is a red flag.

Both you and the lady are irresponsible. By the way, who owns the kids, you or her ex partner?

Wawelexy:
Rejoice for what the lord has done... You just escaped! Rejoice bro.

Allow her go with the kids, let this current economic situation reset her brain, but make sure you are doing your quota has regards to the kids upkeep. If she comes back for reunion, please don't take her back. If you do, premium tears awaits you.


I don't know why a part of my mind is telling me that your name is Oluwasimpleton, and that you will take her back when she comes begging.

Sabi Man.

I was trying to be a good man and father and made life too easy for her.


Thank you for your words, e touch me for the right place.

PrayWills:



Sabi Man.

I was trying to be a good man and father and made life too easy for her.


Thank you for your words, e touch me for the right place.

no nah... someone has to ask this question. why una dey f0ck up?

oga praywills, are those your children?

alphaNomega:
no nah... someone has to ask this question. why una dey f0ck up?

oga praywills, are those your children?

Been asking myself as well, I have confirmed traditionally once spare funds show would confirm scientifically as well.


Thank you

PrayWills:




Been asking myself as well, I have confirmed traditionally once spare funds show would confirm scientifically as well.


Thank you

maybe she needs space to hook up with her side bobo, who knows? economy hard so anything can happen.

PrayWills:
Our court wedding was supposed to be on Friday. I caught her telling a married man I love you and calling each other all sweet names. I confronted her and she said she was telling of proving to me she was faithful that I should draw whatever conclusions I wanted to.


I went to work on Monday and came back and told her I wanted to pause the weeding until we could sort our issues and she said we should call it off totally.


As we speak she has moved back to her mom’s house with the two kids, what do I do?

PS: she was raised by a single mom

Move on my brother till you guys resolve the matter if it will ever get resolved

leave her alone.That's their family lifestyle/traits

PrayWills:
Our court wedding was supposed to be on Friday. I caught her telling a married man I love you and calling each other all sweet names. I confronted her and she said she was telling of proving to me she was faithful that I should draw whatever conclusions I wanted to.


I went to work on Monday and came back and told her I wanted to pause the weeding until we could sort our issues and she said we should call it off totally.


As we speak she has moved back to her mom’s house with the two kids, what do I do?

PS: she was raised by a single mom

MaziObinnaokija:
leave her alone.That's their family lifestyle/traits

Nigga doesn't sound like someone that can leave the babe.....pvssy game and low self esteem can impair reasoning

PrayWills:
Our court wedding was supposed to be on Friday. I caught her telling a married man I love you and calling each other all sweet names. I confronted her and she said she was telling of proving to me she was faithful that I should draw whatever conclusions I wanted to.


I went to work on Monday and came back and told her I wanted to pause the weeding until we could sort our issues and she said we should call it off totally.


As we speak she has moved back to her mom’s house with the two kids, what do I do?

PS: she was raised by a single mom

Don't go back to her. Be happy you never married her.

After 2 kids, you wan go do court wedding 💍. The 2 of you were screwing eachother, belle enter, you no go court, pikin come out. You continue to screw 🪛 her, after 2 years again, another pikin come out. After many years, you now remember sey court dey. My guy, you're MAD. Court wedding/ marriage no be for everybody. Go bring your baby mama back make Una continue dey born. The kids are yours, sure she's screwing other men because you're just a baby papa and a screw partner.
Na guys like you make almost all the single ladies in Abuja that are over 26 years don born 1 or 2 with no husband.

PrayWills:




Been asking myself as well, I have confirmed traditionally once spare funds show would confirm scientifically as well.


Thank you

interesting

So you guys have been cohabiting for years with 2 kids? Like seriously? You probably took advantage of her because her father is either late or not together with her mum. And all of a sudden she's no longer a good woman? Your supposed wife to be left the house with the kids and you didn't deem it fit to visit her family to inform them what is happening? You came to nairaland to seek opinion and gladly someone who probably don't know what marriage is was telling you not to accept her back again like seriously? I can also add more fuel to what those guys told you. Do you know what? I'm a bloody single guy with no intention of getting married any time soon. The same me will come to nairaland and advice a supposed married man or a married man to be. I'd make sure i scatter their union. Isn't that what they're doing right now? End it as they say and probably they'd give you one of their sisters to continue from where you stopped

Sadly. they can't give you their sister because they've seen clearly the red flag in you. Cohabiting with someone's child to the extent of producing 2 kids. They can't give you their sister or daughter obviously but they can push you to end your supposed marriage to be and go out looking for your next victim or probably remain single like them.

If that lady was their sister or daughter. Trust me, you'd hear a different thing entirely from them. You'll be seriously lashed and whitewashed. Unfortunately, it's not their sister or daughter so they care less about her.

