RealityKings:


What kind of play is this

OP, is a comrade awaiting to de-rank..

natedensel:
Is it just me or it's same with other guys, the embarrassment I feel is as if I'm the one doing something embarrassing, and I can't help the feeling, because of that I shy away from buying foodstuff or other stuff that will make me bargain.

Most times I ask my sisters or girlfriend to accompany me so she can do the bargaining or get the stuff for me.

My older brother bargains alot like he can't do without bargaining and for that I avoid going anywhere with him.

Incase you're wondering how I survive without bargaining, I just use people close to me when its something I must bargain for, but if it's something like clothes, I know the standard price for stuff like that so I just make an offer, and for basic things like packaged groceries I buy from supermarkets in more than one quantity.

fake life on top fake ego. Pretence, inferiority complex and low self-esteem have all gone chronic stages in you.

Bargaining is quite normal. Nothing to be ashamed of.

You re not business inclined

natedensel:
Yea but seeing a guy arguing and bargaining at ridiculous prices especially with foodstuff is something else, it's as if ground should swallow me.

You're still a baby that's why. Used to be like you until I served for Ibadan... Omo I dey price anything now, I go even price till those market woman go change face.
This days them don sabi me if I enter market. Then go quickly do me well

Goalnaldo:
Omo, you are old in this forum 😳 16 years!!

I just logged in again and saw your mention.

In reality it's actually 19 years now since 2005. I was looking for a list of Nigerian discussion forums via a search engine when I discovered the newly created Nairaland in 2005 and joined with an older NL account before creating this current one in 2008. It's a very useful platform if you know how to use it for data mining and networking. The only major negatives here is the level of covert hate speech, criminal defamation of character, and short attention span of some younger posters and incels on some threads here who do NOT read to understand. It wasn't like this back in the 2000s when we had a lot of Diasporans regularly posting here.

Conversely, there are many intelligent folks and professionals who use NL and that is a major reason why I've remained as a registered member of this Website.

some people self..... responsible bargaining has nothing to do with embarrassment or poverty (if that's why you feel shy about it)... as a guy I visit market to stock foodstuff so I know current prices of stuffs am buying obviously if you as a trader want to prove Smart I Will bargain it down to RRP(recommended retail price)... so everyone is Happy not that I will get cheated by paying x2 for a commodity

natedensel:
Is it just me or it's same with other guys, the embarrassment I feel is as if I'm the one doing something embarrassing, and I can't help the feeling, because of that I shy away from buying foodstuff or other stuff that will make me bargain.

Most times I ask my sisters or girlfriend to accompany me so she can do the bargaining or get the stuff for me.

My older brother bargains alot like he can't do without bargaining and for that I avoid going anywhere with him.

Incase you're wondering how I survive without bargaining, I just use people close to me when its something I must bargain for, but if it's something like clothes, I know the standard price for stuff like that so I just make an offer, and for basic things like packaged groceries I buy from supermarkets in more than one quantity.

Oga please bless to bargain. 0228544630.wema bank. thanks in advance

natedensel:
Is it just me or it's same with other guys, the embarrassment I feel is as if I'm the one doing something embarrassing, and I can't help the feeling, because of that I shy away from buying foodstuff or other stuff that will make me bargain.

Most times I ask my sisters or girlfriend to accompany me so she can do the bargaining or get the stuff for me.

My older brother bargains alot like he can't do without bargaining and for that I avoid going anywhere with him.

Incase you're wondering how I survive without bargaining, I just use people close to me when its something I must bargain for, but if it's something like clothes, I know the standard price for stuff like that so I just make an offer, and for basic things like packaged groceries I buy from supermarkets in more than one quantity.

Your family problem

natedensel:
Is it just me or it's same with other guys, the embarrassment I feel is as if I'm the one doing something embarrassing, and I can't help the feeling, because of that I shy away from buying foodstuff or other stuff that will make me bargain.

Most times I ask my sisters or girlfriend to accompany me so she can do the bargaining or get the stuff for me.

My older brother bargains alot like he can't do without bargaining and for that I avoid going anywhere with him.

Incase you're wondering how I survive without bargaining, I just use people close to me when its something I must bargain for, but if it's something like clothes, I know the standard price for stuff like that so I just make an offer, and for basic things like packaged groceries I buy from supermarkets in more than one quantity.

