I want even, i wont even, i can't even, i know even... I DONT EVEN KNOW WHAT TO SAY.

Meektunz:
I swear with my mother's grave the boy looks 100% like the guy.

As long as you married her properly its your decision about the child that counts under the constitution and our local laws which recognises the child as a product of the marriage and not about biology of the child.

The Ex or anyone else cannot claim the child except you are the one who decides to give him away. He is 100% your child even if you divorce your wife except you decide otherwise, that decision is left for you to make, but if you give him away after all the investment in him na you lose.

I have a relatives in similar circumstances and my family decided that we don't give a damn about DNA and biology.

Initially out of anger my uncle rejected them when he found out they were not his biologically and asked her to go away with them which she did and even changed their surnames but we vehemently kicked against it. we went to court and did affidavit of origin for them.
Today the kids remain a big part of us with equal entitlements, their mother and my uncle are no longer married and he has been a good father to his kids

muyico:
fiction story! just let her go?? bcus d loves isn't dere anymore

don't doubt I know y

muyico:
fiction story! just let her go?? bcus d loves isn't dere anymore

You this Dunder head!! Is everything you read fiction to you? Have you not been hearing and reading alot of this paternity fraud stories?

If she didn't do it in the last 6 years you have been together, this might be the time she wants to get into the hook-up business with one mafia wey don blow. Get a DNA test on the child, that gender can really be cunny. She might just be looking for every opportunity to get unbonded with you for a better life with someone out there.

It is well...

Do not let them have it the easy way.

1. Insist the child is yours because you're the one that rightly paid your wife's bride price. Drag this for 6 months then succumb and take them to number 2.

2. Demand a DNA for the child, yourself, your wife and her ex. Insist the ex to pay the bills since he's the one claiming the child is his. If he fulfills this and DNA proves he's the father of the child, take them to number 3.

3. Demand for the refund of all the expenses and time you've spent on the baby. Bill him N10m per year on all expenses, which is N60m for 6 years. Then extra 10% (N6m) for your time, and another 20% (N12) for the emotional damage.

The total amount will now be N78m. He should spread it out and pay up in 6 years. This should be signed in the court of law.

Someone cannot just put you in stress, labour, suffering, only to come back after 6 years and cause another emotional trauma then go away just like that. No! KWECHIRI!!! Remember the theme of 2024 - "No gree for anybody."

Meektunz:
Last week Saturday was the day I would never forget in a hurry, it was a Saturday I nearly died. My wife met me in the room while i was relaxing and she said she has something to tell me, so I said okay she should go ahead and the next thing she said was please she is sorry for everything, that she is tired of keeping it for 6 years and that she is ready for the outcome of this. I replied by saying "you're keeping me in too much suspense, please talk". Then she said i'm not the father of our first child, that the father is back for him claiming responsibility. Though I've always had doubt about the child right from birth. She said the father denied being responsible for the pregnancy when she got pregnant that was why she forced it on me. She started apologizing that I should forgive her, that she was young and naive. I couldn't utter a word due to how i was feeling.

She went down to our pastor's office and told him everything and that she wants to go back to her parent's house, then he asked her why and she said it's not as if marriage has been smooth and that I've sent her out of the house severally when we had issues. Etc. For goodness sake is that the issue on ground?

From then till today I've not understood myself uptil today, I was admitted in the hospital for good three days, I was discharged yesterday evening. Till now I haven't said anything yet due to my health condition. She kept begging me everyday day, right from the hospital, uptil today. Guys, I wish death could just take me, this lady has shattered me. I wish you know what I passed through for that child.

I remember when she was in labour for that child, i had to treck all around this city of Abuja from place to place begging people I know for little assistance so I could buy little things for the birth of the child, if I express what I passed through, Oh God... Let me stop here. Please guys what should I do? Right now I just want to get better and send her back to her parent's house. I'm tired of crying for almost 5 days now.

I don't understand. You posted in 2022 that you did a DNA test and found out that he is not your son.

https://www.nairaland.com/7401346/aftermath-dna-test-first-child

Is it that you didn't believe the DNA test results then?

my brother, its very painful. but na we the men teach women how to cheat. we cheat with impunity and say a man cant eat one soup. this is what ive been saying that lets avoid cheating at all cost. u cant beat the game with a woman. second to do, e dey pain

Absolute fiction. Check out the OP's thread of April 7th and cure your ignorance.

IkeIgboNiile:
In Igbo land any child born by a man's wife is his child, irrespective of his origin. So that child belongs to you and nobody can take him away from you.

That's a shallow mentality bro and I believe it's all bullcrap. I will take the matter to the court and present the DNA. Patapata they will say I should pay some money to the guy or they might not. Do you think a politician will leave his son to one ancestral talk?

Meektunz:
my brother, I'll have sent her out of my house, just that I've been very very down since that the she told me. I don collect more than six drop for hospital since Monday. I'm just praying to wake up strong tomorrow so I could send her away.