Btw, how i want my sister or daughter to be to be treaded same way I'd treat ANY lady known or unknown to me.

All the best

Half side of the story and besides I think she is tired of you

Good

You dodged a bullet.
Let her go.
Or You will surely be sharing her with order men.

Wawelexy:
Rejoice for what the lord has done... You just escaped! Rejoice bro.

Allow her go with the kids, let this current economic situation reset her brain, but make sure you are doing your quota has regards to the kids upkeep. If she comes back for reunion, please don't take her back. If you do, premium tears awaits you.


I don't know why a part of my mind is telling me that your name is Oluwasimpleton, and that you will take her back when she comes begging.

he should be doing his quota for the kids, when he has not done DNA to confirm if they are his

Those kids are not yours. If you are in doubt try DNA.

What has being raised by a single mum got to do with her not wanting to be truly married to you, her baby daddy?

You are a baby/single daddy, were you raised by a single mum, having children before thinking of marriage?

Run DNA tests on the kids and if yours, work on co-parenting.

You are asking what you should do abi??


Go to her mom's place, lay on the floor and beg her to come back so that the court wedding can hold and live the life you deserve


You better run DNA for the two kids asap

Me thinks DNA will b very important nw. My 2 cents

homies, na God save you

The last line says it all.

It will only take a miracle for any child raised by a woman no to boomerang.

Why u come give am belle before wedding now?

Like mother,like daughter nothing changes but age!

PrayWills:
Our court wedding was supposed to be on Friday. I caught her telling a married man I love you and calling each other all sweet names. I confronted her and she said she was telling of proving to me she was faithful that I should draw whatever conclusions I wanted to.


I went to work on Monday and came back and told her I wanted to pause the weeding until we could sort our issues and she said we should call it off totally.


As we speak she has moved back to her mom’s house with the two kids, what do I do?

PS: she was raised by a single mom

VTJN:
interesting

So you guys have been cohabiting for years with 2 kids? Like seriously? You probably took advantage of her because her father is either late or not together with her mum. And all of a sudden she's no longer a good woman? Your supposed wife to be left the house with the kids and you didn't deem it fit to visit her family to inform them what is happening? You came to nairaland to seek opinion and gladly someone who probably don't know what marriage is was telling you not to accept her back again like seriously? I can also add more fuel to what those guys told you. Do you know what? I'm a bloody single guy with no intention of getting married any time soon. The same me will come to nairaland and advice a supposed married man or a married man to be. I'd make sure i scatter their union. Isn't that what they're doing right now? End it as they say and probably they'd give you one of their sisters to continue from where you stopped

Sadly. they can't give you their sister because they've seen clearly the red flag in you. Cohabiting with someone's child to the extent of producing 2 kids. They can't give you their sister or daughter obviously but they can push you to end your supposed marriage to be and go out looking for your next victim or probably remain single like them.

If that lady was their sister or daughter. Trust me, you'd hear a different thing entirely from them. You'll be seriously lashed and whitewashed. Unfortunately, it's not their sister or daughter so they care less about her.

Btw, how i want my sister or daughter to be to be treaded same way I'd treat ANY lady known or unknown to me.

All the best

Did you actually read his post to comprehension at all? Didn’t you see where he wrote that he caught her telling a married woman i love you and calling each other sweet names? And besides how did he take advantage of her? Did he tie her to his house all through their stay together? Is she a kid? If she was well brought up herself, she should know that cohabiting with a man you aren't married to is a sin and shows lack of discipline and decency.

Again, If at all he deceived her to have a child outside wedlock the first time, how stup!d would she allow herself to be deceived the second time? 🙄

Now they guy her realised his sins and want to do things right but she isn't ready.

ibechris:
The last line says it all.

It will only take a miracle for any child raised by a woman no to boomerang.

Why u come give am belle before wedding now?

Like mother,like daughter nothing changes but age!

What do you have to say abou rapists, ritualists, kidnappers, assassins, thugs, prostitutes, arsonists, drug addicts, gamblers etc who grew up into adulthood under the same roof with their fathers and mothers who are/were married to each other?..... Generalization is a dangerous mindset

Maybe those convicted criminals in Nigerian prisons were raised only by their mothers.

fyzaila:


Did you actually read his post to comprehension at all? Didn’t you see where he wrote that he caught her telling a married woman i love you and calling each other sweet names? And besides how did he take advantage of her? Did he tie her to his house all through their stay together? Is she a kid? If she was well brought up herself, she should know that cohabiting with a man you aren't married to is a sin and shows lack of discipline and decency.