You have ego problem, and it's only you that can snap put of it

What is your understanding about most nigerian market? You get there and no price tag on product..for instance, the regular pepper and meat market. It is necessary to learn to bargain the prices slightly.less they take advantage of you. Why person go take offence cos i deh bargain, well nah the vendor sabi oo. . How you make your money determine your way to bargaining, if you have the money to throw aways, then buy what they tell you. . Car stands, phones slots, wesrs boutique and others without reasonable prices or tags i will surely bargin first. . I swear bargaining is sweet if you sabi the market strategy.

natedensel:
Is it just me or it's same with other guys, the embarrassment I feel is as if I'm the one doing something embarrassing, and I can't help the feeling, because of that I shy away from buying foodstuff or other stuff that will make me bargain.

Most times I ask my sisters or girlfriend to accompany me so she can do the bargaining or get the stuff for me.

My older brother bargains alot like he can't do without bargaining and for that I avoid going anywhere with him.

Incase you're wondering how I survive without bargaining, I just use people close to me when its something I must bargain for, but if it's something like clothes, I know the standard price for stuff like that so I just make an offer, and for basic things like packaged groceries I buy from supermarkets in more than one quantity.

Market research and bargaining to get real value for your money is part of the life skills you should have no matter your level of wealth.

The best manufacturing companies you see anywhere in the world has top guys bargaining and researching about their raw materials and other inputs of production to maximize profits

;Dlas Las me I don't see it as embarrassment my own na say I dey fear to price something too cheap... Las Las, I kukuma carry my money go where I nor fit drag too much.

Me: madam how much
Madam: 1000
Me: hah too much, na 800
Madams : oyah bring am
Me: (in my mind) See correct boy!
Another customer : madam nah 300 Naira I get oh
Madam: oyah bring am!

Me: (cries in Igbo-latin)


Story of my pricing history

hgg

Konquest:

I just logged in again and saw your mention.

In reality it's actually 19 years now since 2005. I was looking for a list of Nigerian discussion forums via a search engine when I discovered the newly created Nairaland in 2005 and joined with an older NL account before creating this current one in 2008. It's a very useful platform if you know how to use it for data mining and networking. The only major negatives here is the level of covert hate speech, criminal defamation of character, and short attention span of some younger posters and incels on some threads here who do NOT read to understand. It wasn't like this back in the 2000s when we had a lot of Diasporans regularly posting here.

Conversely, there are many intelligent folks and professionals who use NL and that is a major reason why I've remained as a registered member of this Website.

Our writing styles are similar, I like you, no homo. I'm sorry that this conversation has to go this way, but I'm in a financial crisis now and if you could be of help in anyway you can, I'll appreciate it. I can provide proof if you want. It's okay if you are not able to help.

WriterX:
;Dlas Las me I don't see it as embarrassment my own na say I dey fear to price something too cheap... Las Las, I kukuma carry my money go where I nor fit drag too much.

Me: madam how much
Madam: 1000
Me: hah too much, na 800
Madams : oyah bring am
Me: (in my mind) See correct boy!
Another customer : madam nah 300 Naira I get oh
Madam: oyah bring am!

Me: (cries in Igbo-latin)


Story of my pricing history

Our reality 😁😁

natedensel:
Is it just me or it's same with other guys, the embarrassment I feel is as if I'm the one doing something embarrassing, and I can't help the feeling, because of that I shy away from buying foodstuff or other stuff that will make me bargain.

Most times I ask my sisters or girlfriend to accompany me so she can do the bargaining or get the stuff for me.

My older brother bargains alot like he can't do without bargaining and for that I avoid going anywhere with him.

Incase you're wondering how I survive without bargaining, I just use people close to me when its something I must bargain for, but if it's something like clothes, I know the standard price for stuff like that so I just make an offer, and for basic things like packaged groceries I buy from supermarkets in more than one quantity.

Abi this one dey mad ni?

Bargaining is a necessary life skill. When I started living alone and buying things, I'll go buy meat and right before me the meat seller would give more pieces to any woman buying the same amount of meat. E.g.: 8 pieces for N1000 but would give me 5 or 6 pieces. Right in my front.