Oga if you die cos of a woman 1M women will walk on your grave. I know it's painful but you can take a succour in liquor or better still if a stoner smoke some M.J away. It will quickly wipe your sorrow away bro. Above all pick yourself up and start a new life. It's painful but it's better now than ever.

Dpharisee:

As long as you married her properly its your decision about the child that counts under the constitution and our local laws which recognises the child as a product of the marriage and not about biology of the child.

The Ex or anyone else cannot claim the child except you are the one who decides to give him away. He is 100% your child even if you divorce your wife except you decide otherwise, that decision is left for you to make, but if you give him away after all the investment in him na you lose.

I have a relatives in similar circumstances and my family decided that we don't give a damn about DNA and biology.

Initially out of anger my uncle rejected them when he found out they were not his biologically and asked her to go away with them which she did and even changed their surnames but we vehemently kicked against it. we went to court and did affidavit of origin for them.
Today the kids remain a big part of us with equal entitlements, their mother and my uncle are no longer married and he has been a good father to his kids

Bro this nonsense won't work in a modern society. An evidence 🧾 of a DNA will throw all the shît out. Do you even know what you are saying? Laying claim on a child that's not yours and you are saying it with boldness. Assuming it was an influential person you tried that with you sef know things won't go well too.

OKOATA
That's a shallow mentality bro and I believe it's all bullcrap. I will take the matter to the court and present the DNA. Patapata they will say I should pay some money to the guy or they might not. Do you think a politician will leave his son to one ancestral talk?


You're the one that's shallow because you don't know how customary court works. Go and learn not everything is about money.

madridguy:
If your story is real and not fiction, take the child for DNA test first to be 100% sure of her claim.

The confused gender can be funny at times. She might be trying to use the same child to hook her ex probably that one don secure good job and she want to port.

Think with cool head bro.

You think DNA is small amounts The man should give thanks to God that she come out now what do you think will happen if this happens when the man has spent so much money on the child and the child is just 6yrs old let her go and give the child to the so call father

OKOATA:
Oga if you die cos of a woman 1M women will walk on your grave. I know it's painful but you can take a succour in liquor or better still if a stoner smoke some M.J away. It will quickly wipe your sorrow away bro. Above all pick yourself up and start a new life. It's painful but it's better now than ever.

good talk sir

A man that is not wedded to a woman can't claim the child that comes out from such relationship. That's tradition.

Don't mind him. He is deceiving himself.

Meektunz:
I won't come and cook up a story, this is what I'm passing through now.

You've made a topic about paternity fraud before and coincidentally you're suddenly a victim...

You already claimed to have done a DNA test in 2022, and now you're feigning surprise?

IkeIgboNiile:
OKOATA
That's a shallow mentality bro and I believe it's all bullcrap. I will take the matter to the court and present the DNA. Patapata they will say I should pay some money to the guy or they might not. Do you think a politician will leave his son to one ancestral talk?


You're the one that's shallow because you don't know how customary court works. Go and learn not everything is about money.

Oga go and drag otedola or buhari grandkid con dey say na customary. If Govt deal with your small your body go calm.

Holluwhakemmy:
We are tired of all these made up story jare. If your story is true let her go she's tired of the marriage likewise you so there is nothing you can do other than to have peace of mind. Ire o

See a shameless slutt talking..I pity men dating u heartless whorres...

Meektunz:
Last week Saturday was the day I would never forget in a hurry, it was a Saturday I nearly died. My wife met me in the room while i was relaxing and she said she has something to tell me, so I said okay she should go ahead and the next thing she said was please she is sorry for everything, that she is tired of keeping it for 6 years and that she is ready for the outcome of this. I replied by saying "you're keeping me in too much suspense, please talk". Then she said i'm not the father of our first child, that the father is back for him claiming responsibility. Though I've always had doubt about the child right from birth. She said the father denied being responsible for the pregnancy when she got pregnant that was why she forced it on me. She started apologizing that I should forgive her, that she was young and naive. I couldn't utter a word due to how i was feeling.

She went down to our pastor's office and told him everything and that she wants to go back to her parent's house, then he asked her why and she said it's not as if marriage has been smooth and that I've sent her out of the house severally when we had issues. Etc. For goodness sake is that the issue on ground?

From then till today I've not understood myself uptil today, I was admitted in the hospital for good three days, I was discharged yesterday evening. Till now I haven't said anything yet due to my health condition. She kept begging me everyday day, right from the hospital, uptil today. Guys, I wish death could just take me, this lady has shattered me. I wish you know what I passed through for that child.

I remember when she was in labour for that child, i had to treck all around this city of Abuja from place to place begging people I know for little assistance so I could buy little things for the birth of the child, if I express what I passed through, Oh God... Let me stop here. Please guys what should I do? Right now I just want to get better and send her back to her parent's house. I'm tired of crying for almost 5 days now.

90% of first children do not belong to the man.

Omooo na true you talk oo

madridguy:
If your story is real and not fiction, take the child for DNA test first to be 100% sure of her claim.

