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How Do You Deal With This Type Of Husband? by Lovecode89(f): 5:36am On Jun 01 |
Three years into marriage with a son. he resigned from his job immediately after the wedding, stop making effort to get another job. No business pursuit, no skill. Left all the bills on the struggling wife. The marriage became so dry, no romance, the wife is always sad and over burden. Yet he wants intimacy from the wife. The wife deprived him for months. How can she handle such marriage? 2 Likes 1 Share |
Re: How Do You Deal With This Type Of Husband? by thesicilian: 5:43am On Jun 01 |
Lovecode89:You'll have to manage him like that while helping him find another job or find a way to persuade him to get a skill. But whether he's doing well or not, you shouldn't deny him intimacy otherwise you're just compounding the problem. 3 Likes |
Re: How Do You Deal With This Type Of Husband? by Nlanalyst: 5:47am On Jun 01 |
thesicilian:Sxx is the only language poor men understand. A man turned his struggling wife to the head of the family and here is another man stating that the sexual needs of the useless figurehead should be prioritized. What a shame on y'all. Y'all disgust me. 32 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: How Do You Deal With This Type Of Husband? by condensedmilk: 6:06am On Jun 01 |
Lovecode89: what's on your mind? 1 Like 1 Share |
Re: How Do You Deal With This Type Of Husband? by Avast(m): 6:17am On Jun 01 |
Lovecode89: She is already handling it, what else does she want. |
Re: How Do You Deal With This Type Of Husband? by Magicalsineros(f): 6:24am On Jun 01 |
My dear, stop depriving yourself. Go and have fun. find a good man who will support you, provide for you. The responsibility of taking care of the family all by yourself is much. It will make you age fast. Probably, a man that can feed his lazy ass as well, since he's too handsome to work and provide for his family. Cheat on him, look young and happy. Don't allow a wicked man put your life on hold for no reason. 6 Likes 1 Share |
Re: How Do You Deal With This Type Of Husband? by Ouchbabe(f): 6:25am On Jun 01 |
That's sad, I can imagine how the woman feels. She should have a heart to heart conversation with her husband. She needs to know why he stopped making efforts. A man who was working before and fending for the family suddenly stopped. He might be frustrated, discouraged or depressed. 7 Likes |
Re: How Do You Deal With This Type Of Husband? by Magicalsineros(f): 6:26am On Jun 01 |
Avast:She has not. Depriving him is the list thing she's doing now. She's depriving herself too. Love and good see.x is a wonderful experience. Everyone deserve to feel it 4 Likes |
Re: How Do You Deal With This Type Of Husband? by Pecoleee345: 6:42am On Jun 01 |
Magicalsineros: And If things turn around good tomorrow for him?? The way women paint there husband in scenarios like this you just wish you can hear the man side of the story. 1 Like |
Re: How Do You Deal With This Type Of Husband? by HarunaWest(m): 6:45am On Jun 01 |
Lovecode89: 1 Like |
Re: How Do You Deal With This Type Of Husband? by Pecoleee345: 6:50am On Jun 01 |
Anyway we ain't this for the first time.........women will always be women. A man takes care of the house bills for years just few months of not been able to the whole world see him as useless cos the wife will trash talk him. There are good women and only few men are lucky to have them. I have experience this first hand and I know how it feels but I thank God today am back on my feet and she now knows her place. You will labor,feed,house someone for years all the name of marriage and just few months you ain't able to pay bills then you are called lazy and useless. Same person will now expect you to keep spending on her after you bounce back.....lol Marriage isn't by force , you free to divorce and leave for a better man. 15 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: How Do You Deal With This Type Of Husband? by condensedmilk: 6:53am On Jun 01 |
Magicalsineros: There's no fun in olosho Why get into something you will regret later in life? 4 Likes |
Re: How Do You Deal With This Type Of Husband? by Magicalsineros(f): 6:54am On Jun 01 |
Pecoleee345:One step at a time. The way you handle today determine what you have tomorrow. How can any sane husband and father stay lazy hoping for a better tomorrow? I have seen plenty poor people, who were broke and lazy since I was a child and till today, they're still poor. So, stop caging women with that '' better Tommorow'' nonse.nse 5 Likes 1 Share |
Re: How Do You Deal With This Type Of Husband? by Magicalsineros(f): 6:56am On Jun 01 |
[quote author=HarunaWest post=130246528][/quote]Are you for real? |
Re: How Do You Deal With This Type Of Husband? by Magicalsineros(f): 6:59am On Jun 01 |
condensedmilk:Why would a woman give her body to a man who can not shield her when responsibility set in? A man who knows how to get erection, have se.x, must be able to take care of responsibility that comes with it. A woman's body is very delicate and should be explored by only a man that value and treat her well 7 Likes 1 Share |
Re: How Do You Deal With This Type Of Husband? by KingLennon(m): 7:00am On Jun 01 |
I was taught in school that a man is the breadwinner of the family. Any man who cannot perform his responsibilities is not fit to be called a man 11 Likes 3 Shares |
Re: How Do You Deal With This Type Of Husband? by condensedmilk: 7:08am On Jun 01 |
Magicalsineros: so if her NEXT man loses his job she should move to another man because her body is very delicate and should be explored by only a man that value and treat her well ! 2 Likes |
Re: How Do You Deal With This Type Of Husband? by Magicalsineros(f): 7:24am On Jun 01 |
condensedmilk:Stop defending inresponsibilty. There's a great difference between someone who loss his job and making effort to do any little thing to support his family. The next guy wouldn't be that way. Because he will put on effort to keep her. If that's what you're trying to hear. 6 Likes |