All the women did was say a few words, smile, etc. But when it gets to my turn, the meat seller would suddenly squeeze his face in a frown and refuse adding any piece. That's when he'd tell me how costly cows are.

I also noticed they'd give the women "good" meat I.E. whatever portion they wanted, usually from the fresh and clean meat. But, again, once it got to my turn, all my request for clean meat would fall on deaf ears and right before me they'd cut from the old frozen meat which looked a lot less fresh and obviously less tasty.

I noticed they were counting on my feeling of embarrassment to keep exploiting me. The same thing happened with the fish sellers. Pepper and tomatoes sellers. Right before me they'd give the women better items and more pieces.

So, I stopped being a "guy" and became a "woman" with them. Damned be the embarrassment.
It's now "ah bros you come dey price like woman" Yes! And you'll give me the same quantity and quality you give women. If you refuse, I'll step out and not buy from you.

Sorry to say, but the average Nigerian market seller is terrible towards men. They inflate prices and reduce quantities just because they're selling to a man. It's evil and wicked.

The negotiation skills also carried on to other areas of my life. When I need to use an okada, I negotiate and get the best prices. Same thing with fruit sellers. Negotiate, man. Your pocket will be happy.

Those extra N100, N200, N300 you save will amount to N5000 or more monthly. Negotiate and save yourself some cash.

One thing that helped me start negotiating is a sentence my sister always made when we were younger. She'd say: "for them to accept that price means they still have profit on it." And that's true!

Also, when you hear a price, especially for things that are not fixed for a certain quantity, divide the price by 2 and start bidding from half of it. You'll be surprised how much they inflate things just because you're a guy.

I also noticed that if you greet those market women with plain and clean English, you're unfortunately setting yourself up for exploitation. They'd start hiking prices for you, because in their view, you're a "rich" soft-spoken guy and THEY ARE COUNTING ON YOU BEING EMBARRASSED by haggling.

Don't fall for that nonsense. Roll your sleeves up and haggle!

See, this thing is being evil. I also noticed that when you pay for something with N500, N1000 notes, and let's say your change is N100 or N200, they'll tell you there's no change just to create an embarrassing situation so you can say stuff like "okay keep the change" or "no worry na" or "okay, later."

They are counting on you to leave the money for them. I hate such entitlement and disgustingly dishonest behavior. Their fellow women will never leave such amount with them. That's why when you go to shops and the market you'll find lady customers sitting apparently doing nothing. They are mostly waiting for change.

But the market women will expect you as a man to leave the change. So, I've swallowed the embarrassment and started waiting. When my presence becomes too uncomfortable for them, the change magically surfaces even without any buyer showing up

Bikemen also do it. You'll get to your house with a huge load of things you bought and they'll tell you there's no change. I usually leave the money for them until I noticed it became a pattern (I could have sworn they exchanged information about me doing that).

So, I started to haggle with them, too, and force that change to come out. It's my house and I can wait for hours. They'll be the ones to lose time and patience. Once you spend 4 minutes insisting on your change, they'll magically remember they kept some money in one deep pocket and viola! your change comes out.

One day, I took one of them back by more than 40% of the initial distance just to look for change. His face! he had it in his pocket but decided to play dumb. I hate such blatant theft and exploitation!

In all, my guy, never feel embarrassed to ask for change. Argue, haggle, and negotiate!

natedensel:
Is it just me or it's same with other guys, the embarrassment I feel is as if I'm the one doing something embarrassing, and I can't help the feeling, because of that I shy away from buying foodstuff or other stuff that will make me bargain.

Most times I ask my sisters or girlfriend to accompany me so she can do the bargaining or get the stuff for me.

My older brother bargains alot like he can't do without bargaining and for that I avoid going anywhere with him.

Incase you're wondering how I survive without bargaining, I just use people close to me when its something I must bargain for, but if it's something like clothes, I know the standard price for stuff like that so I just make an offer, and for basic things like packaged groceries I buy from supermarkets in more than one quantity.

I don't like it, too, especially when you're doing it with these women who are just in the market to feed.

natedensel:
Is it just me or it's same with other guys, the embarrassment I feel is as if I'm the one doing something embarrassing, and I can't help the feeling, because of that I shy away from buying foodstuff or other stuff that will make me bargain.