Again, If at all he deceived her to have a child outside wedlock the first time, how stup!d would she allow herself to be deceived the second time? 🙄

Now they guy her realised his sins and want to do things right but she isn't ready.

U nor know say some pple nor dey alright for this nairaland ...as in some pple dey craze..

....

fyzaila:


Did you actually read his post to comprehension at all? Didn’t you see where he wrote that he caught her telling a married woman i love you and calling each other sweet names? And besides how did he take advantage of her? Did he tie her to his house all through their stay together? Is she a kid? If she was well brought up herself, she should know that cohabiting with a man you aren't married to is a sin and shows lack of discipline and decency.

Again, If at all he deceived her to have a child outside wedlock the first time, how stup!d would she allow herself to be deceived the second time? 🙄

Now they guy her realised his sins and want to do things right but she isn't ready.

did he caught her in bed with the man?

If u are one of them I am sorry but that is the honest truth.

Developmental Problems
They tend to get lower grades, and their dropout rate is higher than their counterparts from two-parent families. Single parents are more likely to work more hours to make ends meet. They often don't have enough time to assist the child with their school works.

Financial instability.
One of the biggest challenges of being a single parent is financial instability. Raising a child is expensive, from paying for childcare to buying food and clothing. Doing it alone makes the costs seem overwhelming at times. Unexpected medical bills or car repairs can wipe out
savings quickly.

Effects of boys raised by single mothers:
What are the effects of boys raised by single mothers?
Children raised by single mothers are more likely to fare worse on a number of dimensions, including their school achievement, their social and emotional development, their health and their success in the
labor market

Finally,below are the major disadvantages of single parenting.

Single parenting disadvantages
Having less money. ‌As a single parent, you may be at a financial disadvantage. ...
Spending less quality time. ...
Work overload and multitasking‌ ...
Negative feelings. ...
Disciplining your children. ...
Behavioral problems. ...
Relationship problems. ...
Clinging to your children.

Mindlog:


What do you have to say abou rapists, ritualists, kidnappers, assassins, thugs, prostitutes, arsonists, drug addicts, gamblers etc who grew up into adulthood under the same roof with their fathers and mothers who are/were married to each other?..... Generalization is a dangerous mindset

Maybe those convicted criminals in Nigerian prisons were raised only by their mothers.

Mindlog:


What do you have to say abou rapists, ritualists, kidnappers, assassins, thugs, prostitutes, arsonists, drug addicts, gamblers etc who grew up into adulthood under the same roof with their fathers and mothers who are/were married to each other?..... Generalization is a dangerous mindset

Maybe those convicted criminals in Nigerian prisons were raised only by their mothers.

don't mind them. Most of these people don't have sense. They thought and assume once a woman singlehandedly raised a child the child wouldn't turn out well. I always tell them that it's a complete wrong assumption. Go to correctional centres we have across the 36 states and FCT and you'd be surprised that majority were raised from both parents.

The youths indulging in cyber fraud today in Nigeria are definitely raised by both parents. The hoodlums. Pick pockets, area boys, cultists, ritualist and many more are all raised by both parents.

ibechris:
If u are one of them I am sorry but that is the honest truth.

Developmental Problems
They tend to get lower grades, and their dropout rate is higher than their counterparts from two-parent families. Single parents are more likely to work more hours to make ends meet. They often don't have enough time to assist the child with their school works.

Financial instability.
One of the biggest challenges of being a single parent is financial instability. Raising a child is expensive, from paying for childcare to buying food and clothing. Doing it alone makes the costs seem overwhelming at times. Unexpected medical bills or car repairs can wipe out
savings quickly.

Effects of boys raised by single mothers:
What are the effects of boys raised by single mothers?
Children raised by single mothers are more likely to fare worse on a number of dimensions, including their school achievement, their social and emotional development, their health and their success in the
labor market

Finally,below are the major disadvantages of single parenting.

Single parenting disadvantages
Having less money. ‌As a single parent, you may be at a financial disadvantage. ...
Spending less quality time. ...
Work overload and multitasking‌ ...
Negative feelings. ...
Disciplining your children. ...
Behavioral problems. ...
Relationship problems. ...
Clinging to your children.

If "I am one of them"....I will not be ashamed because intentional parenting heavily influences better outcomes for children not exclusively the gender of the parent raising the child.

All the copy and paste, you posted up there.....is what I deal with because of my postgraduate specialty... Clinical Child Psychology, so you want you posted is not "breaking news", I deal with them daily.

A woman can become a single mother by being divorced, widowed or never been married.

Go to Nigerian prisons and do a survey, all the inmates are not there because they were raised by single mothers rather most come from dysfunctional family settings where neglect by parents was central in their upbringing.

Know this that being a single mother or father is not a mental health disorder, it is a social circumstance.