The confused gender can be funny at times. She might be trying to use the same child to hook her ex probably that one don secure good job and she want to port.

Think with cool head bro.

NEVER THE LESS FORGIVE HER BUT DONT FORGET WHAT SHE DID TO YOU IT HAS ALREADY BEEN DONE... OBIRIN NI ESU..... IN SOME SITUATION LIKE THIS HAVE COME ACROSS THE GUY WILL JUST KILL HIMSELF AND CHILD AND THE WIFE BUT I PRAY YOUR OWN END UP LIKE THAT THE WOMAN IS AN EVIL WOMAN HMMM DEPRESSION IS REAL OOO

If we check your past now, we'll find out that you've probably been encouraging bachelors who have refused to get married, to do so 'sharp sharp'. Now, your wife has shown you what women are capable of.

This is the fate of a lot of married men out there who believe they know everything about women and marriage. No, you don't; you know nothing. Those men you love to criticize because they're still single, are more knowledgeable than you think you are or will ever be. Use your heads.

Meektunz:
Last week Saturday was the day I would never forget in a hurry, it was a Saturday I nearly died. My wife met me in the room while i was relaxing and she said she has something to tell me, so I said okay she should go ahead and the next thing she said was please she is sorry for everything, that she is tired of keeping it for 6 years and that she is ready for the outcome of this. I replied by saying "you're keeping me in too much suspense, please talk". Then she said i'm not the father of our first child, that the father is back for him claiming responsibility. Though I've always had doubt about the child right from birth. She said the father denied being responsible for the pregnancy when she got pregnant that was why she forced it on me. She started apologizing that I should forgive her, that she was young and naive. I couldn't utter a word due to how i was feeling.

She went down to our pastor's office and told him everything and that she wants to go back to her parent's house, then he asked her why and she said it's not as if marriage has been smooth and that I've sent her out of the house severally when we had issues. Etc. For goodness sake is that the issue on ground?

From then till today I've not understood myself uptil today, I was admitted in the hospital for good three days, I was discharged yesterday evening. Till now I haven't said anything yet due to my health condition. She kept begging me everyday day, right from the hospital, uptil today. Guys, I wish death could just take me, this lady has shattered me. I wish you know what I passed through for that child.

I remember when she was in labour for that child, i had to treck all around this city of Abuja from place to place begging people I know for little assistance so I could buy little things for the birth of the child, if I express what I passed through, Oh God... Let me stop here. Please guys what should I do? Right now I just want to get better and send her back to her parent's house. I'm tired of crying for almost 5 days now.

You really are a simpleton bros, I don't want to be like you.

You never know with women!

Well, if I were you, I would let her go with the child. I can still be fvcking her for free sha, but can no longer keep her as a wife. She could remain my mistress in the interim while I later shock her by marrying a more decent lady.

REASON: No free toto on the street again oh!

OKOATA:
Bro this nonsense won't work in a modern society. An evidence 🧾 of a DNA will throw all the shît out. Do you even know what you are saying? Laying claim on a child that's not yours and you are saying it with boldness. Assuming it was an influential person you tried that with you sef know things won't go well too.

You can't claim a child from a proper marriage from outside except the husband decides he doesn’t want him under the circumstances, the biology of the child is left for the husband to take a personal even under customary law.
In Igbo culture the child belongs to the girls father if the husband rejects him, before the Ex can have him certain requirements must be fulfilled to the kindred and its not done by fiat

OKOATA:
That's a shallow mentality bro and I believe it's all bullcrap. I will take the matter to the court and present the DNA. Patapata they will say I should pay some money to the guy or they might not. Do you think a politician will leave his son to one ancestral talk?

Even Tinubu can't have the child in Igbo tradition, we don't give a damn about your level in society in Igbo society on certainissues. A state governor cannot pick kolanut before his senior who is a poor palm wine tapper in his village meeting

A child belongs to the husband irrespective of his biology.
Adeleke family of Davido with all their influence and billions could not bury their child late Ifeanyi (God rest his beautiful soul) until Davido married Chioma according to Igbo tradition, perhaps in other cultures you can do that but I bet you not in Igbo culture.

madridguy:
If your story is real and not fiction, take the child for DNA test first to be 100% sure of her claim.

The confused gender can be funny at times. She might be trying to use the same child to hook her ex probably that one don secure good job and she want to port.

Think with cool head bro.

Person dey beg for assistance for the baby and you are thinking about DNA, send am money ooh

IkeIgboNiile:
In Igbo land any child born by a man's wife is his child, irrespective of his origin. So that child belongs to you and nobody can take him away from you.

A very phoolish believe forgive me if I must admit (no pun intended)

It doesn't change the fact that the blood of the biological father still runs in his veins

skywalker240
A very phoolish believe forgive me if I must admit (no pun intended)

It doesn't change the fact that the blood of the biological father still runs in his veins.

Stupid people with customs always running their mouth.
History doesn't remember faces, it only remembers names.
I won't be surprised if your blood is different from your father's.