Hello Nairalanders, I need your advice on a very important issue. My family friend who also happens to be my girlfriend for over 3yrs is starting to advise me that we end the relationship because anytime her mom hears anything that has to do with both us dating, she says its a waste of time because she won't allow.

This is a girl that i would like to get married to as soon as possible (all things being equal) and forget about other side attractions . Our moms are friends with my mom being the dominating figure in the relationship (you know how female friendship is always like).

They quarrel which is actually for friends but they do not fight, my mom is the type that says anything that is on her mind and forgets about the issue, but her, instead of also airing her views, would go home and start complaining to her daughter instead (who happens to be my girlfriend). Please what do you advise i do to make her mom agree since am no bad boy and we practise the same religion. This is a girl that has done so much for me and i won't like to lose her.

I will advice u leave dat relationship ND move on cos if ur girl can be controlled by har mum
Hmm is not healthy for ur union ooo . U better think well

zincnike:
I will advice u leave dat relationship ND move on cos if ur girl can be controlled by har mum
Hmm is not healthy for ur union ooo . U better think well

You missed the point. The girl could not have dated him for 3 years if her mother controls her.

There is a secret between the two families that the girl's mother knows. I can guess some things. Emphasis on guess. Don't take my guess as a fact.

1.
It could be that one slept with the husband of the other one.

2.
It could even be that the same man fathered the boy and the girl.

3.
It could be that her mother has a dirty secret known to the boy's mother and feels that the boy's mother may later use it to blackmail or control her and her daughter if the boy marries the girl.

For the two women to remain friends and the girl's mother acts this way, something is fishy somewhere. If family traits is the reason her mother doesn't want the relationship to last, the two families would not be friends.

You need to convince the mother