Most times I ask my sisters or girlfriend to accompany me so she can do the bargaining or get the stuff for me.

My older brother bargains alot like he can't do without bargaining and for that I avoid going anywhere with him.

Incase you're wondering how I survive without bargaining, I just use people close to me when its something I must bargain for, but if it's something like clothes, I know the standard price for stuff like that so I just make an offer, and for basic things like packaged groceries I buy from supermarkets in more than one quantity.

To dey bargain no be my own problem self but where to start with at times...

Some sellers are extremely wicked with how dey put price on their goods.

Imagine calling something for 3k and wanting to eventually buy it for 1k, it's so nonsensical cos you know the price was raised high.

So the money a man takes to the market is different from the cash the woman takes to the same market? So the men going to the market are usually wealthier than their female counterparts in the market? So it's only the woman that have a mouth to prize and bargain? Even market women are fond of saying this because women always want to manipulate and exploit men when it comes to money matters. Tell me why a buyer whether man or woman doesn't have the right to bargain except you want to take the man for exploitation.

A typical Nigerian trader will inflate the price of his goods expecting you to bargain...

u sound stup!d bro, u can't bargain but ask others to bargain for u? u are stup!d

natedensel:
Yea but seeing a guy arguing and bargaining at ridiculous prices especially with foodstuff is something else, it's as if ground should swallow me.

I don't just trust Nigeria market men and women, i bargain a lot with my chest out.
Recently, my don't like going to the market because of the cost of goods and do it myself.

natedensel:
Yea but seeing a guy arguing and bargaining at ridiculous prices especially with foodstuff is something else, it's as if ground should swallow me.

Are you normal?

So a guy should go to the market and buys whatever amount they tell him without bargaining? Dude You're not okay

natedensel:
Yea but seeing a guy arguing and bargaining at ridiculous prices especially with foodstuff is something else, it's as if ground should swallow me.

Na small Pekin still dey worry you

Goalnaldo:

Our reality 😁😁

I dey tell you, you know that satisfaction to know that you actually price something well, guy e nor dey dey wella

Me procurement officer women the learn work when it comes to negotiation/bargain

Low self esteem dey worry the op. Else, why are you afraid to speak your mind or negotiate?
You even said, you use to send someone if it involves bargain.
Nigerians nva rip you off your hard earned money.

If I don't bargain wetin I gain When I was younger I buy things way cheaper than my mom sef, but these days I just let somethings go because I don't have strength for too much talk but e no mean say I no dey still price well fah... Even my babe that year dey say make I escort her go market because of how I buy things...

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BalogunIdowu:

To dey bargain no be my own problem self but where to start with at times...

Some sellers are extremely wicked with how adey put price on their goods.

Imagine calling something for 3k and wanting to eventually buy it for 1k, it's so nonsensical cos you know the price was raised high.

Make I teach small skill to bargain.
If you get to the market, maybe, you are about buying one lap of chicken and nd the price seems exorbitant, jokely tell the seller that " no be full chicken I come buy na only the leg oo" s/he might put the blame on the government. Discussion start from there, ask him/her " amuch last or I fit price am?"
Then slash the price down by 30-40% down.
If you are buying wears slash it half or more. A serious trader will reduce or tell you plainly without offense.

Even if s/he get offended, move to others around.

natedensel:
Is it just me or it's same with other guys, the embarrassment I feel is as if I'm the one doing something embarrassing, and I can't help the feeling, because of that I shy away from buying foodstuff or other stuff that will make me bargain.

Most times I ask my sisters or girlfriend to accompany me so she can do the bargaining or get the stuff for me.

My older brother bargains alot like he can't do without bargaining and for that I avoid going anywhere with him.

Incase you're wondering how I survive without bargaining, I just use people close to me when its something I must bargain for, but if it's something like clothes, I know the standard price for stuff like that so I just make an offer, and for basic things like packaged groceries I buy from supermarkets in more than one quantity.

Your type is what Yoruba market people call customer dada. ( good customer).
Continue to be embarrassed, your pocket go hear am one day.

Op you sure say you fit be sales man trying to convince people to purchase your goods or services? No matter the quality of your product, they can't sell themselves. Although there are people who buy without you asking to possibly because they already know what want.
If you know how to communicate and understand people, you will make money.