Re: How Do You Deal With This Type Of Husband? by advanceDNA: 7:24am On Jun 01 |
Lovecode89: He just resigned after marriage for no reason and decided not to do anything....?? Lol....this ur story seff dey one kind.... if Person no sabi wash plate, but he sabi sweep ground... But u dey vex say e no sabi wash plate, so prevent him from also sweeping..na u dey lose ooo from two sides. My own is ..if u are lucky to catch a Dangote or otedola or Elon musk for marriage....good for you.... But if ur husband is struggling....just navigate the union to happiness as much as u can or divorce him....no frustrate ur self...no be u go be first woman bread winner Madam..u go dey alright jarè... 6 Likes |
Re: How Do You Deal With This Type Of Husband? by Lovecode89(f): 7:29am On Jun 01 |
condensedmilk:I'm just worried and tired. He don't want to take up small job either. So many private school around us, I have encouraged him severally to pick up a teaching job, but he kept on complaining on the small salary. He prefer to be relaxing at home than trying little thing. Is this a character of a man that loves his wife and child? 1 Like |
Re: How Do You Deal With This Type Of Husband? by Lovecode89(f): 7:31am On Jun 01 |
advanceDNA:His reason is that the place of work is far and he spent too much to go and come. 1 Like |
Re: How Do You Deal With This Type Of Husband? by Pecoleee345: 7:35am On Jun 01 |
Magicalsineros: He was poor and lazy yet he married her....lol He was lazy and poor........he was working before marrying her....he had shelter, he was paying his bills and was taking care of himself. He was the poor and lazy one while the wife is the rich and hardworking one....lol They are always the victim. It very simple and easy......she should divorce him. 7 Likes 1 Share |
Re: How Do You Deal With This Type Of Husband? by Lovecode89(f): 7:36am On Jun 01 |
Ouchbabe:I have. He keep telling me things will be alright and he's not working on anything. Just claiming faith. I'm too stressed because of bills. I can't even buy personal things for myself from my little money I realize from my business. All my clothes are old and worn out, but I can't think of myself. Feeding, all the bills, expenses is on me. 3 Likes |
Re: How Do You Deal With This Type Of Husband? by Wawelexy(m): 7:39am On Jun 01 |
Magicalsineros: Ol*sho don drop quote.... Someone that have been providing for 3 solid years will suddenly resign cos the wife is Alakija or what? The way you people just jump into conclusion on a one sided story really amaze me. 2 Likes |
Re: How Do You Deal With This Type Of Husband? by Lovecode89(f): 7:41am On Jun 01 |
Wawelexy:I didn't say he was providing. Read it again please Since we got married 3years ago, I have been the only one providing. I have been encouraging and supporting him to get a job, but all to no avail. He keep saying things will get better, but he's not working on anything 6 Likes 1 Share |
Re: How Do You Deal With This Type Of Husband? by Wawelexy(m): 7:42am On Jun 01 |
Lovecode89: Madam relax abeg, for him to even be assuring you of a better tomorrow shows he's up to something... Don't let your impatience make you loose what you have. You think it's easy getting a new better job after you Lost one? It takes some people 5years, some 2, some months... Allow that man breathe and believe in him. 2 Likes |
Re: How Do You Deal With This Type Of Husband? by Pecoleee345: 7:44am On Jun 01 |
Wawelexy: Bro I was a victim of this situation myself in 2022.....my business went bad and I was on a low. My wife was carrying the house and that experience made me realize we men are just useless without money to be people we labor for. 4 Likes |
Re: How Do You Deal With This Type Of Husband? by Wawelexy(m): 7:46am On Jun 01 |
Pecoleee345: I can relate bro, the annoying part is, people tends to believe them so fast without running a background check on their claims about the broke husband. 4 Likes |
Re: How Do You Deal With This Type Of Husband? by Pecoleee345: 7:47am On Jun 01 |
Lovecode89: So you want to tell us.....since he resigned you are the one paying house rent and all. He hasn't drop single kobo since then or contributed anything to the house?? There is big difference between what he providing isn't enough and he isn't providing at all....clarify 3 Likes |
Re: How Do You Deal With This Type Of Husband? by thesicilian: 7:47am On Jun 01 |
Nlanalyst:You're the one prioritizing sex here because that's not the only thing either the OP or I talked about. If not that you're sex starved why would you leave everything else and focus on that aspect? Anuofia. 2 Likes |
Re: How Do You Deal With This Type Of Husband? by Magicalsineros(f): 7:50am On Jun 01 |
Pecoleee345:But her write up is so clear that anyone can read and understand. Stop making her feel she's the one at fault. Many of you use your personal life and personal behavior to judge other people in public. That's wrong. 2 Likes |
Re: How Do You Deal With This Type Of Husband? by Pecoleee345: 7:54am On Jun 01 |
Wawelexy: Like they make it look like the man is just a log of wood during those period doing nothing and not dropping a single kobo. That 2022 I paid the house rent and was still dropping whatever I see but due to the fact she was the one dropping the lion share.....I was lazy and not ready to work. She started telling people she was tired and complaining like this.......Men I went through depression. This was a woman i married jobless and can't even boost of 100k in her account then. The business she runs i set it up for her. Things change last year and table has turned......now that same woman now expects me to give her money freely and help her family members....lol She herself no the love I have for her is now 20% and she always blaming the devil for her behaviors but for me I can only labor on my kids. 11 Likes 1 Share |
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